I have said and cursed too much on this issue,some right and some wrong..Still have my reservations but i completely agree with rex,nothing can bring her back and only them know the truth..


Endometriosis is a condition where the lining of the uterus migrates and grows in other parts of the body.
In her case,it may be a thoracic endometriosis,to be more specific there are 2 types,pleural endometriosis(ie the lining of the lungs) and also parenchymal endometriosis(in the lungs itself)
This condition is very rare and you could have symptoms like,pain difficulty breathing and pleural effusion/pulmonary edema(fluid in the pleura and lungs respectively).
The definitive treatment is hyseterectomy / oopherectomy(removal of the uterus / ovaries) but for those that want children,this would not be an option.There could also be surgery to remove the tissue from the lungs..
It can be managed with medication too to suppress the endometriosis.

This is the most basic way i can explain it,i guess others can fill up with more information..

Agaba eeee
So you are still alivehmmmmm
I feel so sad about the babe,only the family knows the truth.

JK
Ehh CF na eme affect all parts but marjorly the lungs..Lotekwa na ona cause infertility maka effect on mucus,yanwa bu ifem ji kwuo ya plus obidoo mgbe obu nwata.Akam na echeputa oya ozo.

@ POSTER,sooo sorryyyy..
Have you considered Keylogger software and bugging equipment ie if you want to know for sure that they have stopped all communication?You don't have any proof so you could be accusing him for nothing as he has blatantly denied that he hasn't been contacting her..
It's either this software or trusting that he will keep his word this time.

Sorry to derail the thread but JKadry this is for u,have to write in igbo abeg try to decode(My apologies to all others)

Ima akuko nwanyi anwa ogo,ndi be di ya si na onwee oya ona aya bidoo mgbe amuu ya mana ndi be ya agwaro di ya.Oga abu ife mee oji wee nodu ebe anwa ana akugbu ya.echegidegom maka oya lungs.Okwa iguu med?Aguum med too.Ife mcheputaa bu Cystic Fib(amam na ighotaa ifem na ekwu)..Okwa onwee ike ibu ya?

^^
If someone has a pre existing condition like pre eclampsia,any stressor can raise the bp.
Now she was beaten by her husband,her bp rose very high and she had seizures,that caused her baby to be delivered prematurely as that was the only way to save her life and that of the baby.
Please,do not speak of something you do not know of.
And by the way,i did not ask for your sympathy,thank you.


I however agree that there are 2 sides and the first story is a bit sensational and dramatic and that is why i desisted from further saying any unkind thing as i am not in any place to judge what happened between them and stopped pasting from fb.If i appear to be a 'cheap gossip',i do not know how that is any of your concern as this is an open forum.
You are making your own deductions,same as me.I have a right to my opinion,you have yours.As to the beatings,even his friends claim they do not know but you all seeing and all knowing ofcourse can say that it did not happen because you do not have a 'small feeling' that it did.The way you choose to believe it did not happen is same way i may choose to believe it happened.
The fact that you cannot hit someone that is ill does not mean another person cannot.Speak for yourself.
As for destroying his life and credibility,i am pretty sure i haven't done that.No point wasting my 'wicked,stupid and silly' thoughts on him aye?

I have written severally that she may have had a journal or maybe someone close to her wrote it,NOWHERE did i say that she stuck her hand out from the dead and wrote a letter..



Anyways,done with this.

lol@debrief being my alterego.very very funny.

looll,
No more mkpali for me,na just to report
They don't want to tell me what a person in her situation should do.People have
come out and said if you are beaten up,RUN.They have been berated several times
for this stance and called all sorts of names.I have even been accused of
being a divorcee,plus having a gang of abused women

Ofcourse i am expecting a long range of insults,it is normal..While your insults do not bother me,please remember that lots of people who are getting beaten by their spouses also showed up on her memorial page and some were seeking advise.When you are done insulting me,please try and tell them what to do okayy??

thank you.

