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Kobojunkie:
Search through the Gospels and you will find that Jesus Christ did not give you any commandments regarding the covering or uncovering of hair. Such ideas are of the traditions of men and not of God.

Going forward,stop quoting me,please.
Take care.

Nicenancy:
All men [have the capacity to] are cheat.
Even grandpaas are still cheating on grandmas

Nonsense

I actually agree with you.
Yea,all men have the capacity to cheat,the same way all women have the capacity to be hoes .
It's life reality,make peace with it.

Long distance relationship,most time,is just two adults deceiving themselves.
The time,energy and resources expended to keep it going,most time, is not worth it.
But then,everyone believe that their own long distance lover is different until reality sets in.

ymdo:
A lady bleaching is disgusting should be stoned to death.

A man bleaching should be stoned to death

Fixed!

Divoc19:
She's looking for beauty. According to nature, it's the man that chooses a partner and not the other way round.
All a man has to do is to just make money fine or no fine but a lady needs enhancement because of the competition.

But today, we have men that have lost the ingredients that made them MEN in the first instance behaving like women.

Women can go to any length to justify the absurds,once they are the one in the picture of discuss.
Nobody that have a positive image about their person,either male or female,are going to bleach their skin.
Any man or woman that bleaches he or her skin is suffering from huge poor self image.
The way it's disgusting to see a man bleaching his skin,is the same way it should be disgusting to any sensible person that sees a woman bleaching her skin.

@undercover

.• "If you are trying to destroy an enemy who has hurt you, far better to keep him off-guard by feigning friendliness than showing your anger"

Don't you think the reverse will be more devastating and strategic ?

People generally believe that people that express their anger or dissatisfaction at your attitude or something you did wrong at that moment ,or later ,have a better tendency to let things go than people who just start playing friendly without given you a piece of their mind.
What if you employ that to your own advantage ?
You create a smoke screen by displaying a false expression of your anger, maintain the "friendship", take a step back and re-strategize on how best to go for the kill.

Honestly,if you start playing friendly with me after we have had a fight ,I will be very wary of you . I will certainly be on my guard.

What do you think ?

posty56:
apart from your mother, no woman, I repeat no woman will give unconditional love. And don't even bother searching for one just find partner that's not materialistic

Is that what you're taught to believe ?
No one is going to offer you unconditional love.
Both male and female don't have the capacity to offer you unconditional love, it's just that the level of the conditionality varies,more like a spectrum.
Most mothers,will show their seed(s) the least conditionality of love, but then,that you're her biological seed is one of the conditions to be shown such least conditionality of love.
It's not just about women, it's generally about humans and other lower organisms.

Kobojunkie:
Go ask your parents about it.

Anyone that's quick to drag others parents into a discuss, it's safe to say, they got no value and respect for their our parents.
That's one of the by products of feminism, it teaches one to have huge disregard for the family unit.
If one don't respect and value their own parents,who are at the peak of the family unit, it's unwise to expect them to have respect for other people's parent.
It break my heart to say ;your parents have failed you, or maybe they did their best, but woke culture and feminism has destroyed you so bad you got no regards for your parents.
That's very bad,sir.

Wish you healing , that's all I can do for you.
Take care and have a wonderful day.

TalkTalkTwins:
In essence, we should all be feminists not only as a commitment to women's liberation but also as a way of encouraging men to hold conversations with women on sexuality, appearance, roles, and success. Being a feminist entails championing for the rights of women and trying to make the world a better place for women.

Feminism does not entirely challenge the biological roles of each gender as it only intends to revolutionize sexism by creating equal chances and opportunities for women and men. Feminism views people as human beings and aims to tackle the social injustices that silence people's will and power to exceed social expectations. Therefore, becoming a feminist normalizes women's success and allows men to strive to achieve even more in life.

Participating in the contemporary feminism paves the way for a prosperous and all-inclusive future society. Empowering women is not equivalent to taking away opportunities from men. Teaching the community to accord equal respect to women creates a conducive environment for success. Therefore, encouraging people to become feminists tunes their minds away from cultural and social constructs that limit their understanding of gender on sexuality and roles and allows men and women to become who they want to be without restrictions.

