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When your mind serves your Being, the mind is the servant it was meant to be. It then gives form to what the formless communicates. But when your mind dictates to your Being and becomes your master, peace eludes you. Your mind becomes such a noise maker that you cannot just hear your Being communicating to you through intuition. So, no one’s intuition is dead. One simply does not hear the voice because one is identified with the mind. In other cases, one hears the voice but does not follow the guidance offered because the mind is always trying to rationalize and intuition cannot be rationalized. The intelligence of your Being is far greater than the cleverness of your mind.

When your intuition is liberated, intimacy with the Now is developed and you gain trust. Rather than living your life always reacting to what happens, you become one with the situation and respond accordingly. Your response may not be what your mind wants. Sonia Choquette said, “Intuition doesn’t tell you what you want to hear; it tells you what you need to hear.” Intuition leads you towards a path, often an uncertain path but that path will make you feel comfortable.

There is so much information in the world today, and even with the information, disinformation is going on. People are telling you what to do and how to do it, what to think and how to think it. Media campaigns are ongoing and you have so many people’s opinions. As you try to analyze all of them, you suffer analysis paralysis. So here you are, wanting to take action but after going through so much content that seem to clash with each other, you take no action because you are confused. If you are aware of who you are, your intuition will become louder such that it overpowers the other voices in the world. Other people’s ideas and opinions in the form of books, audios, or whatever form, should serve you not lead you. Let your intuition lead you.

Do you want your intuition to lead you? Then be open to your intuition. Be open to listening, not for words but for energy. Feel it. When your intuition speaks, it feels true to you. All we ever have is Now and Life is always creating in the Now. In terms of work, we are not here to regurgitate what everyone is doing; we are here to create something new. What will lead you to create something new? The Source speaking through your intuition.
When your intuition speaks, your mind may try to analyze, justify, or figure it out. Your mind which has been conditioned by your past, has a hard time doing so and when it realizes it is unable do so, it feels uncomfortable, it feels uncertain, it feels insecure. It speaks to you thus: “Are you alright? What are you doing? You must be out of your mind.” So your mind prevents you from being open, from listening. Your mind wants to be certain in order to feel secure but this uncertainty arising from your intuition threatens it. All you need is to trust your inner voice, your guidance system.

“How do I know if this is the path I should follow?” you ask. Well, you don’t, at least not with your mind. Your mind can only comprehend so much. You are moving outside the scope of your mind. You are going beyond the intellect. You feel, you feel the energy, and what you feel is real. Following your intuition requires courage. Exercise courage. The word “courage” comes from the Latin word cor which means “heart.” You may have heard someone say, “Follow your heart.”

You may not know exactly where and how you get some input and ideas but you know you get them and they are not the products of reasoning. You may hear people refer to intuition as gut feeling, sixth sense, instinct, inner voice, or spiritual guide. Some use intuition in decision making and this is far more than using common sense because there is an awareness from within. Often people who are familiar with intuitive experiences find it hard to describe. There is this direct knowing or an inner knowing without thinking it through. In other words, intuition is a way you get information without using known logical or rational processes. You may experience it as a gentle push you feel to take a certain path.
Intuition is not something new. Albert Einstein who is widely considered one of the greatest physicists of all time said, “There only real valuable thing is intuition.” He also said, “There is no logical way to discovery of these elemental laws. There is only the way of intuition, which is helped by a feeling for the order lying behind the appearance.”

John Naisbitt, a former executive with IBM and Eastman Kodak said, “Intuition becomes increasingly valuable in the new information society precisely because there is so much data.”
Alexis Carrel, a French surgeon and biologist said, “All great men are gifted with intuition. They know without reasoning or analysis, what they need to know.”