^^
jenny,o munwa ka ina akpo ife anwa? Achorozim ikpali nowke anwa maka eziokwu bu na ojiro aka ya gbuo nwunye ya,mana ona etigbu ya.

And meanwhile i have not seen anyone advocating divorce at the drop of a hat.I believe people choose to pick what they want and create epistles.I have repented from cursing the hubby

For all the people here who are reading...WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE TO A WOMAN WHO IS BEATEN UP BY HER HUSBAND??OR A HUSBAND BEATEN UP BY HIS WIFE??I have not ever said divorce,i have said they should separate and get space till the spouse who is violent gets counselling..
Let us say Ogo did not die and she wrote her story on here,what would you tell her to do?

@ blank
Yes,it is one side of the story.If a sister/brother,friend,daughter/son dies and you tell the story it will definitely be looking at it through her eyes.We do not know if she kept a journal or if this was from someone who knew her.
Both sides have said their own bit though.It's for people to read and deduce.I cursed the hubby for beating her,that's my main grouse.Upon all the illness he doesn't deny she has,she was being tied up and beaten.
I even called him killer in my heart even though he did not kill her.(I do not have a right to curse or place final judgement on anyone and i have repented totally from that)
As you rightly said,it is the children that are now without a mother.Who will care for them?A writer on fb says they are with their father now though,will find it and post.
For those who say i am spreading lies,lol..I have posted what i have seen without editing and spoken from where it pains me.There's really no point in replying you.Totally not worth it.

I have come to realise though that people are not really interested in what killed her,they are focusing on her ordeal..SHE DIED WHILE HAVING SURGERY,SHE WASN'T BEATEN TO DEATH!

MEANWHILE,HIS ASSOCIATE PUT UP A LINK OF PAGE 5 as a reference for unbiased assessment of the situation,its on the memorial page

FB POST BY AN ACTRESS

Am sorry to be blunt bt how come all d pple around her that knew about all these abuse nt do anything,a lovly lady like this that even travls abroad,couldnt she hav stayed back with a frend against all odds,its so annoyin,hypocrits to say d least,was she a bastard,even if she didnt talk like most women being abused,bt,God help us,its so annoyin,how,why,in this 20th century?na must to marry?biko,honestly,i dont blame d man,atall,did she ever leave and d man complained,its d kids i pity,a beautiful lady like this,tolerate a beast,4 what,why? The moral of d story is to be wise and knw to leave alive or in a body bag bt to those pple that knew about her fate,na wah,una no do well o! How can i say rest in peace,which peace? Gone too soon,hope ur in a better place!

I have not seen any other gist in defense of the husband except the ones i posted before.
So,i will just be posting peoples' comments from FB..those who seem to know her...Please any grammatical error is not mine oo!!i'm not editing the posts,just removing the names

FROM FB

If i can have one dream come true , how i wish ogo will be buried in her home town, where her tomb will not be polluted by people who so much despise and hate her. Ogo's sin was that she is from ebe eji ukwu azo akwu, dt there was just a little delay in child bearing whose fault we dont really know , that in her quest to get those babies which she was so insulted for she passed through very painful and life threatening procedures , that when the babies came she was still ridiculed for bringing forth a girl who according to lord Kevin is worthless to him and a boy who according to master Kevin is not normal.
This is the height of man's inhumanity to man.
Kevin for u to allow ur wretched jealousy ridden brother in law's wife to dictated for u is most shameful and for u to turn your lawfully wedded wife to an errand girl for your mum is a case for another day.
Ogo is no more but her ghost is still very much with us . Any attempt to smear her name with lies and cheap stories just to salvage ur already stinking name will be met with equal fire.
On equity i rest this case ....

