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ty nneneigbo. So u dont think it would be nice u putting in some effort to read my writing as i put in too much effort to read urs. lol

Am i dat bad? Or is it an exaggeration.

tasiana:
@monshege
A di m mma.

Ndi be any ka chifo nu, Egbe bere ugo bere nke si ibe ya ebela nku kapiasia ya
9s 9t

Tasiana obu na Iraq. 9s 9t by 6pm. unu gba ya ka odi kwa careful.

ma mu wa the grandson of woke Igbo agha gi edli pu igbo ke kwan ihen nge deli pu. Nneneigbo aga popu gi ikwe. U have erred.

Monshege asusu ahun wu asusu Igbo central, ma imaya agu then, ima nu my advice.

TerraCotta:
My red lips will remain sealed on this topic

Dont say a word our black sistas would insult u. Now I know why they want black bothas, or even think of slapping u.

Av heard it all, and weighed it all.

hmmmmmm ty.

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=51574.msg1098290#msg1098290 date=1178555113]I was playing around although you Naija boys are especially known for doing this which is why these women have trouble trusting you.[/quote]Another assumption, what makes u conclude am 9ija. Secondly africa holds about 52 countries, u can as well go marry from somalia, even Sudan. Abi no be black brotha u want. Tory don change. 

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=51574.msg1098265#msg1098265 date=1178554683]Lol please they will treat you well once they get that visa status then after that they will run. [/quote]Please your putting all black brothas in one basket and that is where the whole problem starts from initially. Why do u think its only VISA they want. What about the fact that u could be knowledgeble than they are what of the fact that u gave a hand to raise them from the dust. Most black brothas I know do this. Why not black sistas.

Can we give a straight solution to this matter.
Then for my black sistas who feel left out. There are loads of black brothas back there in Africa, who would treat u like a queen for coming to marry them, and because u marrying them would give them an oppurtunity in life. Why not try dat, and u'll see within months the equation will balance. But plz look out carefully 4 responsible ones. Could dat be a solution.
lol

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=51574.msg1098192#msg1098192 date=1178553103]why not look for another black woman who is "up there and will help them become stronger" instead of giving up on their race entirely.[/quote]Dat sounds a bit compelling. What says he must keep his eyes on black african-american, and even if he insists on blacks, he might choose a black-asian or black south-american, or are those less of a black. 

[quote author=Red_Lips link=topic=51574.msg1098061#msg1098061 date=1178549562]I must say, I definitely agree with you on this, Ikomi. Most black women complain about being taken for granted but that's because they tend to accept ANY kind of loser all in the name of being there for a "black brother". They know if they do wrong and crawl back, you'll take them so why the hell wont they use that against you? shio.[/quote]U shuold equally agree dat there are black sistas who are loosers looking 4 a black brotha to hang on, and when the black brother says no to them and moves on 4 any other race whom he believes is up there and would help him going strong, the black sista feels cheated.

ghettochyk:
nd'Igbo kwezuo nu! ele nno unu di? ok, mamiri n'akpu m ka m ge nyo mamiri , yes, too much information, i gotta work on that

wat more can i say?

good nite all. We'll have more to say some other day.

Sorry Amerpmoge, is just that am sharing it intimately with nferyn now. It gone past wat to put on board we've taken it to a personal level. If u want to join click my not online tag above the online ad put u in the conference.

Come and hear the truth here u too Ameromoge and spoilt. nrfern is saying it all.

am on with nerfyn already.

click on my not online tag above my online tag and we can have a conference

I think this topic has finally come to a conclusion looks like some pple are putting it down on colo mentality like FELA said. But it is not one sided, black sistas too are guilty.

monshege:
Ikomi, kedu ka i mere. ndi igbo mma mma nu oooo. nuo nu rie nu nwuo nu. cha cha ohaneze ndi igbo goodmorning

Ikomi, o di ka Tosh nwa ama ama gwara gi na o bu mu chotara ya nwa baby ya. nsogbu adighi, ihe mere bu na agam ato anya na ala ka m mara na onwere nwa baby ga amasi gi. onu baby O ga achupu gi na ulo, nnenne nwanne m nwanyi ga agbalaga na o buru na ego agwu gi na akpa. hmm! ka m chewa godu nu.

Ego gwu mu nakpa o gwalaga n wave o ru ya bye bye. Owenre onye ga egwu ibe ya. Ma iru ekpe agh ga ga, ala chi nu azu period.

Zebrudia si no sickness without melecine.

AmerOmoge:
Spoilt I love the way you think girl.

I dont like the way spoilt thinks, lol spoilt just wants a black brotha in her crib. .

Spoilt I got loads, good ones as well. PM me when u think we should negotiate something.

spoilt:
no woman plans to get pregnant and raise the baby herself. you give the black guy his chance and he squanders it and leaves you high and dry. they arent perfect but we still give them a chance. we work 2 jobs, black women are hardworking yet unappreciated. we don't stay home shopping with your dough. we bring home the bacon. yet we still arent good enough? you can only do so much!

If u are my sista and u give birth for a looser, and I swim in millions and u think ad help u out for ur short sighted mistake, "telling me u gave him a chance" ad kick u and the baby out. To be received later when i think uv learned ur lesson. If the dude wants a woman let him go work hard first then have a woman, take care of her and his children and give them a good life.

spoilt:
i love my hair. the whole world just judges me by it.
i once wore my real nappy hair to the office. you know what my white lady boss told me?

"can't you do something to it? its not suitable for work" i told her my natural hair is suitable for work!
she said. it just makes you look too ethnic!!!!!!!!  

incase you having noticed . im ethic bi%ch!

I think u should like letting ur boss know that is ur hair and that is wat u were born with, and not the horses tail. And if she has a problem with it, advise her that with time she would get used to it.

