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 Romance › Nine Ways To Have A Happy Marriage by hotchamalah(op): 3:28pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
The 9 Secrets of a Happy Marriage Relationship strategies that make your marriage work "1) Be realistic with your relationship expectations Romance is wonderful and seeing the best in your partner is a sure way to maintain love and intimacy. But you are going to have years with your spouse, so you need to be able to except some imperfections. In the first throes of passion, the object of our romantic focus may seem perfect but then we discover their 'feet of clay'. At this point, for the marriage to last we need to see beyond personal weaknesses and foibles - after all, no one is perfect. All marriages need work sometimes; expecting it all to be effortless or that it 'should' always be perfect creates disappointment (as unrealistic expectations always do). Idealize your partner, by all means - but remember they are human. 2) Sorry should not be the hardest word Ever noticed how some people can never apologize, never admit they were wrong, never say, "Sorry"? Yes? Well, those are the ones who are much less likely to become or stay married A survey conducted in San Francisco (3) found that people who stay happily married are twice as likely 1. Contempt: Name calling, face pulling, cursing at and insulting your partner, and basically behaving as if you are revolted is 'contempt'. Gottman and his researchers in Seattle (4) found that if this was a regular feature in the start-up phase of a disagreement, then the relationship's days were very likely to be numbered. Women who looked contemptuous whilst their husband was talking were six times more likely to be divorced two years later. 2. Defensiveness: "Why are you picking on me? Don't look at me like that! What's your problem?!" "But I was just offering you a cup of tea!" Another major predictor of eventual relationship breakdown is over-defensiveness. If someone begins yelling as soon as their partner broaches a subject and feels overly threatened or attacked, and this is a continuing and regular feature of the couple's interactions, then the relationship is in crisis. Being defensive blocks communication and severs intimacy. 3. Don't criticize but do compliment Partners who criticize one another risk damaging their relationship beyond repair... This doesn't mean you should never complain if your spouse upsets you, but a criticism is much more damaging than a simple complaint. When you criticize, you attack the whole person (even if that's not what you mean to do); a complaint is directed at one-off behaviours rather than the core identity of the person. For example: "You are such a lazy £"*tard!" implies they are always like that and that it's a fundamental part of who they are. It's not specific or time-limited as is "I thought you were being a bit lazy today! That's not like you!" Some partners feel they are trying to 'improve' their spouse by constantly pointing out what is wrong with them. Even if the intention is good, the consequences are not. Criticizing partners publically is humiliating (for both partners), but saying nice things about them when in company is a wonderful thing to do. People in happy marriages feel appreciated, loved, and respected. Remind your spouse of their talents, strengths, and what you love and like about them much more. No one likes to feel they are under constant attack. 4. Withdrawal or 'stonewalling' Emotionally withdrawing or stonewalling, 'closing your ears' or 'shutting off' when a partner is complaining is another huge predictor of breakdown. Whilst criticizing was generally more of a female trait, men used stonewalling more. Men's biology is less able to cope with strong emotion than women's, so men may instinctively try to avoid entering arguments or becoming highly aroused by stonewalling. The partner may withdraw during conversations by 'switching off' or ultimately spend more and more time away from the relationship as a way of 'escaping'. The danger is that the stonewalling pattern will become permanent and the partner using this strategy will use it to isolate themselves from potentially positive parts of the relationship. Everyone needs space, but never responding to an emotional issue leaves the other partner out in the cold. Rather surprisingly, if even just one of these factors or 'riders' is present regularly in disputes, the outlook for the relationship is poor. Does your marriage contain any of these 'riders'? And how else can you make your marriage happier? 4) Know what not to talk about in your marriage Younger couples often want to 'dig deep' to unearth all their 'issues', to be entirely open with one another, and to 'talk everything through'. But studies of elderly couples who have been happily married for decades show that these couples often don't listen very carefully to what the other is saying when expressing negative emotion. They also tend to ignore their own feelings about the relationship unless they consider that something absolutely must be done. This threshold is set much higher than in younger couples. So the typical advice of agony aunts to 'air issues' and get 'everything out in the open' doesn't, after all, make for healthy long-term relationships. Agreeing to disagree and knowing which subjects to steer clear of is a key relationship skill. 