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Petmayor:
I got invited to begin the recruitment process with HealthPlus Limited for the position of Training & Development Specialist in Lagos.

I'm really not certain if pursuing it will be worthwhile because I'm currently occupying a mid-level management role in a company in same career path.

It seems to me that the HealthPlus job is an entry level position because i got an invite for an aptitude test.

Please advise urgently on any information you have about the company, their working culture, remuneration package /pay, prospect, etc. Should I let go? Can a supervisory /managerial role involve writing an aptitude test?

Please I need your advice urgently. Thanks.

Read the bolded. I think you have an advantage where you are.

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My firm is seeking 5 day laborers for part time work.

Pay is N50,000 per month

Applicant Requirements
- Workers must be literate (write and speak English).
- Workers should have smartphones and be reachable via WhatsApp.
- Applicants SHOULD live near the Surulere worksite (Eric Moore and Bode Thomas axis).
- Hard workers only please.

Job Details
- Workers must be onsite by 8am
- Work hours range from 10 to 40 hours a week (Monday to Friday), depending on your productivity.
- Workers will be required to occasionally lift sacks weighing up to 80kg.
- Job involves sorting and packaging items.
- Job primarily takes place indoors.

Benefits
- Daily work hours are based on reaching a set benchmark (number of bags PROPERLY FILLED) of productivity output per day. This benchmark can be met in 2hrs to 8hrs, depending on your work rate. You can work as little as 2 hours per day (10 hours a week) and earn the FULL stated salary. We are paying you for your output, not time.
- Our company offers chance for promotion, and yearly pay raises based on productivity.

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I live near Surulere and meet all the conditions. I am interested in the job: 08034140381. I will be expecting your call or Whatsapp chat. Thank you.

Time Travelling of the Mind

Your mind is constantly seeking to escape the present moment. It considers the present moment uncomfortable and boring. When you are identified with your ego, there is this compulsive need you have to live in the past or future. When you live in your memories, you are living in the past; when you live in anticipation you are living in the future. All this is to escape living in the Now. So your ego preoccupies itself with time travelling. It keeps the past alive because your sense of identity is invested in the past. Without the past, who are you? Your past gives you an identity. It also travels to the future to find fulfillment or salvation which it is unable to find in the present moment.
Consider what you call “past” and “future.” What you call past is actually a memory trace, and what you call “future” is only an imagination. The past and the future therefore do not exist. All you ever have is Now. When you experienced your past, you experienced it as Now, and when your future comes, it will come as Now. As you read these words, you are experiencing Now. All you ever have is Now. This is a fact. The time travelling of your mind however prevents you from living. You can only live in the Now. Your mind cannot truly live in the past, you do not have it. Neither can it live in the future, you also do not have it. The present moment in which you can truly live is what your mind constantly seeks to escape. The consequence of this is you existing without living.
You can live in the present moment, you can cope with it. But you cannot cope with a projection of your mind. You are in this moment but your mind is in the future. What you have is an anxiety gap; what you have is an illusion. Little wonder you hardly experience joy. Imagine that instead of playing and enjoying your favourite song, you are always pressing the rewind or fast forward button. You end up not listening to the song which makes it impossible for you to enjoy it.
Consider what it is that you are afraid of, that which scares you. Maybe it is your inability to pay your rent when it is due. Maybe it is your album or book not being widely sold. Maybe it is the man or woman you would like to have a relationship with saying, “No.” All this is a creation of your mind, they are not happening now. It is like your mind saying, “Hey, why don’t you start worrying right now about events that have not yet happened? Why don’t you prepare for them ahead by worrying now?” How absurd is that?
In this moment you are fine. Consider what is wrong in this present moment in which you are. I am not asking you to consider the moment ten minutes ago or five minutes from now. Just consider Now, the present moment. Ask yourself, “What problem do I have in this moment?” This is a question that forces your mind to stop its time travelling so that you can be present. Don’t just keep reading. Do this now before you continue reading: take a minute and ask yourself, “What problem do I have in this moment?” If you are fully present in the Now, you will realize that you have no problem Now.
Let go of your ego and step out of the time machine. Live in the Now. It is all you ever have. Embrace uncertainty. Embracing uncertainty is more enjoyable than time travelling because it allows you the freedom to explore, make mistakes, learn, connect. When you let go of time, your Being in a sense comes alive. Then you will be and not be identified with the past or a future projection.
Do not let your life’s journey continue to be an obsessive craving to arrive somewhere, get something, or get someone. Stop trying to use the present moment only to get to the future. Before you know it, you have spent all your life waiting to start living. There is hardly any joy in that. Live fully in the Now. Why would you not do this when all you ever have is Now?

