based on my understanding all sins shall be forgiven. remember the thief at the cross. he was forgiven. "a broken and a contrite heart, God cannot despise". I believe that the pharisees had sinned against the Spirit because they were hardened. They refused to receive Jesus as the messiah. therefore I would take it that every unbeliever has sinned against the HOlyspirit if he dies in doubt and unbelief. If he refuses to accept the finished work of calvary. but as long as a person is alive and open to God for cleansing of sin, I believe he cannot sin against the Holyspirit . but however a believer can grieve the Holyspirit . when we become bornagain the Holyspirit comes and lives in us. we could grieve him through sexual sin, lies etc. but there is always room for forgiveness and restoration.

this post is good. it happens to me after my period too. u are not alone gurl

of course. but i shall post last after all is said.

I have discovered over the years that most choir members are full of romantic drama , can people share their experiences here on nairaland.
Thanks.  then on sunday the choir members act so holy. but weekday hmm. God have mercy on those desecrating the altar.

1.First dress appropriately for the occasion
2. love-vendor up the way you speak, try to speak calmly
3. Listen more
4. Walk briskly
5. Leave people room to desire to see you more
6. Observe eating manners
7. Always observe environment
8. In dating don't be desperate.
10. don't be loud in public
11. Never speak sub -standard English except when it really calls for
12. Be polite
13. Have taste
Any body got some more.

I've discovered that many grown women are girls in the making. same goes for men. what signs would a woman display that would deem her a girl in the making?

guys who is a respectable woman

A friend of mind in college told me that alot of people were taking advantage of her, degrading her, disrespecting her simply because she is the jovial type, laughs a lot. Sometimes she talks a lot and has probably told people things that should be personal. how can she regain respect both in school, church and in her neighborhood. By the way she is a good chrisitian woman.

Sweet heart, I felt very sad reading your post. I believe there are a lot of people in Nigeria who have gone through this emotional experience. Most of the time, they are either ignored, belittled or blamed . I am very glad you chose to share this incident. I wish more women would come forward and share their stories. I wish more laws would be enacted to severly punish this aggressive behavior targeted at our future leaders. I am very sorry to hear about your story but I'm going to briefly tell you what I think you should do . I believe you may have passed through the process of self-hate ( blaming self), anger and you are now at a stage when revenge is first and foremost on your mind. It is normal to go through this stages . Your childhood was stolen away from you by a child molestor.
I would recommend this book to you by T. D Jakes "Woman thou art loosed" , I would also recommend that you go to Paula White's website. she was abused as a child. There are a lot of resources which you may find beneficial.

I would encourage you to punish your uncle by forgiving him. As far as I am concerned , he still has a hold on you. He shall continually have a hold on you until you can forgive him .
I would not say "forget about it" . that would be very unrealistic. But I would encourage you to forgive him, and in remembering it , you can say to your self "yes , he molested me", but here I am still standing. I shall make it.

I would have encouraged you to confront your mom, and your uncle if they were in the states. This sounds ridiculous but America is a free country, freedom of speech , human rights. The right to be heard. But considering the lawlessness in Nigeria somethings are better left unsaid , just for your safety.

Also , I would recommend that you open up to a potential lover about the events of the past . I know that an understanding spouse would be ready to work with you.

I would also encourage you to turn your blessing to a curse. It would be great if you can use your experience to help other young women in similar situations.

Above all , I would encouage you to get help. My heart bleeds , I mean bleeds daily because of the way we blam victims of sexual assualt. Seriously , the "woman" is to blame. what has an innocent 10 year old done . My heart also bleeds because of the way sexual molestation is handled in NIgeria. The victims are silenced and may be scared for life. But honey there is healing.And it needs to start from you mind. YOu chose to forgive, you chose to value yourself as a person, you chose to know it is no fault of yours , you chose to stay positive about the future.
I can go on and on, but let me stop here.

