₦airaland Forum

You love her or her body? or has she given you love portion?

You maybe right since she's their certified cook.

jennykadry:
next week? are u kidding me? what if the man decides to get another woman pregnant within the week?

Navi613:
am very sure, am not the only one who knows anywy

What are you waiting for? Plese, tell her ASAP.

What a wonderful suprise!  After 6years and 6 months of marriage, The good Lord has finally smiled on me and I am pregnant.
I still cannot believe it and I'm so elated I keep smiling to myself.  I have not told the newest daddy -to -be  just yet, planning to let him in on the pleasant secret sometimes next week.

Congrat!

Wish you and the little life to-be all the best. Please tell the new Daddy-to-be about your precious new gift today. He must be a wonderful husband to have waited this long. Once again, congrat!

Olu3:
Ese.

Ooo. Hope you found it helpful.

Olu3:
Would someone please be kind enough to translate this? "Beni ika a di meji, sugbon ire lope ika ko pe"
I'm grateful for any help. I am learning, but so far only manage a few words/phrases.

"Beni ika a di meji, sugbon ire lope ika ko pe"
"Surely, the evil will be double, it only pays better to be a good Samaritan than to be a devil".
                                                     OR
"Surely, the evil will be double, it only pays better to be a good Samaritan".

@ poster
AIT Effendi Effendi is the perfect example for your post. A journalist who died while defending his wife.

Fhemmmy:
At least what the men refused to do, the women are making it happen . . . . . .  Thanks to all the sisters

Yes o! I'm so glad they made it. Up Naija!!!

Thanks sister for the comments:

First off, there is no verbal intention for either ablution or any of the prayers, intentions are the heart. Saying intentions verbally is an innovation. Neither the Prophet (saw) nor the Sahabah  made verbal intentions for salah or ablution.

That there's no verbal intention for either ablution or any of the prayers is an argument of a creed or a school among the schools of thoughts, but that shouldn't be an impediment to the elementary knowledge of our religion, Islam. The token was presented  for those who want to know about ablution and prayers. And this is just simple moderate instruction about it all (as generally accepted result of all arguments). Check on Khashiat Dasuky, Fiqh Solaat Ala Madhaib Arba'a, and many other books. Only God knows best.

   Pls, let's always be simple and moderate in our thoughts; especially as Muslims. Talking about creeds in small case like this can deviate people. Your book can be an extra knowledge for whoever wants to go further. Besides, remember that the argument of the Islamic schools of thoughts is a blessing for us muslims, not for antagonism.

2ndly, washing of the mouth goes together with the nose. The remnant of the water that is scooped to wash the mouth is used for the nose simultenously. Same thing goes for the wiping the head and ears. You scoop water, rub it over the head and use the same to rub the ears.

Sorry to say that this is a complete delusion, and it is uncalled for in Islam. Washing mouth (Madhmadha) is something, and washing of nose (Istinshaaq; inhalation and exhalation) is something else. They are two separate things,  likewise the head and the ears. They are separate things in ablution. This is a confirmed knowledge about ablution. The token present is a well-studied guide for ablution and prayers for our young brothers and sisters in Islam. It is in accordance with Imam Malik, which is the most accepted among all the schools.

"And logically for your own benefit as a scholar. The most accepted water for purification is clean, unused water. Why do you use remnant scooped water to perform an aspect of ablution, when you have clean water, probably for tap. So, state clearly with evidences in your teachings for your followers; Knowledge is Amaana (sacred trust) that you'd be accounted for. Also this is logic error that hold some Christians to criticism when asked of who's the God; the Jesus Christ, the holy trinity, or the God Almighty. They just mix it together, whereas, Jesus is well known as a prophet through whom the Bible was sent; the holy trinity is spiritual that it works between Jesus and his God who sent him; and the God is only One." State things clearly in the way that a new learner or beginner will understand you without any consultation. God bless you.

   Also, am happy that, as a Muslim, you know about creeds in Islam. It is a blessing. But try to read very well and derive best result for our brothers and sisters who can't read or write Arabic. Also to mention, Imam Muhammad Nasser-deen Al-Albani is far less a scholar, even a student to those of 4 Orthodox Imams (Malik, Abu Aneefa, Ambali, and Shafi'e). He is a devout Muslim by the way.
   
