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No. I have never paid for delivery for anything I bought on Temu.

WatchYourSix:
lol… TEMU has charged u for delivery and ensured u paid before seeing your goods….
Jumia offers u pay before delivery, u still dont want to pay delivery to your house??
If the delivery fees bugs u that much chose the option of their pickup station …

The guy thinks women are men.

I got the shocker of my life while in working in gynae ward and interacting with women.

Most women start their sex life from the age of 12. Like 12 o.

It was only in the university most guys even get disvirgined.

Now imagine starting at age 12, the body count go almost enter 100 for some women especially if you meet her at 30+ years.

At 30, she has been sexually active for almost 18 years. So in 18 years, let assume she has only 4 boyfriends. That's dating each for 3+ years.

Which is not possible. Now let's add random flings. Sex na water for women abeg.

Goo0dHardDick:
She told you she has 4 body counts and you believed? Lol

A woman of 31 has approximately 65 body counts, excluding other men who she knacked for fun and konji. Adding those ones will make it 87

A hungry girl is not and will never be capable of loving you. Believe this bro.

A 27 or 30 year old girl, most times, have been dating since the age of 12 or 15. That's almost 15-20 years of dating experience.

Imagine you have been doing the same thing for 15-20 years, you become so good at it, it becomes second nature.

But more importantly, it just doesn't impress you anymore. If you have been driving cars for 15-20 years, e no go "shark" you like the first time.

That's the position these women are in. Nothing you say or do is new to them under the sun.

Like for instance, What's something new do you think she hasn't seen in the dating pool? What kind of love language do you think she hasn't heard before? What kind of love has she not proffessed to another man before you?

Is it fvck? What kind of style has she not seen before in the bedroom?

My brother, the real issue is you're trying to make a retired player feel impressed with your dribbling skills.

It's like a child running to his father trying to impress the father by reciting ABCD. The father will 'act' impressed to keep the child happy but internally, the ABCD is nothing and he has seen all those things countless times.

My geography teacher in secondary school once said there's literally nothing you can write in my exam that will impress me, especially those of you that like to write long essays.

"I know more than you do, so writing those long essays will only take my time, just write the essential points"

This is the 30 year old woman you're trying to love. Love means nothing to her. She has given her heart several times to several men.

She don chop love tire. She don hear countless 'sweet things' for her ears.

So, each time you come go to her, telling her sweet things, doing romantic stuff, she has seen it long before.

Yes, she'll 'act' surprised and impressed like she had done countless times but at the core, in her heart of heart, those things mean nothing to her.

So if she must 'act' submissive (she's no longer capable of being submissive), it means you must be offering her what she cannot get by herself anymore: money.

So if you find a 30 year old woman acting submissive and pleasing her man, trust me there are two things involved, one she was desperate to survive (nothing is working well for her) or the man is spending.

Both of which involves the man having money.

The last time I tried buying something on jumia, the cost of delivery was almost twice the cost of the product.

Now if you are in Lagos or Abuja, your cost of delivery is usually N500 or N1,000. Which is usually reasonable.

But for us outside these cities, cost delivery has always been the number one reason why we cannot buy things from jumia over the years.

If you add the cost of delivery to the price of the items, it's already more than you taking a bus to the market and getting it.

Besides, if you're taking the bus to the market, it's not only cheaper but you get your item the same day.

Back then, it used to make sense to me that maybe delivery is not that easy or cheap and that's why jumia could not offer free delivery.

But here's a Chinese company selling directly from China at a much more cheaper rates, yet their delivery is always free even down to the remote state and village where I live.

Each time I buy my items, it comes about 10days later, always free with a delivery man calling me either outside my gate or somewhere very close to it.

So how's Temu doing this and jumia could not?

8.3m is not "all citizens".

8.3m is to vulnerable population and most importantly, makes less than a fraction of the over 200m population.

If you give everybody in Nigeria cash at the end of every month, more than 60% of the population will become dependent on it, have no motivation to work.

Production drops rapidly and the cash can no longer buy anything because prices will rise as well.

Leading to people demanding more cash and this circle continues.

This is because money is just a piece of paper. It has no value. It's value must be backed by effort which is made visible by production.

The value of your money is tied to how much goods/services you can produce. This is why banks don't just print money when needed.

Money is tied to productivity. You cannot throw it at your problems and hope it goes away.

Education is important.

naptu2:
Conditional cash transfer.

