C2H5OH:

I don't know how to comment on this. It's happened to me before but I tried not to think too much of it.
On this side of the world there's nothing abnormal or extradordinary about it.

oyinda.:

yea that very common. it's almost the norm.
except with black ppl of course

TheSeeker:

Why the exemption of black people?

oyinda.:

just speaking generally. black girls tend to expect the guys to toast them.
while with white ppl, the girls are expected to toast the guys.

funny ain't it
maybe just in my experience

oyinda.:

just speaking generally. black girls tend to expect the guys to toast them.
while with white ppl, the girls are expected to toast the guys.

funny ain't it
maybe just in my experience

Really I thought all ladies love waiting for the guy to make the first move?? I know I do!!

SeanT21:

Really I thought all ladies love waiting for the guy to make the first move?? I know I do!!

oyinda.:


not all ladies. lol but it's usually preferred that way. i would prefer it that way as well haha so convenient
i mean britney spears asked kfed out and even initiated the marriage proposal. lol look how they ended up

R U kidding Asking a man for his hands in marriage is not my fortee.

oyinda.:


not all ladies. lol but it's usually preferred that way. i would prefer it that way as well haha so convenient  
i mean britney spears asked kfed out and even initiated the marriage proposal. lol look how they ended up

TheSeeker:

There are relationships where the lady asked the guy out and they did really well -- and still do. Britney Spears was just an arrogantly stupid girl who was way too deep into her own head. _{Don't even get me started}. That girl is a black sheep to womanhood.

oyinda.:

yea definitely. i agree with u

also, when guys are responsible for toasting the girls, the guys usually fall on the short end of the stick. it means that they are the ones who likes the girl more and the girl prolly just followed along and sometimes doesn't like the guy as much ( i mean eventually she likes him better and all that so it works out most of the time)

with the girls that toast the guys, the girl falls on the short end since she likes the guy more and the guy is just following along (ex. kfed hahaha) like u mentioned in ur first post, " he might have been somewhat interested" or "have little or no interest" etc

TheSeeker:

Correctly judged. Although, I still don't think women who talk up guys are losing their pride. It all depends on how the guy sees it. Some guys see it as just plain stupidity. Some take advantage of that to do whatever they want, he'd say "after all she asked me out". But overall, I think a woman who comes out boldly to tell a guy such should be commended for her courage.

bluespice:


i was walking with my straight face jejely oh when this hattie from heaven smiled at me,
i was in heaven immediately i was so shocked i couldnt smile

bluespice:

chei!
BB u have no idea how i goofed out on one super hottie one day
i was walking with my straight face jejely oh when this hattie from heaven smiled at me,
i was in heaven immediately i was so shocked i couldnt smile
or reply the idiot i was walking with wanted to run back and tell him i said hi
nywais i missed out on him, turned out he was a friend of a friend's friend
till tomorrow i slap myself for not smiling that day

TheSeeker:

Strenuous chain of friendship.

oyinda.:

lol

Busy_body:

It is a no no for me, I ain't even gonna sit on the fence for this, what if she gets knocked back and gets an iso, ouch and i heard that iso thing really hurts too
One thing I have learnt over the years is that if you fancy a guy, smile at him to put him at ease, if he likes you, he will approach you, if he does not fancy you, you still have your pride intact and have lost nothing.
I found this out when i discovered that we had this friend who was not that goodlooking yet always managed to draw guys attention to her to the extent that they'd come over to where we all were and only single her out to talk to her
I was already plotting how to broach the subject of what soap/cream she was using to do the trick, when one of our friends pointed out to us that whilst the rest of us ladies were flaring our nostril and had the look of a bulldog chewing a wasp, like a typical naija lady, she was all smiles and had a welcoming friendly disposition that made guys comfortable enough to approach her . . .