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sexymoma: WHEN A WOMEN IS ASKING FOR ONE MORE BABY AFTER 3 OR 4 KIDS.
BROS BE READY TO WELCOME A TWIN IN YOUR FAMILY.



That was what happened to ma mum.
she already had 6 kids then she wanted to round up with a male child
Lo and behold she welcomed a twin in her home ' Both Female'
Am one of her living testimony

Exactly.

Bludeville: So many questions to ask.
1.Does she contribute meaningfully to the family financially?
2. Are you a middle class family or higher?
3. Do you own a house of your own or pay rent?
4. Does she have a job or is she a house wife?
If you can afford to give the kids you have now the best care, education, support, time, etc that they need and still have time to spare for yourselves ,without working yourselves to death then why not? But personally, i think three is enough.
Abi she wan make am round number?

Tinkybabe: Just as bludeville as said..these are the things you guys should consider.

Try not to force your refusal down her throat..Make her see reasons,reveal the bigger picture- table the options/ consequences before her and jointly weigh them.

Your reason should go beyond" I'm okay with three".

@both, I agree with you but she actually know my financial strenght and thinks adding one more won't be a burden.

Yes, but I don't enjoy her when pregnant...she is usually weak and nags due to stress, and even the kids education suffers cos she is a 80% responsible while I sought for food.

Babes, am ok with 3 oooo.

Bludeville: So many questions to ask.
1.Does she contribute meaningfully to the family financially?
2. Are you a middle class family or higher?
3. Do you own a house of your own or pay rent?
4. Does she have a job or is she a house wife?
If you can afford to give the kids you have now the best care, education, support, time, etc that they need and still have time to spare for yourselves ,without working yourselves to death then why not? But personally, i think three is enough.
Abi she wan make am round number?

Thanks jare am ok wt 3.

donroxy: Let her realised the situation of the economy and how much U have intention of nurturing those on ground to greatness with God's help !!!

Tell her how much U love her and the kids, let her realised where U people are coming from, where U are and where you are going to ...... And the family plans and other targets ..... Tell her, how U wished to achieved all your plans and the Impact of the 3Kids in the overall plan !!!


If she still say No which is typical of a woman, always wishing to have their way,Don't Distract your family with Just an uncoming lucky boy..... Bros, abeg just give her just this one..... I pray, tis gonna be a Guy sha !!!


Three Guys three Girls make a Good VolleyBall team ...... !!!

What if the next preg is more than one... Say 4 plus 3 before.
Gbege be dat ooo.

dayokanu: Get vasectomy

Wicked bros...

We alread had 3, two girls and a boy.

She thinks we need one more but am ok with 3.

We have discussed and discussed but she is not giving in.

How else can I convince her?

Family planning shaaaa!

Who can plan what God did not plan?

My wife and I are presently discussing on the best possible family planning method.

You will say it is medical practisionals that can advice better...these I already know.

But I have also heard couples complaning that there is no "family planning" method that is completely safe, as without any after effect.

Have you experience any "family planning method"?

What was your experience like?

Please share with a friend.

Nomski0: Bunch of copy cats. . Movies like this make me see Nollywood as a big joke.

Remove ur sunshade...its raining.

Am in these for over 7yrs now.

Kind

She is asking guys to shop her right at lowest price!

Marketing tinz.

Eating

Nigerian are too gullible and easily deceived.

[quote author=moyarh.toh.badt]I neva C my nAmE OoOoooo[/quote]Stretch your middle finger with ur eyes closed....will u be my crush?


Atleast my fanta since crush don enter one chance.

Why will I be left out?

My sins are forgiveable naaah!

Multiple taxation nko!
Local govt, state and federal will be taxing you on the same business.

You will fear harrasment by their officials, reasons why most people and companies evade tax.

dBard: The First step is for u to be honest t urself n b sure u can/will be able t continue d relationship..
Secondly, clear ur doubts..ask d questions dat trouble ur mind..demand answers t d whys n whats (if u care t know). if dey bother u, air dem
thirdly, be honest about how ur feeling t ur partner. being honest abt ur feelings allows d guilty partner also clear his/her reservations
Most imprtsntly, its abt u n ur partner, so focus on d two of u n be careful abt outside interference.
Infidelity is a game changer..its best t pause n restart at such times than jst continuing like nothing happened..
Wisdom dey say is directive..

Wisdom indeed.

.............

Hardly will a man say no, its usually women who reject offers...- mean such offers

See olodo dem.
The answer is "wanti one"

Hmmm.

Life and its surprises.

Be sincere, if you are to get a million dollar for every single relationship you have had, how many Millions would you get?


Me, just $8m.



