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Does this apply to this circle?

Gerrard59:
When I read these marriage topics on social media, the first question I ask myself is: Does this apply within your circle?

Op, Be very specific when discussing certain topics so you don't come across as ignorant or result in hasty generalisation.

In my circle, the churchy girls and the then runs girls don marry and born children.

CaptainJune:
A true believer is gold, and she will only go after gold—a true believer of the opposite gender, and she won't make any apologies about it.

this is the problem I was talking about.

These girls have been fed with this mentality that if they keep themselves or whatever, then they will get a good man or they will end up with a good man.

I am gold. Therefore I deserve gold. The world doesn't work like that.

And going with this mentality is why a lot of them cannot be married.

Any guy here who have talked to a churchy girl can easily relate to this. How they constantly want to control you, and prove that they are not cheap

You'll think that a good/churchy girl, especially the born again ones should have men chasing after them

Or getting married every weekend. But that's not always the case.

I used to have a good / very churchy cousin sister like that who was unmarried till around 35 years of age.

She's good but finding a husband was extremely difficult.

The one thing I noticed from good ladies is their rude behavior.

Hear me out first. A girl can be good in that she doesn't sleep around and try to be closer to God.

But these sets of ladies tends to be rude to men who comes around.

I don't know how they think relationships happen, whether they think a man will just come around, propose to them and get married.

Or whether God will just speak out of heaven and say, you and this man are destined husband and wife, so get married next week.

But somehow, these ladies fail to understand that relationship is built, it first start with a show of interest, a flirt or a simple lust.

Those things they feel is a "sin" are what starts relationship.

And so, when a man approaches a churchy lady, her immediate response is always the rude one.

She want to display her "goodness" or make it known she's "pure" and not worldly.

And this most times turn most men away from them.

It's one thing to be good but it's another thing to constantly want to prove it to people.

Trust me, a man knows a good lady when he sees one. Most men knows how to treat a good woman, you constantly saying "I'm not one of those cheap girls" and so on doesn't make any difference, it only pushes the man away.

You might be saying "the genuine man" or "intentional man" will continue to pursue or apply pressure, my dear they will not.

And this is why most of you miss good men and then later in a hurry settle for men you may not like.

I've seen too many girls dodging potential and even men of substance and later settled for people way less than them.

Take my cousin for instance, the one man who was once genuinely interested in her, came with a big car.

He was big but she was young, beautiful and all "in the lord". She once said to people "he thinks I'll like him because of his cars"

When she started midnight prayers for marriage with fasting aggressively eh. It was not funny o.

Every prayer at midnight was filled with husband requests, how did I know this? Because she prayed loudly and everyone in the compound can hear it.

Who did she later settled for? A teacher! Way older than her.

Imagine a man probably at 45 years, with almost nothing going on for him.

See I'm not here to castigate anyone or to put anyone down or to pressure anyone.

As a lady, understand that relationship is not magical. It's not 'godly'.

I have another girl from my school. Then she was the girl every medical student wanted.

Being a good girl pays. Being a foōlish good girl trying to constantly prove a point will lead you no where.

This is also why brothers in deeper life often find it difficult to marry within the church.

I remember in one of the service the older pastor keep speaking on why brothers often go outside to marry while the sisters are 'good' and beautiful.

It's simply because these girls have become 'un-talk-to-able'.

If he can waste 2 bullets for threatening, he's got a whole lot more in store.

This should be directed to our oga on top with infinity cap

These people will do anything for social media money. I hate that people take them seriously

Stephen0mozzy:
And lemme guess, your godmother also asked you to record it and post on social media, so you can use another person's death and mourning of the bereaved family to chase clout.

The shamelessness of some of these yeyebrities.

BioData45:
In Nigeria case, I too know is common among business owners. Instead of employing professionals, they would rather do all themselves.

this thing of one person doing everything is a big problem in Nigeria.

Nigerian businesses will rather not do it instead of employing or contracting someone to do it for them

He probably never thought he would die. Most people are never prepared for it.

She too could have had that conversation with him. But death is never a discussion in our society.

It's not a matter of wickedness or repayment. They most likely were never prepared or thought about it.

And luckily for the estranged wife, she was never separated. Most of our marriages today are divorced by "sending" the wife away.

This is the way of the old people but now that court is always in the picture, you could spend 5,6,7 or even 10 years "sending" the same woman away.

OneCandleAway:
The man is w.icked. he purposely did this to herllen because he is too educated to not know how to secure her future properly. I guess it's an indirect apology to his wife for leaving her for a hot side chic. I just hope she was able to amass her own private property, because them living in an hotel for years till he dies isn't a good look.

