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So us wey never touch aeroplane before suppose do wetin?

Allow him to use whatever means of transport he wants.

There are many reasons why he may be hiding.

Fans may try to mug him. Enemies can try to shoot him. He may just want to sit in peace. His other transport may be having issues.

He may be broke.

In all, free him. Person wey dey waka before, later make am suppose fit waka again in peace.

Same with me. Nowadays my "I no get" response dey enter before their "abeg help me" text

If i no get money and you no fit vibe with me then dey go. Other girls dey

zanshi:
had an experience with a girl like this sometimes ago

everytime buy me this, buy me that till i cut her off.

sometimes men dey give them a benefit of doubt but once they start to do whreey cut dem off.

Seriously.

Most guys don't know they are copying and pasting the same thing.

One go just wake up text me "guy abeg help me with 2k"

Before I used to say hi and try to be friendly.

Nowadays if she text, I go just type "right now I no get".

If she no broke why she dey beg? Then na me wey no beg her go come dey shame?

God punish shame.

Some will be friendly with you and prep you for billing.

She go give you attention dey reply your chat sharp sharp. You too will be feeling like you're vibing well. But na Nigeria demon wey wear cloth.

Give her few minutes she go want make you pay for something.

Mcslize:
They always do copy and past. The same text she used to beg you, she will send it to 10 other guys.

Na their broke shaming tactic dey muse me pass. You will see a lady without skill nor any viable source of incoming broke shaming a guy for refusing to succumbs to their almajiri begging. Quite delusional species.

There's a difference between girl wey you and her don dey run package and girl wey you dey talking stage with.

If i Don sleep with girl before and she comes to ask me for money, as long as I get I go give am sharp sharp.

I no dey joke with that area but the one wey you just feel say because I dey toast you, you go come and then I go give you my money no go work.

If I'm just toasting her and text her "abeg come gimme doggy I dey Hot today" she go either insult me or block me saying I'm not romantic or I'm rude.

So why is it okay to dump her responsibility on me? Dem forbid her to play along and be romantic?

Bendeco02:
Your last line spoiled your write-up

Who told you that girls don't ask who they like for money? You did not even say over bill.

Just like saying guys don't ask the girl they like for sex.

Some of you are yet to learn some things.

Girls can ask anyone for money but the difference is that the girl that love you will not leave you or start avoiding you because you refused to give her money.

If you approach and date a girl without a job, what do you expect from her?

You want her to be dating you and then be asking other guys for money? Then be ready to shear her with other guys as well and not complain about her having multiple male friends.

You must learn not to sugar coat things. She demands for a date.

On the date, she demands for things. Suddenly when you demand for her body, you need to be civil.

Not civil, you should not demand for her body. That's the rule.

I mean, both of you go on a date, she eats whatever she wants and drink whatever she wants.

You clear the bills.

But when it's time to reciprocate, you need to play along on uncertainty. Like what exactly is your gain from taking her out and spending on her?

What exactly will make a girl ask you on WhatsApp to send her 5k because you're toasting her?

Like what is in it for you? She dey sell something wey you buy on credit?

Girls are selling their attention and body to you in exchange for money but something dumb inside of you say, you should not be direct with her because it'll not look good to do so or you're scared of scaring her away.

If she demands for money. Demand for her body. If she refuses, well, you lost nothing.

How do you go out on a date with a girl, spend lavishly and yet you have no idea whether she'll sleep with you or not.

Worst, you're anxious about how to ask her to get into bed with you.

Girls rely on these societal rules to exploit you.

She eats like a glutton and was not ashamed but suddenly when you ask for her body, she goes into that fake rage.

Like baby girl, all those foods I was buying and the money you want me to send to you, do you think I'm giving you tithes?

Money is a medium of exchange. Men today are giving these women free money and are too scared to demand return for their money.

The seller was never anxious when collecting money from your hand but you the buyer are anxious and scared of demanding for the goods you're paying for.

No be můmů be that?

As a guy, you need to learn to be more brutal.

See women don't care to be civilized or courteous when making their demands.

She will tell you as a man you need to do this or that for me.

I was with a girl recently and she told me before she can sleep with me, I must take her out on a date first.

But this girl will come to my house, ask me for 1k here and there.

At first, I was giving her the money but each time we enter bed, she'll say, you have to take me out first before I can sleep with you.

