Thank God I have never asked any of these questions

A thread like this will be very profitable to many young guys, that's if people are willing to share their experiences

Mine goes thus

I met this girl at GCE centre and I got to know that she stays in the same area with me dated me. I showered her with loads of care and affection but unknown to me that she was having an affair with another dude. There was a day she came to my place and told me she wanted to log in her facebook with her phone. Before she logged in, she mistakenly clicked on "remember my password" and that was what exposed her.

Later at night, I also wanted to check my own facebook when her username and password were staring at me (though her password was hidden). I just clicked log in and decided to explore her in box when I saw the shock of my life. A dude sent message to her about how he enjoyed the bleeping my girlfriend gave to her. I just screenshot it and showed it to her the next day. She started begging me that she didn't know what went over her to sleep with the dude and that it was the devil's work. Smh

This one isnone of my business

If you believe this dude is 21years then you can believe any poo

OP, what about Mushin?

I'm beginning to lose my trust in this administration

OP you forget the ones wey go use juju trap you down the moment they know you're good on the bed

Tosyne you rock!... Good questions I must say .

Smileprince:
Very interesting comments so far.

All I'll say is, that girl have started cheating on you OP before you guys broke up. That her behaviour of not responding well to you before you guys parted ways was as a result of her seeing someone else. And she probably wait for you to break up with her, when you did she was happy and moved on with her life.
Now after months she realised that the guy she went after doesn't love him. You'll definitely be the best person in her life and hence coming back to you. But the truth is she doesn't deserve you and if you don't leave her now you'll be tied down by having sex with her.

Sex would make you think she loves you. Please just let her go now before its too late.

She doesnt feel remorsefly for the act... Though, I have collected my own share quite a few number of times since she returned back but I still feel like she's not someone I can rely on

sben2308:





Bro av once been in ur shoe and I will ask u these questions

1. Do u love her ?

2. Y do u love her ?

3. R u dating her because is a virgin or cuz u love her ?

If u can answer these questions wit all honesty and u now discover u love her. I assure u that she will forever love u cuz am a living testimony.

Date woman cuz u love her not cuz she is a virgin .There is a difference

I used to love her but not anymore... My love her was not attached to virginity... My only worry is that the trust is gone, which made me seek advice if it is risky or not to still embark on the relationship

andyanders:
Don't marry out of SYMPATHY because you cannot and will NEVER have any trust as her past MUST continue to hurt and hunt you.


What you don't know cannot kill you. If you get married to her in future, every of her move, you will keep suspecting her even if she is not guilty.

Op, for coming hear to voice it out, from what you stated herein, you cannot love her no matter what. Take a walk and allow her be.

It takes the grace of God Almighty to forget and forgive an issue like this. A white man can let go an issue like this, but a black man has the heart of a lion when relationship is involved and tend to be more over possessive of their women.

Thank you very much for this advice bro

drpossibilities:


Brother, you may not be able to cope with the thoughts and so I will advice you to quit. I found myself in a similar situation not too long ago. I dated a lady for close to 4 Years and I didn't touch her because she was a Virgin and wanted to remain so till marriage. We had a misunderstanding and for sometime we took a break. When I tried reconciliation moves, she kept on posting me until she finally opened up and said 'She is no longer the girl I used to know' and instantly I knew what she meant. A guy she had not dated for up to six months had already disvirgined her. I felt very bad but wetin man go do. I moved on quickly without any hesitation. Try and do the Same. There are so many good and beautiful women all over the place with their dignity still intact. You will never be able to fully trust this kind of Lady you are talking about and its dangerous for a relationship. Besides, I've often heard that a woman never forgets the man who disvirgined her.

. I'm glad you can reason along with me... The trust is gone already due to the thought I'm habouring

mizzbouqui:
I think the relationship is dead and you might be tempted to cheat since your love for her is not that strong again, you should break up with her before its too late at least you are not breaking her heart, she is definitely still seeing the one who took her virginity, ladies doesn't forget the person they loss their viginity to like that

I think she still has a bond with the dude till date

lagosflexcamp:
smh. Just listen to yourself. You be amateur sha that haven't understood how the mind of an average naija girl works. Look if you have a gf and you are not bang**g her right, trust me, she will never appreciate you nor respect you as her man. If you buy the entire world for her, her cold and cheating attitude won't change towards you.

Most naija girls don't want love( well they don't even understand what love means). What they mostly want is goodsex, your money and your bad boy behavior. I really pity amateurish guys like you sha. Na una dey show our naija girls love pass and na bad boys dey enjoy una girlfriends pass.

Op take heart sha bcuz na you fuckup, so don't blame ur gal

It's not like I'm dull or something, since I aim at marrying her, I felt there was no need to rush sex

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand the fuss, you guys broke up, so why do you feel cheated? Its not like its your property, and she can give it to who ever she likes. She didn't sleep with him while you were dating, besides what's the probability you guys will end up married if you had been her first?

hmmmm

blaquemyc:
I inquired if she was still
intact the way I left her and she told me
she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she
was on her period that day).
How were u sure she was pure if you hadn't touch her before? Cuz she told you so?

