₦airaland Forum

hatchy:
I had an ugly experience on Sunday.

what happened?

aribisala0:
You sound childish
Are people rich in Nigeria
Why do people like to pretend like they live in a world the rest of us don't inhabit

Poverty is the reality of most Nigerian families
And I have no doubt your family is not exempt
Is that how your parents hang out ? Having fun?

No mind the yeye guy.The truly rich people in Nigeria are not quick to call others poor. It's wannabe rich like him that do that.

COMPAQ:
Nowhere did he say that the hang out involved a female!! The guilt of the female folks clearly haunts them!!

Them know dem selves very well na,say na liability dem be. It pains them very well when you expose them.

Omo,Una still dey take babe out for this 2025? Na last year I stop that shit. If you no fit find me come house then forget it.if I feel like going out,I go by myself,no pressure to impress anybody.only me self go out,I know how much I dey spent,so if I add one liability now my pocket go cry and at the end of the day she no go still dey grateful. It's not worth the stress anymore.

Them go scam who dey use debit card na...people that do transfer cannot be scammed.

Jumbojax:
They sell you a lifestyle they don't buy themselves

Because that's what sells. So don't blame them, it's simply business.

Arabk25:
I have to be blumbed with the truth here brother. That's why you hardly see the white guys get married. Tell yourself the truth when was the last you see marriage posters nowadays compare to far back 2000s

My married class mate from secondary school was telling me that people in our graduation set are rarely getting married. Same guy was pressuring me to get married. He didn't bother to find out reasons most of our guys we all grew up together are avoiding marriage but sha want to push me into it. For my mind I just dey say this guy no like me ooooo

Arabk25:
Hard fact marriage is indeed a stupid decision and a financial mistake if I had knew what I know now I wouldn't have venture into marriage. Even the female folks will clearly tell you if they make money they don't have need for any man or whatsoever, so why can't it be the same for the male countapant

My former colleague said exactly the bolded. Only sincere men that like you would tell their unmarried friends these words. The rest would pretend to enjoy their marriage and even pressure you to enter the same bondage they are in after all they say "misery loves company".[b]

BRATISLAVA:
And who told you that because they do simple weddings that you must, too? What about those of them who have glamorous or reasonable wedding celebrations? Why is that never exemplary?

There's a lot of cherry picking because of poverty.

who did we copy white wedding from? Or you want to copy only some part and leave the rest? Go and check,oyibo hardly do loud weddings. Of course,there are outliers. Na we dey loud,to the extent we borrow to impress those that don't give a Bleep about us.

BRATISLAVA:
Poverty has restructured Africans into wanting little weddings.

You don't get wedded everyday, so why do so little towards it?

It is not about porverty. You get money reach oyibo when dey do simple wedding?

Where the food when them dey share for here? Abi no pics?

Coolis:
I wish l never heard of forex trading, last 6yrs of hustling all gone down the drain. In my delusional state, l kept hoping that l would make money from trading the forex market, the more l gets obsess with trading to recover lost money, the more losses l records. At 45yr, got nothing to show for. I look back and l say to myself that l have wasted 45yrs of my life and how many years do l have to spend on earth? I curse the day l heard about forex trading. Who will deliver me from the destructive path l found myself?

😂😂😂😂,man life no easy bros

Gerrard59:
It's actually good men are setting standards. After the reign of online feminazism and a harsh economy, men are demanding more than just being a "woman". Whether this online rhetoric applies in real life, I don't know.

Sure, an adult female, just like every adult, should be able to cater for the basics of life's necessities. However, women still bill. It's innate in them.

If I may ask,when did this feminism become popular in Nigerian social media? I guess it's recently.

Gerrard59:
Why do some of our men have this belief that a lady who isn't broke won't be demanding or bill you?

Being a demanding or billing babe has nothing to do with a woman's financial status. Women are generally billiers. I classify them as an expense.

The thing is men are now setting standards for themselves just like women. It is very good. Women in their teens will all tell you they wanna marry a rich man. It is with time and after experiencing harsh reality they begin to lower the bar. I know most women bill,but there are some kind of billings I hate to entertain. Billings like airtime, sanitary pads,food e.tc. An adult female should be able to cater for such personal bills else she is not worthy to be in a relationship.

lexy2014:
according to you



is having "a lot of influence on children" the same thing as "raising a child"?

how does community having influence on children because they interact with the community mean that the community raises children?

I am done explaining to you. If you still don't get it,just rest.