Exactly what we are told,but their actions, especially those of the contemporary feminists negate everything you wrote up there.
Judge people not by their words but by their actions.
Modern day feminists are the most arrogant and shallow people you're going to meet out there,but they call it confident and exercising their right.
They always view any man who don't buy into their feminism whatever as sub humans and backward,and any woman who don't agree with them as modern day slaves.
They claim it's a fight for everyone,but the energy they expend in responding to male issues is totally different from the one they expend in responding to female issues.
Take for instance ,rape and domestic violence.
Any man that brings forward any case of been raped by a woman,is usually ridiculed and shamed .
And is that the same way rape issue is treated when a woman is at the receiving end ?
The man is even tagged a rapist even without no substantial evidence to prove that.
His reputation is forever damaged even without a competent court finding him guilty.


What about domestic violence ?
They always find a way to blame the man for been responsible for any pain that must have been inflicted on him by his woman.

We are not stupid.
Men are not stupid.
Men disagreeing with the whole feminism stuff have seen through your BS and have realised,you don't have any ones interest at heart, especially the male, you're rather more focused on selling dreams to our naive and beautiful women of what's basically going to destroy everyone.
The family unit has become a mess,single mothers everywhere, children lacking both motherly love and fatherly guardians are on the rise, frustrated and angry women everywhere,men staying away from marriage is becoming a common place, nudity is becoming the norm and standard for a liberal woman, divorce on the rise, government using our women for their selfish purpose and discarding them to the trash can when they are done,gay and lesbianism marraige in now becoming a norm ,just name it !

The dream you guys sold to us is now burning our world,is now creating rivalry between both genders,and you're all happy about it,right ?

We are not going to allow you and your cohorts to keep selling stupid dreams to our women,because you got absolutely nothing good to offer us.

Kobojunkie:
You mean African culture is against gender equality , right?

What's gender equality ?

yanabasee1:
Do you know what is force?


There's nothing here that's mental manipulation....


I aired my opinion and that's all....


If you ha e a weak brain to feel manipulated to my opinion... then you need to be in the hospital and not here....

Ok..

debbydams:
scan can be messed up sometime oo..had similar experience,,since she is swearing just believe her pls

He should just believe her ?
Why exactly should he do that ?
Because we are talking about a "she" ?
I'm certain , you're not going to give any of your brother such naive advice if they happen to be in that young man's shoe.
No DNA test in the future,no future scanning review,just outrightly "believe her".

Good one !

Nigerian girls are no different from their foreign counterparts,on a Biological level,but some factors plays huge roles on how we behave,apart from genetic, environmental factors.
I have met Nigerian women who are very nice,not even talking about biological sisters.
But then,you got to understand how they are built ,function and relate to their environment,that will equip you on how best to engage them.
Anybody going around telling you all Nigerian girls are useless ,with making special exception for foreign women is just deluded.
Foreign women are as dangerous, opportunitic and even more ruthless than your Nigerian girls.

yanabasee1:
If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...


No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....

Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .


Go and marry and gettat from here....

You sure you're not "forcing " him to go get married ?
That the mental game you're playing here is not obvious to you doesn't take away the fact you're trying to employ shaming mechanisms to actually force him to go into marriage.

I got absolutely no business if he chooses to get married or not,but I hate when people claim they are not forcing you to succumb to a certain choice but are doing exactly that by trying to Manipulating you to do their bidding,though being covert about that.

You're playing mind games with him,and yes, you're actually forcing him to go get married so to hold unto some slavery tag of what it means to be a responsible adult ,by society standard.

BamakSNR:
The fact is; you want to run away from responsibility

Are you saying that remaining single is likened to being irresponsible ,when you're old enough and financially stable ?

Desyner:
Lord Jesus endorsed tithe in Mathew 23:23.


"Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgement, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. ."

Over to our intellectual gangsters. Bully me into the knowlegde of the 'truth'.

I think you don't really get the message that passage was trying to pass,because it got little to do with Jesus Christ endorsing tithing.
He's actually talking about the scribes and Pharisees [even the modern day Christians] neglecting a more important teachings like judgement,mercy and faith [ which are salvation, sanctification,The great commission etc ] and are more focused on tithing,offerings [ which could be likened to the prosperity gospel the modern church is preaching every now and then ].

You get the point now ?

The "weightier matters" like salvation of the soul, Christ impending judgement,we have neglected and are more focused on the gospel of prosperity,riches and wealth, which ought not to be so.
Which if you look deeper, it's actually true of the modern church.
Every now and then,the gospel is all about prosperity,even tithing , literally,with little or no emphasis on salvation , sanctification and Christ judgement.
Our focus is now on the "doing churches" and any church that try to lay emphasis on salvation , sanctification and Christ judgement is regarded as "boring church".