No shame. No care about how it'll make me feel.

Her demands were clear as day. On the other hand I was doing, eh if I refuse her money it'll not look good.

But I just lock up and started refusing her money clearly. I told her plainly when she demanded that I buy her a bag of water.

I'm not sleeping with you why should I be buying you water?

Stopped her from coming to my place to cook and eat.

Girls know something you don't. If you dont give her money, she loses nothing other than you which she never liked anyways.

If you give her money then at least she gains something from keeping you around.

If you are trying to toast a girl today, it always cycle back to money nowadays.

Either asking for data sub or money for food.

The last girl I was chatting with just casually drop the "I'm hungry" line and then proceeded to tell me "I don't want to eat house food"

Before this, I've made up my mind on a very concrete issue, that as long as I'm not sleeping with you, there's no way I'm sending a kobo from my account to yours.

Girls today have this habit of getting your number, chatting you and then billing you.

If its favorable, they keep chatting you because they know they can come back again for more begging.

But if you refuse, they drop their energy and some will even stop chatting you... Making you feel bad.

As a guy, you need to understand this "feeling bad" is intentional and especially since you like the girl and want something with her.

Now most guys think giving her money will do something for them. But it doesn't.

Learn to protect your money. If you're not fvcking her, don't give any girl shît.

I once have a girl that every week she must beg me 2 to 3 times. I believe she thinks one day I'll wear out or feel ashamed and give her money.

Girls know guys don't like coming across as poor. They rely on you "feeling ashamed" so you are willing to give to relief yourself.

I keep denying her regardless of how many times she begged.

Omo. One day this girl posted screenshots of different guys sending her 2k up and down on her status.

Likeee. So her usual way of life na to just dm random guys on her contact that have toasted her and be asking them for money.

She's cute make I no lie. But nothing fit make me send any girl money.

If she can ask you for money, she's really not into you. Girls no dey bill guys wey dem like.

Most men bend and break their backs for women who will not do the same thing for them.

These women don't deserve shît. Whether they are in love with you or you're in love with them.

Learn as a man to do less. If she want to go let her go.

Understand that if you have to do a lot to make her stay, she's staying because you're doing a lot, not because of love.

If she loves you, she'll be doing a lot too.

No go break your back for anybody o

God help you say medical students no dey there to use you practice

Ayomisure:
I went to a teaching hospital to see a doctor today for a case of internal haemorrhoid, to cut long story short, this man say he wan do rectal examination, say mah face wall off trouser, I no first understand 😂💔
Omo, I no get choice o, if you see wetin this man dey chook me like say I say I offend am, worst thing be say, no be only him dey there, Omo I just bow my head, I no fit talk anything 😂💔

rectal exam is not pleasant for anyone. So before you complain, think about how the doctor feels putting his hand in your anus as a straight man and he still need to use the hand to eat.

Did you see that in my writeup?

JIBO4REAL:
Netanyahu Love Christian?

They are currently attacking, kidnapping and raping the peaceful people of Nigeria

Eniitankorede:
Shut up your stinking mouth. You are talking against common sense. Which Muslims have been attacking any country in 1000 years? Just name one muslim country attacking others within that period. Stupid talk!

Muslims are never the good guys.

God1000:
God bless Iran, they are the good guys

Iran has truly humbled america oo, The almighty america is now demanding for talks

Maybe she thought it was a big PRICKle

I understand your point ma.

Personally while teaching my mantra has always been never to draw blood or cause any form of bodily injury.

In fact, any time I discipline the kids, I always start with the weakest one, you have to know how much he can bear (in my case it was a girl).

She can cry eh.

Also, if I'm a teacher today, honestly I'm never touching any child again whether they do anything, it's written notes only to their parents and the school management.

It's not worth it at all.

kenysbabe:
Hello,

Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts on this. I agree that children should be corrected and disciplined when they do something wrong, but discipline must be handled appropriately and within proper boundaries. If a child violates school policy, disobeys instructions, or behaves in a way that affects others, then it is understandable for the school to address it.

However, in this particular case, I do not believe the teacher’s action was appropriate. The child’s hair did not even appear overgrown, and he looks very young. If the teacher felt the hair needed to be cut lower, the proper thing to do would have been to send a note or message to the child’s parents. A teacher is a guardian only while the child is in school, but that does not give her the right to take such a personal matter into her own hands.