At least you're a man so you should understand what I'm trying to say.

What can I even say?

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

Well, I already collected my own share unaccountable number of times since she came back... My only fear is that I don't want to make a wrong choice

Laveda:
Eiyaa

Please forgive her if she's really sincere about the whole thing, shít happens, that's if you really love her as you claim..

I'm trying hard to

I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

wristbangle:


With all these moronic claims of yours, how much have you made today? Has the written comment of yours brought any financial benefits, NO! Any moral lesson, NO!

It's a pity that the level of unemployment has demoted the intelligence of so many graduates to a loaf of bread and they further display their level of stupidity just because telecom providers give free MB hereby using such cheap opportunity to dish out trashy and senseless comments.

It's enough na! Haba! Don't you have something tangible to do?

Tosyne2much, kindly ignore him henceforth.

Joblessness and idleness is the root of all evil.. I also wonder how someone will spend 5 hours online switching various account to bully someone that is far above him

FG is becoming annoying these days

This country sha

TheValiant:


[b]My "mom" Sinaj is barely 23, a graduate of a Federal University with a bachelors degree in Psychology.

Tosyne2much is 28 years old, still a student of ekiti state poly, no job, tons of carry-over's, his family is broke, he is broke and his only claim to relevance is making a list of "ten reasons why women lie" to post on NL.

Compare and contrast. My "mom" Sinaj has achieved feats you will only dream about. You on the other hand, age isn't clearly on your side as you have barely two years to clock 30 and you're still a f00l. In 10 years time, you will be stamped a f00l forvever!

Ever since I discovered you, I decided I'll be in support of abortion (in cases of incest). You're so stvpid, you actually thought you could score diddy.diva's cunnt if you buy her a phone, right? But the chic dumped your boring ass and citied your "childishness" as her reasons for dropping you like a bad habit!

You're soo unlucky, at 28, you have no life outside an online forum. Your life is barren and docile! You were turned down by roughly every female on NL for being "childish". Accursed ekiti brought-up. The harsh realities of your pathetic existence are the very reasons your I.Q nosedived since diddy.diva dumped you!

At 28, you keep asking ladies for nudes? Tosin, a nairalander tried to help you scale virginity by inviting your wretched ass to her house in delta state but you refused! Why? Is it that you couldn't afford bus fare? Or maybe because you'd rather spend time masturbatingg your already barren life away? Were you cursed?


Obi is a boy! You're older than me, but I'm typing this from the comfort of my SUV.
If you need picture proof, I'll send you some.


By the time you realise that you've wasted your life wanking and posting thrash on an online forum, by the time you take your sperm stained fingers off your tiny black dick, your mates would've become captains of industries while you stay forever impoverished! Useless son of dead-beat drunk! [/b]

And if you devote the time you use in researching someone's life, your life will be worth living and I guess you won't have time for the poo you have been posting

I say receive sense and job IJN

I'm definitely going to eat it oooo

tosyne2much:
You come here to display an height of STUPIDITY and ILLITERACY yet you claimed it was humor. That your pathetic being shifted the blame on my lack of sense of humor clearly shows your height of dumbness and illiteracy is unquantifiable . When a wise man reads something, he overlooks the blunders in it and will use his intuition to read meaning to it. A foolish attention retard like you lack good intuition, therefore, you will look for a way to show your foolishness to the world.

Lemme get something into your dumb skull, illiteracy is not only measured by the inability to read, write or speak coherent English, but the inability to take to simple correction and accept one's wrong doing.

I won't be surprised if most of you who form ambassadors for grammar on Nairaland end up being the students battling with loads of carryovers in school.

You can come here to say thrash because you have no idea of how hard it is to come up with an article. Keep wasting your time on Nairaland forming English scholar while the grammatically deficient ones keep smiling to their banks to deposit and withdraw millions of Naira

I doubt if she can survive this brutality

This thread will be very interesting and I urge Lalasticlala to move it to the front page so that guys will learn

This reminds me when a lady told me she lost her virginity when she fell from okada after a strenous day at school. I just shook my head and didn't utter a word

Almost every Nigerian girl is guilty of num 1.... I have come across ladies who are guilty of num 2.. A lady recently deleted me on BBM cos I gave her format when she begged money for data subscription

Capernaum:
This article is total crap. Speak for yourself, don't generalize.

Be like say the thread don hit you abi?

ogaprime:

What if what he is doing is putting food on his table??

Putting food on his table?... Don't be a fool bro

Smellymouth:
Eleyi gidi gaan





But to gbensh nor be by force na

Are you so jobless that you always have time to customize picture for every comment? Sometimes I ask myself if you have anything useful doing with your life out there