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Oga T,

You're suggesting a naive American steps into NAIJA soil OUR NAIJA Ekwensu, you're very wicked lol.

Ogugua88,

u don start? make una no dey discourage dis ppl o! for dem to dey see 9ja as evil o!, free dat woman jare make she be.

^^^^

So, you truly believe the OP is an American? You gotta be kidding!

Tosinville:
Imari,

My best advice for you is to take the bold steps and visit him here in nigeria, no one can come into conclusion for now cos we don't know maybe he truly need your assistance or not, "there are alot of scammers in africa doesn't mean everyone is a fraudster " u know.

Lastly, don't let mrs.chima's word discourage u for you not to come cos she's also once like u who came down to africa for her man, we aint evil but good ppl you would love to be with, besides u are not the first american woman to visit nigeria and u can never be the last so why shivering? u if can't do just that then u will always be victim of scam so its better to back off from long distance internet dating.

Not just scammers in Africa. There are alot of scammers everywhere around the world and Im shocked but I just wonder why does the blame have to be on Africa especially on NIgeria? Im surprise really! I know they are tons and tons of Non Nigerian scammers out there. . . And even the law have caught them red handed people still wanna blame Africans. . . WHat a shame. . .  

Last week our Malaysian police caught a Singaporean scammer scamming our Malaysian lady but the guy was released its because he said that he didnt steal her money. He only make up a fake story but in the end of the day, its her choice to give out the money or not and just like that he was release. What a lucky b4st4rd!

Roymary,

If she isn't an american then thats her own problem you know but don't just judge with here typing cos i don't believe in that.

Sincerely, i can type and speak in ebonics perfect that will make you think maybe i'm american but am not so i don't believe in typing shitt of a thing.

ogugua88:
And you're smiling.

At this point in my life having failed English does not matter in the least, thus the smile.

Grammar police are a bore and have nothing better to do, if that is the reasoning behind the attack they are a pitiful lot.

roymary:
Poster should apologize!

In your world you actually believe that.

Tosinville:
Imari,

My best advice for you is to take the bold steps and visit him here in nigeria, no one can come into conclusion for now cos we don't know maybe he truly need your assistance or not, "there are alot of scammers in africa doesn't mean everyone is a fraudster " u know.

Lastly, don't let mrs.chima's word discourage u for you not to come cos she's also once like u who came down to africa for her man, we aint evil but good ppl you would love to be with, besides u are not the first american woman to visit nigeria and u can never be the last so why shivering? u if can't do just that then u will always be victim of scam so its better to back off from long distance internet dating.

I am repeating myself once again.

My Nigerian has long ago invited me to come to Nigeria as he would love to show me his country.

Also, how would I actually know he is not putting on a show for me if I do come to Nigeria?  It's his neighborhood, he knows how to work it.  I wouldn't have a clue if what I seen was any more real than what he has been telling me.

[color=#550077]@OP Lady think again ohhh!! [/color]

Ms. Potato,

Hahaha! exactly, thats what those scammers claim too that they didn't steal their money, they are the one who are willing to give out [Stealing with Tricks] lol

[quote author=Ms. Potato link=topic=608521.msg7777436#msg7777436 date=1298353147]Not just scammers in Africa. There are alot of scammers everywhere around the world and Im shocked but I just wonder why does the blame have to be on Africa especially on NIgeria? Im surprise really! I know they are tons and tons of Non Nigerian scammers out there. . . And even the law have caught them red handed people still wanna blame Africans. . . WHat a shame. . .  

Last week our Malaysian police caught a Singaporean scammer scamming our Malaysian lady but the guy was released its because he said that he didnt steal her money. He only make up a fake story but in the end of the day, its her choice to give out the money or not and just like that he was release. What a lucky b4st4rd![/quote]You are so right.

I believe it has more to do with people seeing the Black as in Nigerians and they are then easily scapegoated for the rest of the world.

Mostly in the Northeast of the U.S. there is/was a big problem with Russian scammers and I have seen lists on the internet about them also, but they have not gotten the big press of Nigerian scammers.

Imari:
At this point in my life having failed English does not matter in the least, thus the smile.

Grammar police are a bore and have nothing better to do, if that is the reasoning behind the attack they are a pitiful lot.

Well, you were discussing dialects and Nairalanders not knowing anything American, so I had to point out your flaws.

Tosinville:
Ogugua88,

u don start? make una no dey discourage dis ppl o! for dem to dey see 9ja as evil o!, free dat woman jare make she be.

Oga cool temper. I'll give you three reasons. I'm fond of counting to three tonight:

1) She has never left the country and has already mentioned not travelling to our homeland, hence, I find it safe to conclude she is close-minded about the country.
2) If she enters Naija with her negative mindset, then more than likely she won't benefit from it.
3) If she is being scammed from abroad, wetin make you think say she go survive NAIJA? Not Nigeria o, NAIJA!