A female friend of mine, has consistently displayed that she is in touch with Being. On several occasions, in the course of a conversation, I came to see that she knows intuitively what I came to know after much reading. Her intuition is guiding her when it comes to health as well as in other areas. What many people do not choose to do she has chosen to do and enjoys doing it. One of the results is that her family enjoys good health.
Intuition is your inner guide; it is that inner voice you may want to listen to. Somehow it knows what you want and it is asking for your trust. All your life you have been thinking, rationalizing, analyzing until it became paralyzing. Why not try a new way of life? A new way that is devoid of compulsive energy; a new way that has your growth, your expansion, your conscious evolution at heart.

You want wonderful things in your life but you do not see the wonderful things or enough of them. You may not be in alignment with your Being and as such you may not be listening to it. The Source communicates with your Being and your Being is your essence. Listening to your Being and taking the steps it asks you to take even though the destination is not clear puts you in a situation to attract the wonderful things you desire. But many people are not tapping into their intuition or they are not listening to it even though it speaks.

When you are dominated by the mind, all you may likely see are reasons to be unhappy, reasons to be anxious. Your mind goes, “I am just tired of this world. It seems as if it is a place custom designed to make everybody anxious. See how polluted the environment is. Natural disasters seem not to be ending. Even though there are people everywhere people feel lonely as if there is a loneliness epidemic. While a lot of people are presently looking for jobs, there will be fewer jobs in the future because robots will steal so many jobs from people. Robots may even be fighting wars in the future. And the political space is like the climax of the insanity. There are regular threats of nuclear annihilation. Why am I even here? There is no sense in all of this.” It therefore does not come as a surprise when mental health practitioners claim that anxiety is on the rise.

Do you want to save the most hearts? Research on the Framingham Heart Study.

You will be shocked that more can be done with the simple.

I have heard a woman preaching in church and asking the congregation to pray that one politician will make a mistake and pay in money into their account. Congregation started praying on that. I did not even know how I felt while they were praying for that.


"Do to others what you want others to do unto you."

I don't think there is anybody here who wants his 10million to be spent by another person who finds it and thanks God for answered prayer.

I shake my head sometimes when I read some people's comment trying to justify crime.

Imagine a thief saying he stole a phone because the phone was carelessly kept.

Nigeria's economy is not the worst. Greece has suffered a recession, Venezuela is having a hyper inflation, America has a high cost healthcare that Americans themselves are complaining.

Every country has her challenges.

If because of challenges, stealing is justified, then EVERYBODY will steal.

But people forge ahead inspite of challenges thereby building themselves in ways words cannot properly express.

There is no justification for evil. It is as simple as that. Yes, some others may be corrupt but some others are also following the right path saying no to crime. They are not free of challenges.

I know one of the biggest problems in the world is the monetary system we have that very very very few people understand. In fact, in order for citizens not to understand it, nothing about money is taught in schools and this is not just in Nigeria but global. However crime worsens the problem, solving nothing.

All we see are negatives in the media which make it look like no good is happening. If only the media beams light on the positives, perhaps we may not have this level of glorification of crime.

Solution: financial awareness to the point that something just has to shift.

The disaster is still remembered today for its sheer destruction – the Indian Ocean tsunami. On December 26, 2004, an undersea earthquake struck off the coast of the Indonesian Island of Sumatra. Over the next several hours, a tsunami – a large ocean wave – triggered by the earthquake reached out across the Indian Ocean, devastating coastal areas as far away as East Africa. The destruction saw fourteen countries affected. Thailand, Sri Lanka, India, and Indonesia were badly affected in terms of human losses and physical damage. About 230,000 people were killed as a result of the tsunami. However, few animals were reported to have been killed.

Before giant waves slammed into Sri Lanka and India coastlines, wild domestic animals seemed to know what was about to happen and fled to safety. According to some eye witness accounts, elephants screamed and ran for higher grounds, flamingos abandoned their low-lying breeding areas, dogs refused to go outdoors. It was as if the animals knew that something was about to happen. They followed their instinct.

There are things animals simply know how to do without learning about it. When a bird builds a nest, it knows how to build it without having to learn from another bird. It knows the material to choose and the manner in which the nest is weaved to get the end shape. Those instructions are already there in the bird. There is often a bit of refinement with a more mature bird which will build a better nest but all the basics to build a nest are there in the bird the very first time a bird builds a nest.

