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‎A Nigerian lady is devastated after ending her 10‑year relationship, opening up about her battle with depression.

‎She shared the heartbreaking incident in video posted to her TikTok account, @mamayochicher.

In the now‑viral TikTok video, the lady revealed that she has contemplated suicide, but hasn’t acted on it because of her son.

‎”I don’t know what to do. I’ve been so depressed. I don’t know who to talk to. I’ve known this person for 10 years“, She stated,

However, the identity of her ex‑fiancé was not disclosed in the video, and she sought the services of a therapist.

Ten years is a long time to invest in one person, so the pain is real and valid.
But let’s say it plain:

1 She stayed 10 years with no ring, no serious financial commitment , and no clear plan.
That wasn’t a relationship after a while; that was a situationship with an expiry date she refused to read.

2 Love is not a prison sentence. If someone can walk away after a decade without blinking, they were never truly in. She didn’t lose a fiancé; she gained her freedom back.

3 Depression is heavy, but the child she mentioned is now her reason to heal, not to harm. One therapist appointment can change everything; please let her book it today.

Counsel to every sister in this kind of shoes

Never give any man “girlfriend benefits” for fiancée or wife years.


Time is the most expensive thing a woman owns; stop donating it to people who won’t pay the full price.

She’s hurting now, but in a year she’ll look back and thank God that door finally closed.


This is not the end of her story; it’s the end of a chapter that was blocking her real plot twist.

Stay strong, mama. Better days are coming. 🙏🏾

@ op

Bro, I can tell this thing has really weighed on ur mind for a long time.
The truth is, every man has one area in life that tests his confidence, and for u, this happens to be it. But that doesn’t make u less of a man.

Since the doctors have confirmed u’re fine, then the real battle is in ur mind, not ur body.
Size doesn’t define satisfaction or masculinity, confidence does.
Many men with what u call “small” have great partners because they know how to love right and carry themselves with assurance.

Stop focusing on what u think u lack and build the rest of ur life , ur mind, ur goals, ur presence. When u become a man of value, women see beyond anything physical. The right woman will respect u for who u are, not what u have.

You’re fine, bro. Just live, grow, and stop letting insecurity write ur story.

stanvesco:
Apt!


However his point is that if you can; wouldn't you prefer to be that pawn that turns to a queen?


Would you rather serve your noble role and let others live the glory?


Would you just be part of the Facebook story and allow the mark zuckerbergs of this life take all the glory?

Of course everyone would love to become the queen if the move leads there, no doubt.
But not every journey is about glory, some are about impact.
Even the pawn that clears the way for the queen has fulfilled purpose.

So yes, if I can rise, I’ll rise. But I won’t measure success only by visibility. Some wins happen quietly, yet they shift destinies.

@ op

Deep write-up. I love how u used the chessboard to explain life.
But personally, I see it beyond the pawn turning to a queen. I see it more as each piece fulfilling purpose.

I’ve played games where a pawn that barely moved ended up being the reason I won.
That showed me something, it’s not every pawn that must become a queen to be valuable.
Some are simply positioned for moments that change the game entirely.

In life too, not everyone will rise to fame or power, but everyone has a role that carries purpose. What matters most is knowing why u’re on the board and making every move count. When u live with that awareness, u’ve already won, no matter ur rank.

@ op

Bro, I can feel ur pain from this post
and it’s clear u’re going through a lot
emotionally and mentally.
But the best thing u can do right now is stay calm and avoid decisions made out of
anger or frustration.

Pregnancy alone can change a woman’s mood and behavior in ways that may not even make sense to her.
That doesn’t excuse everything, but it helps u understand the tension better.
Don’t rush to send her away yet, wait till after she gives birth so that both mother and child are safe.

In the meantime, focus on getting urself back on ur feet financially and emotionally.
Work on ur peace of mind. Find something productive to do, even if it’s small. That sense of purpose will help u think clearly.

Also Avoid masturbation, it won’t solve the issue, it only drains ur strength and focus. Rather, pray, exercise, and spend time around positive people.

Hopefully, u’ll feel better

Jakumo:
I highly recommend that you acquire a trained attack baboon to guard your house and back yard. Even before the thief can complete the mission of climbing over the wall, that baboon will start to administer jungle justice in a vigorous and wanton manner.