Abeg no even start with fairy tales. U know very well say oyinbo na fresh target for scammers.

Imari,

Alright i heard you, since you're really scared to visit nigeria so what do you intend to do now? send the money or forget about the relationship?¿¿ if you try to send that dough then i laugh hahaha! cos diz gon' be a lesson for ya, u dig me?

[color=#550077]20YRS GAP IS NOT EASY!![/color]

ogugua88:
Well, you were discussing dialects and Nairalanders not knowing anything American, so I had to point out your flaws.

So it was tit for tat for tit. gotcha'  

Tosinville:
Imari,

Alright i heard you, since you're really scared to visit nigeria so what do you intend to do now? send the money or forget about the relationship?¿¿ if you try to send that dough then i laugh hahaha! cos diz gon' be a lesson for ya, u dig me?

Now, you have come to the question I had in mind to ask you since you seem to be reasonable.

Instead of cash what if I buy his airline ticket to the U.S. for a visit?

My neighborhood. My element.

lol

Poster is an impostor! I wish i would not get notifications about this thread any longer.

Tosinville is her client.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]20YRS GAP IS NOT EASY!![/color]

I said I changed details and that one I said is less than 20.

Ok, it's 17yrs.

I am 17yrs his senior.

Do you think that will make it "easier"?

roymary:
Poster is an impostor! I wish i would not get notifications about this thread any longer.

Tosinville is her client.

BUT.

I seen earlier posts in this thread claiming it was some others.

I wish people would make up their minds and settle on one poster.

What if? We prepare our first Nairaland Search & Rescue Team. If things turn for the worst, then our first NSRT will become our very first NFD (Nairaland Funeral Directors). White caskets are in this year.

Pz.

Imari:
Now, you have come to the question I had in mind to ask you since you seem to be reasonable.

Instead of cash what if I buy his airline ticket to the U.S. for a visit?

My neighborhood.  My element.

It would be funny as hell if he never showed up.

You know in 2011 I can't fathom how people are still being "scammed". Instead of saying this woman is being  "scammed" she should be called a "financial fairy godmother." While the man might or might not be telling her a few choice lies, the decision to send $200/month * 3yrs is her personal financial decision.

I don't know many American men who are willing to date women that are 20 yrs older than them, so I'm not sure why someone would think that a. . .

This incident sort of reminds me a topic where a 50 something year old British grandma went and married a 20 something year old man. When she found out he had been using her, she refused to divorce him.

Imari:
I said I changed details and that one I said is less than 20.

Ok, it's 17yrs.

I am 17yrs his senior.

Do you think that will make it "easier"?

[color=#550077]Easier u say? trust me if u want my honest opinion, dis dude is taking u 4 a dangerous shitty ride, and u already on ur way to DOOM!!!

Is he immune from employement?seriously if he wants 2 meet u & is damn serious as u are , then he needs to think of something better than drawing large amounts of money from you, y can't he get a loan or something?man what is ur guarantee here sista? ur doin all the giving & what do u gain?

Sista please thinkkkk!![/color]

HaveSense1:
It would be funny as hell if he never showed up.

There are tickets that can only be cashed in buy the person who purchased them.
The person doing the travel can only travel and not benefit from the tickets in any other way.

savanaha:
You know in 2011 I can't fathom how people are still being "scammed". Instead of saying this woman is being  "scammed" she should be called a "financial fairy godmother." While the man might or might not be telling her a few choice lies, the decision to send $200/month * 3yrs is her personal financial decision.

I don't know many American men who are willing to date women that are 20 yrs older than them, so I'm not sure why someone would think that a. . .

This incident sort of reminds me a topic where a 50 something year old British grandma went and married a 20 something year old man. When she found out he had been using her, she refused to divorce him.

So, there is no such thing as a Cougar in Nigeria?

Of course there is just one standard and you know nothing of anything that is not of this one standard?

People of all ages and sexes can and do get use by those who only intention is to use them for their gain.

That is not the case each and every time for the same exact situation, but is very unfortunate for the one who was used.

Imari:
So, there is no such thing as a Cougar in Nigeria?

Of course there is just one standard and you know nothing of anything that is not of this one standard?

People of all ages and sexes can and do get use by those who only intention is to use them for their gain.

That is not the case each and every time for the same exact situation, but is very unfortunate for the one who was used.

My understanding of a cougar is an old woman that goes after younger men. Based on my understanding, the relationships do not actually mature into anything productive. However, if you enjoy playing Suga mama, then good for you. Like I said before I think that you are a "financial fairy godmother" who has doled out around $7,200 if anything you have said here is true.