What is an instinct? It is the ability of an animal to perform a behaviour the first time it is exposed to the proper stimulus. Every time a dog is exposed to food, it will drool including the first time. Babies have instincts. Place a nipple into a baby’s mouth and the baby will suck. The baby needs no instruction from anybody to suck for the first time. The instruction is already there in the baby. Imagine that a baby cannot suck. The baby then cannot feed and its survival is at risk. So the baby arrived in this world with the instruction that will help her survive.

Nobody teaches plants how to grow. One day I noticed that a pawpaw tree was growing behind the house. I am quite sure nobody intentionally planted the seed. Perhaps someone just left the seed there and before long, there was a plant. As I write, the tree keeps growing, and nobody even cares about in terms of seeing that it grows and yields fruit. Yet the tree grows and not long from now, there will be pawpaw for consumption. The tree has its own guidance that has enabled it to thrive till this very day. Humans have their own guidance system that enables them to thrive. The issue is whether they are in tune with that guidance system or not. That “guidance system” is what we may call intuition.

mbele:
Being a founder is not an easy way to make money.

I can tell you frankly with about 2 years building a Social Enterprise from scratch without salary and no funding. Bootstrapping can be very hard especially when you also have a family to support.

Even as a founder of a start-up I still have to help other young founders that are struggling aside from technical support at some point I also have to give some small funding too.

Not everyone is cut out to be a founder, and being a founder doesn't make us better than anyone else. We have fears, we are not as smart as you think, we look up vacancies sometimes to see another way of escape.

If you have an entrepreneur around you support them, send them words of encouragement especially entrepreneurs in the social sector who does so much for less to nothing. They are the unsung heroes take care of them, appreciate them.

I am Peter Ayeni I am passionate about using Technology and Design for Social Good.


http://www.ideahacks.xyz/being-a-founder-is-not-an-easy-way-to-make-money/

You are so right.

I acknowledge that you have challenges. I also acknowledge that you don't have the worst of challenges.

I acknowledge that things are not pretty now. I also acknowledge that things will get worse on the long run for you with crime. That is a guarantee.

So calm your troubled spirit. You have what it takes to overcome this challenge. Just don't listen to your mind trying to push you with the story it has cooked up about your life which you believe. I do not speak as one who does not have challenges. I have them in their numbers but I deal with them on a present moment basis.

Listen to your heart. The seed of the solution is already in you. But your mind is presently an obstacle to your accessing the solution.

I know these words are likely to hit some resistance in you. But beyond that resistance is the son of God you are and God never leaves his son.

The present moment is simple. It is as it is. But the noise-making mind, subdued with compulsive thinking cannot stand it, so it runs from it. It submerges itself in the story it creates around a situation.
You have planned a party for some few people and the weather starts changing. Before long, it starts to rain. What is happening right now? It is raining. If you can accept the reality that it is raining now, you do not create any problem. But like many people, your mind resists that it is raining. In this resistance, it creates a story, “This rain has ruined my day. It has finished me. No one will come to my party.” Is that so? Has the rain ruined your day? That rain is needed so that you can continue to thrive on planet Earth. If it does not rain for a long period, you will most likely pray for rain. Now it is raining but instead of you to appreciate the rain, your ego has turned you to God who should dictate when it should rain and when it should not. How much more selfish can you get? You want to make yourself the centre of the world around which the world will revolve. The rain has not finished you. Instead of complaining about it, you have the opportunity to rest in a cool weather. How can that finish you? “No one will come to my party.” Some people may actually show up in spite of the rain but your mind is already doing what it knows how to do – catastrophizing – even though there is no problem in the present moment. But even if no one shows up, you still do not have a problem. You have the opportunity to share what you have prepared with your neighbours or the needy around you. Where there is an opportunity, all your mind sees is problem. What is the situation? It is raining. The situation is not the problem. The problem is the story your mind has created about the situation.

