₦airaland Forum

zicoraads:
It's not 'Nigerian men'. Its the ladies who have turned it into something else. They are all over the place. They are the ones who gave the term the meaning it's currently being called.

RIP? She ain't 'poor'. She brought it on herself.

I'm not saying ladies are perfect, but I'm talking about the guys that bring it up in situations like this as a way to taunt bad things that happen to them and sometimes use it as a way to justify what's happened. It's neither the time nor the place and Nigerian men have a habit of doing it. That's why you'll see news that a girl was killed and you'll see Nigerian guys calling her ashawo and insinuating that she deserved it because she had on a short skirt in a picture :/

thesuave10:
Like it's the truth. Men are more rational and women are more emotional. Women can get emotional over anything real quick and that's the reason behind lack of rationality. You don't agree because you're probably more rational than most people /women and that's why you can't agree with it. You're seeing things from your perspective. Now to help you understand better go out this week, at work or while hanging with your friends observe the males and females you encounter then come back here and tell me about it. That stuff is a scientific theory. There will always be women who defy these theories but they are considered as error in graphs in science

You are telling me to take anecdotal observations as evidence over actual statistics. I thought you said you guys were rational?

Piiko:
Nothing gives her the right to wreck his ride, if the guy is wise he should flee before she brutalizes him after marriage

Yeah not the wisest approach and I'm not condoning it, but like I said I don't know what she's been through to have pushed her there so whilst I wouldn't advise anyone to do it, if I had the whole picture I may understand

Benjom:
RIP... Other 'Slay Queens', especially the party freak ones, should learn from this.

Please shut up, why are Nigerian men obsessed with trying to turn this term into something negative?

RIP to the poor girl

thesuave10:
Lol.. . Relax sweetie. Your proving my point about your intelligence. The guy is wrong no doubt to cheat. Here's something about emotional intelligence, actions and reactions are bad. Most times reactions are way more foolish stupid and deadly. A socially and emotionally intelligent person knows when to react, how to react, where to react, what to react to and if to react. So calm down and be rational. I saw post today that said men are more rational women and it's the truth. Women tend to act out of emotions just like you and that lady. Learn to calm down and think things through Be wise

Not this 'Men are more rational..women tend to act out of emotions' tripe again, I guess that's why statistically men commit more violent crimes lmao

@op
Not the best way to react but mehnn I really don't know what the dynamics of their relationship were like and what she's been through

In what world is the president's health kept a total secret from the public? They'd rather he remains in power whilst bed ridden and be covering up till death than admit the true state of his health and risk losing power. These leaders are more concerned with remaining at the top than the progression of the nation

Painful to see, racism isn't as brazen as it once was but it's definitely been shifted from the more overt approaches to covert systematic racism/injustices, don't be fooled ooooo

That's why I laugh when Nigerians who have never stepped foot out of their village let alone the country hold such strong opinions that it's 'over'

Gwaihir:
I remember reading your diary, and you broke up with a dude for being needy. What to you made him come across as suchalso speaking generally?
Once again if you rather not say, indicate.

lol I didn't break up with him, we weren't in a relationship he was just some guy I'd been talking to. Eh small things, clingy, excessively complimentary, one of those people that would constantly ping you or be sending multiple messages asking where you are when you haven't responded to him in like 5 minutes lol, asking for pictures every minute of the day, we hadn't been speaking for long which made it all the more weird and annoying. Apart from all that sha he was actually a nice guy lol

sunshineG:
I appreciate your humility

Actually the whole of Ibadan does, I am victor and my local name is tunde.
I don't know if I will be pushing my luck if I ask for your name ?

Just call me Toyosi

Gwaihir:
Wow, that's nice. I prefer manuals.

Got some questions to ask you.

Ok what?

AyoSammyTunDe:
FINE GIRL.

Ahh thank you

sunshineG:
water don pass gari

I am a local boy in ibadan, I don't know if you will want to be my friend

Hehehe sure, why not

I want to watch this movie because my beau Remi Kunle is in it

sunshineG:
really
Where are you residing?

