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Clintifydan:
Good Day Nairalanders.. Please I would welcome all advice and opinions in regards to this issue.. I have thrown myself deep into gambling and masturbation, despite my attempts in trying to resist both I still find myself doing it again and again. I feel this irritational guilt and weakness inside of me whenever I found myself doing any of this. please I really need help in combating all of these.. thank you

I heard one can still fall a prey even after married...that sounds crazy.

See, make a strong desire that you would quit masturbation. Social media is the new portal...it's saturated with porn and soft porn content.

Unfollow and block any source suggesting such contents....the battle on twitter is so strong. You may not able to do that except you uninstall it.

Limit your social media usage and on the ones you use, apply the above strategy.

Then gets your self busy...really busy productively, to fill ur mind. Don't stay alone for so long.

jesusjnr2020:
Baltasar Ebang: Why Relapses Shouldn't Break Your Resolve To Quit Masturbation

I opened a recent thread advising people against rushing to view leaked sex videos, and I saw several persons admitting how watching the leaked sex videos of the recent sex scandal, resulted in relapses after going several months without masturbation, and I wasn't surprised.

That's actually the concept.

It's a prepared script that's playing out, and the intended targets are those who otherwise won't view such pornographic content.

Who else do you think the videos were being made for, and how do you think they were leaked if they were in the custody of the police who were said to have raided his house and discovered the sex videos?

That's how they also deliberately leaked the nude and sex videos of celebrities who stored such videos and photos on icloud.

They want to get to those who ordinarily wouldn't watch pornographic videos, using the massive appeal and popularity of those celebrities involved as a bait.

They know that once such ones were drawn to those leaked sex videos and photos, their resistance against sexual sins, including masturbation, would be broken.

That's the only way they could gain access into their lives and do them whatever damage they intended - through sin.

I have been there myself before, where after I had managed to stay away from masturbation for several weeks, even months, all it took to break my resistance was a pornographic video or photo or anything that could arouse my sexual urges via my eyes.

That's how all my efforts to quit masturbation would usually come crashing down and I would have to start afresh from ground zero, and that's how it continued for many years. It seemed I would never be able to achieve that goal.

But today that's no longer the case as I have been able to overcome by the help and power of God, so matter what temptations that is brought my way, whether it be on social media, where I preach the Gospel, that they were constantly bringing half naked photos of girls, in the name of "people you may know', it never worked on me until they gave up, and this has been the case for many years now.

That's why I urge those who suffered setbacks in their determination to quit masturbation and other sexual sins, not to quit but to keep striving, because I have been in their shoes before so I know what it feels like, but if I gave up, I don't think I will be here testifying today.

Even though it's been a very long time since i won that battle over the flesh, It still remain very fresh on my mind how tough the battle was and the mighty great work that God did for me that I will continue to remain ever grateful to Him.

If He did it for me, He can also do it for you.

Hence I urge you not to give up regardless but continue to strive and pray earnestly to God to give you the ability to overcome such temptations, and I believe He would do it for you just as He did for me.

God bless.

True

Masturbation would give you 3% benefit but take 203% from you...(it takes strong logical reasoning or spiritual sensitivity to notice this deep loss.)

Immediately I heard about the 400 tape case, I realised within me that the target is majorly not about the man but, those who have quit perversion like porn and those still new to it.
It's a strategy from a deeper realm to make them fall.

This is so clear guys.

Emma09:
Mtcheeeewwww. Masturbation and watching of porn is a thing of the mind. I actually watched the video and I didn't masturbate. I had quit masturbation for almost 3yrs now and it stays like that. In as much I have my wife that I have access to for sex, Y would I go back to masturbation after almost 3yrs of quitting it just because I watched a leaked sex tape. I just made my mind strong after watching it and told myself I would never watch the video again. Me wey no even like to dey have porn video on my phone. I just see it irritating and irresponsible. So those that went back to masturbate after watching the sex tape, na dem Sabi. Lolzzzzz

You're married now...so at least maybe the post is not for you.

Hi everyone,

Taking Nigeria as a major consideration, what does a person need to know before patronising all these Estate managers in Nigeria? e.g Adron homes etc.

Hi everyone,

Taking Nigeria as a major consideration, what does a person need to know before patronising all these Estate managers in Nigeria? e.g Adron homes etc.

Immorality will wreck a visionary man.

This can affect your integrity and even generations to come...the internet never forgets.

Most times when it's coming from women, it's a toxic manipulative statement made to gaslight men to doing what they want...or cover their flaws.

dreamworld:
e don happen to you abi?
,
if iphone (from xr upwards) lost its usless for the thief if he doesnt know ur iclound details
or else he will spend upto the price of the fone to fix it which he cant so,or else he can sale it for parts

Yh, my phone got stolen.

Frezhkid10:
Left it in the hands of God to perpetuate justice.

Hmn

Frezhkid10:
Update: the phone was switched on by the thief and its location is showing alaba international market...it's currently offline now..

Hello bro what did you later do?

Akenzua01:
Is egusi soup a yoruba soup? Attachees.

You guys don't have any soup jare

Food not soup.

descarado:
Egwusi is no man's land.
All west Africa make egwusi soup. It's accepted by everybody in Nigeria so leave it as e be

Pounded yam is more suitable and preferable to Gbegiri.

BluntCrazeMan:
I need you guys to supply the following remaining pictures for me..

1. Borno
2. Enugu
3. Gombe
4. Jigawa
5. Kebbi
6. Lagos
7. Nasarawa
8. Niger
9. Osun
10. Sokoto
11. Yobe
12. Zamfara.

..
If the pictures here are not correct for the State it represents,, please put the better pictures..