The story of your mind is as a result of its resistance to what is. The mind believes that its resistance, which you experience as negativity or unhappiness in some form, will somehow dissolve the undesired situation. The mind is deluded. The resistance that it creates along with its negativity is what disturbs you, not the situation.
Let go of the story by surrendering to the situation. By surrender, I mean inner acceptance of what is. You accept what is and you do not hold internal reservations. If you have an illness and you say, “I surrender,” just for the sake of saying it, you have not surrendered. Resignation is not surrender. Surrender naturally happens when you relinquish the internal war. Jesus surrendered at the garden of Gethsemane, “Not my will but your will be done.” It may look as if by surrendering you have been defeated but that is not so. One who surrenders, completely accepts what happens now, which is the form the present moment takes, without judgment or mental labeling. Thus he sees the situation as it is and sees clearly what action to take. This action which is in alignment with the present moment is in alignment with life. Thus, he flows with life. There is peace. Surrender, therefore, is perfectly compatible with action and there is strength in it, not weakness. Realize that resistance is futile and accept the present moment. If you do this, the peace that surpasses understanding will emerge in you. This peace did not come from without. It has been in you. Your resistance obscured you from experiencing it.

If you find yourself in a situation you do not want or desire, change the situation. If you cannot change the situation, leave the situation. If you can neither change nor leave the situation, surrender to the situation. Dissolve the internal resistance by being present. Become aware of that which anchors you to the present moment which can be the energy field inside you, sense perceptions, or your breath. Can you feel the aliveness of your body? The sensation from your sense perceptions? Your surrounding? Your heartbeat? Your breath? Be aware that you are sitting. Be aware that you are reading. Now, be aware that you are aware. You are conscious. What is consciousness? Awareness without thought. You are that awareness. You are therefore not just conscious, you are consciousness, the space in which there is no thought. When you realize this, you will see that there is nothing that happens that diminishes you. You have ten million naira in your account, you are who you are. You are finding it difficult to pay your rent, you are still who you are. You work in a multinational company, you are who you are. You do not have a job, who you are is not diminished. Nothing can change who you are. If you are jobless, accept the joblessness in the present moment because it is what is. When you surrender, when you accept without internal resistance, something will emerge from deep within you. In resistance, you are trapped in pain but when you accept what is, you go beyond the situation, you transcend it. The step to be taken in order to improve the situation will emerge from within you. This step may not get you a job immediately but when you carry out the step, the next step will show up, and the next, on and on until you either have a job or start your own business. As you carry out each step, be present in the Now. Let your Presence flow into what you do and what you do will have quality, it will be transformational. Do you want your action to have power? Be present when you carry out the action. The present moment, no matter the from it takes, is a friend, not an enemy. By being present, you are friendly with it. When you are friendly with it, it smiles at you. That smile is necessary to change your situation, the one you consider undesirable.

Wherever you are, be there. Life, through you, will take care of the situation you consider undesirable. So, surrender to what is now. You can practice stillness to help you live in the present moment.
Stillness is what some call meditation. Stillness is about staying present and going deeper in yourself. You are not trying to do, you are simply being. To be still, you can practise with present moment anchors like your breath. You are breathing now. Notice the gaps between the exhaling and inhaling cycles, the air going into your lungs, the movement of your belly, and so on, as much as you can. Because you are placing your awareness on what is happening right now, you propel yourself powerfully into the present moment. This simple exercise has the potential to help you go deeper within yourself, to help you be present.
Other present moment anchors are your sense perceptions and the energy field inside you, what you may call inner body. Feel the aliveness of your body by paying attention to the energy field in your hands, legs, neck, chest, and so on. You do not necessarily have to be still to be aware of present moment anchors. You can be aware of them while walking or doing chores. This will help you stay grounded in the present moment even when you are doing something. Ego gives way and you experience peace. At first, you may only be able to stay present for a short period of time but with practise, you will get to stay present longer. You realize when you are present that you are not your thoughts and you become the watcher of your thoughts, not the judge, just the watcher. You neither grasp your thoughts nor push them away.
Being friendly with the Now, being present, has been shown to reduce stress, lower blood pressure, reduce chronic pain, boosts immune functioning – being present has benefits for your health. People who stay present display more joy and are more secure. Instead of reacting to perceived threats in a situation, and afterwards drown under the situation in anxiety, conscious people accept a situation, transcend it, and act to improve or change the situation. As a result, conscious people have more satisfying relationships with events and people. They are less aggressive and are more connected to other people.

