RealityShot:
goodgirl2409...
do you have a job? If not; go and get one now!

if you do, put more attention on your work.

if the marriage breaks, you need to be capable to fend for your self.

marriage is not by force...and if you think it is: accept the and enjoy it

Yes I do. I earn more than 300k monthly

crackhouse:
he's not cheating. The fact is she's not making any positive impact in the family. She's just a liability to the man that's all. The man is the only person running around for the family upkeep and it has not been easy for him. Some women are like that, they are just like a log of wood that doesn't make any meaningful contribution in the house and can't help u realise your dream either.

My monthly salary is 300000 and my husband earns more

meobizy:
I read majority of the write up and all I can say is: welcome to marriage. I will read the rest later so I can drop advice in full detail. I don’t see what the big deal is because majority of matrimonies end like this. I believe people lie when they say “marriage was my best decision”, “we still have sex till this day” and “after many years he/she still completes me.”.

That’s is just the truth. Learning to accept the reality.

khatea:
Sorry about this op!
What was courtship wt him like? D u just tell d whole truth here? Do u nag? Ur marriage is too young to start facing this emotional trauma, m sure sumtin is wrong somewhere. Either yes/no, U need a night preferably a midnight to deal with this issue my dear. Wake him, go on ur knees, cry if u want/can, pour out evritin bothering u and let him know how single in marriage u feel wt d way things are. I hope he speaks up
Thank you so much.
Note: U need to make ursef happy at all times no matter what pls. Remember prayer changes things too

We have talked severally but nothing has changed. Every month, he puts up this attitude like 3 three weeks in a month, 1 week, things maybe normal.

My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.



He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

UPDATE.
I want to add that it is not sexual incompatibility.
When he is in his happy mood, I would even be tired of his endless gist. S-x will be very great. He is kind and caring. Such a wonderful man. In fact an angel. He would even wash my underwear’s and clothes.

But when his mood start which is his mood most of the time, he won’t talk to you, he won’t eat. I will finish cooking, he will go outside and buy another food and come and cook. He won’t come back on time. I will ask him what is it, he would not respond. He always feels everything I do to annoy him, i do it on purpose. I am a peace loving person. Everyone around that knows the story
always say that he has a problem.

Pamelayoung:
Congrats! First of all then it's Calabar all the way. Haven't been there tho but I hear it's very beautiful and clean too, Ph is dirty and rowdy I bit u wudn't like it there considering where you're coming from so I heard I neva go b4 o

Okay

Philomath1212:

Hmmmmmm

Why are u saying hmmmm?

kushb:
The nature of the job will determine, so what is the nature of the job

Its a federal Goverenment parastatal

idu1:
Go to calabar

Okay,thanks. So why do u say calabar and not PH?

idu1:
Go to calabar

Okay,thanks. So why do u say calabar and not PH?

FixedRoots:
*screaming* Calabar! Calabar!! Calabar!!!

I'd give an arm and a leg plus my head to be in your shoes

Congrats goodgirl2409!

Thanks so much? So u mean calabar is such a nice place to be? What makes it so?

pendusky:

Congrats in the first place.
Did you say Calabar is dry with lesser opportunities?
if I may asked, Which Opportunities?
Anyway, Years ago I never knew Jalingo was a city until I gat there..
Lol!
Choose Calabar you won't regret it.

Ok

danduchi:
Choose Calabar my guy... If na babes dey get am, if na weather e dey there, if na to save na the right city... Think am sha.

Really

Hello nairalanders,I just got a job with one of the top federal Govt agency and I have been given an option to pick between calabar and port harcourt as where I will be posted to. I like PH but people are saying I will spend a lot of money without savings that I should go to calabar,but I feel calabar is dry with lesser opportunities. Pls experience advice, where would be the best state for me now. Av been living in Abuja for 2 years now so am used to big cities. Pls advice,need it urgently.

Lala pls front page biko,I need to make a quick decision!

This is a front page material abegooo

GoldenJAT:
u have now officially confirm 2 us... that there are babalawos and ifa priests on this forum... them tell u say we de c vision?? even after all d advice.. it will still look like we are lying.. after all the guy get MONEY!! gerrahia mehn .

