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Ekrenji:
That’s the right thing to do. Wetin concern husband with his wife’s salary?

I thought we have agreed that men are equal to women in everything

Dogalmighty17:
His salary was 710 naira and he gave his wife 200 naira for house keeping? That's less than 30% of his salary. For a whole month? This means he expected his wife to add up and augment from her salary. Simple!

Not necessarily. N200 of those days has far more purchasing power than 400k of today

ChiefOloye:
If only you were old enough or not filled with unnecessary hate, you will prefer Oluremi Tinubu to Stella Obasanjo, ten times.

In what ways. Please explain

axglide:
We are to love who we marry not to marry who we love.

Ayam not understanding...

Samantha125:
Restaurant food are not really the kind of food that you'd want to rely on on a daily basis, they just lack that homely touch to them.

I heavily relied on takeaways on my first year and part of my second year in varsity... I just had to learn how to cook and perfect my cooking skills because I grew tired of always eating out... So chances are the husband will also eventually grow tired of those restaurant food as well.

Better woman!
One chilled glass of wine for you jare 🍾 🍷

DelilahMakinde:
Ok the real question is....
Is Hero Beer crap or not ?
I'm not a beer drinker but I want to stock the fridge with some for my male visitor this weekend.

Those who tasted it can give me an honest review.

It's about 1000 naira In mama Uches shop accros the road

Delilah.... Sha don't shave your visitor's hair when they are drunk 😂🏃🏃🏃

WorkTheTalk:
The war is ungoing, and nobody says Ukraine has won Russia. What sane people say is that the big mouth bully Putin hasn't overrun Ukraine in 2 weeks as he boasted. The e-propagandists can keep circulating old content to mask Putin's military weakness in the name of victory.

Morial lesson: Never make it easy for any bully.

War strategy doesn't work that way.

Israel actually has what it takes to level Gaza in one month - I mean total obliteration. But if they do they will lose international support and sympathy. The shout of genocide would have been louder. So they settled down to patiently pick hamas small small beans....shey you get

Russia has what it takes to soundly crush and defeat Ukraine in two week but going all out with that level of brute force will be a diplomatic blonder. Besides Putin's goal is.not to wipe out Ukraine. Believe me Russia has what it takes to keep this war going for another 5 years if they want. Ukraine will lose men, money, economy and still lose the land laslas so what's the point? That comedian needs to humble himself and cut his losses at this point. The best time to surrender to Russia was yesterday. The next best time is now

Lalami3232:
Mandela of all people married a single mother rather than a virgin? One man's food is another man's poison.

She was not a bitter feminist, bambiala or bed to bed midfielder like the single mothers of today. Get the difference?😜

WorkTheTalk:
For their minds, Russia is winning the war against Ukraine. The war Putin bragged that he will conquer Ukraine in 2 weeks is dragging into years now. The same Russia is using dubious means to recruit cheap military machineries from African countries, plus borrowed troops from North Korea just to fight Ukraine, Yet he can't overrun Ukraine.

Isn't it insane for people to always compare America and Russia in military capabilities? America simply allowed Russia to fight Ukraine to expose Putin's weakness.

Modified:
mach7 PepeXKermit Zhunnurayn KingOfAmebo you asked me for a single publication that Putin boasted he would take over Ukraine in 2 weeks. See here
https://time.com/3259699/putin-boast-kiev-2-weeks

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/ukraine-crisis-russian-president-vladimir-putin-claims-he-can-take-kiev-in-two-weeks-9705449.html

This long epistle just to convince us that Russia is loosing and Ukraine is winning because Ukraine was not "defeated" in two weeks 🤣🤣

Russia has killed 1000 Ukrainians (compared to 31 dead Russians), depleted their military firepower, turned them to money and arms begger and annexed a big chunk of Ukraine but somehow you think Russia is loosing. Lol

I bet you also believe that Hamas won Israel 😂😂

Commentor:
Exactly what I'm saying.

They should abandon their land for Israel.


We'll see how long Israel wants to play this game.

