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advanceDNA:
she just wants is to let u know u have a son somewhere.??......but doesn't need u and doesnt want u to be part of his life...?? Lol...


na format to make u pursue her ..because demanding anything from you will look desperate....if she truly doesn't want anything from u, she go block u....u wont be able to message her at all
...ignore her for a while....na she go message u say u wicked ooo after all she told u ...get DNA testing once she gives u access ....and start being part of your for ur child's welfare if the child is urs.

Tell ur girlfriend the 411...if she wants to continue .... no wahala..
...if u wan go marry the first babe just because she born for u...na ur wahala be that......

Person wey carry belle 9 month and taking care of a baby close to a year all by her self can't play such format.

Even the boy birth certificate nah her papa name dey there which means they don't give a Bleep about me.

Anyway your input noted just that it came out very immature with the razz talk.

Aldol:
Your conscience wont allow you rest if you abandon your own child,you never know how tomorrow may be. Look for the child and take responsibility even if it's sending her money monthly for the boy's upkeep

Honestly my conscience is not making me rest at all.

I just can't afford be a deadbeat father.

The mother is making things difficult for me.......she not responding and I don't know where she Is currently residing

Good morning guys......long read alert

Actually need mature advice from people who have been in this situation before and mature minds.
About 3days ago i found out I probably have a son am not aware of.
Me and the mother had a fling sometime last year between march-april.....it was Nothing serious and it lasted just about 2 month before I relocated back to my based.

June last year she reached out about being pregnant and I actually warned her off cos i thought it was a lie and maybe she trying to extort me.

On Monday I didn't know what came over me and I decided to hi her on fb chat after over a year and 8month.
I just apologize to her on how I treated her back then and all.........after awhile she asked why am doing all that and I told her am just trying to reach out to most people I think I must have wrong in the past.
(She borrowed me some money before I relocated then and I didn't return it back although it was for things she got in the house then), she told me about the pregnant stuff again and tried to warn her off again but to my surprise she started forwarding pics of the baby and videos.

She was indeed pregnant and gave birth to the baby Jan 14th this year, the baby look very much like me and to some extent I believe is mine. (From calculation and timing)

Now this my problem..........am currently in a serious relationship with someone who is very good to me ,infact we are already processing relocating together cos her siblings are over there.

When I broke the news to my mum and sister they were very sentimental and bias....they didn't even give me a chance to properly explain.
To them they felt the lady is trying to force the baby on me and trying to ruin my relationship.
The question they kept asking is why now and where was she all this while.
They are insisting we do DNA test which i agree to but I still feel it comes out positive they already feel some type of way towards him which I dont like.

This lady doesn't want anything from me, infact she told me I can't see the baby and shouldn't even think of coming for him.

Am really confuse cos I don't even know what to do ,she not replying me again on fb and refuse to give her number.
She said *** I just want you to know you have baby boy somewhere and that all**

Should I try look for them and found out if the baby is mine or I should just move on.

Or what do you think is best decision for me ??

LilVast1:
You’re definitely not from Ogbomoso

Lol.....cause I said the truth and not an hypocrite.

MyVILLAGEpeople:
So the pastor will undergo the traditional rites ?

More than traditional rites.

Alot of rituals will be done and incision on him.

Soun nah first class OBA with history.

Ms202309:
Ibadan, Ogbomosho, Iwo this places don't have any rituals tied to their leadership, it's more political

You are seriously kidding oooo

Ms202309:
Which ritual?!

Sure he would get cultural orientation

Check my update

Ms202309:
Soun throne is a pretty decent royalty and dynasty, Ogbomosho isn't fetish , it's just like a political leadership

Lol.....you talking about where am from.

Baptist by day.......babalawo by night.

We are good people but the land is fully traditional.

inoki247:
Lol then they should go bungle him out of where them lock him....



Hope say Xmas and New Year no fall on Monday....

Haaaa............nah MONDAY oooo.

Kossyso:
You must be a huge beneficiary of the rut that is bedeviling this country to the extent that any challenge to the status quo makes you uncomfortable. Keep it up bro but you must do well to never say that you are siding no one in this issue when it's obvious you are biased drunk.✌

The obaseki you people fought for what is ho doing in edo today...abegi

You think fubara cares about you people.

My take is always simple....they are all the same.

8yrs from now fubara will likely do same so why fight for someone who will likely do same to others.

There are many politicians to use as reference.


The actual fight is not allowing the ex governors impose there successors.

Kossyso:
When two elephants are fighting, it's the grass that suffers. However, this OP is biased as f^cked without even him noticing. 😂😂😂.

Ofcos i will be bias once it doesn't suit you want to read.

You people are just Bunch of hypocrite.

The same wike was you people darling when he was attacking and abusing buhari...lol

I say it as it is .......politician are all the same and it will always be about personal interests.

Obaseki you people darling is a good reference.

Noblechykk:
You have taken side already. Be proud of your stand and stop insulting our intelligence.

