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Merry100:
Successful men even often prefer women who are high achievers in their own right; not obscure women.

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This is your problem.

You say "you're not a woman, so you have no right to tell us what a woman want"

But at the same time, you tell us what men want even when a man says that's not what men want.

No. Men are not hermaphrodite because a hermaphrodite is someone with both male and female reproductive parts

Secondly, there's something called a baseline for everyone.

I don't need to be a prophet to know all humans must like good food. The kind of food they like might be different but the baseline is "all humans like good food"

The same with men. All men like beautiful women before anything else a woman might offer.

All men like women other men cannot touch after this (most men won't care if such a woman is a virgin or not but once they commit to her, they want to know that she is no longer offering herself to other men anymore) .

And after this, they want a respectful woman who is submissive, listens to them and want to do things for them.

Take this woman and give to any man and promise him that she'll never change and he'll marry her today even if he's just meeting her.

We don't think alike, this is why our idea of beauty is very different. I consider a woman beautiful if she has a fine face, light skin with tiny bóóbs and big backside.

This is my idea of beauty. Other men dont consider this as beauty.

Merry100:
If all men think alike, as you claim, then logically, it is possible that you are a hermaphrodite, not just a man. The funniest part is that you even mentioned virgins. Can you name just ten highly respected successful men who married a virgin

Virginity is not a funny part. All things being equal, any man would rather choose a virgin than a second hand woman.

But if a man can't get a virgin and he meets a girl that's beautiful, respectful and submissive, he'll still marry her.

Now, did you see any mention of success in the requirement?

Now when a woman is successful, she suddenly puff up her shoulders, raise her standards to high heaven thinking she has something.

Something no man ever desired or wants in a woman. It's like going to a blind town and selling mirrors. And because you're the only seller, you raise your price high thinking they have no option apart from buying from you.

Yes, you can raise your prices higher than anything else as a sole seller and yes, mirrors are good but it's not useful or of no use to the blinds.

So, in the end, you have beautiful mirrors selling at high prices but no one is buying because no one will use it in a blind town.

The same with successful women. They get successful, raise their standards based on that and then go to places where "richer" men are and want those men to chase after them.

These richer men just are not interested in what they are selling.

Like I always say: successful women are a joke when it comes to dating.

Until they can go into the gutter and pick up a man, bath him, brush him up and put him in their house and provide for him, their success is a joke.

This is a very lazy argument and one that is extremely contradictory to the Bible.

For one, God has never revealed himself to any man simply because the man is wealthy.

God himself was born in a lowly place. To a carpenter.

The one he revealed himself to, John the Baptist was considered a mad man roaming in the desert and eating wild honey.

But today, you want to convince people to believe in the same God because the richest man said he believes in him?

So, Tinubu believes in another God, so should we consider believing in what Tinubu believes in?

Is our faith in man made money, power and positions now or on convictions that comes from God?

No man comes to me except the father allows it. Preach to people and let God convince and convict them.

Your power of logic and reasoning cannot convict any one. It only breeds arguments like this one.

Let God convicts and convince the heart of men but you on the other hand, just preach the gospel.

Your job is not to convince people to believe.

You know such men just like every woman knows men who would give her a million dollars but she's never dating such men.

My dear, the men you know is more or less a single grain at the seashore.

Myself, I know men who are billionaires, doesn't mean I go about feeling like all men are billionaires or that majority of men are billionaires.

The men you know are less than 0.00000000000001 percent of most men.

Merry100:
😂😂😂 This is cracking me up. Many nairaland guys often act like they are the standard for every man in Nigeria and the world. I know men who would never date a woman who is a liability, and only want women who are already doing well on their own.

what I'm telling you here is what almost any man you meet today will agree with regardless of whether you know them or not.

And yes, any man here can be the standard for men everywhere in this world.

See, men's requirements for dating and marriage is so simple, it's almost predictable.

As a man, I know every man wants a beautiful woman, a virgin (or at most a woman who doesn't sleep around), a woman who respects him, knows how to keep a conversation going and ontop of that, loves to do things for him.

Take this and give to any man and he'll gladly marry such a girl. Of course there's a few variations like "what does a man consider beautiful?"

It's almost predictable. This is why a father can easily marry a wife for his son. All he needs is to know what his son considers as beautiful.

The rest is something that is universal. It's very very simple. Na una wey be girls just dey form akara.

It's not Nollywood. It's reality.

Ronaldo married a salesgirl.

Messi married who we don't know. Check out any rich well known man and then try to see the girl beside him if she's anything successful.

Any know male celebrity in Nigeria married some obscure woman you only got to know because he married her.

This is a bankable fact. Men marry for beauty. Your money is nothing

Merry100:
Try to avoid forming your perspective based on nollywood movies; many of them are fictional. Instead, listen to real-life experiences from people. Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status. Subscribe to Mrs. Ibukun Awosika's YouTube channel to learn more life lessons.

