franchasofficia:
UK has adjusted their immigration policy and made it unattractive to most Nigerian Japarians.

Canada did same.

US has been a no go area since Trump's regime.

Germany is now delaying visa appointments, same with most other European countries.

When you join these points with high inflation making naira to lose its value, tell me how else you expect average Nigerians to japa?

The US has always been tough to migrate to legally and establish a stable residency. Even other white folks find it hard to emigrate to the US legally. The economic downturn has exacerbated things. H1B quotas have not been increased, and other legal routes take so much time due to clogs within the system.

The world is going to be more competitive as time goes on. Make people know how dem dey fvck o.

Sapasenator:


I totally agree with you.

In the absence of any alternative or help, hook up to raise capital is a viable alternative instead of giving it for free and when eventually successful, you can give testimonies of how God came true for you.

My motto is to use what you have to get what you want and when you get to the top, you can preach morality.

That is dishonesty. Preaching morality should be left to those who were moral in their dealings. Those who engaged in immoral acts should be clear on what they did. If you did hook up, state it clearly and explain the circumstances behind it. Don't lie.

Nigerian women pay for dates. I have had two paid for mine and even cinema tickets. Both don marry and one has a child.

Paying for dates is usually hinged on the person who initiated it. Just don't there as a hungry lion 'cos na there the problem dey start from.

These are the political elites some fellas on this website defend voraciously and want me to offer my life and sweat for protection as politicians?

Nah! I instead offer my life and investment to Singaporean political elites for protection as a black man. Tested and trusted!

UjuJoan2:


Are you married? Do you have daughters? Will you raise your daughters to escape poverty through marriage?

What if the man dies, what if he loses his job, what if he losses his wealth

I was not raised to believe that a man can make me into what/who I will be. I was raised to fight for what I desire and relying on people is not an option. This is how I will raise my daughters too.

This is a reality in most parts of the world, especially poorer countries. Whether it is right or wrong does not mean it does not happen.

I am one of the people who believe poor people are lazy, proud and natural mediocres. It’s a different thing if you are starting life and investing in yourself, but if you are over 30-35 and have no direction in life, my dear, you have lost your way. And this applies to both men and women.

While that is a bit harsh - I say this as someone who held that belief - the presence of the Internet has democratised means of generating legitimate income.

Since I joined this forum in 2007 I’ve always condemned poor men. Not because of what I can gain from a wealthy spouse, but because I don’t want a deadweight in my life. . . Or a gold digger for that matter. Even when I had nothing, I was still selective, because I knew I would make it in life.

I want to assume you were in your early 20s. 2007 - 2015 was a glorious period in Nigeria's economic development. Jobs were plentiful. In fact, Nairaland had at least two graduate trainee recruitment threads on the front page daily. However, when the incompetent feudalist by the name of Buhari became president, things got worse. Before then, even second-generation British-Nigerians were returning to the country as economic growth was high, and security was pretty manageable (Jonathan hired mercenaries to fight Boko Haram head-on).

The situation in the country has gotten far worse, economically and security wise.

If you decide to marry a lazy and mediocre man in the name of love, when you yourself are broke, you have yourself to blame as a woman. But if you meet an industrious and hardworking man, nothing wrong in growing with him.

Agreed. Fair deal.

Sapasenator:
The world has changed a lot and you need to be real smart to get to the top.

Love is just a fleeting emotion akin to jealousy and hate, it may come and go and not enough to sustain a relationship in the long run.

I have seen good ladies who kept themselves, good Christians, married as virgins to follow Christian's, two of them are divorced now and had horrible marriages.

That you kept yourself and look for love may mean nothing in the long run.

I have seen ladies who were run girls in the school, slept with different people who are today very successful with even great marriages as we speak. They are fulfilled and living happily.

So life is not black and white and you have made the following mistakes;

1. You dated a broke student.
2. You got pregnant for him.
3. You refused to do hookup on the process.

You should have done it when you were young and fresh expecially if you are from a poor home with no support system.

You made a big mistake in school my dear, hookup is not all about sex, it's also about getting connected to move on to the next stage in life in an environment like Nigeria. Love is just a mere emotional feeling that comes and goes.

I am a man who has studied the world carefully and will give you a pragmatic advice by telling you that you made a very big mistake.

Try your best to succeed in life and if you can break a few rules without getting caught, do it.

Also you said this in one of your post

"I'm separated from my partner ( My daughters Dad) because of his gambling problem and many other things too numerous to mention"

Now, he is abroad and no longer an habitual gambler.