FashionCookie:
women wicked pass devil.
Who dey marry these people sef? 😠

fixed.

Seriously. Once they put pop, chandeliers and colour bulbs, suddenly it's "luxury" and you start hearing exorbitant prices.

And then you see the lapping dogs on social media saying "people that can afford it don't complain"

Like what justify a plate of rice for 22k? Is it special rice or special oil?

ZUBY77:
Nigerians realised it's all scam. There are places you can buy same type of rice or better ones at less than half that prize. It's food afterall.

it usually start with hype and bragging. You will see ladies with Opay account balance of ₦890, posting pictures of how they prefer eating at Hilda Bacci, just to attract men and make their fellow empty heads jealous.

If it's on social media everyone has a right to talk about it.

If not let her only show it to the "people that can afford it"

Stupîd classism

SyrusdeHansome:
Pple that can afford aren't complaining, so instead of wasting ur energy focus on eating ur 200 naira per plate food while those who can afford her restaurant continue to patronize her.

Na "brand" people dey buy abi food?

Una dey talk for this country o

Gbadugbakun:
She's selling her brand not the food.

The millions of south Africans supporting him thinks he's making sense.

In fact, some are proposing him as the future president of South Africa

baconline:
So dumb!!!!! He cant even do the calculations, anyone that actually thought this punk made any sense needs to check his brain, this is the dumbest thing I have heard in 2026

So all of you get the 1 million each, then who will do the work, produce the goods when they all now have money they don't have to work for?

Rest abeg.

Patients are weak and most times desperate. In fact, most patients are ignorant and will desperate do anything to get back on their feet.

Doctors are the real powerful force in the health sector. Let's stop sugar coating stuff.

Most doctors don't even sleep for 24 hours. Some spend 48 hrs on their feet running around with limited resources.

If you have not had interactions with patients, you'll think they are some form of patients and often co-operative people, they are not.

Like every customers, patients are often troublesome. This is why you see a lot of people complaining about nurses.

Because nurses don't have the patience to tolerate their bullshîts like doctors. Nurses will get rude with you the moment you try them.

But never doctors. They will repeat themselves 100times if necessary. Let's try to give them their flowers abeg

What happened to bandage?

Atroventricular:
How to fix a leaking intravenous fluid by using tourniquet to tie it on an infusion stand 😀

So na marriage go heal the trauma? God go punish some of una o walai

ashawopikin:
Its clearly stated that she was abused by a corpeer, thats trauma dor life, it will never end well.

Let me get something: if they catch boko haram members, they get pardoned because they have repented.

But someone who made transfer to them is jailed for 20 years?

Op no go hear this one.

Once condition dey, dem no rate you o.

Forget all those we care about each other. Na sex be women investment for relationship o. As you said, she doesn't care if you ended the relationship, does that sound like someone who cares or is invested in the relationship?

No worry, continue, your eyes go clear.

HopeNeverDies:
Lmao… I’m almost 30yo. One thing I’m certain of over the years in relationship scene is that “ Ladies only give Conditions to someone they don’t Love “

Forget bout being unclad together lol… if a girl is giving you conditions in a relationship, she’s most likely doesn’t rate you.

Una wey want marry single mum una dey try o.

As a man nothing suppose concern you with single mothers. But you no go hear.

Me I want to buy queen primer


Na palmpay

SAMBARRY:
I hope you slept well yesterday night because I can see SAMBARRY is living rent free in your head

That's nice.keep thinking of me.e mean say the thing when I tell you pain you well well

BTW send your account number so I can send you money to buy brighter grammar text book so you won't be disgracing yourself on NL

Tor that's what you should know. It's not about put it out there.

People who have media power don't stay in rural areas. If you post it on social media, it either get taken down for graphic content or it stays in your friends cycle.

If you see the number of killings, you'll understand. Worst, people don't even bother to report anymore.

They just cry one day or two and bury the dead

Luckysbab:
This is the age of Social Media. Put it out there and stop this emotional blame of "those in the cities". Every part is important. How we wan take chop if there unrest where the food comes from?

How do I champion justice for what I don't even know about in the first place? Ask a million youths online and they will say they have never heard these claims you're currently making.

U no too wise o

AllBlack:
Which of the God? If I tear you and your God better slap

The last youth leader that did this in benue state was brutally beaten and still in hospital as we speak.

You know who attacked him? The police that they later went to report to.

See when we say islamization is happening life and supported by our leaders some of you don't hear.

You just come on here and talk as though people don't know the solution to these fulani men.

I'm from benue. Currently in benue. So no be news report I dey tell you so. Na wetin I witness myself.

These things don't even make it to the news anymore. You can't fight these guys without the police arresting and fvcking you up. You can't!