Pls be kind na.

Histrings08:
He might still be single cos d enemies nd principalities of his father's house are still very much active

Lol

divinehand2003:
Even at 40 still single and searching dey ni.
They are waiting for Linda to marry Don jazzy first.

They are waiting to discover MONGO PARK.

Lol

So this guy is hansome,rich and about 35 years old. He is a yoruba guy. He is asking one of my friend out but she is scared because she feels he may have a wife somewhere. He looks too good to be true and what would he have been waiting for ever since that he hasn't married till now,he has the money and everything. Could he be a flirt? Are there really sincere single men within that age who are finding it difficult to get a good woman?

Abbeyunique2:
Let me share this analogy to shed more light: we all knw that pounded yam and efo riro is the best food in town, As much as we all love eating pounded yam, we get bored so we occasional try out fast food(with emphasis on fast) like Jollof rice, fried rice and small chops. so don't blame the player, blame the game.

Abeg shut up!!! But ur wife should accept your stinking p-n-s forever. Rubbish. If you don't want you wife to cheat,why cheat on her? It is unacceptable.

SUPOL:
Get d work ist.


N y did u mention ur real name here?

As in enh! A whole graduate should know better

gommex:
I wud advice u forget abt d whole thing, dos guys r so crazy abt age, they dont even want to see neco cert, all they wan to see is ur waec cert dat has ur D.O.B on it

Hmmm,na wa ooo. I hrd I could even be arrested if I go.

dazzle101:
A thorough breach of integrity OP!
Sorry to add but honesty is the best policy!!!

It is just age I faked na

Gigihabib:
You do know organisations especially banking institutions place value on honesty right? This alone disqualifies you. So except you want to go through the stress of changing your entire identity I'd advise you just let it go and stick to your real age next time. The whole age restriction thing in this country is crazy I know.

So annoying

Suigeneris93:
Why lie tho

I shouldn't have

patrickdarlins:
Just tell them.. ... AGE IS JUST A FVCKING NUMBER

Them go Salute your courage.. . Give you the work fiam!!! !... . Trust me.. .

Lol

I applied for access bank job but I put a fake age. I reduced my age because my real age was higher than the required one. Now I was called to come for the interview. I feel like going,but they said in the mail they sent that the age on my Id card must match the age I used for the application. I am smart and I believe I stand a chance of being picked at the end of the day.
I really regret faking my age,I was just scared I won't be picked if I had put my real age. What can I do please.

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This is from me to Psqaure
Dear PSquare, I want to ask * WHY E BE SAY * una
wan split after all these years? Coz u guys seem to
have forgotten that there is * NO ONE LIKE YOU * in
Africa, and u also forgot that God used * IFUNANYA *
to make it a * POSSIBILITY* for u guys to be *
UNLIMITED * today. I feel so bad over your latest *
STORY* coz * I LOVE YOU* and i urge u to deal with
your present situation * PERSONALLY * and do not let
your * BEAUTIFUL ONYINYE’s * make you split. Don’t
forget that they are only there to * CHOP YOUR
MONEY *. I know that * E NO EASY* but u guys
should try not to get involved in any * BIZZY BODY*
because it will only lead to more * DANGER * in your
carreer, Omo WAHALA go dey and your fanswill no
longer be able to dance * ALINGO * again. settle the
problems u guys are having, coz e get as e dey * DO
ME* anytime i hear say u guys want to * BREAK IT * because I go *MISS YOU DIE*. I
also heard that you brought * OGA POLICE*in to the
matter. I want u guyz to be * MORE THAN A FRIEND *
to avoid any * TEMPTATION * which will lead to *
GAME OVER*, we are hoping to hear your *
TESTIMONY *
Lala...front page pls

Cutehector:
A lot of women are losing good husbands because of they feel their biological clock is ticking.


Well newsflash.. marriage is no respecter of age

Lol

Raphael81:
are u sure u not the girl?

Even though am the one,no wahala