To stop excessive thinking, you have to take a step back and observe your mind in action – you have to become a watcher. Watching your thoughts brings consciousness to it and consciousness dissolves thoughts. Much of your thinking happens on auto pilot and you are hardly aware that it is happening. Because you did not bring your presence to your thoughts, your thoughts seem powerful. Bring awareness to thoughts and they dissolve. You do not have to try to stop thinking. Thinking stops automatically when you are conscious enough to watch the mind in action without getting caught up in the content of the mind. In doing so you allow your thought to come up without following it to where it wants you to go which is into bigger thoughts.
Addiction to thinking is constantly pulling your attention to the past and future. Being present, focusing in the moment, is the key to breaking this habit. When you are present in the moment, you cannot be thinking; when you are thinking, you are not present in the moment. Do not try to analyze your thoughts. Doing that can get you pulled into your thoughts which usually gets bigger. Bringing your attention to the present moment is enough to deal with addiction to thinking.
He who is addicted to thinking is mind-possessed. The mind which should be a servant has become the master. Such a person needs to get back control and be in charge of his mind. The steps listed below can help one in becoming the master of his mind.
1. Accept what is: What is is what it is – it already is. Resisting what is is one of the major reasons for problems and stress. It is in your resistance to what is that your mind flies to the past or future in an attempt to escape the present. What is is in the present. You have to accept what is if you want peace. Even if you consider your situation undesirable, then you have to accept what is first. This happens before the situation can be changed for the better.
You come back home one day and you find a pot on the table in your sitting room. You lose your mind because of this, or rather because you are resisting this. “A pot on the table in the sitting room! Why should the pot be in the sitting room? Oh, these children...” Your mind goes on. Do you see that your resistance to the pot’s presence in the sitting-room has not changed the location of the pot? But when you come back home to find the pot in the sitting room and you accept that it is there, the next thing that follows is not your thought that will be in resistance but your action that changes the pot’s location. By changing the pot’s location, you have changed the situation. Of course, you may afterwards want to know how it got to the sitting room, but the fact is that your acceptance came first and it did not cause you stress. You were in charge of your mind all the while.
2. Observe your mind: Thoughts continually show up. A thought starts as little and tries to get your attention so that it can pull you in. Once it gets your attention, the thought grows bigger. You may have started with a thought like, “Oh, I feel tired.” Before you know it, your thought has grown to be, “Oh, my life is so miserable.” This happens when you do not watch your thought. Your thought grows in your absence – lack of presence in the moment.
You have to be present in the moment to observe your mind. When a thought comes in, stay present and watch. Be a watcher. Do not analyze or judge the thought. Just watch. By being present in the moment and watching it, the thought does not get the attention it seeks, hence, it cannot grow. What happens to the thought? It leaves. Presence dissolves thought.
3. Make time for stillness: Stillness is what you may call meditation or quiet time. Stillness is good for your mind just as exercise is good for your body. How come we pay so much attention to the body trying to take care of it without caring for the mind? Yet the actions of the mind can ruin the body.
Stillness is a powerful tool for gaining mastery over your mind and it has been around for thousands of years. You try to focus your mind on the in and out rhythm of your breath, for instance, and what does your mind do? It wanders bringing up unsolved problems and old worries. Leave it unchecked and the peacefulness of the present moment turns into a spiral of fear and worry.
Stillness involves focusing on the present moment which can start with focusing on your breath, on the trees and flowers when you walk in nature. With sufficient practice, you begin to retrain your mind so that it can be the servant. When your mind tries to go off on its own, you can gently come back to the present moment. Stillness has some mental health benefits which include reduced anxiety and depression, addiction recovery, and enhanced creativity.
For the sake of peace, get back control of your mind. Your mind is a wonderful servant but a destructive master.