Truly, life has no manual. It might come across as immoral, but for a lady who comes from a poor family, if you don't study a math based course but you are beautiful and friends with girls who do hook up, you might as well learn their strategies and do it to get capital. Most would not tell you, but some folks get favours from their well-to-do sugar daddies to succeed. It is how you manage it that matters. Don't be the unstrategic ones by following small small boys. You need to learn mistakes others make, but adopt winning strategies others did.

But most importantly, as a young girl from a poor family, try not to get a child outside marriage. You would be severely disadvantaged. That was your greatest mistake, and not the hookup aspect or even no good job.

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Quite unfortunate things that happen in Nigeria; low trust society that is poor is a double whammy.

Don't give me your paycheck. It is your sweat and you ought to enjoy it. Just spend wisely. However, in a situation where she gives me money to invest due to her lack of knowledge or to pair with mine, I will be honest in every aspect. I don't steal, nor do I defraud people.

lastkingsman:


UK has tightened their immigration policies with recent salary threshold of £38700 and care COS restriction.

KPMG has even made it clear they won't hire overseas workers again. That's the resultant effect. The govt wants to push Brits especially people on benefits back to workforce. Apprenticeship especially where there's massive shortages is being supported.

That's the challenge we migrants are facing now and migrants that came especially last year is too high. So demand has significantly he%20Government%20will%20fully%20fund,to%20kick%20start%20their%20careers.

Meanwhile, over here, I keep getting notifications saying Accenture dey recruit. Know the language, and there are no restrictions whatsoever.

Sha, people should remain there.

tensazangetsu20:


UK is just an overrated country. Aside the presence of electricity I dont even see the difference between Nigeria and the UK. I have friends in the UK with the same experience level as I am and they cant even get a job interview despite being there for more than a year o. They will be saying UK experience. As if the javascript written in the UK is different from the one written in Nigeria. Canada is a much better place but an extremely difficult place to survive if you arent well loaded. Australia has made great changes to its post study scheme. I am so glad I followed an uncommon route and I like it so far.

Guyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy,

Based on everything that happened when we left, the only place I can think of moving to would be the US as it is unarguably the best place for a skilled black professional to thrive. Initially, it was tough and odd due to distance and language differences, but upon settling down and learning the language, it has been good. Most importantly, the immigration policies have been consistent. Right from when I researched Japan's immigration policies in 2017, they have been consistent and even further liberalised. Inconsistency and changing the goalpost are things I dislike in life.

IbeOkehie:
It's clear Nigerian tribes need to be separated, especially the big ones. At the very least strict autonomy has to be implemented.

Which kin thing be this biko? Kini? The level of hatred is gaga, the toxicity is out of this world.

It's very clear this country can't work. The only people who love Nigeria as a whole are those in government.

Good Luck to Nigeria.

When we say ethnic/racial/religious dominance is essential for developmental progress and safety, some persons think we are lying or being unrealistic.

Hopefully, they realise it is how the world works because humans are tribal. The issue with Nigerians' tribalism is the excruciating poverty which accompanies it.

IbeOkehie:


True but we have some serious issues at our own level here. I believe you know that. You're someone worth discussing it with for the chops.

What's going to be the outcome of all the deficits and debt being piled up by the USA? The USA is in exactly the same FISCAL condition as Nigeria but at a higher level. It's the difference between Dangote saying he owes too much and a roadside vulcanizer complaining about the cost of garri.

Two fellas here have mentioned war. The US would instigate a global war so that those debts would be wiped away. On Twitter, I read that folks accused the US of trying to dodge paying up its debts with the purported plan of sanctioning Chinese banks because they trade with Russian firms using the dollar.

Things can go awry quicker than we think. Go back into Nairaland and see how the latrine rats of urban Nigeria were VERY HAPPY during the Great Financial Crisis that hit the USA in 2007. It could happen again. The basic framework of free markets and property rights will likely ensure a recovery but best to get ready for the storms.

Good Luck to USA.

Well, if/when the US is in disarray, it would be internal. Too many competing groups with diverse interests. Diversity is not good on a wider scale. I am surprised many people are yet to realise this. As for urbane Nigerians mocking the US, that is expected especially seeingthe wealth and development divide. You have mentioned how many Nigerians in Nigeria do envy those in the diaspora. So, an economic meltdown would have them ecstatic. We see it with issues in the UK when discussed on the front page.

Generally, in life, successful people are envied by all and sundry. It behoves those successful people to mind how they navigate the world because there are many praying/wishing/hoping for their downfall. It is a global phenomena.

pansophist:


Gerrard.59, lets move to Tanzania. Are you ready?

Tanzania borders Burundi, Rwanda, DR Congo, Kenya, Mozambique, and Malawi. Na to open farm, or one tourist spot like that, and become alpha males.