Over 8.3m Households Benefited From Conditional Cash Transfer Programme
https://www.nairaland.com/8673311/over-8.3m-households-benefited-conditional

These guys are funny. Let's see how they are going to sustain it.

You don't need immigrants out of your country to share money for your citizens though.

This is why you have identification documents.

Inflation will catch up with this so fast that they will demand more in 2028 and since they are dependent on this sure income, the already lazy population will find less motivation to work.

I honestly don't understand the obsession of igbo guys with nurses/nursing students.

Not like these nurses are paid much or something.

But igbo guys are obsessed with nursing girls like maad.

Even those in school if you investigate carefully, you'll find most of them are being trained by these guys in the hope of marrying them.

Even on matching sites, igbo guys will most likely request for a nurse.

Like this is just another profession, why the obsession?

I just do alwaysOn plan and forget about data for the month. 7k though

Nigerian girls believe love should start in a restaurant over a plate of food which they don't have to pay for.

Because na you love them, no be them love you.

And the můmů Nigerian guys agreed to this. Na them dey even carry am for head all for a crumb of pvssy wey she dey give aboki wey dry sell fried indomie and egg

This is nonsense and we all know it. You cannot "spice" things up with someone that doesn't want you or look down on you.

You can only spice things up with someone that wants the marriage to work.

For chrissake, y'all should stop with this spice things up nonsense talk.

And it's always the same thing. "spice things up, take her to a restaurant, buy her things" rubbish talk from shallow thinkers.

So until he spends money before his partner can be happy and willing to be with him?

Is she then married to the man or to his money? Na why most of una dey end up with badyart pikin be this.

Op if she's not willing to do those things that makes you happy as you're willing to do to make her happy then withdraw yourself from the marriage as well.

Oceanjagaban:
spice up the marriage , the little way you can. take her out sometimes .I didn't ask you to go and spend all your money .sometimes knack her well.e be like you dey pity her as if na your sister .

You are wasting your time talking to Kobojunkie. He's the most pointless fellow on this forum.

Stop interacting with him. He talks just for talks. Trust me on this.

Here's my point of view.

You did the right thing noticing the shift in energy in your relationship. It shows your heart is in this marriage.

And having had a discussion about it 3 times readily shows you're trying to fix the problem.

Now here's something you should understand: marriage is a union between two people.

Therefore, only you cannot solve the issue. The other party must be a willing participant especially when it's a 'fault' from their own end.

Now from my own end what I want you to find out is if she's genuinely an introvert. Some people are introverted and get excited but after a while such excitement dies down.

So try checking her background and see if she has a lot of friends before you guys met. Do this investigations yourself.

Secondly, you're providing to the best of your ability. As long as you didn't promise her heaven on earth before the marriage, you do not own her that.

She's not 'managing' with you, if she wants more then let her take up the task of doing more.

You cannot be providing for yourself and your partner and be talking with the mindset of them managing you. I want you to walk out of that mindset. Lose that mentality totally.

Otherwise you'll set yourself up running an uphill battle, working your ass off to death for someone with nothin to show for it in the end.

After losing that mentality, give only what you can afford.

Thirdly, like I said, marriage takes two to work. If she's no longer a willing participant, you start shunning her as well.

You know people feel important more than they are when you overinflate their ego with attention?

Deflate that ego. Remove your attention. Not because you don't care but because you too are a human being and should be important enough for your wife to want to hang out with you and make you happy.

Most times as a man, you're constantly running around, working, providing, buying for your family with little wondering if these people see you at all.

Whether they appreciate you at all.

I want you do this. Remove your attention totally. Reduce the need to converse with her.

I'm not saying you should bone your face. No. Instead only speak to her when she speaks to you.

Half the money you give to her for food and use the other half to eat your own food outside most of the time.

Start keeping late night. Start starving her of that attention. Only come home when you're ready to sleep.

You're doing too much to please instead of being the center of attention and attraction in your household.

Chijeep:
Let me break down my own POV.
1. I'm a lonely guy. No friends, just me.
2. She's not based here(JJC) That means it only me n her.
3. We go out to shop, sit down, do business and just stay.
4. Go home rest, and press phone then sleep.
So if it continues like this won't I be forced to be going out for pleasure?

More like leading another 28,000 children to the slaughter house

For me I still regret sending N300 to one deeper girl like that.

