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It’s nearly impossible to not judge someone or something based on outer appearance.

Whoever came up with the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” was slightly unrealistic. Initially, we involuntarily judge based on the cover, but the smart ones get to know the inside before making decisions regarding whether to take or leave something.

Looks are important, but so is character. The right combination of both is what really makes a person sexy and magnetic — not only to potential lovers, but to pretty much every other person, too. These are the things that will stay with you long after beauty fades.

Follow these 10 steps to instantly increase your desirability:

1. Be Independent
This word gets thrown around so much that it’s likely some people may be confused about what it means. The 20-year-old girl who posts bathroom selfies from her job at Arby’s, still lives at home and claims to be “independent” is probably mistaken. To be truly independent means having your own things — your own house, your own car — and being able to go out and chase anything you want.

It means not expecting a man or anyone else to take care of you or to pay for everything. It means being on your own and not dependent or stuck in a situation that’s not good for you.

Plus, no man wants to be with a gold digger.

2. Have Your Sh*t Together!
The best thing a woman can have together is her sh*t. I’m not only talking about being financially independent, but finding your passion and living it, too. Having a successful career or seeking out entrepreneurship and having your own thing is a very desirable trait. Having confidence in your life and your career will also make you more desirable and in turn, less clingy.

When you know your worth, you won’t let any man (or boy) destroy it. That kind of confidence is damn sexy.

3. Don’t NEED To Be In A Relationship
If you’re single, chances are, you’re a victim of bad relationships or heartbreak. Sometimes, we cling to the idea that a relationship will fill whatever voids we have. When you’re out there “looking for love,” you will likely never find it and you will come off as desperate and needy. If this sounds familiar, get your priorities in order; there are much more gratifying and fulfilling things in life than having or getting a man.

The bottom line is having a partner should accentuate your life, not complicate or complete it. My motto is to never settle. Don’t partner up just so you can have someone.

If you are comfortable and happy with yourself, you will attract the right people naturally.

4. Kick Deadlines To The Curb
Too many women believe their clocks are ticking. It’s important to stop putting timelines on when you “should” get married and when you “should” have kids. It will happen when the time is right, but most importantly, when YOU are right.

Work on yourself first and the rest will fall into place — I promise. It always comes when you’re not looking.

5. Stay Classy
Set standards for yourself and stay classy in every way, from how you dress to where you live, to what kind of car you drive to how you handle yourself after a few glasses of wine.

You don’t want to be that chick who trips over herself and throws up in the corner after a crazy night of partying. And, you definitely don’t want to be the girl who’s always at the club. That may be attractive to the guy who wants to bone you, but it probably wont make a man want to marry you.

Bottom line, hold yourself up to a high standard and expect nothing less from anyone else.

6. Don’t Seek Attention
In other words, don’t be thirsty. Let’s face it: Many women are so starved for attention that they’ll do anything for anyone who will give them the time of day. Many women measure self-worth by the number of likes and comments their photos yield. Ladies, this is NOT sexy.

It comes off as desperate and kind of pathetic. Measure your self-worth by personal success and love, not by double taps.

7. Be Compassionate
Be caring, loving and loyal. This is such an easy thing to do, but we are so stressed and irritable that often, we forget to be mindful of it. I’m pretty sure that none of us are intentionally selfish, bitchy or irrational. We simply get so caught up in seeking attention and possession that we forget how to love.

Learn to be more compassionate, caring and kind, but don’t forget to stand up for yourself. It’s all about keeping a healthy balance.

8. Don’t Play Games
I don’t believe in playing “the game.” I think it’s utter BS. Whatever you are feeling — good or bad — you need to express it. Tell it like it is. Ask for what you want. If you expect someone to be straight with you, you must be straight in return.

Remember, you get what you give. If you feel like you have to play games to keep up with certain people in your life, it just may be time to re-evaluate.

9. Be Open-Minded
Your way isn’t always the right way or the best way. Be open to other people’s opinions and experiences. You might learn a thing or two. Explore outside of familiar territory and expand your comfort zone.

Be adventurous; be spontaneous and go with the flow.

10. Know What You Want
In life and for dinner, be decisive. Know what you want and learn to express it. Make up your mind and say what you think. Don’t let someone else decide your life for you. Be confident.

I know that some of these things won’t come naturally, but stick to your guns and cultivate your life with consistency and practice.

Being awesome is hard work, but you can do it.

Article 20 of boys code...


It's a No No...except you guys ain't real friends though...then go ahead, knack the kpekus

But for real, how would I feel to know my padi I see and hang out with all the time, knows how my woman moans whenever she's been knacked...that's if eventually dem marry sha...