I have read several people say that if parents do not want their children disciplined, they should homeschool them. In this case, the question is: how was the boy’s hair preventing the teacher from teaching? Was there a health concern, such as lice? If so, the right approach would have been to inform the school authorities and the parents, not to take such drastic action.

I feel strongly about this because something similar happened to my child. I was called from work and told to come to the hospital because my child had been rushed there. A teacher had disciplined him with a sharp object, which tore his forehead. He was only three years old! When I arrived, my child was soaked in blood and tears. It was and still is the most painful experiences for both me and my child. My husband was livid when I told him as he wasn’t in town.

What made it even harder was that the children present were too young to clearly explain what happened, so I never truly got closure. The school authorities and teachers came to my house several times to apologize, and the teacher was eventually let go, but my child still carries the huge scar on his forehead till date because someone felt they had the right to discipline him in a harmful way.

Discipline is important, but it must never cross the line into humiliation, harm, or abuse.

If you've ever known what it means to teach a group of students, you'll know never to single yourself out as an example.

Children learn at different paces. Some pick up reading in primary 3, some in primary 4 and some will never master it even after secondary school.

Secondly, yes some teachers are not qualified. In fact I started teaching right after my waec while waiting for admission to the university.

While I don't have the official qualification, there was nothing above me to teach the primary students.

Maybe I could have been a better teacher if I had gotten the qualifications but at the time, I was the best option they had and so was employed.

One of the teachers in the secondary school (we had jss 1-3) once called me to explain atoms to the students because in her words she didn't do science but is supposed to teach science.

Same as another time a boy once argue with the female teacher and he was right but she kept insisting. I could have interfered but I never did.

So yes, issues of qualifications are there. But they've always been there. My uncle who was a government primary school teacher back in the day and taught us, was retired from the army where he picked up reading from his colleagues.

That was his only qualifications back then and he did the job well until his retirement.

Teaching primary school is not some rocket science.

Go to any primary school today, Most of their teachers are secondary school graduates trying to find their feet or waiting for admission.

People are not as eager to teach your kids as much as you think. Because the pay is peanuts.

I was earning 6k then a month plus teaching primary 5 (all subjects) and jss 1-3 their maths, basic science and intro tech (I was the only science student in the school).

You think a graduate will be queuing up to accept such pay? Schools are scared of increasing school fees not to scare parents away. And so cannot pay these teachers well.

The school owner later offered to bump my pay but then I became too tired and also had gotten my admission.

Thirdly, most primary school especially in private schools today have extra lessons which starts immediately after school time (2-4pm).

They are often mandatory nowadays and added to school fees. It's never because the teachers are terrible, it's more of an adopted practice.

Even then, other schools do send their kids to our school then for the extra lesson especially those in public schools. They will go home, eat sharp and then come and join my class. I had about 4 of them.

My younger sister after her normal school hour have her own lesson teacher who comes to our house as a private teacher.

I really don't think you have a point, I'm just rather chanced today which is why I'm replying any and everyone.

Weathered:
you forgot to add most teachers these days are grossly unqualified. NCE remains the minimum standard for a teacher which you didn't have.

Private schools are business not learning places.

In my primary school there was no lesson then. No need for it. Teachers were sound. I was reading very well in primary three.

Today you and your fake schools are imposing lesson from primary school. Does it mean your students are dull or there's something wrong in the process?

He'll probably strike again.

Netanyahu hates the Muslims as much as they hate the Jews. Probably even more.

Muslims all over the world are used to being the hater and aggressive ones and always using such to get their way.

They never imagined Netanyahu could be as cruel and heartless as they were.

Na Tinubu build the hospital? Una dey talk o

HacheNoire:
Another big win for the administration of His Excellency, President Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu (GCFR) and a great opportunity to put those that detest his administration to shame.

Making the Okigwe general hospital a competitive world class hospital would be a top priority for the administration so as to make a bold statement to naysayers.

Bala Blu fan boys will say but to barb hair in America is $500 while to barb hair in Nigeria is N500

Tinubu did not even approve himself to be president

Lolz.

Everyone suddenly talking like they didn't grow up in Nigeria.