Could you be present now? As you read this book, be aware that you are breathing. If you are aware that you are breathing now, you are present in this moment. Being present or still is not about getting somewhere. You are already there. It is therefore about being fully where you are already. Where else can you live but Now? Life offers us so many wonderful things we can enjoy but because we are often lost in thoughts – thoughts of the past or future – we fail to experience, let alone enjoy what is happening now. You may love the sight of nature. Look at the plants or trees, you feel this sense of calm. Before you know it, you have left the present moment. “Oh, I really wish I could come back here someday,” you say. You are where you love to be but because you are not present, you are back in your thought, wishing to come back some other day to where you presently are. This is how we often let the present moment escape from us and we hardly experience joy. You escape from the present moment and what do you find? Pain or worry. In that state, you end up having a toxic relationship with what is as well as with people.

Lynnsada:
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Thank you for this advice. I really needed it.

I am glad you got it. Those kind of words often hit resistance courtesy of a mind gone haywire.

CliffWood:
I don't want to bore you people with long talks so I'll go straight to the point.

So last week I went for interview at a bank and I was interviewed for a marketing job and the term is if I can bring 5 people a day, that 5 people multiplied by 22 working days that's 110 people a month I will earn 147,400# a month. That means if I can bring 220 people a month I get 147400 x 2

So when I got home I did my calculations and my result was that for any single person I bring I get 1340#. That means I only get paid based on the number of people I get.

Now the bank has called me to come and I am confused as to whether I should go because my siblings told me it's not easy to work as a marketer and I'll have to be moving always to bring customers.%

Ps: I'm currently teaching in a private school and the pay is not even up to half and quarter of what I'll get from the bank.

Also I'm an OND cert holder I only want to do it for 8 months before I finally apply for HND.

My question is should I go for it or not?

Please pardon my blunders. Thanks

Keep the amount of money aside first.

What do you want out of life?

What is your calling?

Follow your heart, not your head or the money in this issue.

oluwanimoduroty:
thanks for you input sir. The problem is I don't know what my calling is, I don't have passion or penchant for anything, all I ever knew was how not to starve and that I did. The truth is I'm lost.

You are being honest. I feel that.

I have also felt lost, so I am replying you from a deeper place in me.

The reason you are feeling lost is because your mind has gone haywire. So it is presenting things not real to you but you believe them to be real.

If only your mind can be calm and stop its noise-making activity, you will find that the appropriate action to take will come to you.

What is the proper step for you to take in this situation? That instruction is in you. But you cannot access it if your mind is dominating you.

Be still.

Now when I say to you, "Be still," it is not because I do not acknowledge that you have a challenge. But I say to you, "Be still," because the appropriate step to take will come to you if you are still.

Be still.

You are not alone.

Hello.

I can feel your depression. The situation brings no pleasure. I offer my advice.

Can you change your focus. Getting a job is no problem however I advise you focus of delivering value and getting paid. In other words, I advise you to do something that will fetch you money and that will involve you answering your calling.

Depression is a sign you are not moving in a direction that is in alignment with your path. Once you get aligned even when the money is not yet abundant, depression starts to dissolve.

Answer your calling. That is the primary thing. Making money will be a by-product of your response to your calling and you will thank God later.

Everything works for good.

Good idea.

What is required to dissolve the ego now? Notice the ego within yourself. Identify the ego in action. Ego is coming from your thought so drop the thought and bring your attention back to the present moment. You may find this challenging at first but it affords you the opportunity to see how much of your life has been influenced by the ego. It is your thoughts that led you to negative states such as anger, fear, worry, frustration. Notice those thoughts as well as your body’s response to them – emotion.