Are you pondering what I am pondering?

While at that, undergo vasectomy before heading there.

Who is Wike's tailor for crying out loud?

ariesbull:


US consumers are struggling with soaring credit card debt and rising interest rates. Experts said the debt increase is the most concerning for younger adults. Buy now, pay later programs could mean the problem is even worse than it appears


Fact is, debt stress syndrome is linked to a number of mental health issues, including a massive increase in denial, anger, depression, and anxiety.

Bros, the US economy is a beast. Even top EU chief executives acknowledge it (https://www.ft.com/content/58fe78bb-1077-4d32-b048-7d69f9d18809). Chinese companies are going through the corners to be able to sell to Americans. South Korean companies are building factories to serve American customers. Japanese companies are investing billions, and even a senior politician visited Trump to ensure both sides of the political divide are satisfied.

Bros, forget anything you hear about the US' economy doing kini kon kini kon. It is a beast.

folake4u:

Na wetin I sabi do be this. That is why I must marry a black woman. Those inner linings in the thighs must be eaten completely.

ariesbull:


Those in Europe are not even counted, those one are not finding it easy...Japan, South Korea even China are the destination for business minded ones

Good luck to these ones.

While those that want to do wage work and slave off will head to UK ...as of USA , we'll, it's credit here and debts there

Credit is part of life, sir. Use other people's money to advance yourself.

cenaman:
He was given life sentence because he is Igbo. If he was to be a Yoruba or hausa man, that mumu and bias Justice Oshodi, would have sentence him to five years in prison starting from the day of his arrest.

This statement does more harm than good to Igbos. We are beginning to behave like African Americans who blame everything on racism. Also, if you are sure there is a degree of discrimination against Igbos in an area, that is the more reason you should abide by the rules and stay away from wahala.

allcomage:
I don't support rape but life jail is no no for me. 10 to 20 is OK, then our corrupt politicians should get life jail for corruption.

The same policy applies in Singapore. The argument is that defaulters might resort to killing their victims in order for the act not to be divulged. Singapore's penalty for heinous cases is usually the death by hanging.

ariesbull:


Which is a pure lie ..

I think Nigerians in Asians are far more richer ...especially those In Japan, South Korea and Chinese these sets of Nigerians are core businessmen You can't compare a businessman with a man that is eating hourly wages Nigerians in China, Japan, South Korea or even Vietnam do more of business and are richer ! I know a guy in China that is always ringing his Chinese partners to Nigeria to do business and do importations....Just that Nigerians in these Asians countries don't make noise

A smart Nigerian will prefer Japanese ,North Korean visa to USA or UK cos of business opportunities these countries afford

First, not everyone can be an entrepreneur as there are more employees than entrepreneurs in every part of the world. The US is the best place to thrive as a skilled black professional.
Two, well, just as I am not too sure about Nigerians in the US being the wealthiest set of diasporans, you cannot be too sure with Nigerians in Asia being wealthier than their US' counterparts. But it is an interesting area to study. However, I want to bet that those in Asia are richer than those in Europe.

Dennisochampa:


Bros I know werin I ask... Just as it's weird to ask how much a guy is worth especially on a first date.. That's how some ladies see it as weird for a guy to ask about their age on a first date....

That one no mean say some ladies no go answer... Some go answer but others won't and u won't blame them

We agree to disagree. I grew up telling people my age when asked. Now that I am in an environment where it is the norm, I have adopted it wholeheartedly. Anyone who refuses to tell me his or her age would not be trusted.

ariesbull:


who dash Nigerians ? Is it not the ones wey we dey see here dey drive the normal cars wey we dey drive if they come back ! Bros make Una leave story !

I am not saying that we don't have successful Nigerians in USA but they aren't even upto 10% of the entire Nigerian Americans ! The glass ceiling wouldn't let them !

I have tons of folks, I mean tons of folks from cousins to school mates in different states in USA nothing fantastic they are doing ...many never even build here seff ...Apart from one or two that are medical doctors that's all....

Others are in the street

I did not say Nigerians in the US are the wealthiest set of immigrants, I stated that Nigerians in the US are the wealthiest set of diasporans. That is, for Nigerians in the abroad, those in the US are the wealthiest. Two different things.

As for the bold, that is perfectly normal. There is a native black population in the US our people can immerse in such that they feel comfortable living in the US for generations to come without ever thinking of returning to Nigeria. It is usually those in countries with fewer black people that strive to build houses in Nigeria as they envisage returning at an advanced age.