5) Work out problems but keep a lid on them Another key factor in arguments within relationships that survive is the habit of changing the subject once the discussion has 'run its course'. This 'quick shift' lessens the amount of negative emotion experienced and decreases the likelihood of later rumination. It also conveys the message, "We can argue, and still get on with each other." Thus, the argument is contained and does not contaminate the whole relationship. Disagreements need to be 'one-off specials', not long-running serials. But fun is vital, too... 6) Laugh together, stay together Regularly revisiting romantic times from the past and alluding to them in conversation - "Wasn't it wonderful when we..." and "Do you remember..." - is a powerful way of staying bonded. But regularly laughing together may be even more powerful. According to recent research, couples who laugh together and regularly reminisce about funny times tend to be much more satisfied with their relationships (5). Create a reservoir of funny times and re-visit them often. Lack of fun can wilt a marriage like a flower denied water. 7) Ensure 5 good times for every bad time According to Dr Gottman, stable marriages need five good interactions for every not-so-good one. 'Good' could mean a loving hug, a fun afternoon spent together, or a nice chat about a movie, anything positive. A 'bad' interaction may be a row, disagreement, or disappointment. So make efforts to keep to the 5/1 rule. This will work even better if you follow the next tip.  Can you read (love) maps?Remember the old Mr. and Mrs. TV show? (I think it may have been updated.) Anyway, the idea was basically this: The host would ask one partner to go behind a soundproof screen whilst the remaining partner was asked questions about their partner's life and preferences. For example: "Where in the world would your wife most like to travel?" or "What drink would your husband most likely order in a restaurant?" The idea was that the more correlated the answers, the stronger the relationship. And research seems to bear this out: The more you know your partner's tastes, aspirations, whom they like and dislike at work, and so on, the better 'love map' you have. Knowing the details of your partner's inner and outer life (whilst allowing for some privacy) makes for a stronger bond. One woman I worked with didn't know the name of her (underappreciated) husband's company and one husband couldn't tell me the name of their family dog! (Much to his wife's consternation: "He shows no interest!"  Strengthen and update your love maps to better navigate your relationship. Living within a happy marriage is one way to ensure long-lasting contentment for both of you. Follow these tips and ask your partner to read this, too. But if you want a fun way to learn how to have a happy marriage by seeing what not to do, watch Fawlty Towers reruns. Article written by Mark Tyrrell. |
| Career › Re: 10 Ways To Stay Positive By A Nairalander by hotchamalah(m): 3:05pm On Sep 01, 2013 |
[quote author=ayobams]Hello Nairalanders. Hope you are having a great weekend? The truth is that we are what we think about....almost all of the time. I just wrote a little piece and would love to crave your indulgence by asking you to spare some of your precious time to take a look at it. It is titled "10 Ways To Stay Positive". Happy Reading. We are what we think about. If we think about failure,chances are that there is every likelihood that we might become so and really this is something that should bother you. There is a saying that as a man thinks so he becomes. This further tells us that our thoughts really matter and go a long way to determine our attitudes and actions. With so much negativity going on around us these days, it is easy to develop negative thoughts about ourselves or the situations and circumstances that surround us. Even though your current performance at work shows that you are likely on your way out,it is important to always see the bright side of life in every situation we tend to find ourselves in. I have outlined 10 ways to stay positive when in a period of depression and I will explain them briefly. 1. Be Grateful About Living: Gratitude determines your altitude in life.Some of us do not see anything good in ourselves, the circumstances that surround them or even in others. Everything is just wrong about everything for them and the people around them. You need to be grateful and wear a smile always no matter how bad your situation might seem to be. Be grateful for the air that you breathe,the job you have,your family, your organization and your country. Be grateful for your successes and your also your challenges. Learn to say "thank you" anytime someone does something or says something nice to you. Appreciate what you have and other things will follow. You will be thankful to know that a lot of people want to be like you or are looking up to you for strength and direction. Show them the light by just being grateful. 