   And one thing I want you to know also is that he (Al-Albani) is more or less  a Anafi follower, we, from Nigeria down to Sub-Sahara area of Morocco, are followers of Imam Malik. If you go deep in Islamic Schools of thoughts, you'll read many misconceptions in Anafi and Ambali's schools; we have those who do not complete ablution, we have those merge many aspects of ablution together like yours, and lastly, we have those who exaggerate the aspects of ablution like some of Shafi'e. But by and large, they all at last come to a consensus on every argument - The consensus is because of we people to come after them.

Alhamdu lillahi.

ABLUTION

1. Wash your hands (fingers - wrists) (3ce)

2. Wash and rinse your mouth (3ce)

3. Wash your nose (in and out) (3ce)

4. Wash your face (complete face) (3ce) and say niyyah (intention)

Intention: Alahumo ini nawaaetu wudua tahara tan lilahi taala.

5. Wash your hands (right 1st & left, from wrist down to elbow) (3ce)

6. Wipe your head (from the beginning of hair, front to back) with water. (fore-head only is enough for women (Once)

7. Wipe your ears (left & right at once) in and out with water (Once)

8. Wash your feet (right first, then left from ankle downward). No time – but until it is clean.

9. Taste water with your right middle finger, and raise it up and say, “Ash hadu an lailaa illa Allahu, Ash hadu anna Muhammad Rosuulu llahi. Laa Aola Wa laa Kuwata illa billahi.

Then, go and pray.


PRAYER (5 times daily)

1. Subhi – 2 Rakaats
2. Zuhr – 4 Rakaats
3. Asr – 4 Rakaats
4. Magreb – 3 Rakaats
5. Isha’i – 4 Rakaats

One Rakaat is as follows:
1. Iqamat Solat:

Allahu Akbar (2ce)
Ash hadu an laa ilaa illa Allahu
Ash hadu anna Muhammad Rosuulu llahi
Hayya alal solaat
Hayya alal falaahi
Qad qaamati solaat (2ce)
Allahu Akbar (2ce)
Laa ilaha illa Allah.


2. Intention: You raise up your hands to make Niyyah (intention) which is as follows:
     
                                                          Subhi
Allahumo ini nawaetu adaa solaat:             Zuhri  taabudan lilahi taala.
                                                          Asr                         
                                                          Magreb
                                                          Isha’i -
Allahu Abkar (As you saying this, you raise up your hands (open) up to the level of your ears).

3. Read Fatiha and any Surah you know. Allahu Akbar.

4. You bend down (Rukuu) and say, Subhana Robiyal Azeem Wa bi hamdihi (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

5. Raise up your head from Rukuu, and stand straight for a while (3secs). Allahu Akbar.

6. Go down for sujuud (whereby you put your fore-head down to touch the floor, and say, “Subhana Robiyyal Aala fagfiri lii” (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

7. Get up from sujuud, and sit down on your legs for awhile (3secs). Allahu Akbar.

8. Go down again for sujuud, like No. 6, and repeat: put down your head to touch the ground, and say, Subhana Robiyyali Aala fagfiri lii (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

9. Go/stand up again to repeat Nos. 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8.

10. This time, after Allahu Akbar of No. 8, you will not go/stand up, but you will sit down on your legs to remain as you are after sujuud No.8, then, on your sit, you will read,
“Attahiyyatu lillahi,  Azzakiyyatu lillahi,  Attoyyibatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen.” (First Attahiyyat)

Keynotes:

Nos. 3 – 8 is a complete Rakaat.

· In No. 3, you read fatiha and surah in the first 2 Rakaats, and read fatiha alone in the rest.

· In No. 3 also, you read fatiha and surah aloud in the first 2 Rakaats of Subhi, Magreb, and Isha’i, but you read them silently in Zuhr and Asr.

· That means in No. 3, all Rakaats after the first 2 Rakaats will be fatiha only and must be read silently.

· After each 2 Rakaats, there must be a reading of “First Attahiyyat”.

· Therefore, a Prayer of 2 Rakaats will have only “Second Attahiyyat”, and finish.

· A Prayer of 3 or 4 Rakaats will have “1st & 2nd Attahiyyat”, and finish.