Let's have fun...

ireneidiva: Its time for me to comment. They said husbands are scarce. 'Husbands' not men. Men are everywhere but 'husbands' are scarce. It is pretty obvious from the all the craps guys on this thread have written and as we can all see, there is no resonable man on this thread and for the fact that a guy sat in his room or office and typed this unbeliveable shit, husbands are really scarce. I really don't understand this generation of guys infact, are this the kind of men we are supposed to marry? Guys suggesting polygamy? Tying four women to one man to satisfy his insatiable lust? Husbands are really scarce. Women pray hard! People putting their numbers and emails here, women are not desperate! We don't need it! We are just trying to say that this generation guys are too messed up to marry!!!

Babe, ignore whatever have been written up there.
The thread was open to seek for solution, do come up with your opinion.

Let's not decieve ourselves.
We all know what our African culture/tradition and the society at large think of a single but marriageable lady.

Am not mocking them either, but let us suggest ways to assist and improve the trend.

She that will listen and act will definately do.

For those who thinks the "woman" is always at the receiving end and the so called feminist...its a free world.

effisyman: Women are the cause of their own problem. ..
let me share a scenario.
My wife parents gave birth to three female's, I married one. The remaining two are over 30yrs and the only suitors coming forth are married men who genuinely wish to take them as second wife.
There mother is even the one pushing thst they should go ahead and marry those men but my wife refuses to seek my opinion because she and her mother have fought me because I want to take a second wife.

You see, if a man is willing and capable enough to marry more than one woman, we should encourage them since most African culture accept polygamy.

If we embrace polygamy totally and wives don't go about fighting each other, if they totally accept what fate beckons on yhe them.
Until then before population of singe but marriageable ladies will reduce.

Lol... Your wife and mother in-law wants your wife sister to accept proposal from married men but fought you because you wish to take a second wife.

Women can be funny... This also account for why they can easily be decieved.

Let get serious and proffer solution to these lingering issue.

There are 2 categories of ladies that is mostly affected.

(A) Ages 20yrs to 30yrs- this age is when you should ensure you are in the right relationship and not after fun, you need not make huge demands from your man and accept his financial standard. The shopping, cinema's and eatery things should be from him and not you insisting. You can even decline some of his offers to take you by simply saying "instead of eating out today again, why don't you take me to market so I can prepare you a good meal".
Be concerned about his prospects, his future,advice on how he can improve on his weakness and take interest in him being succesfull no matter what.
When you guys talk about marriage, he will be willing and optimistic since his "wife to be is not finacially inclined", and when he eventually get rich...you will both enjoy the wealth.

(B) This ladies of above 30yrs...now let me say this " what am going to say here is strictly my opinion".

It is only in Nigeria and some few countries that we plague the above 30yrs women, we detest them and make fun of them where they are not all at fault.
So,what is the solution for these women to get married?
The only one I can think of is polygamy... Yes, POLYGAMY.
At that age, majority of the suitors that would come are married men, many of whom want to chop and clean mouth, it is now left to you to play your cards wisely, meet his sexual demands and fill in the gaps, where the wife is not meeting up.
Accept to be a second wife if you meet a man who wishes to have one, or make yourself a second wife by being pregnant. Never go diabolical to achieve this, use your woman "power",It is not a curse to be a second wife.
Again, be nice to his first wife if eventually you become the second, you need not treat his first wife and children badly either and be submissive...this is Africa.

Like I wrote above, being a second wife and having your kids is better than to remain single. Am not saying you cannot find a single guy to date you but we all know the chances are very slim.
Most family in Nigeria and Africa will never allow their son to marry a older woman.

Let me allow peoples contribution before saying more..

safeLove: @HRMKZ,I never wrote that he should send her away,pls read again and stop assuming. He needs to get his wife to fall in love with him. Obviously,having 3 kids hasn't made either of them happy,has it?

The most important people in a marriage is the couple. They need to start again. Forever is a long time to keep patching things.

See what lack of love costing the poor dude. Hope de doesn't take someone's advice of going to UniLag.

No hard feelings dear.

safeLove: @op, If I married someone I didn't love,I would never initiate love making,I would 'submit' to his sexual advances just to keep the marriage, I would see love making with him as rape thereby crying and feeling sad when we are at it.

How does your wife feel about you cos from one of your posts above,you know people marry for different reasons.Is your wife 'truly' in love with you?

I think you should find that out,then take it from there?

Dis ur post na waaa, after 2 kids and expecting the 3rd.

So, he should check if she love him or not and send away later abi?

Op, God bless you.
You just stated my challenges, me I don enter town tey tey.

But, why are women the architect of their own problems.

End time tinz for messi.