Thinking Addiction

The world is full of addictions: addiction to drug, alcohol, pornography, sex. But there is an addiction which is pervasive and greater than all these – addiction to thinking. I call it the mother of all addictions. You probably have never read about thinking as an addiction. Well, the people you are expecting to write about it are also addicted to thinking and do not know it.
A thought usually starts very little and grows to become destructive. Thought is a little magnetic entity and it wants your attention in order to grow. It tries in subtle ways to get your attention. When it succeeds in doing this, it tries to pull you in. This is how little thoughts rise to bigger thoughts.
When the mind perceives there is a problem to be solved, addiction tends to intensify. You want answers. You want solutions. You want to figure it out because when you do everything will be better. Really? Overthinking makes things worse than they are. It ruins the situation, makes you worry, and ruins you.
Most of us are occupied with the content of the mind. The mind then reigns supreme. After using the comb on your hair, the proper thing to do is to drop the comb. Imagine combing your hair throughout the day continuously. That will be insane. The mind is a tool to be used when necessary in our practical life. After use, one should let go of the use of the mind and come back into the present moment. It is insanity to use the mind throughout the day, thinking every minute or second. But this is how most people live. They are lost in unconscious and unproductive thinking in which they addictively replay the same mental patterns again and again in their heads. Rather than being a helpful tool, the mind is more like a possessive master. Are you feeling depressed, troubled, or unhappy? If yes, then one thing is certain – you are thinking or over thinking about something. So you suffer. Thinking and suffering are inseparable.

One of the most prominent characteristic of typical addictive thinking is to externalize problems, to blame things on other people or situations. This tendency to play the role of victim and/or to be bitter about what life has “done to” him or her is totally unconscious on the part of the addict and is part of the denial system. Those addicts who have an easier time expressing hurt outwardly invariably take the role of being bitter or angry. The unconscious reward in this for chemically dependent individuals is that they never have to look at themselves, and therefore, never have to quit using substances.¹

Are you feeling anxious? Are you feeling stressed? If yes, then you are addicted to thinking. The consequence of addiction to thinking can be serious: being lost in thought to the point of not being aware of what is happening around you. This can lead to accidents and missing out on the joys of life.
The racing of thoughts in your head is your mind’s way to flee the present moment. Your mind is resisting what is, and it is especially so when what is is not wanted or desired. So your thought goes to the past (What could I have done differently?) or to the future (What will go wrong?). It does not want to stay in the present moment. It is this resistance to what is that causes anxiety and stress. You lack peace then because your mind is filled with thoughts that just won’t stop.

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1. Las Vegas Recovery Center, Characteristics of Active Addiction: Typical Adictive Thinking, www.lasvegasrecovery.com/characteristics-of-active-addiction-typical-addictive-thinking, Accessed May 28, 2017.

GAINltd:
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A reliable and professional person is needed for the role of a CHAUFFEUR (Corporate driver).

The ideal person should reside within or around Ebute Meta axis (Lagos state).

Kindly send us a message immediately (before 12pm today) if you are interested in this role.

Godwin: 08034140381. I have a valid driver's license. I drive but have not worked as a driver before. I am ready to commence work immediately.

Thank you.

Thoughts cross our minds on a daily basis. Many of these thoughts are repeated over and over. We usually do not pay much attention to our thoughts although we can be aware of them.
Let us say you are friendly with people. One day for some reason you start thinking, “What am I going to get out of that?” when the thought of being friendly arrives. At that point your thinking is no longer positive. It starts yielding negative emotions. Negative emotions fuel negative thoughts which in turn fuels negative emotions. This sort of thinking is destructive.
Destructive thinking has to do with a negative internal dialogue or self-talk. Much of the time we have internal dialog going on which can be positive or negative. Whether the self-talk is positive or negative, it is perpetuated by our own internal voice.
“I’m not educated,” “I’m always going to be broke.” These are negative thoughts that often lead you to not taking the next step. As a result, you remain in the same situation and fuel the negative self-talk. What you need to do is to become conscious of these talks when they come up and observe them. By watching them, your mind is no longer identified with them. This way they lose their power or hold over you. Stop destructive thinking by starting to pay attention to your thought.
The critical inner voice in your head often sets standards of perfection. No one is perfect and so the inner critic finds much reason to judge and attack. Stress is causing much disease in the world today and it seems to be difficult to manage. Negative self-talk makes managing stress a problem.
Psychologist Albert Ellis summarized the model of emotional distress or stress in his famous ABC Model. He presents it as A + B = C where:
A is the Activating event or stressor or trigger situation
B is the Belief, our thoughts and feelings about A, the stressor
C is the Consequence or the physical, emotional, and behavioural responses that are caused by our belief.
Activating Event (Stressor) + Belief Learned = Consequence or Result (Stress)
You are better able to deal with the challenges you encounter when you do away with negative self-talk.
Destructive thinking is the hidden cause of stress. Take it away and you overcome stress. You learnt to think in such a negative way. You can unlearn it.