The world is watching.

Even Americans are tired of Israel.

There is nothing that the "world" will do about it. All Arab leaders gathered in Israel 2 weeks ago to witness signing of the peace treaty. They are all tired of Hamas except you online supporters who know nothing about the people you are supporting.

If you are counting on emotional sympathy and propaganda then by now you should know that it is not a winning strategy.

If Hamas tries rubbish again.l, both them and your innocent Palestinians will not know what hit them

Commentor:
You mean the citizens should vacate their homeland so Israel can claim it?

Do you even understand what you are writing?

Yes. An order was issued for all "innocent" Palestinians to move towards the border of Egypt where shelter have been provided for them to limit casualty but No! Online warriors like you encouraged them to stay with hamas so that you can count live scores.

If you have been following the war instead of your emotions you would have remembered when this happened

Commentor:
But all Palestinians support Hamas even as Hamas has been known to kill Palestinians.

Speak about bias.

No bias. It is the truth. When the war began, Israel told your innocent Palestinians to move away from Hamas strong hold but they stayed putbecwuse they will gladly stand as human shield to help Hamas sell their propaganda of genocide.

It's disturbing how Nigerians defend Hamas online but complain about insecurity in the north. I bet it the military starts killing those terrorist bastard in the north, people like you will carry placards to protest like Buhari that they are innocent killing northerners. Smh

Commentor:
That means every easterner is a drug pusher.

Every Nigerian must be a fraudster.

If you cannot differentiate the 2, you are a duplicitous character, unfit for any discourse.

You should not open a discussion like this with an attempt to compare apple to oranges.

I can't recall anytime when all easterners came out to celebrate a drug pusher. Neither do Nigerians throw parties to celebrate fraudsters.

Your so called innocent Palestinians threw street parties throughout Gaza between October 7 -10 and the videos are online.

Hate for Israelis is the first lesson Palestinians teach their children. From a young age They are taught Hamas belief that Killing an Israeli is like the highest achievement of their lives yet you want to somehow convince us that the two are different.

Newsflash!! Nobody in Gaza goes about with Hamas inscription on their foreheads.

You better wake up to reality

Commentor:
No one cares about Hamas but Palestinians.

Maybe you do, though.

Who are Hamas and who are Palestinians? This like is stale please.

Hamas and Palestinians are one and the same but you can keep decieving yourself.

They all came out to celebrate on October 7. They elected Hamas to lead them. And I'm glad that they have shown their true colour even after the peace treaty

Commentor:
Something is wrong with Africans.

Would you have preferred for them to pray for Hamas?

UK and US citizens have been protesting in support of Terrorists but you don't think there's something wrong with them

Why do Africans like looking down on Africa?

seanwilliam:
Don’t listen to her.
Divorce your husband if he’s not satisfying you.
Don’t tolerate disrespect from any man. Better men are outside please don’t settle for less.
You deserve better.

Lol every Mallam with him own kettle
😂😂

Kingpele:
Agbo is pure igbo name ,infact is prominent in Enugu state especially among nkanu people but the young man is very brilliant ....I hope he will be great in life through academic pursuit

Sorry you can't claim this one

The boy is full blooded Idoma from Benue state

Silentgroper:
. Hahahaha.. this is just my approach.. keep goofing around, play , flirtatious, get touchy but do it in a reasonably manner ..
.you'd hit faster than asking the Godforsaken question .

Then when you hit, she'd be the one asking what are we??

Then when she asks "what are we?"
you will answer "we are nothing but Pencils in the hands of the creator" 😁😁🤣😜

Royalty83:
Hope this senseless protest won't happen in Lagos because we lagosians still remember how they destroyed Lagos on the orders of Kanu 5 years ago. They can protest all they want in Abuja or the south east but they shouldn't try any nonsense in Lagos.. A word they say is enough for the wise.

How old were you in 2020?

If were old enough you would remember that the protest went on peacefully for the first 3 days. Youths marched from every corner of Lagos to designated centres where the gave speeches, sang, danced and even eat.