· A Prayer;    Subhi
                  Zuhri
                  Asr
                  Magreb
                  Isha’i    - ends after reading “Second Attahiyyat” with “Assalaamu alaikun War-rahmotu llahi" (2ce) one-to the right and one to the left.

First Attahiyyat: “Attahiyyaatu lillahi,  Azzakiyaatu lillahi,  Attoyyibaatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen.” (First Attahiyyat)

Second Attahiyyat: “Attahiyyatu lillahi,  Azzakiyaatu lillahi,  Attoyyibaatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen. Ash’ hadu an laa ilaha illa Allahu, Wahadahu laa shareeka lahu, lahuli muliku Wa lahuli hamdu, Yuhyi wa yumeetu, wa huwa alaa kuli shei Qadeer.” (Second Attahiyyat).
                                                                   

By: Oyelade Abbas
Writer, Journalist & Editor, Egypt - IOL.

God will rescue oyo state 4rm d hands of these vultures.

Ameen 'cos all we need is prayer.

Should there be any question or explanation needed, kindly feel free to ask.

GET DONE WITH YOUR PRAYER

ABLUTION

1. Wash your hands (fingers - wrists) (3ce)

2. Wash and rinse your mouth (3ce)

3. Wash your nose (in and out) (3ce)

4. Wash your face (complete face) (3ce) and say niyyah (intention)

Intention: Alahumo ini nawaaetu wudua tahara tan lilahi taala.

5. Wash your hands (right 1st & left, from wrist down to elbow) (3ce)

6. Wipe your head (from the beginning of hair, front to back) with water. (fore-head only is enough for women (Once)

7. Wipe your ears (left & right at once) in and out with water (Once)

8. Wash your feet (right first, then left from ankle downward). No time – but until it is clean.

9. Taste water with your right middle finger, and raise it up and say, “Ash hadu an lailaa illa Allahu, Ash hadu anna Muhammad Rosuulu llahi. Laa Aola Wa laa Kuwata illa billahi. Then, go and pray.


PRAYER (5 times daily)

1. Subhi – 2 Rakaats
2. Zuhr – 4 Rakaats
3. Asr – 4 Rakaats
4. Magreb – 3 Rakaats
5. Isha’i – 4 Rakaats

One Rakaat is as follows:
1. Iqamat Solat:

Allahu Akbar (2ce)
Ash hadu an laa ilaa illa Allahu
Ash hadu anna Muhammad Rosuulu llahi
Hayya alal solaat
Hayya alal falaahi
Qad qaamati solaat (2ce)
Allahu Akbar (2ce)
Laa ilaha illa Allah.


2. Intention: You raise up your hands to make Niyyah (intention) which is as follows:
       

                                                         Subhi
Allahumo ini nawaetu adaa solaat   Zuhri  taabudan lilahi taala.
                                                         Asr                         
                                                         Magreb
                                                         Isha’i -

Allahu Abkar (As you saying this, you raise up your hands (open) up to the level of your ears).

3. Read Fatiha and any Surah you know. Allahu Akbar.

4. You bend down (Rukuu) and say, Subhana Robiyal Azeem Wa bi hamdihi (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

5. Raise up your head from Rukuu, and stand straight for a while (3secs). Allahu Akbar.

6. Go down for sujuud (whereby you put your fore-head down to touch the floor, and say, “Subhana Robiyyal Aala fagfiri lii” (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

7. Get up from sujuud, and sit down on your legs for awhile (3secs). Allahu Akbar.

8. Go down again for sujuud, like No. 6, and repeat: put down your head to touch the ground, and say, Subhana Robiyyali Aala fagfiri lii (3ce). Allahu Akbar.

9. Go/stand up again to repeat Nos. 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, and 8.

10. This time, after Allahu Akbar of No. 8, you will not go/stand up, but you will sit down on your legs to remain as you are after sujuud No.8, then, on your sit, you will read, “Attahiyyatu lillahi,  Azzakiyyatu lillahi,  Attoyyibatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen.” (First Attahiyyat)


Keynotes:

Nos. 3 – 8 is a complete Rakaat.

· In No. 3, you read fatiha and surah in the first 2 Rakaats, and read fatiha alone in the rest.