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I have two offer now and am confuse on which one to go for..
the first offer will only last for 6 month and the pay is 90k for a month while the second offer will last longer but the pay is 30k... which one should I go for?

The answer to that question is in you.

Ask yourself these questions:

1. What do I want in life?
2. What are my goals in the next one year? Three years? Five years?
3. When it comes to work, which of these two jobs will get me closer to my goal?

Then make your decision. The answer is in you.

One person listens to rap music and likes it and another listens to it and dislikes it. It is the same input but see the difference between the first and the second person. Considering this, can the brain be said to be in charge of the mind?
The mind and the brain obviously have a relationship but they are different. The mind can actually use the brain to perceive itself.
Thoughts pass through many people’s mind automatically. To give your mind the freedom to jump from one thought to another is to lose your freedom. We are continuously bombarded with thoughts. Information and ideas come through our senses, people, and the media. These thoughts, information, and ideas can penetrate the mind and we may or may not be aware of this when it happens. This can then influence the way we think, our preferences, likes and dislikes. To automatically accept these thoughts is to let them shape your life. You lose your mental freedom this way.

generationz:
are you applying or you are a driver

I am applying. I have my driver's license but never worked as a driver before.

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A tool serves a purpose. You pick a hammer when you want to hit a nail into the wall. After nailing, the proper thing to do is to put down the hammer. What will you say about the person who after nailing carries the hammer about without dropping it. That would be insane.
Thinking is a tool that serves a purpose in the creative process. It is a part of the main thing not the main thing. It is a tool that should be dropped when its use is over. But what do many of us do? We think and think and think. Not to think now seems abnormal. For such people, thinking has possessed them. The problem therefore is not that we do not think; the problem is that we think too much. Overthinking makes you pay too much attention to unimportant things.
Thinking in itself is not bad. However your school did not train you on how to think well. Your school was more concerned about you learning new facts about the world. So you kept storing up names, events, dates, and formulas; all of which was to make you a well-informed person. You were trained to be tolerant of the viewpoints of others. So you are likely to think that one person’s opinion is as good as another’s or you just say, “It is a matter of opinion.” How could it be just a matter of opinions when some opinions are intelligently reasoned and others are ignorant. Some are the products of thought and others are from people who use their mouths more than their heads. You are tolerant of people’s opinions and so you listen to others. But tolerance does not mean you have to agree with their opinions after you heard them. You may not even have to take them seriously. The truth is in you.
It gets hard when we try to apply our thinking ability to events that does not directly concern us. This could be deciding which action among several alternative actions that will lead to a particular outcome in future or interpreting a particular event that occurred in the past. For the former, I remind you of the “winner take all” process of neuron clusters in competition discussed in my previous post. The action you decide to take may not be the best action. You decide to take the action based on the evidence you already have. There are evidence you do not have. In interpreting events that occurred in your life, it is you, the individual, that gives them meaning. Two people may experience similar situations and one comes out motivated and another depressed. The point is that you form your thoughts. You are therefore not your thought.
While I was schooling, I was more concerned about passing exams and when exam time came, it was all about figuring out the right answer. Going through this for over a decade did not teach me how to think. In fact it left me as an individual who hardly reflects on the ideas he has. Here comes the problem: In real life, we have to continuously deal with challenges that do not have clear solutions. We deal with ambiguities that confuse our brain and we act without being sure.
You think but you are not taught to enhance your thinking skills. You use your mind but you are not taught to use it properly. You may have heard, “It’s not so much what you say but how you say it that matters.” But you may not have heard, “It’s not what you think but how you think it.” How you think has an effect on how you are in this world.

Please help me with an answer: Can one register as a driver without a car on Taxify as can be done on Uber?