BB,
You know who's side i'm leaning on,lol..I can't help it!
I will be posting anything i see that relates to the story oo but i know where my heart is

FROM A FAMILY MEMBER ON FB- i can't be writing their names as advised..I will desist from cursing anyone again though.Just bring the info on here.

with all these your claims that Ogo's family lured her into another surgery is COMPLETELY BOLD LIE and you should come clean to tell us why defending Kevin. Why did he lie to Mobil when Ogo was in London and Mobil called to know the hospital that she taken to? You are just trying to open a wound that is quitely healing. So desist from these your lies man

This is in response to the letter from his associate,it was posted on her memorial page on fb.I really think they should stop writing these details though so we can all rest.

FROM FB

I see you are trying to do a PR job for your friend Kevin.I have some simple questions which I need you to answer.Please tell us why your friend Kevin has not deemed it fit to officially inform the family of his 'beloved wife',who he was going to buy a Lexus jeep for that his darling wife has died a month today as Igbo custom dictates? Why has his mother or any of his kindred not reached out to their in laws incase he is so depressed he can't do it himself.Why is he planning a funreal without the input of his in laws? Please I would appreciate it if you do not try to insult our collective intelligence,if he was such a loving husband and fantastic inlaw as your write up seems to indicate,why is he running away from his in-laws at a time all of them should be there for each other to mourn their loss.Until you can answer these questions pls desist from trying to white wash a case of emotional and physical abuse from a man who is the lowest of men.

I have learnt a whole lot by reading from the elders on this forum and i will definitely apply in my life.I am still young in marriage and thankfully,my home is a happy one.
However,abuse jumps out to me because my immediate family member went through so much hell and beatings that she had her child prematurely.We begged,cajoled,cursed,forced etc.She bluntly refused because she wanted to do or die. The only thing left was to forcibly remove her but thank God the man decided to leave her but not before wiping her clean,down to running away with her car after getting a vital document from her.He used to humiliate her,made her pay all the bills,he could not even change the light bulbs in the house and how he called her was by whistling and hey you.(She lives in the so called westernised country o)
She is still a shadow of herself,suffering from high bp and a child who has developmental delays coupled with huge medical bills.I am not talking about someone who is young and hot headed,this is a woman that is peaceful and everyone loves her.She's normally the loved sister,aunty,daughter because of her behavior.I will not reveal more because i used to direct her to nairaland to get advise too from people from like situations.
Outsiders would never believe that this man could do such a thing because he presents a very convincing facade and even sits in the front pew in church.If she had died from pre eclampsia and her story came out,what would his friends say??You think they would come out and say he was wrong??The real abusers are not the brutish looking ones,they are the ones who look like they cannot hurt a fly and oppress you to the extent that you believe you are worth nothing.

YES, i will say it again.If you are being beaten up,tied up,strangled please go away till your spouse gets the counselling he/she needs because you may lose your life.When someone is in a fit of anger and normally resorts to violence,what they can accomplish will even stun them when they are back to their senses.

If you like call me wicked,divorcee oo,single mother home anything you want.A single mother is a human being,her children are human beings and i will NEVER look down on anyone from a broken home because i do not know their circumstances.My parents are still together if you must know(normal marriage with a few 'challenges',my grandparents had an amazing marriage but one thing my own grandmother told me is that i must have respect for myself and not let anyone kill me.

Some people are here claiming that it is the sister that wrote the story,lol.How do you know? The same way you have taken the associate's account hook line and sinker is the same way i may choose to take Ogo's account hook line and sinker.How do you know who's account is real and true?If i am ogo's friend i would lean towards believing her,if i was the husband's friend,i would lean towards believing what he has to say.As,i have said before domestic violence was not what killed her ultimately but she may have been a broken woman with no self esteem trying to get something she was advised against just to be accepted(why her sister chose to sign the guarantors form till today will still remain a mystery and a burden she will carry for the rest of her life).Ofcourse she had her faults,who doesn't??BUT it takes an annihilated person to let another human being tie them up and flog them..except its NDELTA terrorists..

Ivy,i agree with what you have written about the name stuff because of the children.I will only report without names from now.

