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Commentor:
Exactly what I'm saying.

They should abandon their land for Israel.


We'll see how long Israel wants to play this game.

The world is watching.

Even Americans are tired of Israel.

There is nothing that the "world" will do about it. All Arab leaders gathered in Israel 2 weeks ago to witness signing of the peace treaty. They are all tired of Hamas except you online supporters who know nothing about the people you are supporting.

If you are counting on emotional sympathy and propaganda then by now you should know that it is not a winning strategy.

If Hamas tries rubbish again.l, both them and your innocent Palestinians will not know what hit them

Commentor:
You mean the citizens should vacate their homeland so Israel can claim it?

Do you even understand what you are writing?

Yes. An order was issued for all "innocent" Palestinians to move towards the border of Egypt where shelter have been provided for them to limit casualty but No! Online warriors like you encouraged them to stay with hamas so that you can count live scores.

If you have been following the war instead of your emotions you would have remembered when this happened

Commentor:
But all Palestinians support Hamas even as Hamas has been known to kill Palestinians.

Speak about bias.

No bias. It is the truth. When the war began, Israel told your innocent Palestinians to move away from Hamas strong hold but they stayed putbecwuse they will gladly stand as human shield to help Hamas sell their propaganda of genocide.

It's disturbing how Nigerians defend Hamas online but complain about insecurity in the north. I bet it the military starts killing those terrorist bastard in the north, people like you will carry placards to protest like Buhari that they are innocent killing northerners. Smh

Commentor:
That means every easterner is a drug pusher.

Every Nigerian must be a fraudster.

If you cannot differentiate the 2, you are a duplicitous character, unfit for any discourse.

You should not open a discussion like this with an attempt to compare apple to oranges.

I can't recall anytime when all easterners came out to celebrate a drug pusher. Neither do Nigerians throw parties to celebrate fraudsters.

Your so called innocent Palestinians threw street parties throughout Gaza between October 7 -10 and the videos are online.

Hate for Israelis is the first lesson Palestinians teach their children. From a young age They are taught Hamas belief that Killing an Israeli is like the highest achievement of their lives yet you want to somehow convince us that the two are different.

Newsflash!! Nobody in Gaza goes about with Hamas inscription on their foreheads.

You better wake up to reality

Commentor:
No one cares about Hamas but Palestinians.

Maybe you do, though.

Who are Hamas and who are Palestinians? This like is stale please.

Hamas and Palestinians are one and the same but you can keep decieving yourself.

They all came out to celebrate on October 7. They elected Hamas to lead them. And I'm glad that they have shown their true colour even after the peace treaty

Commentor:
Something is wrong with Africans.

Would you have preferred for them to pray for Hamas?

UK and US citizens have been protesting in support of Terrorists but you don't think there's something wrong with them

Why do Africans like looking down on Africa?

seanwilliam:
Don’t listen to her.
Divorce your husband if he’s not satisfying you.
Don’t tolerate disrespect from any man. Better men are outside please don’t settle for less.
You deserve better.

Lol every Mallam with him own kettle
😂😂

Kingpele:
Agbo is pure igbo name ,infact is prominent in Enugu state especially among nkanu people but the young man is very brilliant ....I hope he will be great in life through academic pursuit

Sorry you can't claim this one

The boy is full blooded Idoma from Benue state

Silentgroper:
. Hahahaha.. this is just my approach.. keep goofing around, play , flirtatious, get touchy but do it in a reasonably manner ..
.you'd hit faster than asking the Godforsaken question .

Then when you hit, she'd be the one asking what are we??

Then when she asks "what are we?"
you will answer "we are nothing but Pencils in the hands of the creator" 😁😁🤣😜

Royalty83:
Hope this senseless protest won't happen in Lagos because we lagosians still remember how they destroyed Lagos on the orders of Kanu 5 years ago. They can protest all they want in Abuja or the south east but they shouldn't try any nonsense in Lagos.. A word they say is enough for the wise.

How old were you in 2020?

If were old enough you would remember that the protest went on peacefully for the first 3 days. Youths marched from every corner of Lagos to designated centres where the gave speeches, sang, danced and even eat.

No problems at all. Until APC government used government BRT busses to bring agberos to the venue to beat up protesters while police stood by and watched because they have been ordered to stand down. The videos are all over the internet. This happened both in Lagos and Abuja.

Peaceful Protests have been happening from time immemorial and it will continue. A society that outlaws protest will soon become slaves to wicked rulers.