She wants to prove to the child she loves him so much and would never allow anyone to touch him

But her love does not involve taking proper care of the child's appearance. Only when others discipline him that she will have the chance to cause chaos so the child can appreciate it

keemsleek:
Those days you barb styles like tyson to school teacher would put scissors in your hair and design the hair for you. Well they say they are in the GEN Z generation. I keep asking why is it that it the mother that's always going to the school why not the father?


Every parents knows what they want.

If I was looking for validation, I won't be arguing with you or opposing you, instead I'll be agreeing with everything you say so as to score cheap points.

Again, you're going to extreme to find non-existent points

WatchYourSix:
This is more desperation from you because my comment u jumped on isnt directed to you.. it’s a different context about a soldier who flogged a random person because of their hairstyle and forcefully shaved their hair…. U are just all over the place looking for validation for your extreme view….

Again, you guys always like to swing your arguments to the extreme just to make a point.

Especially of things that may never exist.

No one is in support of male teachers shaving female pubic hair. Such examples are extreme and never done for discipline.

Secondly, if you read my write up it clearly stated "why" parents needs to confront teachers but more importantly, "how" this should be done.

But coming to say, no teacher should discipline the kids or coming to fight them is never the right thing.

Teachers should be able to discipline kids. The extent of such discipline is an individual thing.

Since such is individualized, parents should always make their displeasures known to the teacher as soon as they crossed the line.

The teacher cut the child's nails most likely because they are dirty. All of us know she wanted to do good.

Now as a parent, you know this. Your child is not in any immediate danger from the cut nails.

You can work up to the teacher, "ma/sir I noticed you did this or that to my child. I understand you meant the best for them but next time can you inform me before hand? Here's my phone number or better still you can write it in a note and give it to him and he'll bring it to me at home"

Instead the mother went there to prove to her baby that I love you so much and would not allow anything or anyone to touch you.

That's all the mother wanted to prove to her child, the school and more importantly to herself.

And this is what most parents today want to do. They want to prove that they love their kids so much, they don't understand that love goes with discipline.

If you love your child you'll cuddle them, not allow them to ride a bicycle because they can get injured.

But that's not love. You let them play even if they can get injured because it's necessary for their growths into capable adult humans.

Saying your child should be outside of the discipline square is totally wrong.

ponishah:
Nice narrative.
But you narrative placed same side with the parents your objective was to drag.
Our problem with analysis is that we allow ourselves to be too shallow and follow narrow parts. And tend to always leap before we look when analysing such incidents.
We all do not know the full story that led to the shaving of the girls hair and the cutting of her nails, but no amount of goodwill as a teacher confers unlimited powers to a teacher to act in whichever way he chooses in instilling discipline upon her students.
Students are minors and as such need parental approval for most things.

You can't support the shaving of primary school pupils hair and cutting of her nails for any reason. It is a no no. You channel whatever complaints you have to the parents.
Teachers no longer have absolute powers.
One day the male teacher go shave female students pubic hair all in the name of discipline.

The same children wey teachers discipline well well those days, Na them dey finish this country so.

Secondly if a girl is plaiting her natural hair, no teacher will take a scissor and start cutting it.

It's only when the school make it mandatory that all students should barb their hair regardless of sex and the girl start plaiting her hair suddenly in rebellion.

Why are we all pretending like we didn't attend school in this country?

In most schools, female students are not allowed to use attachments on their hair, if you do, most times they will loose it or cut it, prompting you to loose the attachment.

If the boys hair are bushy or they barb style not allowed by the school they are either scattered prompting the kids to go and barb the right style or sent back home.

But no, you must perform the mental gymnastics of going extremes to make nonsense points.

Point out any desperation in my write up.

Point out anywhere I'm wrong where discipline is suggested and it's not because of prior indiscipline which is aimed at being corrected.

WatchYourSix:
U are desperately trying to justify wrong doing by hiding it under discipline …

I love how you guys like taking arguments and twisting it like there was no cause.

So a teacher will just flog every student without a cause?

How una dey see some of us like mumu nau?

WatchYourSix:
How can you just be flogging someone in the road who ddnt commit any crime in the name of discipline . And you think this is okay…?

Yall are just used to violence from your folks since childhood, so u see it as a norm

Everybody want to cry human rights to appear educated.

She knows human rights not to touch her kids. But not the human decency to care about her kids appearance.

In the whole class only her coming to fight probably only her kid was dirty but because she has no shame, she came to disgrace herself further.

