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CyracksMrBlogger:
are u new in Nigeria? Those controlling NNPC, Pengassa union, those who own refinery outside Nigeria, gifting crude to themselves, refining and importing to Nigeria etc

Ok does Tinubu and his government know them? If yes what are they doing to stop them from sabotaging the economy.

The question is not for you though. I don't have the answers as well but I'm just thinking aloud....

Sometimes im tempted to believe that these politicians and the actors you mentioned are also part of the cabal.

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

You don't relocate abroad with a woman who has shown you all these signs in Nigeria. That's a big mistake bro. She clearly doesn't love or respect you

That woman go leave you laslas

Angelfrost:
How many Nigerians can actually build houses or buy cars after 10 years of saving?!! How many?!!

How many civil servants can afford to buy cars or build houses without taking loans from their cooperative societies?!!


If you don't know something, don't argue with more exposed people.

I know how things work in Nigeria and outside Nigeria... And I know no serious person abroad celebrates car ownership because it's a routine process.


Now, say thank you and stop making needless justifications for abnormal 3rd world behaviors.

Chief you just succeeded in exposing your ignorance. You should humble yourself and learn. Have you lived abroad before? If yes let me know the country. I need to know your level of exposure before I dissipate energy arguing with you

nairalanda1:
All these will end when you hold your leaders to account, instead of chanting polemic at me

As for borrowing, lol. Your government revenue is from 1.8 m barrels per day of oil which can't sustain 10 million people. So what do you expect.

Better vote out apc next time.

Tell me in simple and practical terms how to "Hold your government accountable".

Also tell us how you have been holding this government accountable.

CyracksMrBlogger:
The cabals want the rate high so that they will continue importing PMS and selling to Nigerians. Once dangote reduce his price, fight go start again hmmm

Who is/are the cabal?

nairalanda1:
I no be apc supporter, but it cost our budget billions of dollars to keep fuel prices low.

And it eventually forced the government to borrow money to pay for subsidy.

Economists saw the light as far back as the 1980s , but Nigerians kept on saying no.

And the money for subsidy came from health, education and other budgets.

Once you understand how subsidy kills our economy, you will oppose it. I saw the light in 2012. I am not a GEJ or tinubu supporter, but sometimes our useless leaders make useful decisions

But the government has not stopped borrowing and the state governors are embezzling the excess allocation they got after subsidy removal. Yet prices of goods and services keep increasing so what is the net gain to the common man on the street?

Mirasteel:
Are you serious? have you heared about NAKBA? how Palestinians were thrown away from their homes by zionist Jews and those who revolted were killed? I guess you guys haven't heard about it hence why most of you are ignorant.

So what's the moral of your story?

You people instead of acknowledging that Palestinians and Hamas bit more than they could chew, you keep trying to justify nonsense.

You will keep justifying this until they are encouraged to launch another October 7 again then when the consequences come you will run to social media to cry genocide. Smh

nepapole:
It must be the clans that Netanyahu funded. The same way he funded hamas before they went rogue

It's a pity many still don't understand that Israel had the knowledge of hamas oct 7th plans a year before it happened.

There was definitely a stand down order to enable Netanyahu justify his genocide on Gaza.

These were the questions Charlie Kirk started asking before he was assassinated.

I don't blame those who don't and can't think deeply sha... the Israelis control the mainstream media.

They don brainwash all of una finish.

Thank God for the ones asking questions... Tucker, Candace, Dave Smith and others.

They are getting their fellow Americans to wake up.

This your narrative makes no sense at all. Zero sense. So you believe that Israelis planned October 7 and paid Palestinians to murder their own citizens and kidnap the rest?

Is that what you believe?

Angelfrost:
That's what you see in poverty-ravaged 3rd world countries na.

SUVs that students easily acquire and finance over a decade abroad, na people dey throw party over for Naija.

Honestly, every serious Nigerian with a good education needs to travel out and see how life is properly lived.

SMH!!!

Lol for your mind now you dey very exposed. Ndi abroad

There's nothing to shake your head about. Most People live in debt abroad. In Nigeria you need actual money to pay for your purchases upfront including houses and cars. It's two very different systems. We don't believe in slaving for 10 years to buy car or 30 years to pay mortgage.