I dey toast this babe, so one day she told me she doesn't have water to drink.

Let me help her with money to buy bag of water.

I been no even one send am the money o. But I just reason am say 300 na small stuff.

Naso I send the money give this girl o. 1 hr goes by, I heard nothin from her.

I just casually asked if she saw the money and she said yes that she has gotten the water.

Omo. I wan craze. So you no fit talk thank you?

Since then as long as I never sleep with any babe I no dey give her one kobo.

If all igbo guys gather tell you wetin nurses don do them eh

Sonofgod1990:
Back then when I was in secondary school. I squandered my oga business because of One babe like that. I was seriously in love dat time.. d girl is a nurse now based in united kingdom.. my oga really suffered for my hand because of that girl. And the worst part of it is that I never see the girl pan t till today . Na only kiss and bwes she allowed me see

I dey try to catch her attention but she just dey ghost me on Facebook

Agreed.

And most times it is because the women have no choice other than to depend on the man for survival.

If a richer man comes around and she's sure he'll marry her, she will leave her husband without a second thought.

Most resist the temptation because they are scared of the unknown (if the richer man will commit or not).

99% of the time if a poorer woman becomes richer, the first person she'll kick out of her life is her poor husband who catered to her when she had nothing.

So, it's never love but survival.

fxexperts:
You are right that lower / middle class marriages last longer than higher class marriages, but that has nothing to do with unconditional love, respect blablabla.. It is because the people do not have a choice, and they only have hope that one day they will become wealthy and enjoy. They chase something that they may never get, and they keep chasing until they die, and they never get to truly enjoy life to their fullest. But the rich have it all, they have all the things they wanted, and they have visited all the places they could ever dream of together, and they have nothing more that they hope to achieve together, and that is when they realize it's all vanity.
And the case of this lady we are talking about is very different from the rich vs. the middle class vs. the poor. For your information, a teacher in present-day Nigeria is not middle-class; a teacher is a very poor person, and I'm sure he cannot feed three times a day. The guy with the flashy car, I can qualify as middle-class. Maybe you hav not been faced with hunger before, if so then you will know what i am talking about.

Did you just try me in a court in your mind

Rapmoney:
The guilty will always feel uncomfortable when a post hits them.

Go and wash her pants abeg

Rapmoney:
You should not blame your warped way of reasoning on my post. It was never stated in the post that it is only a man who can spoil a woman.

This desire to build something with a lady will destroy a lot of men.

I won't say more than that.

This op na můmů talk just full him mouth

If I meet a woman close to 30, who has dated several people in the past, and she exhibits a high level of disrespect and a loss of value, it clearly shows that she has been dating men of poor character in the past. You must be of poor character to teach another person how to behave poorly, while still tolerating their poor character.

So in your eyes a woman is incapable of being bad on her own. She's incapable of doing anything wrong. It must be a man that spoilt her.

Very anyhow person talk naim you dey talk

No money should be too big for paternity test o.

Imagine training someone from primary school to tertiary. Feeding, clothing and loving

Then because of 400k you later start regretting. Ignorance is the worst punishment for any man married to a woman today

churro:
Funny. 400k is not big money nau, even for a family man that earns moderately well! Haba! 3 kids is just 1.2 million. For a man bent of knowing the paternity of his kids, this is no big deal. You'll get there! Amen.

That osho free gender will say anything to get you to give them money.

E go sound like love. Feel like love. Look like love.

But na naija girl. She just want free money

Niggăs wise up. No dey give them shishi. Two people are in love but na one dey pay

It's the era of nobody should touch my kids

Leave am make she dey talk.

Na who eyes never see go believe wetin woman dey talk online.

fxexperts:
As if if it gets to your turn you will not choose the man with flashy cars. As if you can even marry a teacher earning just N50K per month. Some of you can mislead other people astray ehnn...

Try am first na

Classical case of fault looping. If a pastor prays for you and you're not healed then you don't have faith. And how can you prove you had faith in the first place when you're not healed.

In anyway, the pastor and God are justified and you the seeker is always at fault.

Bro, marriage is fully physical. This is the wrong teaching we feed these sisters and then they wait and wait and wait with mentality that their husband will magically appear at a set time. It's wrong.

Muslims, unbelievers, our ancestors and every non Christian religions get married, some divorced and some go on for a lifetime. Just as Christian marriages.