Anyways,back to bringing fresh gist from fb..

As expected,lol..

lol @ BusyBody
Your second asterick is supposed to be the reason she underwent the final surgery..according to some writers oo
She died because she wanted to please the man,he did not force her,but inference is that due to her suffering,she was going to do anything to secure the love and her place in the household.
(Still according to some writers)..I don tire to bring fresh gist though..
Was this her journal?Did someone write it for her?I do not know.But if someone was this close to her and did not advice her while she was risking her life and getting flogged..No words.
I just brought all sides of the story,everyone,read and draw your own conclusions.Some see the beatings,some see the husband paying for her medicals,some see the children being labelled 'these things',some see the sister as her killer,some see her relatives as being wicked for not bringing her out of a bad situation.No one knows.

I don draw my own,i believe in Battered Person Syndrome


She is DEAD

She died while in surgery...

According to her story,she needed surgery to save her life(re read her story),but her husband's associates say she wasn't supposed to undergo any other surgery because it would be too dangerous.her husband's story implies that he was not in support of the choice of lagos hospital,her story suggests otherwise.I cannot tell.In the end,they say her sister signed the medical guarantor form for her
Only insiders know what the surgery was for.some say it was a surgery to keep the family together
No one said she was beaten to death oo

@1luvkipsus

dat one na stylish curse oooo..

I understand and i am truly sorry...I didn't know it was this bad

@ debrief
You said it oo!!
there really is no point..

As i said earlier Stockholm syndrome and battered person syndrome are REAL and walking amongst us.

^^
My dear,i dunno the answer to your questions.I am just doing gbeborun from LIB.
The bad blood between them is very obvious and i'm pretty sure her burial will be WARZONE.
The man and his defendants said absolutely nothing on the battery which is what is heating this thread up..
Domestic Violence faced by men/women who never speak up till it's too late.

A relative of hers wrote that she said nothing and most of them did not know anything till it was too late.I find that hard to believe though.But the koko be say the man dey beat am shegge.

Did she dress sexy to please him and make him stop hating her?I dunno. Was she obedient and giving him pedicures after the beatings?I dunno. Did she try to stop the things that annoyed him?I dunno. Did she submit totally to him as the head of the home?I dunno. Did she dare him to do his worst?Me, i no know. Did she do her best to cook delicious food to lure him back?I have no clue.Did she pray and fast and endure waiting for him to change?I no know o!Should she have left the situation and both of them gone to a qualified counsellor? Questions that can never be answered.

She is STONE COLD DEAD and that's all that matters.

No wise woman would tear down her house with her own hands.Who does not want a peaceful and stable home?Who wants to come home to fighting and strife.
What God loving woman would cheat on her husband please?

We all have our opinions and no one will attack anyone for their own views.If your own way of life gives you peace,fine.If mine living in the westernised country makes my husband run home to me everyday,fine.Praise God for all happy families,and for the horrible ones,i pray you get help.
Different strokes for different folks.

Do not forget that an abuser needs little to no provocation.Narcissists love only themselves and will only use others for their own benefit.
All i know is that no man/woman deserves to be abused simple and short.

NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT!! we work hard to make it work and overcome our differences but when 'challanges' come in form of tying up with rope,flogging with belt and threatening with knife,it's time for a break to rethink and get counselling if possible.

@ debrief.

It is to be expected,hehehehehe.And no one is a wannabe divorcee,everyone wants a happy ending.However,if you are facing some 'challenges' and your life is at stake,run away,go to your family till your spouse manages the 'challenges' with intense counselling.

WELCOME WAGBAN AND DINAO

@ debrief
i am shocked none of them have come to at least offer some advice to our fellow women reading this.
WAGBAN & DINAO where are you naw??