Again you prove my point saying this:

"Successful men don't necessarily prioritize poor women or avoid successful women; those are just nollywood tales. Many men choose women they are genuinely interested in, regardless of their status."

You see, men don't prioritize wealth or poverty in women.

They marry who they desire and what evokes desires in men?

1. Physical beauty 2. Purity and innocence 3. Respect and submissiveness

Now, a woman who's 30+ with money and high standards or whatever lacks all these qualities.

Now put her in the dating pool with all the other jobless women who possess the above qualities, why should a man pick her over the others?

Merry100:
When a man and a woman reach a stage of comfort, they won't want to jeopardize that comfort for anything. Some might even decide not to get married.

this reeks of Facebook reels feminist lifestyle where they come into an empty house, light up a candle, grab a glass of wine or whatever with their cats and talk about how they don't want to jeopardize their comfort

Again I won't speak for women but any man in this world seeks to be with a woman who only sleeps with him.

He wants a family more than anything. In fact, from the day a man reaches puberty, he starts fantazin about making money, marrying the girl of his dream and living together forever.

It's his basic biology. Of course, circumstances make men avoid this today but to say, he doesn't want to jeopardise his "comfort" is a big lie.

He just can't find the love. Jeff bezos has all the comfort and never cared sending his wife away.

But he risked it all again to get married. Forget those social media reels and face real life. Loneliness is not comfort.

Money does not have a face or character. Those you see pursuing men with money or status are often average women looking for elevation, or women who are used to being sponsored by a man and want an even more successful man to take over that role.

Many successful women simply need a good man who will treat them right, regardless of their status; not a man who will turn their peaceful, queen-like life into a problematic one.

This is another fat lie. A woman no matter how successful still want a man who is more successful than herself.

You hear them saying she can't settle for less. A millionaire woman is out here looking for a billionaire husband who she can submit to. Anything less than that and she's "settling"

And so, the average broke girl is no different from the successful woman, both are running after richer men.

These richer men (depending on the level of the woman) have various options. A man like Davido doesn't care if Chioma is a millionaire or a broke student from Nsukka.

All he cares about is whether she's beautiful, intelligent and respectful. Her wealth is not important to Davido.

And so, the "successful women" after climbing all the ladder to get to the top where they are realize that when it comes to dating they still need to compete with the average girl who has achieved nothing in life.

Why? Because the men don't just care about her wealth. Her wealth is not giving her any upper hands.

And so, she's up there with her "high standards and tastes for luxury" and no man is pricing her market because 1. There are prettier and younger girls for these men 2. These average broke girls are more respectful and submissive.

So, she's rich and successful with high standards but no man is desiring her.

Many of them can easily date average men who are doing reasonably well on their own. It is men who are still struggling for survival that they mostly avoid, because many of those men are very insecure and create unnecessary problems.

like I said above, a successful woman still wants a more successful man.

A millionaire woman wants a billionaire man. But to that billionaire man, she's just a woman like every other woman. So why would pick her instead of the young and beautiful broke girl from Nsukka village?

A billionaire man has no problem marrying a salesgirl or a pos operator girl because all women are the same.

So, again these women are rich and looking to date richer men who don't want to date them.

Younger men, just like divorced men and older men (more than 20 years older), tend to be more predictable. They are often very good at caring for a woman. It is not just about money; they give women the respect they deserve.

the only option for rich successful women are Okada men, labourers and farmers.

If a rich man can pick a nail tech or salesgirl to be his wife and change her life, why can't these rich women marry these men and put them at home as "house husbands?"

The point is, a successful woman who goes after a more successful man, essentially zeros her wealth out.

Women's success is an illusion when it comes to dating and men know this. Na una wey be girls no understand the matter.

Merry100:
You are not a woman, so why do you think you are in the best position to explain what we want?

you said this and then went ahead to tell him what men want.

Well I'm not a woman, so I'm not going to tell you what women want.

But as a man I can tell you this confidently:

Never since the history of this world has any man ever listed "successful, money and wealth" as a criteria when looking for the woman of his dream.

Let that sink in slowly.

No man has ever looked at a woman's collection of cars, her bank accounts or the position she occupied in her place of work and say that's the woman for me.

It has never come up any man's group discussion.

Men don't just rate women for money.

What a man ever want and I'll type this in order of importance:

1. Physical beauty
2. Youthfulness
3. Respectfulness and virginity

A man will fall in love with a woman's physical appearance first and approach her. Some men won't care about the virginity provided she's not the type that sleeps around but the respect is very important.

Take this to any man you know and they will agree with this. I mean ANY MAN YOU KNOW IN THIS WORLD.