I am setting the record straight. You should stop painting endsars as if Nigerian youths left their houses with petrol and matches purposely to burn down the city.

Kobojunkie:
. This is a useless epistle since I made it clear that a man has the right to walk out of a relationship whenever he chooses. Same way, a woman can walk out of even a marriage whenever she is done. (She can always leave the kids with the man if she is not financially able to raise them in a joint situation, at least— I advise women to have only as many kids as they can raise alone.)

A woman does not owe a man what the man is himself unwilling to give her. If a man cannot appreciate, show gratitude, or affection to his wife, then he should not expect any from her. So?

You found it useful enough to respond and you did not refute any of my points because you know deep down that it's true.

Guys be wise and open your eyes. Most young girls of nowadays do not know how to love... they are only in business. Guy you are the only one in love. A word is enough for the wise

We4all:
I don't believe him because narcissists are known to be pathological liars and gaslighters. If she is doing drugs, then maybe it is to escape his abuse and torments.

And how did you diagnose him to be a narcissist?

Jennyclay:
Men display their real character as soon as they get married.

She must have discovered some certain things the man lied about and she won’t be able to cope reason she call it a quit

Men can lie, Jesus Christ!!
It could take years and months before a lady can notice a man have been lying to her

I’m glad it took her just weeks to discover in this case.

The post literally said the woman said she "need to find herself" but somehow in your men hating mind you interpret that to mean that it is the husband's fault.

You need to heal!

Kobojunkie:
1. The literal suffering of your mothers and sisters is not suffering but nature? WOW!

2. Well, I am glad women are no longer investing their lives in these so-called relationships that last.

3. I am glad women are finally realizing that it is worthless and of no benefit for them to carry these emotional burdens all by themselves.

4. Again, I am glad many women are no longer looking to bear the emotional and physical labor of making relationships last. I am happy they are finally making sure to walk out when they realize what they have been blindly doing to themselves.

Like I said it's my opinion and it's based on real people experience in relationships and marriage. You don't have to like or accept it.
Those who have ears let them hear.

But I'm glad that you are glad. Cheers!

WhizdomXX:
Nobody even asks how much they use to get education over here. There should be a temporary ban on medical professionals leaving the country. You can't get subsidized education and go on to insult the same country by going to where they spend over 1000% on the same education to work.

Oya nau tell your Tinubu to ban them. APC supporters with their mumu reasoning sha... You support wicked leaders to destroy the country yet you want to chain everybody down

The world is a global village. Skilled manpower will gravitate to where they are rewarded and appreciated

Kobojunkie:
Are those men equally tender with their wives? Or you think men are merely entitled to tenderness from women— a case of I want what I am unwilling to give?

Oroje1 is right. Most women have 3 major goals when it comes to marriage
1. Get married
2. Have children
3. Get the man to pay bills till they kingdom come

Once they achieve 1&2 they check out emotionally, and transfer all their love to the children.

At this point the man is only useful for 3 and if he attempts to find love outside it's a problem...

If the man cannot do 3 they will look for another man who can do it.... Even if the woman is rich she will still look for a man to do 3 because she believes her own money is not for taking care of the family...only God knows what most women intend to do with all the money they are hiding.

at this point she will disrespect the man and subtly turn the children against him. No appreciate, no gratitude, no affection. Then the man goes into depression and becomes a shadow of himself.

Some women will start cheating and later divorce the husband and take their children with them...if you don't believe me go to Facebook and see their bitter comments under various posts about marriage and divorce

This is the unfortunate story of most marriages today. If you still want to marry as a man I suggest open your eyes wide. Love is not enough

Love800:
Lol.

That is breach na, or bully. Forcingly taking possession of another's property(car). The wife is all shades of wrong.

So even if you confront your husband's mistress, will it stop him from engaging the side chick or quit his fantasy with women!
The wife is threading without caution.

Lol....Be speaking grammar upandan. Car that was bought in the mans name. The man knew what he was doing all along 🤣🤣

Jennyclay:
Marriage will last if men respect and stop cheating on their wives.

...and ladies close their legs as well

WebKraft:
LOL... That's a very poor way to reason. You assume the military too won't be corrupt but theirs has always been worse, besides, those ones can decide to start picking anyone who says anything against them online and offline, freedom of speech, gone!

We've had coups happen in Nigeria before, in fact in the 70s and 80s it was the order of the day, so it's something that has been done and never yielded any result. The solution is for us to make sure we hold whoever is elected accountable. If they don't want to hear word, use social media, protest, votes and your voice to fight for yourself.