I believe we Nigerians are living far below our potential .many people just want to run out of the country to other Western countries where others have plowed. they get out and they are overly devoted to duty now matter how menial the job is . I have a dream. that Nigerians would realize the importance of investing in our father land .we would love our country , see everyone as one, and ask what can I do for my country. not how can I run out of this country .think about Martin Luther king, civil rights period. someone has paid the price for our freedom in American. I am looking forward to a generation of NIgeriians who are willing to pay a price for the sake of our children. like the nobel poet said "keep the dream alive". i think it is utter selfishness to just run out of the country, make it big, live for yourself and family, build houses without positively sacrificing for the nigerian people either investing in education or something meaningful. sometimes harsh economic times force people go to diaspora ,but it is good to always give back to a country. Nigeians need to love their country and see it as a place worth dying for.
thanks

pls explain further

plz explain further

how should they relate

ok, I am wondering about this brother and sister in the lord squeezed hug thing . full frontal hug. is this really ok if the mind is pure or should this be totally avoided in church . does it turn "holy guys on" or it is purely innocent,

i wonder what you think about people who buy customized new bentleys. I guess they are out of their minds.

blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. I was really depresed after reading the story. I have been praying for my country, and her family /friends. guys its time to rise up . if the older generation are adamant , and non-chalant about the plight of the average Nigerian then we had better take develop ourselves to change our country. Honestly I have lost faith in our leaders. I am waiting for the day all the evil ones would leave office. but are we going to make better decisions or just follow the tradition? I believe that many people in Nigeria are hungry for a positive change. We can make a difference. I believe the christians should stage a protest . It is time to fight for liberty. A few people may die or get hurt here and there . But if no one bells the cat, who would. This same kinds of stories would keep reoccuring. Think about Ghandi, he was a matyr. fighting against the British colonial oppression, think about Martin Luther Kind and the civil rights movement. I can say for sure that if Martin Lurther King/black folks had never stood up for their rights, open discrimination shall still exist today. But the lingering question is
Who would bell the cat??

I have noticed that when someone leaves a church to join another church , people start having negative attitude towards him /her. what d'all have to say.

believe me I am always thinking about this. fight , fight fight. mini churches here and there. rich churches find it difficult to help poor ones, struggle for membership. the aim of christainity is to live the life of Jesus here on earth and to make Heaven. Salvation of souls. The devil uses the tensions to distract us from our focus. No wonder Jesus prayed in John "that they may be one , as we are one". we shall keep praying that prayer . "Let your kingdom come".

bring it on nairalanders u gat some good thoughts.
Ugo Daniel u hit the nail in the toe. u gat some good points dere. thank u all nairalanders, plz keep the suggestions coming.

thanks guys . iice, you hit the nail in the tommy. good one. good one Ugo daniel and the rest of y'all . thanks a bunch. now its left for me not just to be a reader but a doer.
cheerios

I guess that is more than 2 cents. gracias

what should I talk about on my first date . should I say my views whom I am , advantages are that , the guy would have an idea of whom he's talking to, disadvantages are he may alter his behavior just to suit mine. so can I be real , or just be neutral to get a feel of what the other party is thinking.
I dunno , u tell me.

make sense

the problem I have here is people taking advantage of others. many people just like to take advantage of a nice woman. for instance, if a guys complains of a bill, "oh I cannot pay this". the woman who is equally struggling financially helps out. he may keep requesting for more financial favors. or if she pays for his food once, he may ask her to keep paying. and then if this guy dumps the girl later, then he meets someone he truly treasures, he may borrow money from his friend just to make a good impression to this new girl. I know this is somewhat off topic, but that's just my opinion.I've a lot of things happen to my nice female friends. so I kind of "look out for them".I understand the 50:50 thing, but I was talking to my aunt oneday, she said that it is better to start visiting after engagement. let the man be the man. I dunno . I guess different strokes for different folks. and I worry that 50:50 may turn out to nice:419

my gurl friend was asking me if she should go and see a boy she is newly developing a relationship with. he came visit her,now its her turn. I personally feel that men should do the travelling till they are engaged . what are ur views on this.

okay I was depressed after church. I love my church, I love my pastor, but I 'm so passionate about the praise team doing our best. no one is perfect, but putting effort is important to me. anyway I have talked , talked talked to no avail. I came into the church of about 30 with a vision of change. but maybe its me i don't know. so what should i do.

is it possible for christians to see themselves as brother and sister in the Lord. I mean I read where paul told timothy to treat younger women as sisters. what are your thoughts on this.
thanks