· In No. 3 also, you read fatiha and surah aloud in the first 2 Rakaats of Subhi, Magreb, and Isha’i, but you read them silently in Zuhr and Asr.

· That means in No. 3, all Rakaats after the first 2 Rakaats will be fatiha only and must be read silently.

· After each 2 Rakaats, there must be a reading of “First Attahiyyat”.

· Therefore, a Prayer of 2 Rakaats will have only “Second Attahiyyat”, and finish.

· A Prayer of 3 or 4 Rakaats will have “1st & 2nd Attahiyyat”, and finish.


· A Prayer;   Subhi
                   Zuhri
                   Asr
                   Magreb
                   Isha’i    - ends after reading “Second Attahiyyat” with “Assalaamu alaikun War-rahmotu llahi" (2ce) one-to the right and one to the left.

First Attahiyyat: “Attahiyyaatu lillahi,  Azzakiyaatu lillahi,  Attoyyibaatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen.” (First Attahiyyat)

Second Attahiyyat: “Attahiyyatu lillahi,  Azzakiyaatu lillahi,  Attoyyibaatu Salawaatu lillahi, Assalaam Alaika Ayyuan Nabiyyu, Warahmotu llahi  Wa Barakaatuh, Assalaam Alaena Wa alaa Ibaadi llahi Soliheen. Ash’ hadu an laa ilaha illa Allahu, Wahadahu laa shareeka lahu, lahuli muliku Wa lahuli hamdu, Yuhyi wa yumeetu, wa huwa alaa kuli shei Qadeer.” (Second Attahiyyat).

Walhamdu lillahi Robili Aalameen.
                                                                   

By: Oyelade Abbas
Writer, Journalist & Editor, Egypt (IOL).

Siena:
And you think a black woman sleeping with a white man would produce a white baby? Wouldn't the baby then be bi-racial?

Mr. Siena, how is baby Sienna and her mother?

usbcable:
Speechless,
walahi I cant really know what to think.

Me 2 o!

Never heard such b/4. Strange indeed! May God help them!

Ranoscky:
@Oloritinu, u make sence die for dat your post jare. @Global-D, u just finish d whole tin up! u guys r perfectly correct!

b4 u know it, after election and every-every, u go hear say 120 beggers don turn to 120 dead body! POLIRITUALS!

Gbam!!! 

oloritinu:
may be he needs them for something

Who knows as another election is approaching! May the good Lord deliver us from them.

CGKing:
This Akala is one very. . . . Well the ppl of ibadan got what they deserved?

Redman44:
I am just praying that God will raise up a young leader who will challenge the likes of Akala and bring sanity to Oyo State. Oyo State needs a Governor with a progressive mindset. Anytime I visit Ibadan, I'm reminded that I'm driving through a city with so much potentials. Ibadan could give Lagos a run for its money if the potentials of the city are harnessed. It is just saddening that short sighted politicians continue running the city to the ground. There are other parts of Oyo State that needs to be developed. Lord, raise another Fashola up for Oyo State

Amin o! 

Congratulations to you and your family. May God bless the new born abundantly. I am very happy for you guys and may God Almighty keep your wife well.

The case is that, we need to differentiate or compare a husband who requests pregnancy of his wife before getting married and a husband who request for a fertility affidafit before marriage.

For instance, some religion bodies take to the same clause before blessing any marriage be Christan or Muslim.

By GIDEON OPARINDE

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Lolade was Femi’s classmate at the university. They were not dating, but were on talking terms. Lolade was a social butterfly who was always in the company of different campus boys. She’s very pretty and from a wealthy home.

It was rumored that Lolade terminated at least four pregnancies for different guys. Femi knew but kept mute and wanted to punish her for jilting his cousin Tomi. A year after their youth service, everyone had gone their different ways , but Lolade and Femi met again in Lagos.

Femi indicated he wanted to marry her and had an affair with her. They even terminated a two-month pregnancy.

The doctor called him aside and warned that they should never try such again and that Lolade probably would not get pregnant again.

Femi kept this to himself till their plan to get married was materializing and he asked her to go for a fertility test. She eventually did it, but the result was disappointing, and she told Femi, her fiancé. It was too late and nothing could be done.

Femi had to call it quits with her. Would you go for a fertility test before marriage if your partner insists?