Last time some community youths bought guns and bike, they were arrested that same night by the same police and currently in jail.

People wey get money abroad wey send money come give those youth to buy guns and Okada to protect themselves can not come home again because the police are actively looking for them.

Until this thing enter cities, una go dey there dey talk nonsense

Luckysbab:
No.

We should all actually ask for the location, mobilise the nearest youths to troop into that place and ensure they send them the herders packing totally from that community.

This is how it should work. Let's put a stop to this nonsense rather than leaving them to continue taking over other people's spaces.

I don't think I need to research a movie before reviewing it. It's watch and review what you saw.

Kayautojun:
I think you did not do much research before the write up.

Why did Janet pull out? Because the mr Jackson’s real abuse was not captured and some life altering situation with his father and how it affected was cut out. Some other family members felt that way.


Also, the decision to just focus on celebrating his music to one stage with the later challenges in his life was due to legal constraints.

It is a very feel good move that focus on his view of life and his personality

Maybe if I said I'm sent by God you'll listen?

AllBlack:
and who are you that we should listen to whatever opinions you have?

if you like make you no separate your own.

Content creators are not really respected here on nairaland.

By content creators, I mean the many creators of the different topics we all read here on nairaland.

These people create threads, come up with titles, they are the STARTERS of conversations here on nairaland.

But for all their efforts, nairaland and it's moderators treat their efforts like sh*t.

Platforms like Twitter have pivoted to rewarding content creators and we are not even asking for that.

There's no compensation for creating any content here on nairaland and I believe this will catch up with the platform sooner than Mr. Seun will realize.

Yes, nairaland is a big platform with millions of users.

But that's all for the benefits of Mr. Seun. How does the millions of readers translate to any tangible results for the content creators?

I'll love to use a well known creator here as an illustration.

Mr. Nąija Cōver (you can see I even have to change the name because seun deletes it whenever you type NąijaCōver) is very popular here on the platform. Every day you'll almost always see one of his topic on the front page.

He posts news from his blog to nairaland and almost every day.

He provides significant contents to nairaland all the time.

And what does he get in return for posting regularly on nairaland?

Nothing. Instead, nairaland moderators block him from sharing his blog link. He gets banned when he post links to his blog.

So now, he's a creator who is supposed to post articles on nairaland, people come and read, boost the platform and Seun gets all the ads revenue.

But Mr NăijaCøver gets nothing in the end. He could not even get a link to his website to get a little traffic.

This is a terrible and selfish business model @ Mr seun.

Even on social media platforms when you create contents, you get rewarded for it.

When you write good blogs Google rewards you with traffic for the good contents.

What do you get from nairaland other than getting banned from even linking to your content?

Yes spamming is bad but there are better ways. Seun you have to understand that the price you pay for your creators for creating interesting content since you cannot pay them is letting them get little traffic from your site.

This is the incentive to keep creators creating content more and more.

If you let for instance, the guy to include his link, then he knows that anytime he create good content and it gets to front page, he'll get some juice back to his own website.

This prompts him to want to be a better creator for the website.

If you check my account you'll see that it's a new one. People are no longer creating as much as they used to because there's just no incentive anymore.

Like why will I go to blogs to read news or take my time to sit and create contents for your readers while I get nothing in return.?

Prior to now, every jambite say nairaland is the best source of information. It was timely, fast and easy for them.

This is because the scholar niche bloggers were posting here frequently because they could get traffic to their sites.

Go to education thread nowadays, you don't see news any more.

Oga seun, you are killing your creators. And consequently you're shooting yourself in the foot as well.

Nairaland needs people who creates useful threads. You need them. Just as much as they need you.

My one piece

Wetin u dey talk self

Codes151:
sir. If you don’t watch after 1month. Make we hear word. You get mind type all this. Smh

Omo, dem been wan use me do brother in the lord o

HeatSeeker:
As revealed by you. I wonder what inspired this writeup sef? 🤔

This was revealed to you by Cana

HeatSeeker:
The is a message for the carnally minded.

Yeah. I watched Michael okoro

dauntless15:
Maybe you should do some fact finding and watch the movie again, you obviously watched another Michael.

OK.

No one says getting money from your donation is bad.

But only advice I'll give you is that understand that your body has limited capacity for blood production.

It can only produce a certain amount of blood per month.

If you go donate above that, you too will start lacking blood. I've seen a class mate start going down while we were donating blood.

You can also feel strong but don't risk excessive donation.

After each donation, allow 2-3 month pass before you do another donation make you no go turn patient o.

Sonofgod1990:
I do collect 12k for each donation I make
I don donate like 4 times this year