You see anything about success and wealth there? Men don't care about that.

And the worst part, instead of facing reality, they are blaming men, saying men are intimidated by their success.

How can you be successful and still want to marry a "more successful" man?

What then is the point of your success?

A man wants to be successful so he can be a provider for his spouse and family. And so when he's successful, he can marry a poor lady, a rich lady or any lady his heart desires because he now has the money.

A woman will become successful and want to marry a more successful man, what then is the point of the success?

If you're earning millions and looking for who will still pay your bills, provide for you, then you're not different from the average broke girls.

Even worst, you want more things and then wants to be respected without being submissive because you now have your own money.

So a man who wants to marry you needs to do everything he does for a regular girl at a higher price because you have "tastes and standards" while getting a "louder and less submissive" partner, who's probably older and less pretty.

Don't you see the man is gaining nothing? Why would any sane rich man go for a successful lady when he has better options?

The only way these women can win is to either give up on marriage totally and become baby mamas or go out there and pick an okada man to marry.

Marry one of those Okada men or labourer, put them at home as your "house husband" and provide for them.

Successful men do this. They marry cute, young and lovely pos operators, sales girls, fuel pump attendants or nail technicians all the time.

So why do successful women not do the same thing?

Instead they still want wealthy men who will chase after them.

Successful women are a joke

Omoawoke:
In response to this post. https://www.nairaland.com/8622686/why-many-30-40-something

Ladies may not like this truth

Women empowerment was sold as the ultimate path to freedom, fulfillment, and control over their lives.

Education. Career. Money. Independence.

It sounded perfect.

But nobody warned women about the trade-off.

Biology never changed.

Women still prefer men they respect.
And respect, whether people like it or not, is heavily tied to competence, stability, and economic strength.

Now here is the paradox modern society created:

As women climb higher economically, the number of men they consider equal or acceptable becomes smaller.

Not because men disappeared.

But because hypergamy never disappeared.

It simply collided with equality.

This is why you now see:

– More single, successful women than ever before
– More men opting out of relationships completely
– Marriage ages rising rapidly
– Fertility rates collapsing globally

If he said tomorrow that he's a Muslim and believe in Mohammed, would that change you from Christian to Muslim?

jesusjnr2020:
Imagine when men like Elon Musk (the richest man on the planet, also a frontrunner in the science and technological field of the modern world) and YoungHoon Kim (man with World's Highest IQ on record), would yet be humbling themselves before God their Creator and proudly and publicly taking a stand for Jesus, yet some who can't even lace the shoes of these ones when it comes to their scientific or technological intelligence or prowess, would be feeling their IQ is too high to acknowledge God or use to serve Him because according to them, "it takes someone with a low IQ" to do so.

Well, Wisdom is indeed justified of her children.

God bless.

https://www.nairaland.com/8530263/elon-musk-shares-erika-kirks

https://www.nairaland.com/8457044/younghoon-kim-worlds-highest-iq

"believe all women crew" where una dey o?

Lolz. How does this translate to the same as us replacing our farming with improved seeds that we cannot regrow but must buy from one company every year thereby becoming totally dependent on them in the next 5-10 years?

higgs:
I think the problem is that you lack basic scientific
literacy.Who told you that you don't consume food from GMOs on a daily basis? I guess you don't know that most of the vegetable oil,sugar etc imported into Nigeria are from GMO plants.Do you have the scientific know how to test for GMO? This is exactly the point I am making, most of you will rather criticise and argue endlessly online than actually learn.

These are not tiresome complaints. These are concerns. What's next, if I complain about the government, I should go and form my own government?

D'u really see how ridiculous you sound?

This is the same thing you guys always like to say. When GMO was coming here, the likes of you would have gladly accepted it, without understanding the effect.

The likes of aproko doctor tried to push it, but thanks to outspoken individuals that we are not yoked to it.

You just can't see beyond your nose and reasoning of "go and create it yourself".

higgs:
Instead of these tiresome complaints,why not actually do your own scientific research and develop your own products? This is actually great progress. We hope for a vaccine soon.

the issue of ceiling fan falling almost never happens.

Malagans:
Which of these fans would you rather have in your room?

As for me, I prefer the ceiling fan because the Air from ceiling fan feels for Natural than the standing fan.

My only fear and concern about the ceiling fan is , what if it pulls off the ceiling? The impact of that isn't something to imagine at all.

the peaceful religion and bombs are inseparable

This may seem like cruelty but wait until a thief catches you alone at night and you will understand why they are animals and should recieve such animal treatments.

Watianoengineer:
. This is the worst form of animal cruelty

You cannot avoid billing. Learn to say no to the billing.

We are doing subscription for everything nowadays.

Even pharmacists don't look for cure anymore. There's no profit in curing people.