Nigerians held government accountable through unions and civil society, protests etc until APC came and practically outlawed protests. Buhari picked up whoever said or posted anything against APC. He even banned social media and jailed opposition but this same APC supporters kept supporting him. Buhari and Tinubu in the last 10 years systematically broke the spirits of Nigerian youths. Let me not even talk about endsars and the atrocities committed by APC government.

So it's funny when APC supporter suddenly come up with this cliche of hold government accountable...my question is how?

Under PDP, APC protested in Lagos Abuja and port Harcourt almost one every two weeks. Then they got to power and suddenly you must collect permission from them before you can protest....then they will organise a counter protest and police will stand and watch as the counter protesters beat and molest the legitimate protesters.

You said election...Lol
Thesame election were the Abuja loudmouth riggeed openly and APC supporters clapped for him?

The damage has been done and the consequences is just loading. By the time it comes full cycle even APC supporters will regret ever supporting APC

I believe there's more to this story...

Kobojunkie:
. And when that woman realizes that she is literally carrying the relationship on her head, you expect her to be OK with it, right?

2. I am glad our daughters no longer wish to live like their mothers and grandmothers before them. I would never want my daughter or anyone I love to suffer in that way, and I am glad they are realizing this themselves.

Lol you think it's suffering but that is just how nature has designed it. It may not make sense to you but it's ok.

Any relationship where the woman is not more committed and emotionally invested more than the man will not last. Men love without reservation when they love. A woman can date or even marry a man she doesn't love and continue to stay with him as long as he's serving her purpose/need. The moment the man is no longer able to meet those needs or serve her, she will change her attitude and ultimately leave because there was no genuine love from the start.

I have seen this happen to the rich and poor, Ordinary people and celebrity alike.

If you marry a modern woman solely because you love her so much without testing her to be sure that she loves you even more then it won't be long before you come here to tell us your own super story just like the op.

It is men that love blindly. Women love with the eyes wide open. A word is enough for the wise

Kobojunkie:
When already in a marriage, the only way not to ignore a red flag is to exit said marriage. OP did not divorce his wife as a result of the said red flags in the marriage. So, why shouldn't he have chosen to Japa with her?

2. I don't agree with this since it would mean the man was himself settling for the woman in marriage. Research has shown us enough that the partner who settled would eventually start looking elsewhere for emotional and social balance needed to survive the relationship. We see that happen every single day, mind you. Is that really your idea of a sensible union?

Yes it's my idea but it's personal and i don't expect everybody to share the same view. A woman must show equal or greater committment and emotional investment for the marriage to work. Anything less is a failure waiting to happen. Women hardly leave a marriage where they have invested so much love and committment. They know how to make it work if they love you

Kobojunkie:
. Despite all the so-called signs she showed in Nigeria, OP chose to keep her as his wife. So, why again should he not have relocated with her?

Hmm I have learnt not to ignore red flags. Any relationship where the woman is not more emotionally invested than the man cannot last.

As a man ensure that the woman you're dating loves you more than you love her and make her prove it convincingly before marrying her. My personal view.

CyracksMrBlogger:
are u new in Nigeria? Those controlling NNPC, Pengassa union, those who own refinery outside Nigeria, gifting crude to themselves, refining and importing to Nigeria etc

Ok does Tinubu and his government know them? If yes what are they doing to stop them from sabotaging the economy.

The question is not for you though. I don't have the answers as well but I'm just thinking aloud....

Sometimes im tempted to believe that these politicians and the actors you mentioned are also part of the cabal.

dipset01:
I honestly feel very frustrated and just need to get this off my chest. I now understand what people mean when they say, “Don’t marry the wrong spouse.” Brethren, I think I may have gotten this one wrong.

My wife and I have been married for seven years. I was 28 when we got married, and she was 22. In the beginning, things were fine, but along the line, the marriage became increasingly challenging. From early on, intimacy was an issue. She often refused sex, saying she was tired. To reduce tension, I limited my request to once a week — usually Saturday mornings — even though I would have liked more.
She also didn’t cook regularly. I complained several times, especially since I covered about 95% of food and household expenses. Eventually, I got tired of complaining. When we moved to lagos from portharcourt, She once told me she didn’t feel loved and wanted me to do more house chores and take her out more. I tried to adjust — suggested she hired a maid, helped around the house, and made an effort to take her out when possible. Lagos life can be very busy, but I did what I could. Every year for the past four years, I made sure we lodged in a 4- or 5-star hotel for a few days as a couple. She went on vacation to dubai 2 years ago. But she often said I was doing it “for the family (children), not for her.” That she wants her own treatment.