Have taken side cos you didn't read what suit your narrative.

Don't worry fubara will kill wike......if that praise your intelligence.

Streetdoctor:
One ting Yoruba has fail to understand is that SS and SE politics is totally different from Yoruba type of game
An average river man fears no foes unlike Yoruba that can fear and bow for Africa.
See, come out from d comfort of zone and see things different from ur zone, how much do u know about rivers politics right from 1999 till date?
Do u expect wike to pocket pocket a whole state just like Tinubu has being doing in Lagos and u idiots kept mute. An unknown man just pocketed Lagos and nobody is saying anything rather u guys are hailing him. I hv never seen a tribe as Yoruba before

What does yoruba has to do with this.

Politics is the different over there and yet ex governors keep appointing there successors.
Ebonyi,enugu,delta,cross rivers,akwa ibom,anambra, rivers....the joke is on you people.
Nah only SW politics una go dey masturbate about being blind to your region.

You people just chest beat over rubbish.

Lions online....chickens every Monday in real life..

gare:
As an elder you call yourself, who comes online to praise Wike and all that. It's your opinion which is fine, but doesn't make it right, Wike can't appoint everyone in Fubara government because he made him governor, he is not the first to anoint someone other governors did it and they allow them choose whom to work with them, at some key ministry are given to them, but for your Wike he appointed everyone except for the position of information commissioner which was given to the governor, to you as an elder it's right.

That is why we the youths are saying you elders have destroyed this country and still continue doing so, can you imagine your comments supporting someone that is asking for over 40% of state resources because he supported someone to be governor, to you it's right. My dear elder the day of reckoning is coming and everyone of you that's taking sides with evil would be consumed, you still have the time to change your ways and ensure things work out in this country, its only a matter of time we would take back our country from people like you supporting evil

Asking for 40% ?? Nawa oooo.
How you guys don't think for yourself always beat me....like how will someone believe in Nigeria today someone can ask for 40% of a state revenue.

Am not praising wike........am just given him his flowers.

You may hate him but I don't put emotions into things

Like I said I don't take side in politicians fight cos they are all the same.
The obaseki you fought for is he not doing same in edo now??

Fubara might even do worst after is own 8yrs.......lol

They are all the same.

I know NL is filled with lot of undergraduate and teens this days with hot blood, emotions etc. We the older one need to educate them on certain issues.

Wike Is surely hated by a section of this country for reasons best known to them but it doesn't change the fact he is a strong politician in Nigeria......have never seen anyone do what wike pull in the PDP.
Hate him or love him......he is man who know the game.

Sim is till a rookie in this game and his to early for this type of fights, you only engage in this type of fight after 3yrs in office.
Wike is Peter odilli boy and trust me at this point he has the backing of most of the big politician in Rivers.

The people resigning are party men rewarded for there works during elections.....if most commissioner resign Sim will be one at lost cos he can't pick just anyone as commissioners.
He need people who can deliver during elections......PDP in the state is totally under wike and APC aswell.
Where is he gonna pick from LP

Where will Sim get is soliders from just less than a year in office.
How many loyal party men does he has on his side??
In game of politics you first do boy boy for awhile before facing your oga oooo.

In all of this Sim has alot to lose, they will make everything difficult for him, he will have to look over his shoulder for the next 4yrs, who to trust, sleepless night etc.
He won't enjoy is reign cos they will keep coming for him.

For people sighting obaseki case with osho baba.......it is totally different.
Obaseki had the support of apc governors and infact Pdp governors aswell, he was smart enough to fight the battle after 3yrs in office.

In Sim case even PDP as a party are totally quiet and no support from other governors.

Wike is a mad man so there nothing more to say about him but for Sim I don't envy him at all.

Politician are the same trust me, Sim can do far worst than wike after 8yrs .......that why I will never take side when they fight one another.

nonhuman:
you are not making any sense, here your brain too dull to comphend what I am saying

I expected this.

When you are confronted with superior fact that you can't contend brilliant people acknowledge while dullard result to insult.

I don't engage pigs in insult stupidity.

nonhuman:
that is the Nigeria politics we are talking about That's bad , the people didn't vote them freely

Ooooo......so governorship election election is conducted by Nigerians in the SE.

You people will never take responsibility but keep blaming every other persons.

Don't we see voting buying happen in your region Abi is fulani people that are buying and selling the vote or the one conducting the elections.

Didn't ikepazu buy vote with common kerosene

An igbo man rig election in is region.......it is Nigerians fault....nawa ooo

nonhuman:
igbos call out there bad leaders they don't sheild them like you do in your region, everyone literally knows the name of the governors of all the south east states because they talk about them when do do well and when they misbehave, and the only governor in the south west I know his name is lagos governor the rest does not exist in the memory of other Nigerians

They call them out the bad one yet they keep serving 8yrs.....the joke on you people.

Am sure if ewekeremadu isn't in jail we would have won the senatorial position again for the 100 time.