Are you lost in thought? Simply bring your attention back to the present moment. How? Perceive the smell around you; notice the sight before you; become aware of the physical sensations in and around you; feel the air on your skin.
Take your attention inside your body. Go to your right hand. Can you feel something inside your right hand? Take your attention to your left leg. Can you feel the energy field in it? Do the same for your neck, stomach, and various parts of your body. Now feel the energy field in your body as a whole. Be present. If you can focus on your breath now, you will become present.

Through these processes I have described, you will begin dissolving your addiction to compulsive thinking and ultimately your ego. Bring your attention back to Now and simply watch your thought while no longer being possessed by them. Can you see that you are not your thought? Can you see that you are the awareness that experiences the thought? By being present, you create a space between you and the thought. That is not exactly correct because you are actually the space in which the thought shows up. Being the space that you are, you see the thought but you are no longer identified with it. In that moment, a stillness will arise in you and you will be connected to your Being, your True Self. But is that really true? How can you be connected to your True Self? That is already implying that there are two of you. So, no, when you are still, you are not connected to your True Self, you are being your True Self, you are being who you are. Whereas formerly, ego obscured who you are from coming through, so that in a sense, you were lost. Now you are present, you are still, your Being is as it is, its light shining without being obscured by the ego. This process of disidentifying with the ego and being present takes practice. But as you continue the process, you will be present for longer periods of time and this will impact the quality of your life.

So, in essence, how do you let go of ego? You don’t. Being aware of the ego brings down its momentum and eventually dissolves it. Be still.
Your Being has been neglected for long. Your Being knows what to do in the present moment but it has always been led by the ego and your ego lacks the capacity to lead your Being, This creates what we know as self-conflict. You find yourself in a situation where you experience dissatisfaction. You want something but you are not sure of what you want. You are confused. So you get the job thinking it will permanently satisfy you only to find out it cannot. You get married thinking that is it but you find out the dissatisfaction comes back. Cars, houses, and money – the dissatisfaction is still there. This is the state most people find themselves in: The state of being in need for a need. At the core of that state is one not being in alignment with one’s Being. You have being doing this and that, trying to be fulfilled. Nothing in this world will give you fulfillment – no thing, no person. Fulfillment is a state. It is a state of you being in alignment with the centre of your Being – God.

Some people act with negativity in an attempt to attract a situation they desire. Such people have been so taken up by the ego that they consider it stupidity to be sincere or display integrity. To be manipulative and shrewd are considered worthwhile traits. They consider being authentic to be dangerous because they think that world is filled with people ready to exploit their authenticity. This causes them to be more closed and the ego is fortified in the process. The problem is that a negative ego can only attract more negative egos in your reality. Negativity does not work. Instead of attracting desirable condition, it stops it from arising. If you own a business, you are not likely to want a competent but “relatively” dishonest accountant. Of course, you are either honest or not. Are you being honest yourself?

Cheepo, I see where your post is coming from and I align with you.

You have said it a number of times, "Look in the mirror," but the message is not sinking.

Do not however allow the unconsciousness of others pull you into unconsciousness on Nairaland as I see is already happening.

Keep doing good where you are.

For those who applied, when should one expect to be contacted by you or the employer?

B

The best people to comment about this are those that have experienced this issue in that state.

The little I know tells me this is good.

I may not be able to provide you with a job but I pray God uplifts you.

If it resonates with your heart, you may learn a skill that you can utilize.