UK

sunshineG:
are you still residing in Ibadan

I don't live there

sunshineG:
from what state, me I from Ibadan
Cause you look like half cast

I'm from Ibadan too, so Oyo. Lol half caste ko

sunshineG:
shit you are Yoruba

Lol yes

Gwaihir:
Ok, can you drive a manual gear?

I can, though I prefer automatics

I always leave at least a mile between my car and big trucks, trailers etc

Terrified of them on the road

Gwaihir:
I hope you declining my request to chat offline has nothing to do with the debacle?

Nah it isn't

Piiko:
football age

Lool

Toyosi, 19

FTrebirth:
chai i shouldn't have quoted you.

you're too lazy...it took me less than one week to finish watching that movie.

Lol normally I would've even watched it in like 2 days but I wasn't able to this past week

FTrebirth:
rosieluv, this is why you need to get pregnant before we marry.

cc ibkayee, i hope i'm doing it right.

Lmao God forbid, don't listen to him rosieluv

One more episode of The night of to go btw, good series, thumbs up

Gwaihir:
I am not against a lady shouldering financial responsibilities, but dudes who are 'convenient' with it. Given, circumstances can arise for that to happen but if she too see you bursting your ass the best and legal way you can, at least she won't feel taken advantage of or like she is the only one putting effort. This at least buys you some pride as a man.



What do you mean "not that its her job to"? Stating things in clear unequivocal terms helps alot because you don't know which way the wind may blow. I guess she was just being that way so as not to break the relationship or put a strain on it, you just hope the other party gets the drift without saying it.



I don't think he holds her in that much high regard or loves her. She is just someone who seem to tolerate him for who he is without pushing for a better him. Plus the steady supply of pussy which is sure to keep him hooked, how long is what remains to be seen.

Concerning Tasha, i am cant really tell her person for now but i think she strikes me as someone who see men as a trophy of sort, as long as he is there or gives her attention, it's fine.

I agree with everything you've said

Gwaihir:
Wow, i knew chatting with you about this series would be fun. Your criticism is scathing but true.

Yea, Lawrence seem too laid back for a dude who wants or should be a man in the relationship. I don't know how dudes are convenient with babe shouldering much of the financial burden in a relationship. I think most women are more inclined to be loyal to men who sort of take charge where they should take charge. Even when the job is not forthcoming, normally a dude should be agitated in such circumstance exploring all possibilities out, he just narrowed the whole thing to his computer stuff of which he didn't even get in the end. And wasn't Issa the one always cleaning the house when she gets back?

Except i am forgetting something, i think Issa should have been more vocal about what she wanted from Lawrence even before the cheating happening.

I don't know how someone would forget his babe birthday tho, not that i ever bother to celebrate mine.

I personally don't even think there's anything wrong in her shouldering a lot of the financial burden, granted he was genuinely out there looking and wasn't taking advantage of the situation, he seems to be comfortable just doing the bare minimum which is really unattractive and isn't very encouraging.

Yes o I think she still had to clean when she got back lol

Issa's problem is that she can be too passive aggressive and doesn't say anything, not that it's her job to but sometimes you've got to be vocal in such situations

What do you think of his relationship with Tasha?

Gwaihir:
The last season was nice, what do you think of Lawrence and Issa relationship?

Hmm, I don’t know if Issa actually wants him back or she just feels guilty that he caught her cheating, it’s not like their relationship was great prior to the breakup, neither were perfect sha but Lawrence was just…lazy lol, as per what he contributed to their relationship.

I'm not even just talking about finances, sometimes you can't help not having a job, it's just his lack of drive. Didn't he forget her birthday or something? Ontop of him just being useless generally smh

You?

Edit: Just saw your second question, some questions are very random I won't lie but lol I don't mind most of it

Gwaihir:
Okay then. I see you watching Insecure.

Yes I do, though didn't watch every episode of the last season

Gwaihir:
The reason i saw was that you wanted to reduce your introversion and you then picked it up to socialize more. Perhaps it was someone else.

Lol probably me since there's no other way you would've known

Gwaihir:
I swear i saw something like that, i think on the introvert thread or so. Maybe i had it mixed up with someone else?

Lol cant see why I'd mention it in the introvert thread, I did usher but if I'd mentioned it, it would've been years ago lol

I don't know why I stopped, I guess I moved on