2. Believe In Your Abilities: We live in an era where our performances and our personalities can be adequately measured and recognized. The 21st Century is the greatest century because of so many wonders man has created to appraise his or her self. You need to believe in your abilities and focus less on what people or the system say about you. That you cannot perform in a field or on a job does not necessarily mean you cannot and will not excel at another job. Learn how to identify and utilize your strengths and dwell less on your weaknesses. Identify where your strengths lie in and follow them with great passion. You just have to discover where your best can be appreciated and go for it. 3. Groom Yourself: There is a popular saying that the way you dress is they way that you will be addressed. Always keep an appealing appearance. Wear a smile always and put on fitting clothes too. It is unbelievable what these two actions can do to our self esteem.No matter how good you are at your place of work a clustered and disorganized desk won't speak good of you. Make your house look clean, your car neat, your hair well trimmed or beautifully done and eliminate all kinds of body odors. You never have a second chance to create a first impression, so enure that you make yourself presentable at all times. 4. Enhance Your Skills: The seventh habit of highly effective people according to Steve Covey of blessed memory is to sharpen your saw. This simply means taking time to recharge and train yourself. You simply need to improve on yourself at all times. Take some extra lessons where you are lacking so as to improve on yourself. Enhanced skills can get you the raise you have been expecting since or could just qualify you for your the available spot in your organization.It could even get you noticed for your long desired promotion. You can enjoy top notch training sessions in customer services,sales,leadership and time management at www.rosewindowconsulting.com. Wherever you are just make sure you decide on how to enhance your skills or learn new ones. 5. Socialize: You cannot be a hermit and survive in this era where the world has become an entire global village. Business and relationships can be strengthened using social media and if you don't want to visit a local club in your neighborhood just sign up with one online. The benefits of socializing is that you get to meet new people who do not only want to know you but are also genuinely interested in you. Also, this is an opportunity to share your views and possibly inspire somebody. 6. Appreciate Others: A Lot of us go on in life with so much pain in our hearts just because we do not appreciate the people we meet in our journey of life. It is a big deal for some people to say "thank you" or "can you please spare me some of your time?". Even a statement like "what do you think about this situation?" shows that you appreciate the other persons' opinion. These statements show how much you care about their opinions and respect their feelings. The statements are great ice breakers in getting people involved in what you do. 7. Be Supportive: This is a step further from appreciating people. Learn how to support those who need your help or assistance. The support you render will in turn bring an appreciative response. Remember that when you appreciate others and go further in supporting their dreams it will give you a sense of purpose and direction and will no doubt help you stay positive about life knowing that your help counts too. 8. Network: Networking in this senses means to try to meet and talk to people who may be useful to you in your work. No matter how good you are in sales or in whatever you do,it is important that you link up to some connections that can expand your horizon or business. Business clubs and speaking clubs like Toastmasters International which I happen to belong to are nice gatherings to improve your business outlook. Take up leadership roles or specific functions that you desire to keep you prepared and informed. 9. Collaborate Don't Compete: The only person to compete with is yourself. This might sound odd but that is the truth.Most of us think our competitors are our colleagues at work, the company providing your kind of service etc, failing to realize that we should always strive to be better than our previous selves. A Yoruba proverb says the sky is too big enough for birds to fly without colliding with each other. This is profound. Instead of competing, why don't you check your unique selling point (USP for short) and look for ways to collaborate and enhance your offerings. The truth of the matter is that your product won't appeal to everybody and you must not kill yourself on that. When you benchmark your performances with your contemporaries it might be dangerous in the sense that you will be relying on their creativity and not us. The best you can be will definitely be second best.You can change your strategy of competition by collaborating instead. Instead of competing with your colleagues at work why don't you reach an understanding to explore each others strengths.In the clime where I work where individuals are set individual targets and are sent to the same field to get sales you might be tempted to go the mile all alone.It wont be long till you reach your peak and start to decline. Unless it is necessary learn to collaborate and compete. 10. Believe In The Supernatural: This is not a religious article but it is important to know that there are higher powers that direct human affairs. After all when we sleep we become unconscious and oblivious of what happens around us. We are helpless at this point of our lives. When we wake up to another brand new day,it is an assurance that we are moving closer to our dreams and this calls for us appreciate ourselves and stay positive about life. It pays to stay positive. Being positive expands our chances of success and no doubt can improve our self esteem.I see you on top of your riches. Kolawole Kehinde is the Principal Consultant at Rosewindow Consulting and currently lives in Abuja. He can be reached on kola@rosewindowconsulting.com, kolayore@yahoo.com and 2348055159014 for speaking events and seminars on personal development, time management and marketing business services in the 21st century. Check out more articles at www.rosewindowconsulting.com[/quoteintresting,love number 1,5 and 9 |