No problems at all. Until APC government used government BRT busses to bring agberos to the venue to beat up protesters while police stood by and watched because they have been ordered to stand down. The videos are all over the internet. This happened both in Lagos and Abuja.

Peaceful Protests have been happening from time immemorial and it will continue. A society that outlaws protest will soon become slaves to wicked rulers.

I am setting the record straight. You should stop painting endsars as if Nigerian youths left their houses with petrol and matches purposely to burn down the city.

Kobojunkie:
. This is a useless epistle since I made it clear that a man has the right to walk out of a relationship whenever he chooses. Same way, a woman can walk out of even a marriage whenever she is done. (She can always leave the kids with the man if she is not financially able to raise them in a joint situation, at least— I advise women to have only as many kids as they can raise alone.)

A woman does not owe a man what the man is himself unwilling to give her. If a man cannot appreciate, show gratitude, or affection to his wife, then he should not expect any from her. So?

You found it useful enough to respond and you did not refute any of my points because you know deep down that it's true.

Guys be wise and open your eyes. Most young girls of nowadays do not know how to love... they are only in business. Guy you are the only one in love. A word is enough for the wise

We4all:
I don't believe him because narcissists are known to be pathological liars and gaslighters. If she is doing drugs, then maybe it is to escape his abuse and torments.

And how did you diagnose him to be a narcissist?

Jennyclay:
Men display their real character as soon as they get married.

She must have discovered some certain things the man lied about and she won’t be able to cope reason she call it a quit

Men can lie, Jesus Christ!!
It could take years and months before a lady can notice a man have been lying to her

I’m glad it took her just weeks to discover in this case.

The post literally said the woman said she "need to find herself" but somehow in your men hating mind you interpret that to mean that it is the husband's fault.

You need to heal!

Kobojunkie:
1. The literal suffering of your mothers and sisters is not suffering but nature? WOW!

2. Well, I am glad women are no longer investing their lives in these so-called relationships that last.

3. I am glad women are finally realizing that it is worthless and of no benefit for them to carry these emotional burdens all by themselves.

4. Again, I am glad many women are no longer looking to bear the emotional and physical labor of making relationships last. I am happy they are finally making sure to walk out when they realize what they have been blindly doing to themselves.

Like I said it's my opinion and it's based on real people experience in relationships and marriage. You don't have to like or accept it.
Those who have ears let them hear.

But I'm glad that you are glad. Cheers!

WhizdomXX:
Nobody even asks how much they use to get education over here. There should be a temporary ban on medical professionals leaving the country. You can't get subsidized education and go on to insult the same country by going to where they spend over 1000% on the same education to work.

Oya nau tell your Tinubu to ban them. APC supporters with their mumu reasoning sha... You support wicked leaders to destroy the country yet you want to chain everybody down

The world is a global village. Skilled manpower will gravitate to where they are rewarded and appreciated

Kobojunkie:
Are those men equally tender with their wives? Or you think men are merely entitled to tenderness from women— a case of I want what I am unwilling to give?

Oroje1 is right. Most women have 3 major goals when it comes to marriage
1. Get married
2. Have children
3. Get the man to pay bills till they kingdom come

Once they achieve 1&2 they check out emotionally, and transfer all their love to the children.

At this point the man is only useful for 3 and if he attempts to find love outside it's a problem...

If the man cannot do 3 they will look for another man who can do it.... Even if the woman is rich she will still look for a man to do 3 because she believes her own money is not for taking care of the family...only God knows what most women intend to do with all the money they are hiding.

at this point she will disrespect the man and subtly turn the children against him. No appreciate, no gratitude, no affection. Then the man goes into depression and becomes a shadow of himself.

Some women will start cheating and later divorce the husband and take their children with them...if you don't believe me go to Facebook and see their bitter comments under various posts about marriage and divorce

This is the unfortunate story of most marriages today. If you still want to marry as a man I suggest open your eyes wide. Love is not enough

Love800:
Lol.