With barbing saloon all over the place, she cannot give her son N500 to barb his hair and appear neat and smart.

An excuse of a mother but well she knows her human rights

SAMBARRY:
those were when mothers were mothers,not the type of apology we have now,especially the one crying from page to page deceiving herself

Advanced countries bring guns to school and kill each other.

You ever wondered why advanced countries are importing doctors instead of having them in abundance?

Because their school system is failing. These kids are fighting their teachers literally.

No be everything we suppose copy

gbagyiza:
To discipline an unserious child especially in the academic space is not a bad thing but it should be control in a manner that it will NOT put his or her health at risks.

I think we need to study the logic used in advance countries, we don't hear about such controversies and at the same time their kids perform even better than our kids in most cases.

If your child's hair is cut in primary school it always mean one thing: it was bushy and unkept.

Most of us that grew up in the village know this. Every Monday was inspection day where they check your uniform to see if it's clean, your nails to see if it's short and your hair and teeth.

Teaching goes beyond ABCD. The teachers also want these kids to be healthy.

As a parent if you fail in this responsibility, your kids will often bear the repercussions. In those days, they will use a metre rule to flog your nails or carry a scissors to scatter the hair. If the use the scissors to make two lines in front of the bushy hair, the kid becomes ashamed of his scattered hair, forcing the parent to barb the hair.

This is why I'm not taking this mother seriously because if she loved her child as much as she want us to believe, he'll not be going to school with bushy and dirty hair and nails.

She's a terrible mother and it's reflecting on the kid.

RockyEyo:
In submission, as a parent if u notice that there's a cut on ur child's hair that u weren't aware of u would be cool about it...... or is cutting the child's hair a new form of punishment now.... Read a lot of stuff that really passed me.... being a teacher is overwhelming, try being a parent (I'm talking about a responsible parent)

God save us all

Parents don't understand this honestly.

School owners don't care about your kids. In fact if they will lie down for your kids to walk all over them so you continue keeping your kids in the school they will gladly do it.

They will do anything to keep your children happy and want to stay in that school.

No work, no discipline, just playing and long breaks. Even telling teachers to upgrade their scores, change remarks about their performances, no positions in class (no parents will be happy with their kids coming last) I've seen it all as a teacher.

If you like don't watch your child. E go perform well for paper but na olodo for reality.

Ajoself:
I had the opportunity to be a part-time teacher in a private school. The problem is from the school (private) and the parents. If one school did not promote a child another school would accept the child with open arms. Parents do not even monitor their children school notes and assignments believing it is the work of the teacher. The reality is after school hours, the work of the teacher is closed till the next school day.

They feed kids junk because they think it's enjoyment.

You'll hear "I want to give my kids the kind of life I never had"

These little children become obese and are made fun of in the class. Worst, they can't even do what other kids are doing.

To any parent out there, you turned out fine, trust me, your kids will turn out better if you don't indulge them.

It's the kind of life you wanted. Your kids didn't tell you they wanted the kind of life you never had.

This is why some rich people have their kids spoilt and they tend to hate them because they ene up forcing "the enjoyment life" they imagine they would have wanted in their own childhood on the innocent kid.

Because you think "oh my parents should have protected me, or my parents should not have allowed any teachers to touch me" doesn't mean it's the best life for your kids.

Some of you parents need to grow up

SAMBARRY:
na them

Na those mothers wey go buy 1 carton of popcorn, ice cream ,indomie and all manner of junks and then be wondering why the child's attention span is low,why she's lazy,dull and not bright .all they want their kids to do is dance on tiktok all day,eat, watch TV,sleep.reading to them is punishment and doing assignments is abusive.

Coming to class late is good sef in their own dictionary. Wonkin shoromo

Most of them spoil their kids in the name of I don't want to be like my parents

MarkNsukkaBread:
It's better for you to keep your child at home and train him yourself since you don't want teachers to discipline him/her.

When you were a kid, did your parents ever go to school to fight teachers; compare how you turned out to the insolent and indolent kids we have these days who have largely gone out of control

You like to imagine things because you think you're educated or enlightened

Take a seat

Mattswaggz:
So violating the kids human rights and displaying gross disrespect to the parents consent instead of tabling the matter to the parents or the school authorities to know the procedures available for such scenario is more civil to you right?. .