@ debrief,
Lol,real challenges oooo

FROM ANOTHER POSTER-LIB

Anonymous said...
omg!!!! i knw Kevin... i really cant believe its him, i meet him around 2005 but dated around 2008 and 2009. he told me he is a divorcée , was married to a white woman. Has only 1 kid, i was almost loving up totally. he was even helping me work my travelling visa to yankee cos he works with Mobil in houston so i can stay with him. Thank God for my family that has a strict rule dat no1 must marry a divorcee. he was to come meet ma mum, when i told her.. she said never. i should go look for my own husband.

But in all honesty... he is a really sweet guy. you need to hear his voice (like a woman), he is very soft and gentle.. thou he has alot of money, i didnt fall for all dat. he knws au to respect a woman..

no1 should insult me oo... im just saying the side of him i knw, guess he was pretending to me. or maybe his family pushed him to all the things he did. WHO KNOWS, ONLY GOD KNOWS
March 26, 2012 9:26 AM

OGA'S VOLTRONS ARE OUT IN FULL FORCE,bear in mind that none of them have mentioned the abuse-CULLED FROM LIB

Anonymous said...
Obviously this story was posted by someone privy to their marriage and knows much of what happened over the 12years they were married - Ogoo's elder sister Uzo, who incidentally was the only person her name was mentioned in the write-up (apart from Ogoo's children and husband).
She pretends to love her sister so much, no wonder she lured her to her death just to achieve a personnal vendetta she probably haboured against Ogoo from childhood (Ogoo, as the last child was loved and must have been pampared to the envy of her older sister).
As if Ogoo's death was not enogh for her she acted to wipe out every thing that would remind anybody that Ogoo ever existed, by ordering her relations that were taking care of Ogoo's childre to abandon the kids and return home, a day after their mother died, w[b]hen their father was away arranging for proper care of the corpse of his loved wife (the older of the kids is less than 4yrs old).[/b]
One would expect a loving sister's first concern to be how to take good care of her sister's little children instead of abandoning them to die.
How wicked this woman - Uzo is! She will not succeed in fooling people that she did not cause the death of her sister by luring her to go for an unscheduled surgery. What kind of surgery is done without adequate medical tests and proper scientific analysis of the results. Was this done between Saturday and the Monday of the surgery? Uzo's machination to kill her sister.
March 25, 2012 10:56 PM

I hope you all are seeing what i am seeing oo

PART 2

When Ogoo was alive, she never failed to let friends and family know that her husband, Kevin had done a lot, morally, emotionally, and financially to alleviate her ongoing medical condition. True, they may have had their bad days, but which married couple can truly claim that they never had an argument, quarrel, or fight. Going by the pressures, strain and pain this couple suffered, I thank God that they even came this far.

Ogoo was not supposed to have more surgical procedures done after having her second baby, Amanda, but she had pains periodically which were proving difficult to bear. Her husband, Kevin, was willing to stick with doctors' recommendation saying that she manage her pains with medication rather than have further surgical procedures done. However, poor Ogoo was guiled by her maternal family to another procedure, which proved to be her last. They consented to the procedure, despite Kevin's trepidation. The surgery proved fatal.

Now Ogoo is gone, the writer of the letter who sees little to tie her to the benefits she and her kin gained from Kevin wish to blackmail him and his family by defaming them.

I say this to all who have read this story on the web and social networking sites. I have known the couple in question for a long time, even before they got married. They really loved each other, and because of the temptations they had in their marriage, they may have had interference from family members on both sides. But not more than any other couple with similar circumstances.

It is really unfair, shameful and in very bad taste for anyone to demonize Kevin and his family in their time of grief. Kamsi and Amanda if they were older would really want to have their single surviving parent to be alive, well and able to care for them till their adulthood. So let us let this family rest, and I'm sure the Ogoo's loving and peaceful spirit would want the semblance of love and care for her children, and her memory untarnished by falsehoods and disinformation. R.I.P. Ogo

FROM ANOTHER ASSOCIATE OF OGA -CULLED FROM LIB BLOG
NOTE THE REFERENCE TO HIS PAYING FOR HER HOSPITAL BILLS EVEN THOUGH SHE HAD NO KIDS-SMH
Ifeoma U. said...
Linda, thanks for posting this story on your site, but I would appreciate if you would acknowledge that the story came from the Ogo's maternal family who are grieving. While they are grieving and feeling the loss of their daughter, it would be unthinkable to imaine that the Kevin's family to whom Ogoo really shone, not just as a paragon of beauty, but also as a dutiful wife and life partner, but also as a true second half to Kevin, are not grieving as much.