Since it is your money I say if you enjoy giving then more "grease to your elbow" (or something like that). No need to complain. That is if this story of yours has not been concocted to get responses.

Tosin,

You got me bleeped up with your silly ass Kenyan girlfriend.  I did not do an online date, engaged, and marriage.  I met my NIGERIAN AMERICAN HUSBAND at a family event and HAD AN OFFLINE ENGAGEMENT and marriage ya nukka.  

I did not GO TO AFRICA FOR NO DICK AND I WENT TO AFRICA WITH MY MAN.  No offense to those who did and are going to Africa for some rusty dicks.

Roymary,

Mane, i aint i client o!, am only advicing her to be careful thats all.

Ogugua88,

Yeah! i grabbed what you said last and you're absolutely right about that, mami.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Easier u say? trust me if u want my honest opinion, dis dude is taking u 4 a dangerous shitty ride, and u already on your way to DOOM!!!

Is he immune from employement?seriously if he wants 2 meet u & is damn serious as u are , then he needs to think of something better than drawing large amounts of money from you, y can't he get a loan or something?man what is your guarantee here sista? your doin all the giving & what do u gain?

[color=Black]Sista please thinkkkk!![[/color]/color]

That is why I am here and posted as I did, the thread title says "American needs help"

That help I am seeking from those who know their countrymen as I have stated I know very little about Nigerian men.

I have gained a lot of insight from this thread as I haven't talked with him since I posted it.  I am giving myself time to straighten all that has been said out in my mind before I confront him with anything.
I can't run into a conversation with all this new found knowledge about Nigeria as I want him to believe it's all still good to see where he is coming from I will mete out little by little.

I said that I haven't sent him any money in months now as the plan was for him to come for Christmas this year and that would give enough time for two big amounts, so I am ok with not sending any cash, as of now we just talk about things.

[color=#550077]^Alrite goodluck ma'am![/color]

U ve made that dude favourite song kelly handsome's maga don pay. open ur eyes mumu.

Imari,

If you are telling the truth, Just like anywhere you have to be careful meeting someone you haven't seen IN PERSON especially across continent.  You have to be careful meeting strange men in a foreign country where you have no families nor friends.  Police aren't reliable over there and Embassy can only do so much.  

If you must meet you sugar boy, bring a girlfriend with you so that you can at least have someone that you know with you.  You can also invite a brother or an uncle who wouldn't mind meeting your sugar boy.  

The bottom line is BE SAFE AND SMART.

Im wondering can't they sell flight ticket for cheap prize here?¿¿some ppl always claim to be smart but they're so dull, love can make some folks dull most especially some females am seeing on here. . . . . . i laugh hahaha!

[color=#550077]@Imari have u considered going there to see things for urself? i mean to see him.[/color]

savanaha:
My understanding of a cougar is an old woman that goes after younger men. Based on my understanding, the relationships do not actually mature into anything productive. However, if you enjoy playing Suga mama, then good for you. Like I said before I think that you are a "financial fairy godmother" who has doled out around $7,200 if anything you have said here is true.

Since it is your money I said if you enjoy giving then more "grease to your elbow" (or something like that). No need to complain. That is if this story of yours has not been concocted to get responses.

Your understand is somewhat in line to what a Cougar is.

I guess you didn't understand the rest of what I posted, being that what is "based" on your understanding is only one of the many things that can happen as in any relationship.

You wonder, yet you respond.  


[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=608521.msg7777663#msg7777663 date=1298356369]Imari,

If you are telling the truth, Just like anywhere you have to be careful meeting someone you haven't seen IN PERSON especially across continent.  You have to be careful meeting strange men in a foreign country where you have no families nor friends.  Police aren't reliable over there and Embassy can only do so much.  

If you must meet you sugar boy, bring a girlfriend with you so that you can at least have someone that you know with you.  You can also invite a brother or an uncle who wouldn't mind meeting your sugar boy.  

The bottom line is BE SAFE AND SMART.[/quote]Mrs. Chima

In my last post to you I was only using your word as a play on words to say I understand you fully, the "my arse" I don't even use that word. Well, not spelled like that anyway

I get what you were/are saying as I have posted to Tosinville something similar.

I would much prefer if he was to come here.  I know this place.

Tosinville:
Im wondering can't they sell flight ticket for cheap prize here?¿¿some ppl always claim to be smart but they're so dull, love can make some folks dull most especially some females am seeing on here. . . . . . i laugh hahaha!

Thank You

I honestly didn't think of that.

What's next?

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]@Imari have u considered going there to see things for urself? i mean to see him.[/color]

Not being rude, but I answered that several times over in this thread.

[color=#550077]^Unfortunatelly not every1 has time to read through pages of comments, some of us do ave lives you know.

so yea, u might want to consider that ms.[/color]