Lynda

Well, he is my fiancé and after all, it is not a bad idea. But should he be certified unable to impregnate me , we shall accept our fate and move on with our lives. We shall adopt a few kids and treat them like our biological children.


Dingba

If my partner insist that I should go for fertility test, I would ponder deliberately on it, but looking at it, I would not make her doubt my fertility issue, I would accept to go for it under the condition that she would also have her own test, but most times these tests could be wrong because I have seen both couple well tested okay for fertility issues but waited for 8years before having a child. In conclusion I would oblige to her request to that issue


Yinka

Yeah, I have to do it , because marriage is a lifetime issue.

It’s always better to be on the safer side earlier than regretting later. You know what I am talking about? If I love him, yes, then think of a way out, if he is very understanding.


Mubo

It’s okay by me as long as we are set to marry each other and if my church orders it.

Some churches recommend it before joining couples together. But if religious bodies recommend fertility tests, I think that enough would sink a relationship of many years.


Bunmi

Hmmmm. Well, it is necessary for both of us to do so , because I believe that I am okay. I don’t think I have any cause for alarm or to be afraid. He might want to find some faults with me. In other words, it means we both have to go for it, so that we will both know where we are heading.


Toyin

Yes, I will comply, though I will not be happy about it, because if it works out against me, he might want to quickly dump me and go for another girl. Should that happen to me, I’ll be unhappy , but I will still follow him because I love him.


Gurati

As far as I am concerned there is no need for fertility tests so far true love exists between us.

What if she insisted on fertility tests and at the end of the day she happened to be the victim?

Everyone has his or her past. So, let’s take fate in our hands and commit the rest to God for proper direction.

What happens , if after the fertility tests, the doctor diagnoses that both of you are normal but after marriage there is no child ?

Who are we to blame for this? Man proposes but God disposes, let us just believe in God and leave the rest to God.


Gbemi

I will terribly feel bad with that action of his, does it mean he is marrying me all because of child bearing or what? But I have no choice than to go and run the test, because for me to want to settle down with him, it means am head over heels in love with him and ready to settle down with him.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

By: KEMI ASHEFON


WHAT can make a woman hate her husband of five years? Maureen will say it better. "He is too stingy, too loud and abuses me in the presence of others," she starts.

Though they courted eight years before getting married, Maureen should have known everything about him and not get irritated with his ways. "Yes, but there are some habits I never knew of until I married him," Maureen laments.

"Not that he was very gentle when we were courting, but he never abused me or corrected me of any wrong when others, especially his family members, were around. Then, he would still give me of his meagre salary for my needs and he was not as garrulous as this.

"Maybe this has to do with his new found wealth - he now takes pride in everything he does for me and the kids. We will be going on summer break in a few weeks and already, he had called his siblings and his mother to inform them. To them, he spends all his money on the children and me.

"They have taught him to be stingy towards us because they are his advisers. Recently, he wanted me to pay for the children's school party, but I was late in doing it. He became angry and abused me in front of his siblings, who were busy laughing. He called me a half baked graduate, who does not appreciate her husband's efforts. He became irritable to me and I have not been talking to him ever since."

Marvel, 45, a mother of two teenagers does not know what to say or do to re-activate the love she had for Tony, her husband of 15 years. "I never knew he had two kids - a boy and a girl before we got married and I was not aware of it," she says. "Meanwhile, my parents love him as their son, but they don't know about these love-children.

"Though he is not married to the mother of these kids, she is always present at every family get-together, especially at my husband's family house. I have not told my parents about this but I always told them I don't have problems in my marriage.

"How did I know? One of his sisters walked up to me and introduced the woman as 'the mother of your husband's children that you have refused to allow come in.' I almost fainted and thought it was a joke. But I asked my husband when I got home and he replied in the affirmative. That was like a year ago, but I get irritated whenever he touches me or asks for sex. I must confess that I hate him."

Men could also be victim of this 'irritation syndrome'. "What puts me off Grace, my wife, is her fat body," confesses Greg, 38, a civil servant. "She eats everything that comes her way and she is not making any effort to trim down at all.

"I tried everything to make her see reasons why she should not be fat but she would make me realise that she was not like this before bearing my children. At the end of the day, she pushes the whole blame on me, that I criticise her, make her depressed and she seeks succour in eating. Imagine that!