| Health › Re: Do You Know Your HIV Status? by hotchamalah(m): 4:45pm On Jan 14, 2013 |
Godmother: Its not easy submitting urself for this text oh. The last time I did I almost died of apprehension. The fact that one can get this desease inmany ways will always put doubts in ur mind. Anways, I'm due again to check but I'm not looking forward to itlast week |
| Family › Re: What Has Marriage Taught You? by hotchamalah(m): 2:52pm On Nov 04, 2012 |
eremy: I have learnt to not try to change my spouse but to change myself if I really desire a change.marriage has taught me to grow up fast,marriage has taught me patience n made me ReSponsible.may has taught me to sometimes be a different person. |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 1:59pm On Sep 03, 2012 |
vislabraye: I ve rather noticed that married men are even more promiscous than single men.single guys taste it too |
| Romance › Re: The Laws Of Keeping A Woman by hotchamalah(op): 1:57pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
 Crown Prince: I no fit keep ordinary TEN commandments go heaven na to keep 23 commandments for woman. Even if say na Angel God positioned, I no fit try am. |
| Romance › Re: The Laws Of Keeping A Woman by hotchamalah(op): 11:36am On Sep 01, 2012 |
lillyveezy: This is a two way thing.If u want ur relationship to survive the storms of this age,plz pay attention to the post.you are so right,i know relationships cant be perfect but if we could pick on some of dis we could find some peace,love,faithfullness n happiness. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: The Laws Of Keeping A Woman by hotchamalah(op): 10:01am On Sep 01, 2012 |
 Excelboi: HotAmalah, so how can a man have all dis 2s in his brain only? Many won't even recall 5 out of it.am sure if he can keep a few in his brain his relationship will be just fine |
| Romance › The Laws Of Keeping A Woman by hotchamalah(op): 6:51am On Sep 01, 2012 |
Got dis from the net so i thougth I should share... THE LAWS OF KEEPING A WOMAN 1) Never take a woman for granted or neglect her. The moment you do, she’ll start scanning the field and you won’t know it. 2) Do not cheat on her, or cheat her. A woman’s revenge could be emotionally lethal. 3)Do not boss her around, push her to do anything she doesn’t want to do, or force her to give you ANYTHING. 4) Do not expect her to wait on you hand and foot. She will take your foot and put it in your hand. 5) Be appreciative for all she does for you and show her appreciation for being in YOUR life. When you start acting like she should be happy she is in YOUR life, she will go out to prove you otherwise. 6) Never lay a hand on her, unless it is to caress her. 7) Never make her second to anything. This is the biggest mistake any man can do. Don’t ever disrespect her or her family, even if she complains about them. It is OK for her to do it, but never for you. Remember this.9) Always GIVE more than you take from her to stay a man in her eyes. When a woman has to support you, in her mind, you are her bitch. 10) Never treat a woman like a man, or she will treat you like a woman. 11) Be truthful to her always — even if it hurts. A woman respects a man of Truth and men that lie repeatedly will never be taken seriously — only playfully. 12) Women are like cats. Even when they play stupid, their radars are always perceptive and receptive to all that is happening around them. Do not play around your woman, or she will play you in the end. 13) Never be afraid to show a woman your emotions. Do not expect her to know how you feel if you don’t reveal anything. Never hold back on love. When a woman feels something is missing, or that you are not in the relationship 100%, she will seek a more complete love elsewhere. Believe it. 14) Support your woman’s dreams as if you were her number one fan and you will always be her number one man. 15) Push a woman to fulfill her passions, and she will always be passionate about you. Stay in tune with the developments of her hobbies and projects, and she will be in tune with you. Even if she loves designing tiny hats for squirrels, what you should love is the excitement from her eyes whenever you see her doing what she loves. 16) Treat your woman as if she were your precious daughter, more than you treat her as your mother — even if she is older than you. Women are like kittens. They love your attention, affection, pampering, to be spoiled, and really enjoy being showed and told new things. Remember, women will always have more options than men. They will only stay with the one who treats them best. 17) A woman typically gives a man two chances for serious error. If he messes up more than twice, it is highly unlikely there will be a third. After the second slip-up, she already sees you as a different person. 18) Always trust a woman’s intuition and never take her mind for that of a fool. If she tells you something, but then you have to go and ask for someone else’s opinion in front of her, if she was right she will never let it go. She will start taking you for the idiot. All it takes is once. 19) The same way the Sun is the lamp of the universe, your woman should always be treated as the lamp of your life. 20) Do not ever put her down in front of your friends or family. This will only make her despise your family and friends, and she won’t forget to return the favor. 