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I'm sorry CC but did you just type that the mother needs "counselling" , wow that's so

Are we for real?

This woman sent her daughter to study in SA and she returned home with no degree and a baby, she took her in, fed her and the baby for years.

This girl never helped the mom in any way,after three years, she leaves the house to go be with man number two, got pregnant and returned home again with pregnancy.

Which mother won't send her back to the man?

The more people type their "unrealistic sermon" here, the more I actually begin to lean on the mom's side. So we now without reaching the baby daddy, have assumed the man was abusing her?

Wonderful!

Heehehhehe.

Things are getting very interesting now. . .

Onegai:
Once antenatal is done, let's ask on Pregnancy thread for Igando mums who will be willing to check that she shows up for it at GH. Next week, she needs to make a decision about either beauty school or mum's shop because she should start paying her mum for food and rent (something like N10,000 once or twice a month). So she must earn something. A lot of women are throwing up in danfos on their way to work, why not join them?

I'm not familiar with the Pregnancy thread so you can help us handle that please. I think she's starting work in her mom's shop next week

Thanks.

thorpido:
She can register for ante-natal next week.She's 3mths gone already according to her.
I also believe she should be able to get out of the house next week and start something.

Ok, good.
So our action plan for next week are :
Register for ante natals
Start working at mama's shop.
Still try to reach the baby daddy.

Sounds like a good one. Welldone. I'll contact you regarding the ante natal registration fees.

Nice one.

Does it mean dude was a fraudster for real? I don't understand why anyone would offer a policeman 350K just cos he saw his bank alert.

Onegai:
Once antenatal is done, let's ask on Pregnancy thread for Igando mums who will be willing to check that she shows up for it at GH. Next week, she needs to make a decision about either beauty school or mum's shop because she should start paying her mum for food and rent (something like N10,000 once or twice a month). So she must earn something. A lot of women are throwing up in danfos on their way to work, why not join them?

Thorpido, when can she register and start ante natal?

Moji, why are you silent here? When can you start ante natal s?

I will call his bluff. Let him upload everywhere, who cares?

No be who chop belleful get data to browse and search for nude pictures.

Besides, in this day of photoshop and all sorts, one can always tell concerned family members if they ever happen to see it that it's photoshop.

I won't trust 9ja police with such an issue, instead another option is to storm his house early morning with soldiers, have him sign in to all his email, social media accounts on all his gadgets and clear all media, empty all Sent, inbox, trash, draft boxes,change his passwords, recovery questions, lock him out of ALL his accounts then beat him wella.

Lol @ Ritualist.

Moji girl na character.

thorpido:
She told me someone offered to open an account for her.When I asked why she couldn't do it herself,she said she doesn't have a utility bill(her mum won't give her any).
I didn't get the nairalander's name on phone because the line wasn't clear.Anyway,I told her opening a bank account was not an emergency.

The reconciliation with the mom is still ongoing.She told me the mother spoke with the baby daddy but his response has not been encouraging.He is yet to show up at their house.
She says she can't go with her mum to the shop today due to nausea and vomiting.

She has to convince her mom she's truly changed before she can give her the utility bill.
I frankly do not understand the rush to open a bank account

Rehabilitation first. If anyone wants to urgently give her funds, Tehn is there and can keep the money till a later time when it can be handed over to her. What says Moji won't abuse her mom, leave the house once she gets access to some money now? Are we out to help her for real or we just want to sugar coat things then leave her in worse condition?

Has Moji told us the day she intends to start going to he mom's shop to help or when she's resuming the beauty school and ante natal?

thorpido:
She wants to go and open a bank account this morning.A nairalander wants to help her.
I said she could.I don't think anything is wrong with that abi?

Why does she want to open a bank account now ? Should that be a priority now? And who is the NLDER and why does s/he want to help a grown ass woman to open an account

How far have we gone with reconciliation with the mother? Any word from the baby daddy? When is she resuming work in her mom's shop?

I think there are more important issues than opening a bank account, for now. what does she urgently need a bank account for ?So nlders can send funds to her directly, Is she ready for that now?

Just saying. . .

Happy birthday egbon Naptu.

Hungerbad come see your rove's REAL rover o

Please they should come to VI and Lekki axis. Women begging with babies and those men begging with people with open sores/ wounds.

God bless Ambode

OK even when it sounds like a lie.

So that dude was feeling "Sexy" right there eehkwa?

Insurance company will be crying now.

Is this why they burnt down elegushi, Lekki and alpha beaches yesterday?