1. Trust nobody
2. You are all you have got when the chips are down.
3. Humans wear masks, nobody is entirely genuine.
4. People worship money.
5. Be selfish,be ruthless,be firm.
6. It's a crime to care too much or love too much and you would be punished for it.
7. Betrayal comes from people close to you, people you call friends.
8. Do not keep friends,keep disposable pieces.
9. Every relationship or interaction is transactional.make sure you are benefitting or cut it lose.
10. A man is only valued by what he provides. So before you provide make sure it's truly worth it.
11. Your colleagues in the office are not your friends. Do your job,get paid and go home.
12. All Women are natural manipulators,be cautious when dealing with them.
13. Sometimes,the major breakthrough you need will come from a place you least expect it, possibly from strangers.

lexy2014:
how does community having influence on children because they interact with the community mean that the community raises children?

"it takes a village to raise a child". This statement means alot. Parents are not with their kids 247 so the rest time kids spend with their peers,in school,in church,in libraries, sports teams e.t.c is the the time they are getting raised by the community.

lexy2014:
how does community having influence on children because they interact with the community mean that the community raises children?

yes,they interact with the community so to an extent the community shapes and mold them. Compare two persons,one raised in northern Nigeria,second in southern Nigeria. You would notice the difference in their thought process simply because of the environment they grew up in.

occfx:
Your narrative is wrong... Imagine been raised by a single mother.

Biology is nature at work and you cant defeat it.

The problem with marriage is culture, tradition and rules. Remove these three things, you will see like minds cohabit peacefully with each other. Goto university hostels... Some people are living happily with themselves like husband and wife but immediately society is informed, problem starts.

There is a reason why poor people last in marriage than rich and enlightened people. Funny thing is you see the poor man and his miserable wife having 7 to 9 kids in peace. That's the level of connection they have with constant intimacy... The only problem those kind of people have is food. Not gender equality or any nonsense. Imagine if economy is good and they feed well, they will likely have a happier home than most elites.

Human beings should emulate animals... Simple and short.

I like your point....we don't need to emulate animals,we are animals already.it is too many rules, societal and religious pressure that is causing most problems in marriage.

Nigeria can happen to anybody.

lexy2014:
how does community and society raise children?

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community has alot of influence on children. The people they interact with daily can shape their characters.

Softmirror:
People who speak ill about marriage are people who don't want to take responsibility. Marriage is all about being responsible.

it seems you have a different meaning for "responsible". So a full grown man responsible for himself is not responsible because he chose not to get married?

Urgent1Million:
People say things according to their experience.
Planes crash but people still fly.
Cars crash but people still drive them.
People suffer food poisoning but people still eat food.
There are so many good things about marriage, allegedly.
Don't take my word for it.
Get married and find out yourself.

FYI, I am not married and not planning to.

why are you wicked?

APOPTOSIS:
IF you must marry, please marry a woman that has a lot to offer 2u for you are the prize and not them. U have no expiration date.
Na man dey propose! Wake up Guys
Do everything to avoid a Liability.
Avoid Gals from Poor Homes with Poor Ideology especially when you're struggling to find your feet. ....na Poverty reloaded be that.

Avoid an Empty Gal.
Do everything possible to avoid such.
Before marriage, take a time to study your prospective Mother-in-law.

Visit the family and leave your phone's voice recorder on, leave it beside the entire family making such her mom is around, while you excuse yourself to use the restroom.
Come back and thank me.

Far better to marry a widow than a single mother. Make sure she is not a TikToker.

you na real OG.... it's a must to know what your potential mother in-law thinks of you before you commit. Your gal will eventually turn to her when she grows old.

Manculated:


Seems you Stolee this Master Piece from me.

lol...I guess life taught us similar lessons.

1. Be selfish with your time and resources.
2. No dey send women.
3. Do not impress anyone but yourself.
4. Only invest in things that bring money,knowledge or skills.
5. Avoid religion,it will cripple you mentally if you are not careful.
6. Do not follow trends,think for yourself.
7. Focus on making money cos last last na only your money go save you for this life.
8. Avoid seeking external validation. Learn to validate yourself.
9. Trust no one.
10.Everyone around you is there for benefits.once they stop getting benefits,they will disappear.

CorperKola:
Everyman na superman, Man no need anybody

bros,e no easy for man. I no dey blame irresponsible men again cos to be a responsible man now na serious war.

advanceDNA:
Baba is down with his mental health impaired, and limited resources that isn't enough to for all this fertility issues.....
But His wife needs him ??Who does he need?? Abi man nor need help.??

Man life hard...even with his mental health issues,his wife needs him...him no get needs.

Spandau:
She is lying.

Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge. Your knowledge level is definitely low

wanimo:
Shame on Nigeria. I feel embarrassed being called a Nigerian

If that girl wants to get her certificate of discharge this week, she should just say something bad about Obi.

Castigating and insulting Obi is Tinubu's mumu button

😂😂😂😂
Why you dey drop free updates?

Successsearch90:
Hmmm. Not sure of how to react to this sha. But me I no fit buy Nigerian used sha. NEVER

why na?