Beverlyjean:
What I don't understand these days is how people will commit a crime and dim it fit to record and then post it .... that's totally absurd..... it shows that Genz don't know when they do wrong

Generally, there has been a decline in law enforcement in this generation in the name of not hurting some groups or being discriminatory. This generation seems to condone a breakdown in law and order.

ariesbull:
salary of 1,000 a day ..dude you just Dey lie that's 30k a month ...lol dey play
than a year ago, up from 20% in 2021 and the highest since at least 2014, per the Federal Reserve.

LoL

In the oil industry in Nigeria* That was his point. The oil industry anywhere pays very high, and yes, permanent employees in Nigeria can earn as high or even more than that amount.

I understand your friends' conditions in Continental Europe might or have distorted your view about Nigerians in the diaspora, but I must state that Nigerians in the US live very successful lives. They constitute the wealthiest set of diasporans. So, please don't use the same brush for folks in Austria to tar those in the US.

maasoap:


Even with the GENCOS and DISCOS, did you read where Oyo state govt was said to have written the NERC that the state wants to exercise her right of the partial ownership? What did that tell you? It clearly showed that running of those companies (GENCOS and DISCOS) had been left for the private sector since 2013 across the nation with exception of IPP.

You deserve that sorry of yours more than anyone if you think power minister, Jonathan and other Nigerians who know that power sector was privatised are ignorants

Mr Ibe is correct. There are three processes in electricity in the country: generation, transmission and distribution. Ednut has explained here that while there has been privatisation in two of those stages, the government still controls one aspect, which I have forgotten. It is that reason private capital is hesitant to invest since final prices are set by the government.

So, yes, it has NOT been FULLY privatised.

Dennisochampa:

Quick one, if u meet a lady on a first date and she asks you how much you're worth, be honest.... What will be your thoughts towards such a lady

Apples to oranges... Wetin concern how much I get with person age? That said, ladies already ask such a question with the alternative, "What do you do for a living?", which is an appropriate question even for a random encounter.

Me, I dey ask for age o. It is the standard where I am. I am glad it is, unlike back home where people dey hide their ages pass palliative. As I stated, I am thankful the people, both genders, I mingle or converse with truthfully tell me their ages.

Dennisochampa:


Have u heard of the saying that it's wrong to ask a woman her age??

It's a popular saying for a reason

Well, if it warrants me asking someone, man or woman, his or her age, I will do it. I expect an honest response. Thankfully, the folks I have asked so far have responded honestly.

Nothing wrong with a 27 year old lady. Even 30 sef, nothing wrong as long she is healthy; mentally, nutritionally, psychologically and otherwise. But I don't expect much from a man who ate fufu and stew!

obaidan:


Y'all want the privilege a woman gets in traditional marriage/home dynamics but want to deprive the man of the privilege of traditional marriage.
the reason a woman will work is to take care of herself, the reason a man will work is to take of the whole family... yet u people cry that women are deprived in the workplace based on gender. Should the person who is expected to carry the whole family not be given some privileges in pay, growth and all of that?

Na my argument with modern day women be this. You want a traditional man with traditional privileges, but fought so hard to reduce his privileges in the workforce. Then, act surprised that the same man cannot provide those traditional benefits you long for, and those who can are very few in society. Also, they are stunned that men now demand that women contribute financially to the household. Why wouldn't they?

Dennisochampa:
How would u feel if ladies asked me how much they are worth on a first date??

There are certain impressions u don't create in a first date especially with a lady u wanna get serious with...

Never give her the impression that whatever you claim to feel for her is conditional......
If I'm a lady and u ask for my age on a first date... I'll sure tell you but that will also be the last date!

That is you. Nothing wrong with telling someone you meet your age. In Japan, it is perfectly normal. In fact, it is one of the first questions people ask each other. When I was in Nigeria, I was free to let anyone know my age. I don't see why I should lie. I ask ladies in Nigeria their ages and they respond honestly.

I can actually be in a no-sex relationship, as I believe sex distorts the relationship. One becomes too unnecessarily emotional, for both genders anyway. I want to see the relationship for what it is without sex. However, the problem is when a non-virgin lady requests for a no-sex relationship. I find that to be very dishonest.

idahme:


You are talking like you are not in this country, a woman will impose pregnancy on who she wants to impose it on irrespective of wether she had sex with you or not. Someone who has sex with one of her men one week to your marriage can't impose a pregnancy on you? Or you are saying? Women don't care about consequences of their actions when they want to strike, know this and know peace

is decreasing this probability by going for a virgin. I don't believe in no sex before marriage if the girl isn't a virgin. You can't use me and catch cruise

You demand for a DNA test. If it is yours, you take responsibility. If not, you aren't responsible. It is that simple.