Didn't orji Kalu won again

nonhuman:
can you prove how Peter obi corrupt, everyone is testifying how he reformed anambra state to the best from education to health care and security, etc and how financially prudent he has been, and his preaching tally with the best Nigerian youth who truly needed to end bad politics in Nigeria and make the country forward but waht majority I of you tribal bigots see is that he is an iboman

Those testifying were born yesterday......for those of us who were already adult when he was a governor those lies are for the birds.

Those cursing him while he was a governor all of a sudden start singing his praise to deceive the gullible one.

All the politicians from the east are saint.... we know.

Before you accuse others of being tribal bigot first of remove the log in your eye........Everyone hate you igbos but you igbos love everyone....lol

nonhuman:
so it's now you people are realizing Nigeria is bad, and when obidient are crying for change of status so the country can move forward but the agbadorian and ronu people which I am sure you are of them says no

Which obedient crying? Oooo Peter obi is a saint or different from other politicians??

The one elected under lp as governors,senator or reps what have they done differently??

See Peter OBi is same of same.........cos I don't do lesser evil.
Evil is Evil........Peter Obi wasn't a saint while being a Governor so if the obedient presented someone neutral then the cry make sense not a fellow corrupt politician like Peter Obi.

nonhuman:
the speaker won his court case to be affirmed authentic speaker , obedient did not make make him speaker the person you are even supporting is a pdp man just because he is working for APC

Before he won the court case......

How was he made a speaker the court had to authenticate??

See we do selective blindness alot in this country and that why is hard to move forward.

Politician are all the same..........what is bad is bad.

santaclaws:
Ok then. Perhaps you have more information...

Victor himself caused it.......During the summer holiday last year he visited Nigeria and spent it in lagos.

He visited is former area, primary school and secondary school cos he was born and grew up in lagos.
He was speaking yoruba everywhere he went too.....he took it far by making comedy skit with woli arole speaking yoruba scatter.

He never visited edo or even identified with them......so that why CAF felt he is yoruba.

Felaincarnated:
Hakimi deserves d award. If u ain't k wit it, go to tinubu's inec and get ur award

Fly go Morocco go collect am from victor hand and give it to hakim.

Dumbo

Trojan8:
Crazy set of people. Talking about how we didn't deserve this or that. You didn't vote, outsiders did and decided that we deserve it but you a Nigerian think otherwise.

Is so irritating reading all negative comments......like are we not supposed to support our own??

One was even comparing hakimi with victor......someone that isn't even among top 5 best player in Ligue 1 last season and at the world cup he wasn't even vital to morocco getting to the semi.

I don't even no if is hate or envy............some Nigerians are just mentally sick.

We have alot of unpatriotic Nigerians on this thread.....what a big shame.

Congrat victor ......you will always be a victorious over your nigerian enemies.

I support this totally.

Some tenants are very wicked especially those from a particular tribe.

Fountainofyouth:
You idiots will foolishly provoke someone to go down with you unprovoked, you came to my comment to type trash, I responded civily, but had the guts to assume rubbish about someone you don't know from Adam? Are you sick in the head?

A stupid married man, a MARRIED man said rubbish to a married woman, you do not have problem with a married man willing to commit adultery with a married woman, but have a problem with her response to him when she already said SHE CAN'T,

Are all of you comprehensively stupid or cognitive desonance failed you? Fvck off from my mention if you are stupid to know that not all chats like that of Op's wife means they've had sex.

Once again my condolences to the unfortunate
Man who marry a hag like you.

What is bad is bad......only a retard would try to justify a married woman allowing a colleague flirt with her all in the name is happens in offices....otumbo.

Fountainofyouth:
Do you have an office work?

It's obvious you don't because if you do, you'd know what goes on in work environment, you wouldn't ask this question,

And no, I don't think it's cool.

See dumb question.

I worked in dangote cement ibeshe for 6yrs, so i perfectly no what goes on in an office environment.....such women end up being ridicule and shamed cos the gist always later fly around even if they no Bleep.

Only foolish married woman will allow such and since you can do same I pity the unfortunate man who will marry you in advance.

Fountainofyouth:
He should go and ask people he xan physically see not nairaland "mummy thank you" boys that will advice him negatively.

Anyway I don't know what you mean mummy thank you boys since is a faceless forum ......cos you might also be a minor with your take on this matter.

How on earth will a colleague at work flirt with a married woman and to you is cool

Fountainofyouth:
Yes I will not assume anything since he didn't say yes, I will only ask what led to her asking such, very simple.

I see..............that you Anyway.

The OP don't want to be that stupid that why he is asking for advise and not taking it lightly.

Fountainofyouth:
Op is funny,

If your wife is cheating, she will never ever talk about the man she's cheating with all the time, you won't even know he exists, so stop with the unnecessary assumption.

If read your husband chat with a lady **telling him to come let make babies**

It with be an unnecessary assumption to you abi??

This is lesson for men who think women are soft.

Always remember 95% of them act before they think when angry.