Put them on subscription. Let them pay on a monthly basis. After all, they can't do without it.

The same thing GMO is trying to do with our food production and farming.

Every planting season, farmers will need to buy new seeds from them (basically a subscription).

They can't regrow the seeds they harvest so basically becoming dependant on the company.

The world is becoming a new slavery system. This time around you'll work, live freely while dependent on the system freely and with the money you earn.

So, we should be the one paying for their love?

Bendeco02:
You guys should just leave this matter

Some women don't have feelings of Love again if money is not involve.

Some women can admire you but will never accept relationship from you if they can't benefit financially.

What some of you have to understand is that these young girls can only go for relationship or something serious when they are close to 30 or from 30 years upward.

We men are the ones taking things serious. Most of these young girls are after having fun. They don't even keep one boyfriend.

As you're handsome guy but not financially stable, there are some guys that are handsome, financially stable and easily flex girls with money. How do you expect them to stay with you?. They will rather share that one rich, handsome guy even though they know he is play boy.

Kpokrikpor.... Them no fit find am.

budaatum:
If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

another female blackmailing men again.

So, in other words, if a man is suspicious, instead of doing everything to dispense away his suspicion, you'd rather he just have blind faith?

You guys often forget that relationship is "hard work" and not some bed of roses.

If i come to you with lipstick on my cheek, I'd rather explain to you why the lipstick is there and provide every proof you need to make a well informed decision if you want to go ahead with me.

And this may include visiting the clinic if it comes to that to show that I am clean instead of blackmailing you with "you don't trust me and that will damage our relationship"

Trust is EARNED. Read that again, trust is EARNED through years of proving yourself over and over again.

So, if you love your partner, you'll get your lazy așš off your blackmailing high horse and come down to provide reasons why they should trust you.

You no be god.

And yes, you can leave if you want. You won't be the first. I wonder why women often feel leaving their partner is some big deal instead of dealing with the situation.

Both of you are "in love", so why should he fear you leaving the same love? Because you're "worth something" and he's not?

How many people invent things and take it to the president directly in other countries?

This is a big problem in Africa.

If they invent any small thing, they want to be turned into charity cases.

They want the attention of the president or some "big" men or politicians.

These people are not in the best position to help you.

Go to your industry and seek out the key players who can either invest or buy the invention of your hand.

Everyone wants to pepper someone.

Can't you be happy, let them also be happy? And we all move on?

My happiness no mean say you go dey sad. The sky is large enough for everyone

Oga seun right now

BarrElChapo:
Una dey bypass. There’s nothing you want to tell me

ok. i'm not telling you anything

Do you view only the status of those you have something romantic with?

Some of us don't like leaving any status unviewed. Sometimes it's out of boredom.

Sometimes you're just looking for entertainment. Yes people that like you can also be curious trying to see what you're posting.

But saying you want to take that as a greenlight other than just seeing it as someone viewing your status is low.

Chat them up or call them or forget them and wait till they message you.

If una stop to dey engage with him post, you go see say him go die slowly.

They post to provoke a reaction from you and giving such reaction fuels them to post more to provoke you to fuel them more.

If no one answers you when you're talking, you go quiet naturally. As una dey engage am, him dey feel important as though he's influencing people.

Stop engaging. Starve them of your attention

Kennitrust:
you no be God oga.


Nsiraland paid nobody.

One day you will find yourself too as an opposition.

Dey play.

All these na long time ago. We've been liberated long enough. Yet look where we are.

There's a time a young man will blame his father for being poor but at a certain age if the young man say the same thing, people will look at him like a fōol.

African is a grown up now but still playing in the mud and blaming colonialism still.

Just as colonialism took away, they also brought a lot to us, democracy, money, processed goods, education, machinery, banks, roads and so on.

Africa should forge ahead but sadly we've not been able to. See China and Japan have almost been burnt to the ground in the past, same as Germany.

Even American was once under British rule but today they've been able to forge ahead.

They do this without blaming anyone but putting their people first and actually wanting to create a future and hope for their children and those after them.

But in Africa, all we are after is the immediate. No clear plans or anything.

Please the west or colonialism is not our problem, most of us here today never saw a single Whiteman ruling in Africa.

helinues:
At least the Chinese are still fair compared to the West.

Did you know China never colonized any Africa countries. The west came ,colonized and explored us and give us religion in exchange.

Russia was part of those who started space race, meaning electronics products mean nothing to them but the West brainwashed African to the extent I have never seen any Russia electronic products before

Like if your daughter gives you gift, if others don't see it, it won't make you happy?

Uteghe:
After seeing what next? Validation hunt shows something is wrong somewhere

Sometimes I wonder how this thing no dey tire people.

broad daylight o.

sometimes we dont really have to blame the mob for mob actions