One man's meat is another man's poison...

My padi babe voice thick pass all of us own combined. But my padi love im babe die

Ko kan aye

I have waited long enough before asking, why do I have to wait any further...

Meanwhile, people rarely ask each other out these days, you just start a friendship that leads to a relationship.

And after much bleeping, you define the relationship...

Justcash:
This post is not meant to change anyone's voting pattern. It is a revelation of some obvious occurrences that will emerge as a result of a loss by GEJ in 2015. In fact, it will be a shame for anyone to change their plan to honor a candidate with their votes based on this thread. However, if you want change, you must be ready for the consequences of change.

Amnesty is a farce. Militants (generally) make more money from illegal activities in the creeks than from the stipends from government. It is the promise of political control that stemmed their activities.

The consequences of change is imminent.

And not all prophecies come through.

We propose and God disposes. 15yrs under PDP, and we are yet to reap the dividends of democracy.

The fear of what might happen, shouldn't be the reason we shouldn't vote out the PDP.

It's just painful to think the opposition keeps fielding an old cargo to tackle a GEJ.

In as much as I want GEJ out, I would have preferred a younger opposition.

Any ways, I urge everyone to vote right, do not let threads like this cloud your head when you are about to vote.

And for that fellow, that said Nigerians are not gullible, you probably ain't staying here in Naija.

A place where people sell votes for a small bag of rice.

A place where pastors are riding private jets, and church members are still where they are.

A place where a newly elected governor, just appointed a special adviser on stomach infrastructure.

One day, Nigeria will be great again.

God bless Nigeria

Isn't it obvious anyone who reads your post will subliminally vote GEJ come 2015.

Meanwhile, most of your points will be checked if the new government keeps the Amnesty programme going.

It's just a shame, all these politicians are all the same

Source or this won't make front page

wizzie001:
Broz na big question be diz o, if I consider burning my certificate, I'm really gon be so stingy with the 50mills knowing fully well there won't be means of making legit money again if I go broke!

Starting up a business, is legit and doesn't require a certificate

Rest in peace Iya Majid

ShenTeh:
Os courfe, I will do zhat por less. Year cerbiticate is truly how you can proob you earned it in the absence of zhe fafer. Eh Mallam, I will burn it por less.

How low can you go? N1,000,000? N500,000?

kestolove95:
Aswr 50mill 2much...gv mi just 20mil..if i knw go burn am for front of my school senate building no b my mama born mi

Lmao....

So we have seen the picture spreading all around about burning your certificate for $50million.

$50million is a lot of money, who wouldn't burn his or her certificate. With that kind of money, your words will outshine your certificate x1,000,000 times.

Now, let's change the sign in front of the amount from $ to N...

Will you burn your certificate for N50,000,000

Please answer honestly.

I know most of you would want to claim you don't picture God. But being honest, you just can't pray to nothing, once a while if not all the time an image flashes in your thoughts.

Please give honest answers.

Thank you

Isn't it funny that most of you do not seem to know this OP is an attention seeker...

Crazy stuff makes FP these days

MODs Front page please

SirHouloo:
Na too much embezzled money kill am.

Haba...

One of the sons of former Bayelsa State governor DSP Alamieyeseigha (DSP), was killed in Dubai on Saturday October 11th. According to unconfirmed reports, Oyoms Alamieyeseigha was found dead either in a hotel room or his father's house on Saturday. (details are still sketchy)

How and why he was killed has not been made public. Some other reports are even saying suicide. His father left for Dubai yesterday to go deal with the sad incident. More details later...


Source: http://lindaikeji..com/2014/10/former-bayelsa-governor-dsp.html?m=1

I hope she's not wearing a bra

Agimor:
Must you guys counter every thread.in the order news the Op the introvanted thread was the original poster unlike this one who went to copy and paste.

And the OP gave credit and also the source...

kingslayer:
dude,u truly need help

K

Austeenx:
Okay, let me drop my own amazing fact.

`[color=orange]Did you know that if you light a candle under the moonlight and you say 3 times the name of the person you love, you will look really stupid doing that? [/color]

Too much SK

ElFenomeno1:
So if everyone date all the extroverts, who will date the introverts?!

They should date themselves

Tallesty1:
We(introverts) no want

Lol

kingslayer:
@ Op..must yu counter the thread about dating introverts??..besides,ur points are far from reasonable to me

K

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HERE ARE THE TOP 8 REASONS TO GET OUT OF YOUR INTROVERTED BUBBLE AND DATE AN EXTROVERT. OR IF YOU’RE A JAY-Z TYPE, WHY YOU SHOULD BE LOOKING FOR YOUR BEYONCE.
NO LACK OF CONVERSATION
Have you ever had one of those awkward moments on a first date where for a few minutes you can’t think of anything interesting to say, so you fill time with “So what kind of stuff are you into?” With an extrovert you’ll never have an awkward conversation. They have no shortage of stories to tell, hilarious situations to recount from their days and if they’re one of the good ones, they’ll know the right questions to make the convo balanced and reciprocal.