So, tagging your God as the one to reveal your ideal partner for the everlasting marriage is not a tangible argument.

CaptainJune:
Shows you know nothing about marital unions that were made from God's direction. A lot of christians, including pastors, make the same mistake of choosing their partner without seeking God's opinion on the issue. When that marital union hits the rocks people like you assume that it broke down despite God's hand in it. You are WRONG.

I am not saying that any marriage that has God's hand in it is immune from the challenges marital unions face. They may face challenges, but the Lord, who has seen the end from the beginning, knows that they are the perfect pair to weather the storms of life without sinking or breaking apart. Marriage goes beyond verifying one's sexual compatibility with a person, goes beyond physical beauty, or material possessions. It is a covenant that should be honoured as long as one of them still breathes.


Yes, marriage is spiritual. Two people become one—in body and spirit. How is it not spiritual? The Word of God says that whoever sleeps with a prostitute has become one body with her...and whoever is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him (1 Corinthians 6:16 and 17). Who do you think gives life to the embryo in the womb? Science? Your perception of marriage colours your expectations and your approach to it. This is what separates marital unions that are thriving from those that are barely surviving or on the brink of collapse.

When you sleep with a person, regardless of marriage, life will happen in the womb.

Conception has nothing to do with marriage. So it's not a spiritual connection that causes the baby to come alive.

It's the physical union of a sperm and egg. One from the father and the other from the mother.

Now concerning sleeping and connection, yes there's a bonding between two people when they sleep together.

Is it a spiritual bond? I cannot tell. The Bible calls it spiritual bond.

But here's the thing the Bible never said: that the bond between them is formed by God. Or that the bond requires special input from God.

Instead, the bond forms from the physical activity they are engaged in: sex.

Now let's look at it from different angles, when Jacob got married, was it "divine revelation" from God to him and Rachel or Leah?

There's none like that. There's no account of any spiritual "divine revelation" for choice of partner in the Bible.

Not from the parents of Jesus. Not from Abraham who even had to sleep with a slave to get his first son.

Marriage is in your hands to pick your spouse. What you can pray about is God to help you to pick the right person.

Many marriages are too successful especially amongst those we call unbelievers and sinners for you to come out and say only you have the right formula.

So all our ancestors in Africa? Was it your pastor choosing their wives for them?

It has gotten to the extent that these ladies now rely on their pastors to choose who to marry.

Can you imagine that?

Bro the number of divorce cases do not support your argument.

So all the divorced pastors were not led during their marriages?

You cannot know if you're sexually compatible with someone unless you've had sex with them or engaged in a thorough discussion about such which most ladies never do.

There's no iota of arguments in this your talk that points to anything tangible... The same thing that's happening in our churches today.

Empty yet deep sounding preaching that's short of practicality. You hear Rhema, revelations, etc. All deep but no single practicality.

Like I said earlier, marriage is fully physical not spiritual. It's two people coming together to start a family. Deep in Isreal the wedding was ceremonial done outside the temple filled with drinking of alcohol where they get drunk.

Same in Africa long before Christianity. There's nothing spiritual about it

CaptainJune:
You may know such a thing as being led by the Spirit of God. True Christians do not gamble on their compatibility with the opposite sex. They let God lead them to that person who is actually their heart's desire. That is what I meant by gold being compatible with gold, not bronze or aluminum.... You may declare yourself gold and I have no issue with that, but in this context it is highly debatable.

You see how you move the whole post towards sex?

This is what I'm talking about. Most of you can't even listen to the men talking to you because you constantly have "he wants sex from me" in your mind whenever a man talks to you.

And because of that you become rude to him.

How did our discussion become shifting of pants?

Kingson28:
You dislike and avoid them because they would'nt let you shift their pants. If you like go and marry Community Lactrine that all guys in a neighbourhood have poured their milk into her borehole.
Nothing compares to truly saved Church Girls.

sex does not make anyone impure.

Did God not command a prophet to marry a harlot in the Bible?

What I'm saying is as a girl, listen to the men coming for your hand. The distance between a man asking for your number and talking to you and getting you in bed is long enough for you to study and know his intentions.

Yes be pure but understand you also need to get married. Man no dey fall from sky.

Samantha125:
I don't get it, what's wrong with settling for a teacher over a man with big cars? Will those big cars bring her peace and happiness?

And did you expect her to settle for a man she wasn't in-love with because he was affluent with flashy and big cars?

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