The thinking process happens in the brain and much is still unknown about it. Paul King, a Computational Neuroscientist describes the brain as a multi-layered ecosystem of hierarchically organized neurons, circuits, networks, and brain areas. “The neurons emit pulses called “spikes” that last about 1 millisecond. Each neuron fires (emits a spike) on the order of 10 times per second.”1 He goes on to offer a dramatic simplification of what is actually occurring based on some theories and models:
Decision-making appears to be a “winner take all” process in which many different neuron clusters representing alternate action choices compete by inhibiting each other. Evidence supporting each action choice increases the spiking activity of the neurons representing that choice. These neurons inhibit the neurons representing other choices, leading to a multi-way competition among neuron clusters. Eventually the evidence supporting one choice as optimal overtakes all the others and succeeds in supporting the alternatives, becoming the clear winner.
Once one hypothesis or choice begins to overtake others, the activated neuron cluster (called a “cell assembly”) sets into motion the process of action and motor control that produces a behaviour of some sort, such as announcing a decision or acting.1
Going by this explanation, we can see that there is a competition among neuron clusters, a competition by inhibition. The winner of the competition wins by having more evidence which increased the spiking activity. Had another neuron cluster been supported with more evidence, it would have ended up inhibiting others and winning. Thought is not necessarily reality.
Thinking is a top mental activity demonstrated by man and it has played no small role in human accomplishments and advancement. Civilization, science, and technology will testify to this (creativity though was also at play). Through thinking we come to a conclusion. To notice how you work mentally, try to become aware of the process of your thinking. This is a step in realizing that you are not your thought. If you can observe the process, you can see the patterns of your thought which can be based on fear, jealousy, or competition. You are likely not to know this because you have embedded yourself in your thinking such that you think you are your thought.
Allow the process of thinking when you have to but identifying yourself with your thinking is what you really do not want. When you identify with thinking, the thinking takes place but you are not there, you are absent, hence, you are powerless. Your mental patterns take over you. Come out of it and see the process. Wake up out of your mental patterns. Doing this enables you to reclaim your power which you lost when you identified with thinking.
When you identify with thinking, you become possessed. You are possessed by your thought. Though forms can not only possess an individual, it can possess a people. How do you think Communism spread in Russia? Millions of people were thinking the same thing. They lost their power. Can you prove they were not possessed by a thought?

Note:
1. Paul King, How does the process of thinking happen in our brains?, www.quora.com/How-does-the-process-of-thinking-happen-in-our-brains, Accessed May 18, 2017.

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Chuwaa:
Drivers watch out o!

That man is one in a billion.

taxiappguy:
With this kind of attitude, you already know most places.
There is a proverb that says, a person that is willing to ask, doesn't usually miss his way.
Google is your friend, but Google maps is your absolute best friend in the whole wide world. Google maps is amazing.
It's not 100%, you can rely on Google for 85%-90 of the time.
You can ask your rider for directions 30% of the time. They are usually willing to help. If you choose to ask for directions from your riders, you must be sharp.
Lagos is like life. If you miss your turn, it's not always easy to manouver back on to the correct road. So make sure to be sharp, ask questions before you pass your junction.
Not everywhere is mapped, so try to map in reverse the way to leave the place. Maybe you have to take an individual to his house in an estate that is not mapped on Google at 2 am! The individual knows the way in, so he will direct you. But once you drop him, you are on your own as they say in OYO. Google maps can't help you, and at 2 am you probably wouldn't find anyone to ask. So my friend, as you are entering places, be using your brain to map how to get out of them too.
As you drive more, you start to learn different places, it's just the way our brains are wired. As time goes on, you will rely on the map less and less.
This is how I learnt my city.
Good luck.

Very helpful remarks. I also thank you for the encouragement.

countsparrow:
Google map is your friend, with time you get to know several routes.... Although most times your first option is to ask the rider if he or she knows the direction, if that fails, use Google map...

I bought my car and started using for Uber, google map made me see things, they were scary... I saw things that made my mind shudder... Infact, google map directed me through a route no car has passed in a long while, but all d same never get discouraged, google map helps a lot..

Thank you for your response. I appreciate it.

I have not worked as driver before but I can drive. As a result I do not know much of Lagos route as good as experienced drivers. I have however decided to register as Uber driver because I don't want to give myself any excuse not to earn. But I want to ask experienced drivers: How best can I help my not knowing Lagos roads too well even if I have decided to drive to earn? I will appreciate your helpful response.

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