A man was having an issue in his relationship. He was having a problem “molding” the woman he was having a relationship with into what he wanted her to become. While I was listening to him speak, I discerned that his thought was that he knew what was best for the woman. So, when the woman does not cooperate with his agenda, he gets frustrated. I sensed so much ego in this man. He did not see that he has made himself the God of the woman. He manipulates her and he did not see his own manipulation. He was desperately trying to get happiness from the woman and consequently living with the fear of losing the woman. His ego will feel diminished if he loses the woman, hence, the ego employs manipulative tactics to prevent the woman from leaving.
But this man did not his ego in action which was also a contributing factor to the strain in the relationship. How could he see that which he has identified with? There was no awareness that could see the actions of his ego. In essence, he became one with his ego.
To dissolve the ego you have to disidentify with the ego. To disidentify with the ego, you have to identify it, see it. To see the ego, you have to be Present. It is in your Presence that space is created around the ego. That space will enable you to see the ego and its mechanisms. Here you are unaffected by the situation and there is your ego almost constantly threatened by the situation. As long as the ego possesses you, and you take yourself to be the ego, it will be difficult if not impossible to dissolve it. When you are ego-possessed, you will constantly pamper, protect, and defend the ego. To see the ego, you have to be honest to yourself. This honesty will be brutal to the ego.
The ego is rooted in lack so it is always acting with fear in the background. It is never driven by pure love but turns almost everything into a means to an end. You are helping the girl with her school fees so that she can end up being your wife. You do not see the self-enhancement going on as well as the possession. Can you step back and observe the ego?

“If the ego is negative, can’t I change it into a positive one?” No. The ego can pretend to be positive but only for a while. Anyone who is present can see through its pretense. The ego is always acting from a state of fear so it cannot be truly positive. To be free from the ego, dissolve the ego. Dissolve the ego and your Being will take the front seat that is due to it. This process will take a while. You have lived under the control of the ego for decades. Dissolving such that its control tends to zero will not be instant. Inside you will be a battle, mind versus Being. As your Being tries to come forward, your ego feeling threatened will fight and it will fight hard. You are likely to experience “withdrawal symptoms.” However, the more Present you are, the more dissolution there will be.

In the process of dissolving the ego, some things can occasionally trigger the ego such that it emerges with intensity. After a few of such episodes, you may wonder if you will ever be free of the ego. But that which sees the ego is not the ego. Formerly, you could hardly see the ego after it has taken possession of you, now you frequently see it even after it has gotten over you. That is your Being coming forward. If you continue being Present, the ego will find it more difficult to overcome you. Remember that you cannot be free of the ego in the past or future, you can only be free of the ego Now. It is only in the Now that you can be Present and see the ego. So, you can only dissolve the ego in the present moment. Do not let the ego use time against you. In trying to dissolve the ego, the ego can come through the back door using time, making you wonder if you can be free of it tomorrow if you succeed today. All you ever have is Now and if the ego arises, you can only dissolve it Now. As far as the dissolution of ego is concerned, leave tomorrow alone.

When the ego is being dissolved, the ego can project doom. That is an attempt to pull you back into identifying with it. The ego wants to survive at all cost and for it to survive, it needs to pull you in.
Becoming aware of the ego spells death for the ego. You see the ego for what it is and see through most of its gimmicks. Awareness involves an honest observation which will free you from the grip of the ego.
One may want to fight the ego in order to dissolve it. By trying to fight or suppress the ego, you fuel it indirectly. That which wants victory over the ego through a fight is the ego. Ego never solves a problem because ego is the problem.
Because your ego has developed a strong force over the years, dissolving it may not be an easy journey. But it will most likely happen that your ego at a point will hit a threshold of imbalance and will create suffering. The purpose of this suffering is to bring you out of your ego. But when you are in resistance even when you suffer, your ego is strengthened.

In your journey to dissolve your ego, you may go through a period of feeling dysfunctional. This is because you feel that you are in a no man’s land between your Being and your ego. Whereas the ego was always trying to be certain, now what you have is uncertainty which you may fear. You may wish to avoid this journey but when you come through it, your Being will shine through and someone may say you are a “different person.” Of course it is still you only that the ego that was pretending to be you is no longer there. Your Being comes to the forefront. At a point when the ego comes, it will feel suffocating. This will help you let go of the ego more easily.

