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This is wrong in every way.

Marriage is kept by love not money. I hate that we try to tie everything to money nowadays.

People who are rich also get divorced. So clearly, money will not keep marriage.

If you have all the money in the world and you get married to someone with all the money too without any desire for each other, it's clearly won't work.

But if you love someone genuinely and without any money, then you both can work together and live a modest life together.

There are government schools in this country where you can school your children for free.

Most Nigerians have little incomes over 100k per month and are successfully married and raising their kids.

Yes sometimes, life gets hard for these people, but they endure it together.

My father was a police man with 5 children. We lived for a long time in a single room and all of us attended school.

It wasn't money keeping his marriage but love.

Most of us came from humble beginnings. It wasn't money but genuine desire by our parents to build a beautiful family.

They didn't revolve their entire world around finance.

Finance was not worshipped.

You may say, one day emergency will come and you'll need enormous amount of money to solve the problem.

But I tell you, this almost never happens. And if it happens, well it happens. Not every problem can be solved.

There are also health issues which your money cannot solve.

Steve Jobs with all his billions died of cancer like every other poor man would have.

Please I beg you as a young woman or man, build your house on love.

I'll be plain with you.

It's all about sex.

Everything relationship between a man and a woman is all about the sex in it for the man.

There's nothing else you can offer a man that his male friend cannot offer 10x better.

Castrate a man and see if he'll ever desire to marry a woman for "something" else.

Diamond098454:
Can you stay? It's not all about sex
Everything is not sex sex sex sex

Una like deceive unaself eh. Which one is no man can stay without a woman?

Remove the urge for sex, most men will never talk to a woman from birth to death.

Trust me, y'all are not that great in the way you think.

You can't keep a conversation. You can't spend on a man. He can't discuss his problems with you. He can't ask you for help. He cannot ask you to fight for him. He needs to protect u. You cannot have his back in anything.

He tolerates you for sex and offspring. Every other thing he gets from his male friends.

Diamond098454:
Women give peace of mind very well that's why no man can stay without a woman

If you don't open earpiece to test, how do you choose the one that's working?

dominique:
Some Nigerians take advantage of the saying that "the customer is king" and put sellers through all sorts of stress. Why would you be expecting sellers to unpack and repack several of the items they're selling because you want to patronise them? After all that stress, you'll end up not making any purchase. You went at night, do you know how many of your likes they've had to deal with all day? You buyers need to put yourselves in the shoes of the sellers once a while.

Secondly, if it's too late at night and you think customers coming in are "disturbing" you, then close your shop and go home.

Some of una no just get sense ah swear

I have never tasted this before.

I have also not eaten snail or crab before or those big shrimps.

My father and younger sister can eat everything but never me.

I wish he was here still. I would gladly have eaten anything with him now

Something happened a few weeks ago that made me realize something.

Buying from an igbo man shop with an igbo attendant is a whole different level of customer experience.

Like you could almost feel the difference in the experience like night and day.

It gets to a point sometimes when you enter a shop and it's not an igbo selling to you, you'll just know without being told.

Last week I wanted to get earpiece from a shop. This is not my first time there. Probably my third or fourth time.

So I asked the sales girl for their earpiece available and she brought two. I tested the two, one was not working while the other was good but the sound quality was poor.

You know how these earpiece are.

So I asked her to bring another one let me test and she started complaining. "you're just opening these earpiece. I hope you'll repack all of them when you're through".

I told her that's her work as the shop attendant.

Then she went on to say rudely that's how you people will not buy anything you'll just come and give somebody work.

This actually made me angry because how I go live my house for night waka come your shop just to open earpiece?

I just told her if I don't get earpiece that's working, should I just pay for it?

Anyways, I was becoming irritated and decided to leave the shop.

I tried the one close to my house and the girl started the same thing before I even open the first earpiece to test.

That as I am opening that earpiece if you don't like it, you'll have to repackaged it o. It's not me you're giving that kind of work.

I immediately flipped on her. Probably because I don dey vex from the previous shop and told her straight away that if there's an igbo shop here nothing for even carry me near their shop.

And it was too late for me to go to the market that night if not why will I be here trying to get earpiece from her.

I've been buying earpiece always from igbo shop and no time has any of them ever asked you to repackage their products.

In fact as you're opening one to test it, they are opening another one for you incase you don't like the first one.

Na you go come dey even fear to disappoint am incase you no later come buy.

You'll still hear "oya test this one. You no like am? Oya make I go carry another one from shop come".

You will almost feel guilty not to pay for their products.

But here, these our TIV people will just be doing anyhow.

Look at the provision store on our street. Even though this man close to us is a local and friendly with people, most people still prefer to visit the igbo man shop closest to him.

Even me that he's shop is just beside my gate, I still trek a little to the igbo man provision store.

Because anytime I go to this TIV man shop, it's almost like he's doing me a privilege to buy things from him.

He'll first gist with his friends or do whatever he's doing before attending to you. Sometimes he'll not even acknowledge you until he's done and you'll just stand there like mumu or you have nothing doing thinking whether to leave or stay and wait.

But never the igbo guys. It's almost like nothing matters. As you are coming that's how they are attending to you. It doesn't matter what they are doing, they'll leave it first or apologize if it's really important.

Honestly, the igbo people do something right about this selling. Selling no be to just open shop and stock up o.

After ss3 everyone thought they have arrived. Not knowing the game is just getting started.

Here they start lookin down on their teachers, feeling like they are failures.

Waterlilly:
They will later regret all these shit

Next tomorrow was nothing but today it's something.

Gator is fine. You cannot say sharp crease to refer to the specific line on the trouser.

A sharp crease can mean a lot of things and more importantly, it's not specific.

Not everything is known in the English language and it's a sign of low intelligent to try and give everything an English name.