Every marriage has their issues, and it is a shame that this marriage ended this way. However, having known the couple personally all through the period of their marriage, I can strongly state that the story as written on your site has a lot of lies and untold truths in it. Though I think Kevin's family may not want join on issues with this story-teller who surely knows better, on a blog in the interest of the memory of the deceased, I think it would be right to put some facts about this relationship straight. First, it is true that Kevin and Ogoo were married for several years without children. However, it is untrue that Ogoo was taking medication early in marriage for fertility. Ogoo had a pre-existing medical condition prior to marriage to do with her lungs. She had several procedures/surgeries done in Nigeria, United States, United Kingdom, South Africa and Canada done to manage her lung disease, all at the expense of her husband, Kevin. Yes, Kevin did love her enough to send her to most of these places up to 7 years into marriage without children. All this was in a bid to manage the lung issue. At some point, the doctors told them it was safe to start trying for babies, and fertility treatments were recommended and taken. The two darling children, Kamsi and Chimamanda were born of these efforts. True, Kamsi may have been slow in development, but both his parents loved him very much, and I can personally attest to this. I am saddened that the person who wrote the letter, who knows this family very well, did not allude to all the love and effort that has been showered on Kamsi by his parents.

Oga is calling for tributes to be published!It is publishing her tributes that will salvage the horror he caused..hehehehehehehe
No mention of the inhumane treatment,they say it is husband and wife issue,kaiii!!
I blame you Ogo.

In his CV online(2002,updated in febuary) his status is single..He was married then ooo!!! Now he is grieving.I dey laff

I DON TIRE-OBVIOUSLY THE FRIENDS OF OGA MOBIL ARE MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIM.YOU ALL SEE THAT BUYING LEXUS= GOOD HUSBAND.

If Kevin was a wife batterer or abusive, then both of them did a pretty good job of concealing the matter for the time I was there. Only the walls of the bedroom and God will ever know the truth. And if he was abusive and a wife-beater, I would suggest to him to repent quickly of this wicked way and seek God's mercy. Its the lowest of men who put a finger on their wives. As for the insinuation that he skipped his girl-child christening because he was angry, I would say that Isnt a true statement. The christening was in Houston and Kevin was in Lagosbat thentime, working ona project I was involved in...that, I am pretty sure about. What I do know is that everyday Kevin returned from work, Amanda was the first person he went for before eating his plate of beans...every single day. And Ogo was really pleased he was doing that. Was he staging it for my benefit, I am not his god and did not see any reason for a father not to truly love his kid

In summary, its hard for me to reconcile the facts of the below email with what I know of Kevin. I know the email has really gone viral with at least 5% of the Nigeria population receiving it on their blackberry over the weekend. Whoever orchestrated this viral effort, I'd like to hire the person to help me spread the gospel of Christ with as much fervency. Gossip thrives in the public space but the bible says we should not judge a matter until we have heard the other party. Its unclear if Kevin with put out a rebuttal of the below email, I think its unnecessary and the young man should be allowed to mourn his wife and lay her to rest. He is currently calling for tributes to his wife to be published on the day of interment. If you have anything nice to say about Ogo, that will be a good avenue to portray it rather than try and demonise a grieving husband. This is totally wicked. Again, I am not absolving Kevin of any wrong doing, but there are issues in any husband-wife relationship and as the email suggests, Ogo dearly tried to make it work. Let's continue to make our own marriages work, and let the dead, bury the dead.