"Grace is fat, flabby and fast losing colour. Last week, we were at a family function and my sisters were telling her on what to do to get her shape back, but she ignored them. Really, it irritates me seeing her naked mass of flesh. Making love to her is also a nightmare. To carry any of her thighs is a problem not to talk of rolling her over the bed. I'm scared this could break our union."

But Akin's case is not the same. "My wife suffers from flatulence and makes a joke of it. Initially, it started like a joke and we both laughed over it but at a point I got embarrassed. Why? The farting became constant and even the children knew when their mother farted. Though she had gone off decorum in front of visitors, they laughed over it too. I didn't and I have told her to stop this silly joke. Now, she confessed that she cannot help it because she has done it over the years and got accustomed to it. This puts me off and I tend to get angry at little things, which I could have overlooked," he says.
http://odili.net/news/source/2010/jul/11/848.html

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Marriage is a common cultural institution. In Nigeria, it comes in variants, according to the culture group. But it is not known of any ethnic group where it is allowed that a woman would marry two husbands at the same time.
But that pattern of marriage would not have happened until some 16 years ago when a set of twins in Kogi State introduced a strange dimension to marriage by taking one wife and having children from her.

While brothers and close friends kill each other over a woman and for encroaching on each other’s territory, these strange ones scored a weird first in standing the culture of their people on the head. Because this was not acceptable in their world, their father fought the arrangement for as long as he lived. When his pestering became so unbearable, the first known woman to have married two husbands same time, same day and lived and had children for them had to dump the relationship.

Wags in the community have put their finger to the conviction that the strange twins eventually died after their peculiar marriage arrangement was forcefully severed. Yes, they accepted, to do their father’s bidding, but could not contract any other marriage as separate individuals, as demanded by family, until they both died mysteriously.


A peculiar world

The villagers of Ayetoro-Gbede and Ayekunle-Gbede, Ijumu Local Government Area of Kogi State witnessed the unusual two young men, who were born about 40 years ago and died the same year four years back. They carried on like they had their private world oblivious of what the tenets of culture taxed them to do. That defiance made them step outside defined lines to take one wife and had children from her.

They were simply known as Taiwo (Towo) and Kehinde (Koido), the general accolade for twins in Yoruba. But they called each other Oba, short for their surname - Obadero. Like an oba (king) even as they called each other, they carried like institutions to themselves and died as mysteriously as they lived.

Saturday Sun had to find out the truth in the story in Kogi State that the two were more than enigmatic. They had everything in common and did everything together. They said the same words, when speaking and joined their buttocks when defecating.

What was responsible for this unusual act was explained by their stepmother and aunt, Awawu Obadero and Racheal Ologe. “The reason for that unusual closeness and attachment was because they came with one placenta at birth and against our tradition of dividing it into two before burial, theirs was not divided. Thus, naturally, they began acting as an individual.”

Because the twins are late as well as their parents, the family home looked deserted when our reporter visited. But their stepmother, elder sister and son are the few inhabitants left. When asked to tell the story of the twins, the old woman, Awawu Obadero, excused herself and went to call the twins’ elder sister from a nearby market. They came back and the story began.


Reliable tale

“The twins’ mother had died when they were barely four years old”, their sister started. “Right from their infancy, they did things in common. They had left home to fend for themselves at about 10. Later, they settled in Ayetoro-Gbede doing bricklaying, farming and other odd jobs. It was there they met their wife, Toyin (not real name), who they shared, in defiance to everyone’s objection. She bore two children for my brothers - Kulu, a female and Ibrahim, a male. Kulu is now married, while Ibrahim stays here in the family house. It was at the time our father insisted that they got married separately that strange and tragic things began happening to them.”


Wife of two

Saturday Sun spoke to the twins’ wife, Toyin, who now lives in Ayetoro-Gbede. She pleaded that her picture should not be published because she has just moved on with another man after the double take.

She said: “I knew Taiwo and Kehinde (her late twin husbands) since adolescence. We met when we were laying bricks in Ayetoro. They were both strange and adorable to me because they did and had everything in common. Both had approached me the same time. They used to say the same word at the same time. Strange even to me, I did not accept or reject their advances. I soon became inseparable from them anywhere they went. I must have been carried away by the way they did everything in common. They felt hunger, urge to urinate and others, the same time. They even expressed love the same manner and time. They were very interesting lovers. So I could not resist them. Even the villagers used to say that only I understood their weird ways.”