Just as some people call akara, bean cake or whatever.

It's gator. It's what we call it.

Why not add Friday?

Muslims need Friday as holiday

I didn't ask for your advice

nairalanda1:
Spend time with your future kids, daughter of man

I don't have kids. And I'm not your son

nairalanda1:
Spend time with your kids, son.

It's his belief and right

DeepSightZ:
THIS LINE ALONE REVEALS YOUR STATE OF MIND WHICH IS WORRISOME -



You need to refocus your life. You have no valid complaints.


Ordeal?

Hahahahahahahaha!

So why is he still campaigning?

I rest my case

nairalanda1:
Depends, but was he like that all the time?

Also being at home early does not neccesarily equal spending time with children. Papa can say he gat no time, he too tired.

I doubt if it's a matter of spending time with the boys.

For him to be home before the boy shows he's probably a home guy especially since he has money.

It's like my uncle, regardless of how good a business is or party is, he's always home before 8pm. Never beyond it.

nairalanda1:
Probably... but it is also a product of neglectful parenting

Man who died was rich. He was busy making money...wonder if he had time for his son

EVERY FATHER, who has boys must spend time with his boys. The more time the man spends with the boys, regardless of poverty or riches, the better the boys go turn out. Yes, boys model themselves on their father. NO woman can do this...which is why many single mothers with male kids struggle with bringing them up, unless they can find them strong male role models.

If you check very well, na product of gentle parenting

It's ugly though. The old ones look sharper

This our obsession with imaginary "winnings" will be the end of us.

What exactly did chike win?

You don't push anyone to cheat

But we are only seeing taxes without development.

And even more so, reckless borrowing without any tangible development.

I've seen this play out before.

Some girls will accuse their partner of cheating and then go outside to cheat on the same partner.

In the end, they will say it's revenge but in reality, their partner never cheated on them before.

They created the scenario in their head and acted on it.

You're a bad friend

Your problem is thinking they are block headed.

Another problem is thinking they want to help.

CodeTemplar:
Few days ago i was reading about the heavy use of drones in USA by criminals to deliver contraband to their comrades within prison facilities. Cant our block-headed, islamist army n police figure out a way to use drones to sneak supply into midst of captives until they get released or rescued?
Nigeria is a very hopeless entity.

As una dey box, understand say insurance no dey o.

Nigeria no be America. If anything do you, you're on your own o

Everybody wanna be the topic of discussion.

"Please go up there, accept your lil award and go back to your POP, tiles everywhere, white painted houses and let us rest. You're just acting movies not some revolutionary life saving jobs"

When I see rules or guides today, first thing I ask myself is:

Who are you to make these rules or guides for me to follow?

Someone in his or her tiny room will think up things and write them on the internet and expect you to follow it

Then don't follow one way

joseph032:
Most people commenting, i and very sure you dont have a Car. In a Country that the police will intentionally make you follow one way. By removing the Sign or setting trap for you.

Let the Government provide clear Signboard indication of One way road, let the Officer help in redirecting people not aware, not looking at them just to look if they did follow.

Yes 500k is too much 50-100k is fine, the goal is for one to learn not to try it again.

Not everybody that have a Car have upto 100k in his or her account. Not when this Useless Government APC is on Sit.

Dem dey comot money from akagum hand?

Sonnobax15:

Guy relax. That nigha who sent you that message is her serious dude. They've connived and wanted to bill you. Na so the whole thing just be,.

So I've been chatting with this girl for a while now.

We are both students in the same school. But different departments.

Sometimes things move well. Sometimes it just feels impossible.

I'm not talking about love here. My intentions was just to sleep with her.

She's cute but not in a special kind of way.

We've not met because she has been dragging her feet.

The last time we were supposed to meet my younger brother was staying with me and I didn't want to ask him to give me space.

So, when she wanted to come I told her not to because of that. Though I didn't tell her plainly though.

Now she's the kind of girl that loves billing. Any small thing, she'll just type "guy help me with 1k."

Or help me with 2k. Some afternoon that's all she just text.

From experience I now know that girls randomly text their toasters to bill them simultaneously.

This is like business to some of them. So, I always respond with I don't have.

And I already explained to her from the beginning that nothing will make me send her a kobo as long as I never see her or touched her before.

Maybe she thought I'm desperate or something or that I'll feel ashamed one day because she's asking me too many times.

But where my mindset dey, one kobo no fit comot from my account enter any girl account for nothing.

Now here's the worrisome part.

A few days ago, her brother (so he said and she said) and was asking me for money. He sent me like a minute voice note via her WhatsApp explaining how he was hungry and needed money to feed.

He then said the sister is not around and that she told him I'm one of the friends she trusted and I could help him with small money to feed

In my mind I was like, this guy never know who him dey try whine

Naso I hit am with my own whining o: at the moment I don't have anything to give you.

Then he was like you are toasting my sister and you can't even help out.

Ha! I look like una family saviour? Ontop girl wey I never chop?

I've never seen a guy going this Low before sha.

Naturally if someone is toasting my sister I no even fit keep face for am talk more of begging him for money.

It was just so weird.

Hepatitis b and c can literally stay dormant and never affect your life till you die.

Except you combine it with excess alcohol intake.

HIV on the other hand will definitely affect you later.

Leepeak:
HIV is nothing naa
Dem see they fear HIV again lol not really
Cancers, hapatitis B and C worst pass HIV, even kidney disease that dialysis worst

Alot of people actually have HIV but they don't know
Only hepatitis B and C test when I do fear finished me only to come out negative, same with HIV so nothing Rong with HIV and the stigma just take your ARV
Nothing special life goes on

Was the pharmacist supposed to shout so everyone will know she has HIV?

He did what was right which is to lower his voice before giving her the HIV drugs in a crowded pharmacy.