At one point, after a serious conflict, I took her to her father’s house and told him that we didn’t love each other anymore. During the mediation, she played the victim at first, crying. But when her father tried to correct her, she suddenly became defensive and started yelling — even at him. Her father was shocked and had to calm the situation. He later told us something that stuck with me: “You two talk, but you don’t communicate.” Since then, I’ve tried to improve our communication, but it feels like my wife has given up on the marriage.

In the past year, things have gotten worse. Any small thing I say seems to anger her. She interprets normal conversations as arguments and shuts down. I have become conscious of it and tell her not to raise her voice and try to match her voice tone. She’s not open to resolving conflicts. I honestly believe she no longer loves me — she resents me. She gets angry easily, often over nothing. We barely talk deeply anymore. Most of our conversations are shallow. I try to initiate discussions, but she’s either uninterested, on her phone, or just cold.

She no longer sleeps in the same bed with me, claiming back and neck pain. I’ve offered to buy a new mattress or switch beds, but she’s not interested. As a result, our sex life has deteriorated — we’re down to about once in three weeks, and even that comes with tension. Even to approach her now comes with alot of hesitation and fear of rejection. Recently, when I tried to be intimate, she got angry, accused me of hurting her breast, even though she was the one preventing me, she then walked away. That led to another quarrel. It’s extremely frustrating to feel rejected repeatedly, especially after weeks of restraint.

Even minor things turn into big arguments. For example, I once told her not to pour water into the griller after cooking because it could cause rust. Her reaction was explosive — she shouted that she’d never wash the oven again and that I should do it myself, going forward. I felt asked was she was yelling. I tried to calmly explain, but she kept escalating, I must wash it, if she cooks the food, i must wash the burner. It dawned on me that she no longer sees or appreciates what I do in the house. Despite being the main provider, I still handle more than 50% of household chores — I wash dishes, vacuum, clean toilets, take the boys to school, iron everyone cloth etc. She mainly cooks, bathes the kids, and does laundry. I told her I do as much chores and she is in no position to dictate to me, no big deal in washing the burner but she needs to be polite. And she should not take me doing chores for granted, I am just supporting her. We both work from home so there is no stress of commuting to work etc

She acts like she’s disgusted by me. She avoids sitting near me, doesn’t want me to touch her, and even turns her face away when I try to kiss her. If she is sitting on a chair, if i come sit on that chair she will use style and go to the room. It is either my mouth smells or my tummy is big. I am relative fit, not a 6 packs man o. I go just swallow these things. Nothing wrong in feedback, but the way and manner she gives it is not fine. Never ever body shamed her. One day she told me, sabi I was almost calling of the marriage while we were engaged, why did I marry her? I was shocked. It was something I didnt remember doing. It just shocks me to know how unforgiving a woman can be, and what goes through their mind.

When I try to talk things through, she ignores me or gives cold replies. I’ve even sent messages on WhatsApp just to get through to her — she either ignores them or replies with things like, “You win.” We don’t walk together anymore — she either walks ahead or rushes off.

One day I even begged her to forgive and forget whatever I might have done, even if I didn’t know what it was. But things only seem to get worse. We relocated to the UK last year, and I thank God I have a good job that helps me support the home. Honestly, I feel that’s the only reason she’s still around. My spirit tells me that if I ever lose this job, I might lose my home too. Or she is just waiting for the kids to be of age.

I’ve tried to make things better — bought her gifts (including a Samsung S24 for her birthday), taken her and the kids to the cinema, arcade, amusement park, and more. She enjoys these things, but there’s no real change. Even told her to tell me what she wants. The only area I think I need to still work on is the pray more with the family. She says she wants me to pray more with her and the children. I admit it an area I need to work on.

No one is perfect, neither am I or expecting my wife to be. I know I’m a good husband and a great father, But it feels like she’s emotionally checked out. Divorce is never in my mind because I come from a Christian home, and I care deeply about my kids and even her. I still believe any marriage can work if both partners are willing to try. But right now, I’m just tired. It’s painful when you want to communicate, but the other person refuses. She’s grown cold, distant, and resentful. When she cooks, I can see the resentment in her eyes, she is not happy doing it. It is like she went into the marriage with certain expectation and it doesnt look like I am meeting them. I have tried to ask, what can i do, teach me to love you. Tell me what you wants, for where? she will just lock up.