BETTER FRIENDSHIPS
One of the things that is absolutely imperative to a healthy and interesting relationship is having friends outside of your partner (shocking advice, I know). Extroverts won’t let you fall into the black hole of being a Netflix/takeout couple. You know those people! The ones that you can’t remember if they got a new girlfriend or moved back to the West Coast. Extros will continue to go out with their friends and make new ones. This is good for everyone since it will encourage the introvert in the relationship to keep in touch with their own people. Things won’t get stale and conversation will always be fun since you’ll actually have something to talk about.

A BANGING SEX LIFE
Studies have shown that extroverts have more sex with more people. They are free with their bodies and don’t get held back or skittish with imperfect situations. They don’t mind that the laundry isn’t done or that they didn’t make the bed before having a new lover over. The main goal for sex is self expression and creating intimacy through action. So don’t expect things to follow a simple formulaic approach to sex, extroverts like to explore and try new things and see what positions or situations lead to deeper connections with each partner they’re with. That means better and more interesting sex.

A FULL SCHEDULE
Extroverts are easily bored, which can make them so annoying (according to my boyfriends)! It’s one of the biggest points of contention with intro-extro couples. But it can often be hugely beneficial for an introvert to start doing more … things. Boredom leads to doing more stuff. Hiking, biking, kayaking, starting a new art class, taking up photography so you have a reason to go outside and play as adults. The power of boredom is awesome for an extrovert. Extroverted couples are the ones who start running clubs together and host game nights. All of these things make better friendships and better relationships over time.

THE BEST AWKWARD MOMENTS
Being an extrovert myself, there is nothing that I love more than a reaaaaaaally weird moment. I love the feeling of words hanging in the air that could at any moment explode, I love the physical tension in the room when sex goes a bit awry. I know that as awkward as this moment in our relationship is, it only gets better and it was so worth it for the awesome story we can tell later. A great story trumps all awkward moments. And there is a thin line here, I would never tell a story disrespectfully, and I would never sling a person’s name through the mud (except for this one article on my Red Lipstick Project blog), but there is something amazing about recounting how as a couple you conquered a moment that would make most people part ways in silence. Laughing it out is what keeps great couples together.

NO MYSTERY FEELINGS
As I mentioned above, probably my favorite part of dating an extrovert, and being an extrovert, is never wondering what is on a person’s mind. There is an ease and simplicity to a relationship that isn’t built on assumptions and inferences or even intuition (which does come in handy occasionally). That’s how 90% of arguments and miscommunications start in relationships (warning: that is a completely fake statistic). Difficult situations are made easier when partners are on the same page; and open conversation makes it so arguments are avoided completely or quickly bulldozed over and resolved.

NO REGRETS
Having regrets is the biggest fear of a hardcore extrovert, more specifically FOMO. Not just about missing out on girls’ night or a dance party, but missing out on big life experiences. This makes being in a relationship with them absolutely amazing. They will never look back and ask, “what if I had said this …” or “maybe if we had just done this instead …” They are unashamed to throw themselves into a situation, risking embarrassment or humiliation to save their relationships, because that is better than looking back and wishing they had done things differently.

A QUICK AND PAINLESS (MAYBE) END
Because awkward situations and conversations are not something we avoid, I find that the end of a relationship is much easier with other extroverts. We have the ability to say our piece and know that we have done all we could have done. We face the most difficult parting conversations without fear. Not always, I understand relationships are messy and each is complicated no matter what sort of temperament your partner has. But the benefit of knowing exactly where you both stand on the relationship can make parting ways more clear and easy to process. There are no lingering issues that can be fantasized into saving graces, there are no open doors that need to be shut for closure. It’s kind of beautiful when done right.

YOUR BIGGEST FANS
We will champion you during and after our relationship. We want you to do well, and you doing well makes us look good. We will promote you, your ideas and our relationship even if things go south. We wear our relationships on our sleeves; the good and the bad. They make up who we are and they are a part of the stories that we tell. We want you to be successful so we can feel like our time together was a part of our own success.

Source : http://mainetoday.com/dating/why-everyone-should-date-an-extrovert/

I am very sure that other woman in the picture is the one doing the cooking, she just quickly came to the kitchen held the knife, acted like she's dicing whatever, took the pic and left the poor woman to continue her cooking...