Rosa did it and today we all seat in front of the boss. Or are u going to wait for a black brotha to come stand 4 u as well.  Be realistic.

AmerOmoge:
Ikomi if I were close enough to you I would smack your mouth _{not that I advocate violence} but how dare you say thatt we are doing something wrong, this is way bigger than us wearing a wig, How about yall take some responsibility for abandoning your responsibilities to the blaclk family, culture and community.  It is not you who are left raising children and working two jobs to make ends meet.  No it is us, and when the white man wont employ you who is that has your back.  Lets try taking responsibility for what we do.  this is not to say we don't have a few bad seeds that spoil it for all black women but this was happening long before they ever came along.

Why do you think black women do what they dowith their hair because you say you want natural beauty but what you think is beauty is that cornsilk BS that white women have.

Abeg O! don't get me started.

If u give me a slap being the lady u are I will walk away and bless u. But that will not mean ur right.

The world out there is very tough for a black brotha, he faces so many troubles than an average white man. But some black brothas aint tough enough to go through all the stress. Now the pple I blame so much are the sistas that go having babies 4 loosers. U cant eat ur cake and have it. But there ar black brothas out there who look pressure in the face and get by it. Some of my black sistas would even say this types are boring.

I think we are economical with the truth here. We cant keep beating about the bush and hope we are making a point.

ikamefa:
nahhhhhhhhhh don't get me wrong ,i don't want long hair, i want to be able to manage my hair easily, i want hair i can shake-n- go in the mornings not spend five hour in front of the mirror trying to style my hair

spoilt:
@ ikomi and nferyn

you have got to be kidding me. don't you see that because of the attention white women get with all that hair we assume that maybe if you can get those luscious flowing locks you can be better accepted. so we spend a fortune on fake hair from korea. black men don't even love our nappy hair. with all the hair extensions we still don't make the cut. think about  when that gloriously nappy hair is brought to light like the jackdaw. then you are labeled afrocentric, bohemian or whatever else. just for having your real hair.?

when ive worn my natural hair nappy as the day i was born what have i gotten from black brothers? "can't you get your hair done?"
i reply  "kunta, my hair is done! this is its natural texture. as if they don't know nappy hair when they see it.

Ike6 and spoilt are u 2 trying to make a good case here or just get by. So in essence wat ur trying to tell me is dat the greatest man that gave u the texture of ur hair must also be a bit blind to beauty.

ikamefa:
y'all know we 've got kinky (curly) hair, that can't be managed easily so what are we supposed to do?

If u want long hair ika6 then tell me who ur trying to be like?

spoilt:
so white women are now yoghurt and black women pap? interesting. white ladies are seen as having ascended into the realm of half woman , half goddess. black men just dream and fantasize of trapping, catching, snagging, marrying one. its crazy retarded. white men really don't have a need to be seen with a black woman. if anything he gets crazy stares like "are you out of your mind"? it will look like he married beneath his status. not good for his reputation.

didnt you hear that the tennis player boris becker's wife. (at the time he was married to a black woman) could never get the key to their five star hotel room when he was touring because they simply could not believe he was married to a black woman. she would have to wait in the lobby till he came bak from wherever to rectify the situation. its annoying everyway you look at it.

nferyn:
This is a pretty interesting thread. I must say that my experience in these issues is rather limited, but there's one thing that I really don't understand.
Maybe the issue is limited to Belgium, but I'm always stupefied when I see the average black men / white women relationship. I cannot understand why usually handsome men choose the lowest of the lowest when it comes to dating white women. Where's those guy's self-respect

Spoilt no bring me out for sun oooh. I did not call anyone pap or yoghurt, its just an analogy.

But wat u all must understand in all this issue is dat black women cannot keep blamming black men or white women for there (if i am permitted "misfortunes" ). I have never seen anyone scale through by blaming others for there problems. I believe the black woman must be doing something not very right. First is the hair attachments. Most men love to see there women in there natural beauty but when u start looking artificial, for most responsible men its a turn off.

spoilt:
@ameromoge

you're right. we need to know the way forward. there's more to it than just a black man marrying a white woman. there's social issues, acceptance issues, racial issues, self esteem and ego issues involved at the expense of a whole race of women.

ameromoge can we chat sometime ?

U tell me the way forward, tell me that every black brotha would have an affirmative answer from a black sista whenever shes approached, then ad be sure ur talking bizness.

spoilt:
no. no bad experiences. black dudes always go on and on about how white women understand them and blah blah. but the way they approach white women is different. they approach them as if they are princesses. treat them well. but when its a black women. oh boy! no kid gloves. every little feminine fault is magnified. its irritating.

I also think it has to do with the level of reasoning of the dude. You dont expect a man dat has never tasted youghurt b4 to compare it with mere pap. He could only see the that there is no difference after a long time. But sometimes his sences might not get matured enough 4 him to find out.

With that being said am sure of one thing. If white men found our black ladies so attractive that they will fall over themselves to have a black sista am sure a black brotha would not only have to build a sky scrapper to have a black sista, in a relationship, he would also have to boast he has being dining with the creator.

spoilt:
since when did your friends become the yard stick? i think most women would pick a strong black brother before a white man. but when a black man approaches a sister its almost as if she should be thankful he's even looking her way.(think of all the white women he could have had!) they give you a whole list of do's and donts that they wouldnt dare present to white women.one strike and you're out.

Honestly spoilt i think uv had some bad experience, and probably u met the wrong black dude.  

Av got white friends dat walk up to me and say have u got some good black chicks for us. And before u know it they start telling u the kind of things they would like to do with them. But tell them wat u would like to do to there own, if one of them does'nt get up from the gathering someone would walk out. its a crazy situation.