So if you really understand how things work abroad vs Nigeria you should actually join to question the lady.

ariesbull:
We don't have YORUBA in Kogi and Kwara

Those people are not yoruba many of them aren't and don't like to be called yoruba ..example are the Okun and Kabba people

Many of them don't like being called yoruba and the article pointed it out ! But it's being smart by half

The two examples mentioned represent minority opinions. Kabba and okun name, tradition and culture is exactly as you have it in the southwest. Every kabba and Okun person understand and speak fluent Yoruba language

epainos:
Monetizing the gospel of Chriat is wrong.

Christ Oyakhilome started paying them heavy fee cos he thought he was encouraging, not knowing that he was making them businessmen of the gospel. Lol. It was too late before he realised it.

As a musician, if his talent is only making music, he can find other ways to monetize his gift like teaching, recording, or even use digital means. So, does it mean that all the money he has been making on digital platforms isn't enough for him that he wants to collect money while ministering on God's altars? He wants to collect money while the pastor preaching should give it out freely? So, why do they buses the word "ministering" when they still want to collect money?

Well, I think he doesn't really know Christ. You can know Christ and charge money while ministering for Him. It is not possible.

The pastors also charge to preach so musicians quickly learnt from them

Meedon:
Spot on. People see marriage as do or die affair. Na that "for better for worse," weh Bible the use deceive them naim the do them.

Come to think of it....For better for worse is not in the Bible

oladapoa1:
The most interesting thing to note is that, this tax has been in place decades ago in all local governments in Nigeria. They are not just implemented.

Try to visit your local governments, they will present it 😂

May be we should also start collecting tax for this phone you are using to type rub.b.ish. You and those you are supporting are need your head checked. With the hardship this government has brought is this the right time to start extorting people for having TV. Even Lagos doesn't charge this crazy bill for radio and television. At this rate APC will pass a law to charge for breathing and some of you will be paid to write long epistles to defend it.

One thing is very sure , the hardship you support is coming back to haunt you

frog12:
the man and his company are known liars. and very unpatriotic.

how can you give nigerian jobs to indian nationals?

If Nigerian workers choose to be foolish and join a devilish union to sabotage my company I will sack them in a heartbeat. Sorry but there is no emotion here. If I have to employ foreigners to replace them I will do just that

Nwaikpe:
Let us get it straight:

Dangote will not win this.
No one can fight the constitution and win.

Unlike what the vice president ignorantly said, Dangote is an individual, not an institution. His organization is an institution that must abide by the laws of the country.

It is clear: no one can be victimized for their enshrined right to associate and be a part of any lawful group they so wish to. That is why it is good to listen to your lawyer if you employ one rather than teach the lawyer when you employ them.

I will fire any employees that join forces with whatever union to sabotage my company operations. There is no emotion here

OracleJay411:
I DONT WATCH ANYTHING RUFAI. I dont want to. I dont need to. I stoppee watching for almost 2 yrs now. I just see clips like this cos i know Rufai is bias and uncultured

Your statement also shows that you don't like him already so you can't be objective in your ju*dgement once you hear R*ufai name. Why do Nigerians Always look down on anybody that attempts to hold leaders accountable yet you say you want Nigeria to be great

helinues:
Rufai can't be rude to people and be thinking he's always right. His question is not logical.

When you budget for a road project, there are unseen things in the initial plans, that's why the budget is always over estimated

For example, there are new linking roads to the Lagos Calabar coastal highway which wasn't in the initial plan

So why can't the minister explain that Just like you did here? It's very simple...he believes he is not accountable to Nigerians. Was it t this same loud mouth that told security to drag a lady out after taking her land and refusing to compensate her?

Is umahi speaking to rufai or to Nigerians? Rufai or not He is rude and arrogant and I pity those of you supporting so called leaders to behave like this

jmoore:
The bandits are on pilgrimage in Kwara. They are not attacking anyone.

Kwara is the most peaceful state in the world.

There is nothing like bandits and I wish that we all stop calling them bandits.

These are terrorists but APC government will play blind, deaf and dumb because they are complicit. How can one party superintend over the killing and displacement of thousands of its citizens by non state actors for the past 10 years??