21) If she loves her family, try to love them as if they were yours too. She will love you more for sincerely trying. 22) If you end up with a first-rate woman, never treat her less than first-rate. She will leave you for a first-rate man once you do. 23) Never give your woman third-rate gifts (junk, used, discounted, as is, tacky). If you can’t afford to get her something first-rate, make her something from your heart, or wait until you have enough money to get her a first-rate gift. A woman would rather be given nice gifts, rather than a bunch of junky gifts. It shows her how you see her. Believe it. 24) Never let your woman stand alone when she is being opposed. Always stand by her in the presence of opposition, and when you are in private then you can tell her your real thoughts on a situation. She will love you for not exposing her out in the open. Always stand by your woman. Always! However, if she is someone who always does people wrong, then she is wrong for you. If she is good and she is the one being wronged, if you sit down or do nothing, she will be gone. Women do not like weak men. Those women that tolerate weak men are very weak women. Treat your relationship as if you are growing the most beautiful sacred flower. Keep watering it, tend to the roots, and always make sure the petals are full of color and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship. If your woman has left you heartbroken, then know it is most likely due to you violating at least one of the above. If you violated more than two, then know you had a very good woman. Now, for women, how do you treat a man and keep him? Do all the above for him too. By Suzy Kassem http://styleisking./2010/03/24/how-to-treat-a-woman-and-keep-her/ 26 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 2:02pm On Aug 27, 2012 |
gloriana: d no. 1 reason is sex. In d cos of my discusn wit som men,i discoverd dat most couples treat sex like a ritual wich must b fulfild. Dey dnt rily explore n njoy sex. D man goes 2 d woman at night 2 fulfil his marital duty while d woman lies down n alow d man access as d humble n obidient wife performin her wifly duty. Nobody want 2 b d bad guy instead d man prefers 2 do his adventure wit oda women n go as wild as he wants. Somtimes either 1 of d partners might b having sex related problem. Unhealthy sex life has bin d major cos of broken mariages after money n offsprings. I usualy recomend a particular suplement 2 dem after which u c dem smilin like a sophomor. Sex is ment 2 b enjoyd n nt endured.Somtimes dey fil dez no way out but cheatin.I believe some men have dr fault too dey have sex with dr wives rather dan make love to her no romance dey just pull her have rough n boring sex with her dey don't even bother if d woman comes,a friend of mine says she only have sex with her husband when she wants to feel pain cos dats wot she get when she makes loves to him. |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 1:54pm On Aug 27, 2012 |
Mira20: Hello my boyfrnd said when a man cheat on his wife it tends to make hime love d wife more.like if there love was 20% when he cheats on her it tends to grow to 80%your boyfriend is lying to you,beware!!! |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 9:14pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
 Mynd_44: Because some women are just annoying. Why would your husband cheat, you find out and you still stick with him. It is not the main cause but a contributing factorwould you leave your partner for the above reason |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 6:57pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
Mynd_44: ^^wonder why our women r always at the receiving end |
| Career › Re: 7 Access-Bank Employees Die Of Hypertension Trying To Meet Target by hotchamalah(m): 3:45pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
chillbabe: 7 Access Bank Marketing staff dies of Hypertension in weekswow dat sad,I hate dis bank work with a passion. |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 1:27pm On Aug 26, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: There are no reasons men cheat...they just cheat especially those that don't have the fear of God. Then to the question of do ladies get bored with just one man? Well, I'm not married yet, so imo as a single lady, when I'm not in love with a guy I get bored of even talking to him let alone doing it over and over....but when I'm insanely in love with a guy the "doing" gets better by the day........... I think cheating has everything to do with the principles and habit u cultivated as a single lady/guy. A guy/lady that cheats when single will definitely cheat mean maRried. That wedding ring changes ur status but sure doesn't erase who you are!you are right dear,but I believe a cheating husband will surely have a wife who would be tempted to cheat too,most cheating guys have no respect or even share emotions with dr wives,women have blood flowing through their veins too dey want to be desired,loved n respected if dey don't get it from dr man dey tend to look else where,only strong willed n God fearing women will stay put, keep been patient,tolerance,heartbroken n prayerfull.God help us. |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 9:54pm On Aug 25, 2012 |