Lol

Before people come for you…Ekiti is known for Pounded yam and Fresh Egusi.

Guys , this is true for both male and female.

Whether it’s Asake or any other supposed celebrity, it’s a crazy and expensive joke to make.

You would never try that in the gathering of great and important figures. Everything is not cruise.

This should grace front page.

Akpabio22:
I've been wondering why most male child wake up at age 35. Some even wake up at 40 and regret wasting most of there time in life. Because there is a different between open eye and being awake. Some believe womanizing, doing drugs and causing violent is being awake. But I see it as just open eye. Waking up is completely different from all that. When you're awake you become very uncomfortable and finding it very difficult to sleep when you're not achieving your dream in life. You find all means to stay away from trouble because you have see how important life his. Some wasted their life and they lost relevant to be enlisted in the race of life and later found out that aged has prevent them to be enlisted in various aspects of life. My question is why is it that so many Africa male child wake up very late. Some even neglected there father and caused huge damage to the family and later regrets there actions but it's already too late to be enlisted in the race of life.

I understand your question… it’s a deep question that requires self reflection.

Now, nothing comes without a cause. The consequences of our actions and inactions usually dawn on us…sooner or later.

Indulging in some actions at the prime age has a way of clouding the reasoning. Things like addictions, lack of exposure, bad influence, womanizing, environmental factor, thuggery, alcoholism, perversion etc.

All these things seem to give temporary pleasure but deep down, limits man from reaching his core human awareness and consciousness. They make man abuse his core energy or forget he has one. Man is born to create and dominate. The goal of this is to distract man and make him waste his prime age.

Luckily, some may eventually get it right while others continue to struggle.

There’s a level of awareness and consciousness man reaches when he avoids all these distractions.

That’s my view!

Aremson14:
Studied biochem working in one of the biggest tech companies in Africa.... excellent work culture and amazing people I'm working with. Tech market cannot be saturated... the number of people that can actually deliver are very few... start today, its a plus for u,,, put it on ur cv and jump into the 10 percent of any application

Hello bro… I will like to move to the tech space…how can you help?

Someone should share the link to watch the match.

Guys… never take basic things for granted (life jacket) no matter the gathering…even if they call you coward.

Prevention is better than cure, they say.

Don’t mind the OP. Fanta ko, Pepsi ni.

What do people really want?

Why do these shapes look related to Squid games movie?…lol

Y’all can visit any nearest branch, every Wednesday and Friday…12pm & 3pm.

AFRICA’s GLOBAL BANK FOR A REASON!

Offhand now

It has always been that.

Honlucas:
Started 2019...

Officially it has ended..

Now a Microbiologist.

Unto the next MBBS!!!

Congrats

About ur MBB interest, will you be doing Direct Entry?

mikky2k2:
I am currently working with a multinational company and I get a net pay of over 200k a month but my current bank has refused to give me a loan even when my salary is domiciled in their bank. And am in serious need of cash.

Please I need help from any banker that can recommend a good commercial bank that can give me a loan and be deducting repayment from my salary.. I don't mind moving my account to the bank as my current bank can't help me and it's fustrating..

WhatsApp me on 08034889435

Are you still interested?

NorthernAgender:
Lack of home training and insensitive of the program organizer.whatever it maybe protocol must be observed. For VP to attend that funeral it's a great honor for the deceased and the immediate family.

What are you saying, what honour?

This can only be termed being insensitive. No one prays to experience how demoralising (mentally & psychological) it can be for someone to lose his parents and siblings.

Nothing else aside being hypocritical.

Hypocrisy

Let the VP complain himself.

Johnjustice:
This talk no make sense... doctors will tell you moderate alcohol to unwind is healthy, moderate sex is healthy, no sex at all is bad for men... sometimes doing some things moderately keeps us happy and have other positive social effects.

Do you know that one of the problem of the north is the fact that they banned alcohol, most of the youths have nowhere to ease their anger, they use dangerous drugs, with makes people think negatively, while alcohol brings happiness albeit momentarily. Do you know how violent and intolerant the world will be without alcohol...those Muslim extremists are a ckear example...angry for no reason, pent up stress.

Ok sir.

Johnjustice:
You need to review your mentality of life...stop thinking everyone must think like you, life is relative, most of those dogmas and cliches you hold onto were proscribed by men like you. Free your myopic mind from being judgemental, as long as a vice doesn't affect society or you negatively, it's better you use that same energy and speak about more important things. People have habits, it's really not your business.

You feel really attacked and thereby, defensive.

I do not judge anyone but just expressing my views. Truth they say is bitter.

See, you need to be genuinely interested in making friends with people. I'm not saying you have to force it or be desperate. No.

Look around you and see those with less resistance and just show u care in actions. Don't overdo it. Be consistent.

Then for now, focus and develop what you think you know how do. It could be your academics...get good results or any valuable hobby- be a star there. This aura will be around you as you are known for something.

So, collaborating with others who are getting it, won't be an issue and they won't see you as a major stress.

Also ensure you are not being wrongly influenced.

Johnjustice:
Op like someone said, moderation is key, some watch porn but not addicted to it.

Your claim that porn affects life is not true, unless the person can't control themselves, some people that watch porn every now and then, are still very successful than some who never watched...life is relative its myopic to generalise...there are more important issues to talk about.

A lot of religious people don't watch porn but their life is not successful, they are not happy.

You need to review your definition of being 'Successful '.

Or how do you define Success?