By the time the dust clears from the life-and-death skirmish, the only items left of the thief will be his shoes and his torn shirt.

Very funny, but a crude recipe for the wicked lots

Factcheck0001:
I get your point but d reality is that money is needed in every endeavour in life, when I gave him 100k for pos, on Saturdays or Some days that I am free I go there to see as things are but imagine if someone is using 100k for pos n they are only making gain of 600 or 700 naira per day even after staying there for over 5 months.


It's out of d 700 that he will eat small thing in d afternoon n when he gets home he will want to settle his wife, the day he explained to me I just weak cos deep down I know it's impossible to survive in that kind of situation.

I discussed the shoemaking part with him n he told me

Materials are expensive so shoes are costly n even when he has rich customers they don't buy every month.

I told him to make shoes for d poor to sell fast n he told me to get good sole is 8k upward with other materials n at least he will want to make small change so he will want to sell it for at least 15k n many can't afford it.

He explained how he got loan for shoemaking n he made a lot of shoes, it was when loan was due for payment and he hasn't sold those shoes that he sold them at cheap price for a boutique owner so he could make money.


enthronedbygod1.........please your attention is needed here.

I wish I can get your details so as to forward it to him so u can pray for him.


There are many of his updates that I can't drop here so as not to make it as if am embarrassing him.

I understand all those challenges, and truly the hustle no easy.
But the truth still remains that money answers to value and consistency. Every business has its slow seasons, even the ones that look lucrative from afar.

The problem I see with your friend is not just lack of capital it’s lack of stability. He hasn’t stayed long enough in one thing to understand the game and create his own space in it.

Every time it gets tough, he jumps to something new. That’s why it looks like nothing is working.

If he had stayed with shoemaking, by now he would have built contacts, loyal customers, and maybe even people who help him get materials cheaper. Nobody starts strong, but people who stay grow strong.

Money follows mastery, not movement.
Tell him to calm down, pick one thing, and build again with sense and patience.
That’s how God blesses a man’s handwork.

“Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men.” Proverbs 22:29 (KJV)

Factcheck0001:
Good afternoon everyone, hope we are all good? There's this my childhood friend that is in a problem but right now even me I am confused and I don't know what to do so I decided to bring it here so u people can advice him on what to do.


Note, I am not here to beg for money for anyone so don't think anyone wants your money or wants to scam you, all I need is advice for him.


We went to higher institution together n we have been friends for over 15 years, this my guy is the definition of hardworker...he has done many hustles you will never believe a graduate can do because he's the kind of person that isn't ashamed once money is involved.

He was a teacher for good 3 years, it was when the 30k can't sustain him that he left to learn shoe making, after making shoes sales weren't coming so he started working at a paint sales company where they market paint in the market.

It was there he was able to gather money for pos and gas retail business, after sometime he tried traveling and it didn't work and he lost money.


We his friends came to his rescue and he got another shop but sales isn't moving, then he started agent work, after a while he got married because he's no longer getting young and hustle never pay.

After marriage, things were harder than diamond that he applied and applied for job and nothing was forthcoming, he even applied for higher purchase bike and keke napep but them no give am. All these just to make you know he can do any work.

His wife is working in a company n she resumes to a shop in d evening, this our guy decided to be going to the wife's shop so as not to be idle since work never come, believe you me this graduate guy was selling cups of rice, beans , garri, kulikuli n co and he wasn't ashamed.

With time the shop rent was due and no money to pay so his wife friends abroad decided to open warehouse so the wife can be the manager, they opened it with over 3 million and since they needed logistics they bought a small car, my guy as an hustler didn't think twice he discussed with his wife that he will b d driver so as to ease house burden even with no pay and the wife agreed.

My guy was seeing small change and he used all the money to apply for drivers license to do Uber since e-hailing won't take affidavit for drivers.


Lo and behold, just last week my guy call me say car engine don knock and right now he's confused, though the company said they will fix it with time but this guy is just tired of life.

It's been 10 years we graduated but this guy can't afford 5k in his account after all the hustle, right now I don settle quarrel tire because his wife believe he's d one bringing him misfortune.

He's contemplating suicide now, I called him not quite long today and I sent my token to him but I am worried for my guy, he has fasted tire, right now he's too lean that I told him to stop fasting.

He's just tired of life now and at home, please what should he do?