If you don't mind,can you bring forward Bible verses that justifies your assertion ?

petra1:
cocering or no cocering doesnt apply anymore its now [/b]a matter of [b]choice and preference.

Those are the core traits common among them.
After going through those list,do you still thing I'm a misogynist ?
Don't get me wrong,some men are narcissist,but most women are naturally narcissistic than your experts in psychology will make you understand.

Narcissism and machievaisms are two traits that's express most by women naturally,but then,your social media won't tell you that.

-- Self centred ;

It's always about them.
Yea, it's always about them.
You're the one to make concessions for them, you're the one to always keep in touch with them, you're the one to ensure you meet their needs and demands, virtually everything "good" to make the relationship keep flourishing should always be about them.
That's why any one who have got dealings with a narcissist always feel used,exhausted and traumatized.

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-- Repressed Insecurity ;

An average human,got Insecurities.
But the difference is how they (male and female ) both chooses to deal with it and the level of their insecurity about their insecurities.
A narcissist,instead of dealing with their insecurities,will go to any length,than your average person,to repress it.
They go as far as denying them,just to feed their vanities and ego.
That keep them going,and riding on on their false self worth or grandiosity.

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-- Need for attention ;

A narcissist lives and thrives on attention.
They just can't help it.
Don't get me wrong,everyone wants some attention at some point in life,but a narcissist need for attention is just mind-blowing.
They may deny it,which actually, deniability being one of their qualities,but their attitude always suggest otherwise.
They can create drama,just for that attention,employ all manipulation possible just to keep getting that supply of attention.
But the moment you start starving them of what they desire most ; attention , they "die".
Yea,one biggest weakness of a narcissist is they can't handled being ignored.
They will create more dramas just to get you to feed them that attention,but when you still keep ignoring them,they will lose every power they hold over you.

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-- Grandiosity ;

They usually think they are worth more than they truly are .
They have these false image about their person.
They exude these irrational confident about their worth,when it's even glaring to you as an observer,that they are only blowing their worth out of proportion.
But behind those false projection is an insecure person,but putting up a bluff.
You remember,the world is run on bluff,and no person is that observation more observable than on a narcissist.
They are no sh*t,but you still going to believe them,because you have no trained your eyes enough to look beyond the image they project.

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Good evening gentlemen and ladies ;

I was moved to create this thread after going through these thread https://www.nairaland.com/6686497/narcissist-how-sure-not-dating/5, and realised,that most persons missed a very core thing they need to understand about the much ill spoken personality, narcissism.
A great thread by the way,but then,I will want to bring to your conciousness something that have been obvious,but the social media and most world renowned psychologists won't want to talk about it.
And that is ;

Your average woman is a narcissist.

I know I will be shamed and even called a misogynist for such a remark,but it's not going to change the fact of that very remark.
I know you're getting pissed off already,but relax,and take a step back to reflect on such a "hate speech".
Let me take you through some core traits that are consistent with narcissism,as a personality.

--Higher sensitivity to criticisms;

That's I key weakness of a narcissist.
We are all sensitive to criticisms,truth be told,but a narcissist react more to even the slightest of criticisms,whether constructive criticisms or not.
Even the slightest of criticisms will be perceived as a hateful attack on their persons.
Take a step back,and notice who exhibits this tendency more,even in our society settings,today.

-- poor accountability behaviour ;

One of another prominent qualities common to narcissists is their inability to look within and take full responsibility for how bad a situation turned out.
They always play the victim.
They will always find a way to blame other party for everything that went wrong,without actually pointing out their own faults in the lead up to the bad situation.
Relationship did work out ? It's their partner's fault. Their partner is the bad person.
Now,still take a step back,and think through all your dealings in the past,who is this quality easily noticable in ?

-- Manipulation ;

An average narcissist is a great manipulator and mind game player.
A narcissist is no narcissist without this trait.
If you're not good with mind games and Manipulations yourself, you're done for ,when dealing with a narcissist.
You may be spending your time learning some basic psychology ,Manipulations and mind games,but to an average narcissist,those traits comes effortlessly.
They so good ,that you might end up questioning your sanity when they are done with you.
You're not going to come out the same when they are done with you.
They are that good.
We aren't even talking about the gaslighting,withdrawal of commitment, indifference just so you heed to their demands and keep you hooked.

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