That is breach na, or bully. Forcingly taking possession of another's property(car). The wife is all shades of wrong.

So even if you confront your husband's mistress, will it stop him from engaging the side chick or quit his fantasy with women!
The wife is threading without caution.

Lol....Be speaking grammar upandan. Car that was bought in the mans name. The man knew what he was doing all along 🤣🤣

Jennyclay:
Marriage will last if men respect and stop cheating on their wives.

...and ladies close their legs as well

WebKraft:
LOL... That's a very poor way to reason. You assume the military too won't be corrupt but theirs has always been worse, besides, those ones can decide to start picking anyone who says anything against them online and offline, freedom of speech, gone!

We've had coups happen in Nigeria before, in fact in the 70s and 80s it was the order of the day, so it's something that has been done and never yielded any result. The solution is for us to make sure we hold whoever is elected accountable. If they don't want to hear word, use social media, protest, votes and your voice to fight for yourself.

Nigerians held government accountable through unions and civil society, protests etc until APC came and practically outlawed protests. Buhari picked up whoever said or posted anything against APC. He even banned social media and jailed opposition but this same APC supporters kept supporting him. Buhari and Tinubu in the last 10 years systematically broke the spirits of Nigerian youths. Let me not even talk about endsars and the atrocities committed by APC government.

So it's funny when APC supporter suddenly come up with this cliche of hold government accountable...my question is how?

Under PDP, APC protested in Lagos Abuja and port Harcourt almost one every two weeks. Then they got to power and suddenly you must collect permission from them before you can protest....then they will organise a counter protest and police will stand and watch as the counter protesters beat and molest the legitimate protesters.

You said election...Lol
Thesame election were the Abuja loudmouth riggeed openly and APC supporters clapped for him?

The damage has been done and the consequences is just loading. By the time it comes full cycle even APC supporters will regret ever supporting APC

I believe there's more to this story...

Kobojunkie:
. And when that woman realizes that she is literally carrying the relationship on her head, you expect her to be OK with it, right?

2. I am glad our daughters no longer wish to live like their mothers and grandmothers before them. I would never want my daughter or anyone I love to suffer in that way, and I am glad they are realizing this themselves.

Lol you think it's suffering but that is just how nature has designed it. It may not make sense to you but it's ok.

Any relationship where the woman is not more committed and emotionally invested more than the man will not last. Men love without reservation when they love. A woman can date or even marry a man she doesn't love and continue to stay with him as long as he's serving her purpose/need. The moment the man is no longer able to meet those needs or serve her, she will change her attitude and ultimately leave because there was no genuine love from the start.

I have seen this happen to the rich and poor, Ordinary people and celebrity alike.

If you marry a modern woman solely because you love her so much without testing her to be sure that she loves you even more then it won't be long before you come here to tell us your own super story just like the op.

It is men that love blindly. Women love with the eyes wide open. A word is enough for the wise

Kobojunkie:
When already in a marriage, the only way not to ignore a red flag is to exit said marriage. OP did not divorce his wife as a result of the said red flags in the marriage. So, why shouldn't he have chosen to Japa with her?

2. I don't agree with this since it would mean the man was himself settling for the woman in marriage. Research has shown us enough that the partner who settled would eventually start looking elsewhere for emotional and social balance needed to survive the relationship. We see that happen every single day, mind you. Is that really your idea of a sensible union?

Yes it's my idea but it's personal and i don't expect everybody to share the same view. A woman must show equal or greater committment and emotional investment for the marriage to work. Anything less is a failure waiting to happen. Women hardly leave a marriage where they have invested so much love and committment. They know how to make it work if they love you

Kobojunkie:
. Despite all the so-called signs she showed in Nigeria, OP chose to keep her as his wife. So, why again should he not have relocated with her?

Hmm I have learnt not to ignore red flags. Any relationship where the woman is not more emotionally invested than the man cannot last.

As a man ensure that the woman you're dating loves you more than you love her and make her prove it convincingly before marrying her. My personal view.