The strange wife of two husbands had fondness for the two and possibly would have loved them dearly and equally as they did her. “I called one Iye-Oho, and the other Oba-Oho,” she revealed.

The special woman never held anything back about the affection she had for the duo. It would have been a sizzling double take for her as she revealed that her two late husbands had sexual urge the same time and expressed love, sex and romance the same way. You might be going too far to inquire if any of them was particularly better in bed than the other or if one of them gave her better deal.


Putting asunder

After giving birth to Ibrahim, the second child, father of the weird twins, Eleha Obadero, began putting pressure on them to marraige separate women, in line with customs and tradition. “They did not like that because they had grown so attached to me. I did not also like the idea and so I withdrew from them. It was then they relocated to Ayegunle-Gbede, their hometown. But they never married another woman. Though I was told they tried several women, it never worked out. I had to join them later, hoping things would be better, but their father gave no chance for this re-union till they died in strange circumstances. Then I left with my daughter, Kulu and returned here,” the woman of history narrated.


One child, two dads

Fourteen-year old Ibrahim, the only son of the twins, also confirmed that his granddad at a time pestered his late fathers to get married separately and it was not long after this that tragedy struck. He said: “It is true that my grandfather wanted my fathers to get married to different women. But it wasn’t long after this that strange things began to happen to them. He used to also say that Taiwo was more likely my father, as I behaved more like him.”

But the handsome teen knows, without any doubt, that he has peculiar identity, as, perhaps, the only young man in his world who could be excused to fill a form stating double paternity instead of one, like others. And as a young child growing up, he would not have lacked paternal care, not with two fathers ever present with him.


Strange deaths

Four years ago, after the twins had accepted to toe the line of custom and accept to marry the prescribed way, they died.

Their stepmother, Awawu Obadero said: “ Kehinde was smitten by snake in his farm one day and unusual of him, he did not reveal it until late in the night when it was too late to remove the venom. He died shortly after. After his death, Taiwo immediately became a shadow of his former self and was always saying he would join his brother. In less than a year later, he fell ill and died.

Okilo, the village ballad, told Saturday Sun: ‘If you asked one of them a question, the two will answer at once, saying the same word. They urinate on the same spot. They were very identical and so you cannot differentiate them. They had only one wife whom they were always going out with. They loved her so much. They reigned as strange twins in this village and died the same year.”

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May Almighty God have mercy on her soul. Sun ree o!

benincitys:
what is your problem with Nigeria men and women please take your time this is not funny anymore
i know allot of Nigeria women here in Germany who have 1or 2 kids

Not funny at all. You can imagine, Nigerian do this, Nigerian do that. That means it doesn't pay you with Nigerian men. It's better you look elsewhere.

0hsisi:
Nigerians that marry these foreign wives really do have a burden on their hands
You have to constantly explain and re-explain yourself
Give ample notices,excuses and answer a million whys
It must be very tiring
I can't imagine a husband always explaining what a particular food is called,the ingredients,translate not only his local language but pidgin English too.
It's hard enough to marry from another tribe where the spouse doesn't understand the language but at least the Nigerian experience and expectation is very similar.
If I go village or anywhere in Naija with my oga and the generator is broken down,I will happily use lamps at night,happily draw water from a "drum" with bucket,bathe out of the bucket and happily pour a bucket of water into the toilet to flush.
But these our men have to bend over backwards to cater to the comfort of these their foreign wives.
God forbid the generator breaks down.
He may start apologizing and may be forced to fan the woman all night while she complains of how hot the place is
If the gas cylinder is empty suddenly, how will she cook with a kerosene stove or firewood sef if need be?
These men dey try o
If I be man,I no fit carry that kain load ,marriage is hard enough

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Funny indeed! But sometimes, its Naija men that want to impress their 'Oyinbo' wives, most of these foreigners don't even care. Those foreigners cherish that simple life alot. Abeg, go and watch this movie "Usofia in London". U go laugh tire.

H Leilah,

Seems you have issues with Naija women.