SalamRushdie:
all eyes on you and you are looking for a Job? if you want to change your family's fortune a job is not what you need bro you need to do more , you need to start acting as a game changer .. Immediately you get a job now you will get a girl and the you get married and then you have kids and then you start looking up to your kids to be the solution all over again ..its a vicious circle bro ... Well be patient an worthwhile job will soon come

This post is lucid.

Reflect on what you are doing and even on what you posted.

bynomzy:
I wana make new friends, but I'm super serious when I say I don't go out. Like there's no zeal to step out. I'm getting lonely but jeez how do I garner courage to step out and meet new people?

I'm a fresh graduate, awaiting result and service (hoping to meet new people there) but if 4 years couldn't change me, what can 1 year do?

Having read some of your writings, you appear to me as someone who is self-aware.

You are an introvert and you know you are an introvert. Don't resist your being an introvert. Accept it. Accepting it does not mean judging it to be good or bad. It means accepting it - as simple as that - because that is what is.

I have contacted you. If it is OK with you, we can be friends.

Please I want to know if there are drivers in this group using Infinix hot 5 on Uber and if the phone is OK for Uber.

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When you are not present, you become a victim of time. Your mind is in control and it pulls you into the past or future. Identifying impending dangers through associations with things that has happened in the past is important for self-preservation. But when your life becomes dictated by thoughts and emotions which are attached to past events and possible future outcomes, you lack peace. You can only find peace in the present moment but you are not present. You are lost in thought, dominated by the mind. The habit is to zoom off in your head, struggling with the past, thinking all sorts of negativity or becoming anxious and fearful of the future. If you were to be present, you arrive at your natural state where you become a space for what happens. In that state, you and the present moment are one.

Life unfolds in the present moment but we often let life slip by away since we are not grounded in the moment. When you are at work, you fantasize about being on vacation with your loved ones. When you are on vacation, you worry about work piling up on your desk. You can only live in the Now but the Now is and you are not present, so, you are not really living. When we centre ourselves in the present moment, the mind stops its noise-making. By becoming present, the distraction of your mind ceases. When this happens, you awaken and are more alive if I may say so. You are then able to connect with your deeper self, your true self.

One may think that being present means losing the power to make things happen. Let us say you have a set goal you want to achieve. Whatever action you carry out towards achieving this goal will be done in the present moment. The more present you are in the moment of carrying out an action towards your goal, the more powerful your action will be. Your action may even cause something more than what you expected to manifest. The more you are present, the better the quality of your doing. Life will then take care of the result. Being present is much more beneficial to you than you think.

You are in a relationship but you have fear. You have fear that one day your partner will leave you and you will be all alone. How does your mind solve the problem? It worries. That is not a solution. Worrying compounds the problem. Your mind worries about what has not happened. By worrying, you act out of fear and your actions become hostile to your partner who you already see leaving you in the future even though she is here with you in the present. So, you become hostile, your partner gets fed up with your hostility and sees a reason to leave you and actually ends up leaving you. “I said it that she would leave me someday,” you say. “Now she is gone.” Your ego makes you so blind that you are unable to see that your fear and the hostility that followed gave her reasons to leave. This is how your fear ends up making what you fear will happen actually happening. When you are not present, your fear fulfills that which you fear and you are unaware that your actions contributed to it. If you can let go of the thought of your partner leaving you and not worry about whether she will stay or leave in the future but rather be present with your partner when she is with you, you deepen the relationship. When she is with you, give her your full attention. Full attention is full presence.

When both of you are present with each other and you communicate with openness and sincerity, both of you end up in communion. Now you do not bother about your partner staying or leaving but you give your partner attention. Your partner therefore has little or no reason to leave. If you are present but your partner is mind-dominated, she may actually leave you. Unconsciousness cannot stand consciousness for long. It is either your consciousness pulls your partner out of unconsciousness so that she becomes conscious or she leaves. If she leaves, you have no reason to worry, there is no pain. Maybe God wants to create a space for someone conscious to move into your life. In that case, you enjoy a better relationship. In the end, presence benefits you and it manifests in external situations. This is not just true for your relationship but is also true for your business, studies, and other areas of your life.

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