She has good qualities — she’s spiritual, beautiful, ambitious, serious-minded, she takes good care of the kids, she has introduced my children to God and prays with them. But emotionally, it feels like she’s no longer in the marriage. I’m just frustrated and honestly don’t know what else to do. I’m not perfect, but I’ve been faithful, responsible, and patient.

At this point, I just needed to vent. Maybe someone out there has gone through something similar and found a way forward.

You don't relocate abroad with a woman who has shown you all these signs in Nigeria. That's a big mistake bro. She clearly doesn't love or respect you

That woman go leave you laslas

Angelfrost:
How many Nigerians can actually build houses or buy cars after 10 years of saving?!! How many?!!

How many civil servants can afford to buy cars or build houses without taking loans from their cooperative societies?!!


If you don't know something, don't argue with more exposed people.

I know how things work in Nigeria and outside Nigeria... And I know no serious person abroad celebrates car ownership because it's a routine process.


Now, say thank you and stop making needless justifications for abnormal 3rd world behaviors.

Chief you just succeeded in exposing your ignorance. You should humble yourself and learn. Have you lived abroad before? If yes let me know the country. I need to know your level of exposure before I dissipate energy arguing with you

nairalanda1:
All these will end when you hold your leaders to account, instead of chanting polemic at me

As for borrowing, lol. Your government revenue is from 1.8 m barrels per day of oil which can't sustain 10 million people. So what do you expect.

Better vote out apc next time.

Tell me in simple and practical terms how to "Hold your government accountable".

Also tell us how you have been holding this government accountable.

CyracksMrBlogger:
The cabals want the rate high so that they will continue importing PMS and selling to Nigerians. Once dangote reduce his price, fight go start again hmmm

Who is/are the cabal?

nairalanda1:
I no be apc supporter, but it cost our budget billions of dollars to keep fuel prices low.

And it eventually forced the government to borrow money to pay for subsidy.

Economists saw the light as far back as the 1980s , but Nigerians kept on saying no.

And the money for subsidy came from health, education and other budgets.

Once you understand how subsidy kills our economy, you will oppose it. I saw the light in 2012. I am not a GEJ or tinubu supporter, but sometimes our useless leaders make useful decisions

But the government has not stopped borrowing and the state governors are embezzling the excess allocation they got after subsidy removal. Yet prices of goods and services keep increasing so what is the net gain to the common man on the street?

Mirasteel:
Are you serious? have you heared about NAKBA? how Palestinians were thrown away from their homes by zionist Jews and those who revolted were killed? I guess you guys haven't heard about it hence why most of you are ignorant.

So what's the moral of your story?

You people instead of acknowledging that Palestinians and Hamas bit more than they could chew, you keep trying to justify nonsense.

You will keep justifying this until they are encouraged to launch another October 7 again then when the consequences come you will run to social media to cry genocide. Smh

nepapole:
It must be the clans that Netanyahu funded. The same way he funded hamas before they went rogue

It's a pity many still don't understand that Israel had the knowledge of hamas oct 7th plans a year before it happened.

There was definitely a stand down order to enable Netanyahu justify his genocide on Gaza.

These were the questions Charlie Kirk started asking before he was assassinated.

I don't blame those who don't and can't think deeply sha... the Israelis control the mainstream media.

They don brainwash all of una finish.

Thank God for the ones asking questions... Tucker, Candace, Dave Smith and others.

They are getting their fellow Americans to wake up.

This your narrative makes no sense at all. Zero sense. So you believe that Israelis planned October 7 and paid Palestinians to murder their own citizens and kidnap the rest?

Is that what you believe?

Angelfrost:
That's what you see in poverty-ravaged 3rd world countries na.

SUVs that students easily acquire and finance over a decade abroad, na people dey throw party over for Naija.

Honestly, every serious Nigerian with a good education needs to travel out and see how life is properly lived.

SMH!!!

Lol for your mind now you dey very exposed. Ndi abroad

There's nothing to shake your head about. Most People live in debt abroad. In Nigeria you need actual money to pay for your purchases upfront including houses and cars. It's two very different systems. We don't believe in slaving for 10 years to buy car or 30 years to pay mortgage.

So if you really understand how things work abroad vs Nigeria you should actually join to question the lady.