galadima77: on a more candid note, av asked several colleagues of mine and frnds alike who r married and i keep gettn d same response. "U get tired of doing d same person over and over again"...yeah! Blunt but honest truth....from married men.Am sure the married women get bored too,but they have a lot at stake from their kids to what people will think and the fear of even thinking about it not to talk of doing it.I guess its a mans world. |
| Romance › Why Do Married Men Cheat? by hotchamalah(op): 8:59pm On Aug 25, 2012 |
A female friend just asked me dis questions...Why would a married man with a beautiful,intelligent,smart,nice n a very productive wife,cheat?what do men really want?your kind opinion peeps. |
| Family › Re: Scared Of The Future. by hotchamalah(op): 6:06pm On Aug 17, 2012 |
tjskii:you are right joh,life does not end with bank job.the problem is that most bankers think if they resign they won't be able to manage dr standard of living becos of the fat pay,but I believe job satisfaction and peace of mind is key,n dr loads of opportunity out dr,like u quoted once drs life drs hope |
| Family › Re: Scared Of The Future. by hotchamalah(op): 4:00pm On Aug 17, 2012 |
tjskii: Yup I agree wth above poster,she shud resign,I went thru similar stress myself cos of dis bank target issue,twas horrible,ud be insulted evryday at meetings,wakin up evryday wth fear and trepidation,some top peopl ur lookin at to meet ur target wud ask Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ to av sex wth dem 1st(tel me Ђ☺w̶̲̥̅̊ many men can Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ sleep wth,and dia sleepin wth Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ dosnt guuarantee thyl giv Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ d money o,abi did they write an undertakin to giv Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ money for sex)d most annoyin thing is dt dis money stil remains theirs to do as they wish,d thing even gathers intrst sef,so wats d point,its a diff thing if ur sellin ur body for money at least dt way Ɣ☺U̶̲̥̅̊ kno d money is urs. Abeg mak she resign sharply,ther r peopl wtht jobs who r stil survivinso how has life been after you resigned?the fear of the future is enslaving so many people doing dis bank job. |
| Romance › Re: My Husband Flirts With My Friends And Have Them As Contacts On BBM by hotchamalah(m): 11:40am On Aug 13, 2012 |
Gloriagee: Isn't marriage becoming the scariest ish ever?/Get out of that marriage before he gets you the Aids.you don't want him to continually make ur life miserable n den murder you.that husband of urs his really anonying.you dey try sef. |
| Family › Re: Marrying Someone You Are Not Crazy About.- Should I Marry Him? by hotchamalah(m): 2:22pm On Aug 11, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: Don't have any advice to give you. . .alls I'm gonna say is read you own post again, pay close attention to the highlighted parts and ask YOURSELF what YOU should.babe marriage is no joke once u get into it u r stuck except u wanna be running around very sure of wot u want so u don't end up been miserable,30 is not old let God guide u |
| Family › Re: Scared Of The Future. by hotchamalah(op): 9:35pm On Aug 10, 2012 |
Efemena_xy: @ Poster, unfortunately that is the way it is with banking jobs. Same thing here in the UK, if not more.thank you soo much |
| Family › Scared Of The Future. by hotchamalah(op): 9:00pm On Aug 08, 2012 |
There dis is girlfriend of mine we use to be very close way back,she is beautiful,intelligent,and full of lovely ideas,she is a good writer,she is a good fashion design,she has great ideas in photography, she was just lovely and full of life,she later got a well paid job with a bank,got her self a nice car,moved out of our neighbourhood to a nice place n even got married.I met her yesterday and I was shocked,she still look good but it was like. I was talking to another person she was so stressed out and lacked interest in what was going on around her,she told me she hated her job,that the job has taken every strength,joy,dreams and aspirations out of her,she said only thing she thinks about is how to meet her target and also she lives in the constant fear of been sacked.she was really a shadow of her formal self.she's scared of resigning cos she scared of the future. |
| Romance › Her Husband Makes Her Sad. by hotchamalah(op): 9:47pm On Aug 07, 2012*. Modified: 10:30pm On Aug 07, 2012 |
A friend of mine complained bitterly about her husband,they have just been married for two years and have a lovely baby girl.the problem is her husband stoped been intimate with her,his excuse is she is no longer as sexy as she use to be.and really the lady is really beautifull.she is really sad n confused.she is really thinking of an alternative. |
| Romance › Re: Ladies What Romantic Gestures Would You Appreciate From Men by hotchamalah(m): 7:24pm On Aug 04, 2012 |
Supplanter: Some men feel s*x is the only thing that Ladies appreciate but it's not so. I will really want all the Ladies in the house be honest with romantic gestures they will so much appreciate from men.I wiLl really apreciate love,sweet smell,nice music n of course goohg sex. |
| TV/Movies › Re: BBA: Goldie Takes Her Love For Prezzo To Cloud Nine As She Feeds Him In Tears by hotchamalah(m): 7:59pm On Jun 16, 2012 |
[color=#000000][/color]A cheap slut will always be a cheap slut.I tot niga babes r suppose to be smart dis chick na hot disgrace |
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