On another note, must she show off for the whole Nation to know she backs her child and cook for 2 baba...shior

Iceking1:
The fear of ebola is d begining of W..... Like seriously hiv na omomo 4 were ebola dey, hiv will kill u in 8 to 10yrs bt ebola cn kill u in jst 21days and contracting ebola is far more easier dan hiv... God bless the Federal Republic Of Nigeria... ...God bless all our APC and PDP leaders... If u blive Nigeria is totally free 4rm ebola & ebola is no longer coming back hit Like

Wetin the like wan do to your life

Just like they used Lawrence Anini as a political thug, so they are using Shaba...

When Shaba turns Anini...they will be the first he will deal with after they betray him...

Karma na real ashana

Who to believe now?

There are some boss remarks that are so counterproductive that the best strategy is simply to bite your tongue:

1. "We've always done it this way." This is not a reason for doing something. It's a reason for the boss to avoid the work of rethinking the problem or situation.

2. "Just figure it out." Employees don't ask the boss how to do something when they can figure out how to do a difficult task themselves.

3. "I don't have time for this." It can be frustrating when employees put demands on you, but a boss's primary function is to ensure employees can do their own jobs.

4. "You think that you're stressed?" Any competition to see who's more stressed is truly a waste of mental effort.

5. "Is this the best you can do?" Well, yes, it probably is the best that the employee can do. And if it's not, do you really think that the employee will admit that?

6. "Just do as I say." This remark may work with children, but employees need to know the "why" behind the "what" and "how."

7. "Sorry to interrupt your vacation, but..." If something goes wrong while an employee is on vacation, the boss should chalk it up to his own lousy planning.

8. "Your predecessor did a better job." This is ultimate unhelpful remark. All it does is make the employee feel bad without any way to improve performance.

9. "You're lucky that you have a job." On hearing this, the best employees start looking for a different job and the worst ones freeze up, worrying that they'll be fired.

10. "That's a dumb idea." A remark like this, especially when delivered during a brainstorming session, ensures that employees never surface another idea.

11. "You're doing a lousy job." When employees are floundering, the boss needs to throw them a rope, not point out that they're about to drown.

12. "You look cute today." Just don't go there. Ever.

13. "What's wrong with you?" It's insulting enough to be told that you're wrong, but it's beyond insulting to imply that the wrongness is part of who you are.

14. "Why are you so lazy?" To be useful, criticism must address the behaviors than need changing, not character or personality issues.

15. "I knew you'd fail." If the boss knew that the employee would fail, why assign that project? To make the employee feel bad?

16. "I told you so." Even if (especially if) you warned the employee that an approach wouldn't work, gloating should be beneath you.

There are some boss remarks that are so counterproductive that the best strategy is simply to bite your tongue:

1. "We've always done it this way." This is not a reason for doing something. It's a reason for the boss to avoid the work of rethinking the problem or situation.

2. "Just figure it out." Employees don't ask the boss how to do something when they can figure out how to do a difficult task themselves.

3. "I don't have time for this." It can be frustrating when employees put demands on you, but a boss's primary function is to ensure employees can do their own jobs.

4. "You think that you're stressed?" Any competition to see who's more stressed is truly a waste of mental effort.

5. "Is this the best you can do?" Well, yes, it probably is the best that the employee can do. And if it's not, do you really think that the employee will admit that?

6. "Just do as I say." This remark may work with children, but employees need to know the "why" behind the "what" and "how."

7. "Sorry to interrupt your vacation, but..." If something goes wrong while an employee is on vacation, the boss should chalk it up to his own lousy planning.

8. "Your predecessor did a better job." This is ultimate unhelpful remark. All it does is make the employee feel bad without any way to improve performance.

9. "You're lucky that you have a job." On hearing this, the best employees start looking for a different job and the worst ones freeze up, worrying that they'll be fired.

10. "That's a dumb idea." A remark like this, especially when delivered during a brainstorming session, ensures that employees never surface another idea.

11. "You're doing a lousy job." When employees are floundering, the boss needs to throw them a rope, not point out that they're about to drown.

12. "You look cute today." Just don't go there. Ever.

13. "What's wrong with you?" It's insulting enough to be told that you're wrong, but it's beyond insulting to imply that the wrongness is part of who you are.

14. "Why are you so lazy?" To be useful, criticism must address the behaviors than need changing, not character or personality issues.

15. "I knew you'd fail." If the boss knew that the employee would fail, why assign that project? To make the employee feel bad?

16. "I told you so." Even if (especially if) you warned the employee that an approach wouldn't work, gloating should be beneath you.