So much to catch up on. . .

Adoption doesn't sound good to me. Her mom can take care of her, she's young and able all she needs is to stay focused, get a job, not to mention the baby daddy is alive too so I quite don't agree with adoption route.

Imo, our action plan should be :
Helping her change which covers apologising, total respect, obedience to her mother, have her accept she's an adult with responsibilities, understanding she's not just a seeex toy in the hands of men.

Going back to her fashion school and helping out her mom in the shop.

Hearing baby daddy's side of the story. If reconciliation is not possible, make him fulfil his financial obligations to the forthcoming baby. (office of the Public defender)

Counselling, mentoring.

No need giving her cash for now really. She don't need it.

Btw, Welldone Thorpido.

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I just had to read the old thread and frankly, Onegai's approach seems to be the best. Onegai today was Aisha2 on that old thread while the nlders whose opinion on this thread is only to criticize others inputs were the Humbledbygrace of yesterday.

Someone on the old thread predicted that if Moji does not listen,pick up her life and take charge we are gonna have a repetition 3 years later. It's just two years after and same 'ole story is starring at us.

How long more do we continue to indulge and pet her?

When will she ever learn to make the right choices, be responsible for her self and her children?

I tire abeg.

Where's the OP o? I'm interested too.

Meanwhile I'm looking for a tiller? Site location : Friends Colony, Agungi Lekki

@Thorpido, can you also seek the mother's opinion of the baby daddies, for all we know, Moji26 could be lying about them especially the last one.

@Onegai, . Nothing new, it's the nld way.

Cc Jumaii.

@OP, Pele

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PMAN's office according to google is at Fadeyi street, off Awolowo way so Ikeja Underbridge is your best bet.

Marthynx10:
I appreciate ur response. Thank u. But wen i board a bus going to ikeja from iyana ipaja, wil i highlight at ikeja along or ikeja inside?

You should alight at the last stop or under bridge as that place is Anifowoshe.

TheArchangel:
Where are they hiring for this services at Abuja? Any idea will be welcomed Dis recession dey waya me bad, I need a side business with lots of merriment to booth.

Hehehehe. Dunno about Abuja oo. Y'all over there are too posh na but you can set up an agency ; package yourself well start with providing Ushers for bride's aso ebi.

thorpido:
I agree with all you have written.It's the best for her situation.
I want to see the mum tomorrow morning and hopefully when I get to talk to her,we all can know what the next step will be.

One thing I picked from the conversation in her house is that the mum wants her to stay with the man that got her pregnant but she doesn't want the relationship any longer.

What are her reasons?

Please when you can, meet with the mom so we can know the real truth.

Mynd44:
It is weird you think getting money for ante natals is a problem because I can bet that if she sorts her issues out, her mum will bear it. The issue is that the nother is tired of her attitude.

Her mum actually abandoned her in SA the first time because her wahala was almost killing her. She needs to change. If no one is allowingvher leave, maybe it is cos they know she gets up to no good.

Has anyone asked if she is into drugs? With the 24 hour watch, I wont be surprised

You are right.

The mom actually hired a nanny for her , that's something my mom will NOT do for me sef considering shes not working nor married. What does she need a nanny for and what does she do with her 24 hours each day?

Drugs ? Hmmmn

People still buy Arik tickets?

I dont know the location of PMAN office in Ikeja but from Ayobo, take a bus to Iyana Ipaja and from there a direct bus to Ikeja under bridge then ask for PMAN office.

Marthynx10:
Please my people, how do I get to Anifowoshe in Ikeja from Ayobo? Where i'm going is beside PMAN in Ikeja. Urgent help needed, please. Thank you all.

@Thorpido, there's definitely food in the house. Her mother is angry with her and she is too proud to apologize or maybe she is even doing inyanga for the mom ie revolting like a baby that she unfortunately is by refusing to eat.

I think she needs to first apologize to her mother. Then we can also come in and help resolve whatever lingering issues she has with her mom. She must be made to understand that she must respect,obey, help and listen to her mother so long as she lives with her. Once that is settled then we can talk about getting her external help like counselling. If at all help in the form of setting her up for business should be rendered, I'm of the opinion that it should be AFTER delivery and she has shown considerable progress in her behavioral pattern and life decisions but methinks its best she works and earn money herself for setting up whatever business she wants. That is the first step in taking responsibility for ones life.

I can send you the money to register her for ante natal. To you directly and strictly for her ante natals.