By: Olunike Asaolu

The National Franchisor of Helen Doron Worldwide Educational Group and Chief Executive of Distinct Integrated Services Ltd, Mrs. Nike Agunbiade, has blamed the alarming rate of failure in mathematics and English Language among pupils in the country on wrong foundations.

Agunbiade, who decried the alarming failure rate, disclosed that in the past few years in Nigeria, pupils' scores showed mass failure in maths and English at national examinations as evidenced in the over 75 per cent failure rate in the 2009 Senior Secondary Certificate Examination.

She said, "Most pupils in the country are not given a strong foundation in basic subjects such as English language and mathematics at the formative years, and this sometimes leads to mass failure in these subjects.

http://odili.net/news/source/2010/jul/2/803.html

There's no 'Goodluck' without 'Patience', and where the both are present, the future is always promising.

THIS IS A WELLDONE STEP TAKEN BY THE ABLE & LISTENING PRESIDENT OF NIGERIA, PERIOD!!!. A BIG KUDOS TO YOU, GOODLUCK JONATHAN !!!

I was so sad when I heard yesterday on useless Jazeera that our able president has turned down his decision on our FA ban. The decision that has scored him 'hero' instantly. The decison that if it causes him 2011, it is worth, and his name will remain epitaphed as 'a worth president' ever.

Now, this is just the beginning if we need to reform ourselves as a nation. This is a kinda reform that people of 'REBRANDING NIGERIA' should enjoin.

As per sport arena, the 1994 team supposed to have changed the nation's football for better, but surprisingly, the opposite is the case. Since that Atlanta glory team, t's like every Nigeria (male or female) that puts on a green-white-green jersy stands for auto-talented football player, and this has even rendered several people (Nigerians) around the world unwarranted football professional job. The deceptive camoflag that never helped Samba players an inch in their national team set up. Confirmed.
     The 1994 teams (from Keshi era) have their stories to tell on football before attained such higher esteem in Nigeria football - Algeria '90 is part of the story.

In short, the obvious thing we need to look into in all spheres of Nigeria's administrative sectors is that the mentality is getting worse every day. An adage says, "It is far easier to fight war than to fight mentality." So, it means we have long way to go.
       
      In Nigeria of today, talking of sport competitiveness, we are nothing while the talents are there wasting. We don't have a single fairly competent coach, talkelss of a sport adminstrator. It is all about estacodes, allowances, bonuses, etc (illus at Taiwo Ogunjobi camp - the same soup in the same pot since that long century - stale). It is all about running after luck on the pitch. The illus at Amodu, the worst ever of the coaches in Nigeria. Ask me why?
       
     Emotion and ambition cover Siasia, he has no where to go if they give him the mandate. Only he can snatch the luck by ruthless enforcement. And this can happen in a while not a continuous glory, while everybody wants glory to persist in their home. Not only that, Onigbinide is proud of whether to be better than the rest, capital NO. He's only after discipline (to maintain law & order in the camp). Eguavon is always after curiosity.

      And football is not all about discipline, curiosity, emotion or ambition, and luck alone, where's technicality. Luck goes to whomever deserves it. Football needs more than all these; it needs good doctors in place; an experienced sports psychologist; a sports technical tutor and analyst, even a sports politician, etc. And above all, the coach heads the camp and must know how to use and combine all these mechanisms efficiently to meet the employer's demands which is a fruitful coherent teamwork on the pitch vis-a-vis making the players good for the nation and themselves.

   Well, to sum up the whole thing, Coaching is a profession. It has to be educated on like referee. I'm quite sure if the referee job can be achieved by luck, many Nigerians would have loved to get into it.
   So, it is better we all at sport sector go on sabbatical leave to engage in training of what we are earning for. It is unfair you earn on something through an open cheque without a considerable payback, and an adage says, "The value of money is what money can buy." Does it mean now that Nigeria doesn't compensate enough to be worthy of glory.

And besides, your own country, whose pride everyone is carrying all along here and there. The country that with its jersey on your neck, you mean many things to the world of sport,  Many people don't even count on having a job and salary, where millions of competent fellows like you are there looking for a job. Let's think  properly and give that country what it deserves from us.
       We are not like a society called "a Nation". Always PEACE @NL. Thanks.