SatoshiX:
When DSS pick this one now to come and prove his allegations, he'll start shouting witch hunting.

What is this one saying? Has DSS picked Gumi and his cohorts?

All of you that are supporting APC you will become victims of the evil uou keep supporting

MaxInDHouse:
Jesus sent his disciples to go and preach to people in their homes {Matthew 10:11-13} that's the point.


When people just feel like going to one worship center without being preached to then it's not about Christianity because Christians talk to people about God's Kingdom {Matthew 10:7} that is the message that leads to true faith in Christ!

Chief I don't know your denominational background but Christianity is bigger than your denomination.

Christians gather to worship together, encourage each other and hear the word of God. If you have a problem with that then this is my last reply to you

Eboofa:
For where..! The kind of redlining that ronu ppl do in terms of projects location in Lagos will mystify you! At kilo bus stop in surulere......Nnobi street right is Igbo dominated and the roads are miserable but Nnobi left is Yoruba dominated......I do not remember in 30 years ...when their road was ever bad..........Meanwhile Sanwaolu family home is right in Igbo dominated Nnobi right........has he summoned the courage to tar Olaitan Odularu street.......??
For where!!

Ndigbo should diversify their holdings to southeast and southsouth! Enugu and Port Harcourt offer a better quality of life than Lagos!

Is portharcout igboland too?🤣🤣

kettykin:
The worst form of submission is continuing to empower a system that sidelines you.
Imagine if every Igbo entrepreneur and consumer consciously boycotted goods, services, and products headquartered in Lagos , from telecommunications and banking to oil, gas, and corporate giants profiting from the East while paying taxes elsewhere.

Picture the inauguration of a strategic economic revival team that mandates every Igbo business operating in Lagos to establish a parallel enterprise in the East under a new brand identity before being licensed to trade locally. Add to that a sales tax on goods not produced in the East, and a cultural policy ensuring at least 10% airtime for artists and content creators based in the region.

The message is simple and urgent,The East must wake up, organize, and reclaim its own economic destiny.
We are empowering Lagos too much , now that Lagos has turned into the economic powerhouse of yorubas, any business on the east paying tax tp Lagos should be treated with less priority.


Please notice I left out the churches out of reverence for God.

This thing you typed cannot happen in the next 100 years

MaxInDHouse:
Of course hearing the word of God starts from those sent to preach to you in your homes {Romans 10:15 compare to Matthew 10:11-13} it's not the other way around those sent should go to find the sheep it's after hearing them out that faith comes to visit their place of worship! Romans 10:17

Whether you preach in homes or church congregation, the important thing is to preach the word. I don't have an issue with the location. And if more people are going to church how is that a bad thing?

dofman:
They are going down ahaaa

😂😂😂😂 even their pastor confirmed it



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwXB3-N3TSs

You can never understand Christianity. Face your religion of peace jeje

FreeStuffsNG:
15,000 churches could close this year amid religious shift in U.S.

Russell Contreras



https://www.axios.com/2025/10/03/us-churches-close-religious-shift-christians

This whole write-up is misleading and appears to be anti Christian propaganda.

Young men are going back to church actually. A little research will clear your doubt

MaxInDHouse:
Please don't be provoked!
Visiting a worship center doesn't make a visitor Christian rather it's accepting the teachings {Matthew 7:24-27} making it part of you {Luke 11:27-28} and joining other disciples to proclaim the message in your neighborhood {Matthew 10:11-13; Luke 10:6} that makes you a disciple of Jesus (Christian)

Visiting the worship centre is a good start if you ask me. Salvation and Faith comes by hearing the word of God

motayoayinde:
US, France and Israel are behindthe destabilization of West Africa.

No. Nigerian government itself is complicit.
You can't have foreigners interfere in your country without insiders within the government.

Why is the government more concerned about taxing Nigeria than fighting insecurity?

Shimbo96:
You can only hear this kind of news from Sahara reporters and the worst part is that there is no evidence to backup this claim.

What do you mean there is no evidence?

Elusive001:
Lagos is no man's land bros. We all have stake in Lagos

You have not learnt anything about this offensive statement that you people made in 2023