To be honest, what I see here is a man who has been busy, not necessarily productive.

Your friend sounds like a jack of all trades jumping from one hustle to another like a blind horse.

Yes, he’s hardworking, no doubt.
But sometimes, too many scattered efforts can waste the same years that consistency would have turned into mastery.
If he had picked one of those trades say shoemaking, POS, or even agent work and stayed long enough to grow skill, reputation,
and structure, favour would have met him there.

It’s not every time that life needs a new hustle; sometimes what we need is focus and depth.

He should calm down, stop chasing everything, and rebuild from one thing he truly understands.

God blesses consistency and not confusion

Abaziaka:
Let's see what Obi will say about this one

Of course , he will say NOTHING

Atom Ant
Godzilla
Voltron
Scoopy and Scrappy doo
Just to mention a few

This is so wrong.
They should have just handed them over to appropriate authorities.
What the mob did was undignifying

Aonkuuse:
Source: https://trendibase.com/female-keta-business-school-student-found-dad-in-manhole-after-visiting-boyfriend/

What a bitter and painful way to die.
I can just imagine what she went through in that manhole.
Well na book dem send am go read.

I can’t even say if his luxurious motel Mai Deribe Motel is still in business.
Life is indeed vapour

Yes, it would have been crazy if he contested for that office

EponObi:
Africa must be respected yen yen but you go around international podcasts and interviews to denigrate your country. Lmaooo. You demarket your country on international platforms but you are now angry and an international show promoter isn't giving you the same level of respect and resources like other featured stars.

Respect una.

Whereas your family is part of the rot afflicting this nation. Not only is your uncle serving as a governor in one of the states, he is also performing terribly. Not only do you criticize, demarket, and abuse the government, you and your papa and uncle went around Abuja doing "rankadede" to Tinubu, Shettima, and Akpabio. Funny dude.

I love this post.
Says a lot of how you will be treated by the citizens of other nations when u drag ur nation in the mud.
The guy quickly forgot when he was de-marketing
this nation that he is a global ambassador of Nigeria and Africa as a whole

Well it’s over 5yrs I used an ATM and I can’t even tell when last I used a physical ATM card.

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JackDaAlienz:
Guys i dont know how to handle this situation. A brothel just opened last month beside my house.
If i had known that such a place will be built around me i would have not rented that apartment.

During day time. Everywhere is calm until from 7pm till 1am 2am!!!
All i hear is prostitutes arguing and fighting over customers. Loud music with annoying hypeman.
Making noise all night..

Early in the morning these girls come outside as early as 6 -7am and continue arguing and shouting disturbing the street.

How do i handle this
Also i keep seeing rough looking guys roaming my area at night. The street no longer feel safe.

What should i do?

For ur security and mental health, the only sensible thing to do is look for an apartment else where.

It is well

The heart of man is exceedingly evil. U needed to abduct and kill somebody to raise money which u never raised.
Money is everywhere, one only needs to look around for a useful need to meet.

There are neither permanent friends nor enemies in politics.
The only permanent thing in politics is interests.

Nice one!
This is quite laudable as this project will help a lot of people not just in Anambra state but in Nigeria as a whole.

Rest In perfect peace.

If this man’s wife and kids see this video?
Hmmm

Congratulations to him and Portugal.
Indeed he’s done well for himself and Career.

Gross.
I hope an investigation will be carried out.
Looks to me like suicide.

Very informative thread

following....

The account doesn't not suggest he's a Nigerian except for his name.
However, it's so bad if he's a Nigerian and he goes out there to stab people.
Possibly the guy no well sef

Surface2AirToto:
Nairalanders, please help me ohh, my wife wants to destroy our marriage and she sees nothing wrong in what she's doing.

It's been two weeks now since the first day a guy at her place of work started dropping her off with his car when they close from work. First it was just dropping her off after work, now it has graduated and the same said guy has started picking her up from our marital home. I asked what was it all about and if she knew and told the guy she was married with a child, she said I just like to read meaning to little things and that the guy was just a friend, i kept calm ohh, until on Tuesday she came home with pringles and malt and said the guy said she should give me. We had a serious argument that turned physical and she has refused to talk to me ever since, no longer cooks before she leaves home anymore, even our baby she barely gives attention. Please Nairalanders i need your advice because i don't want to do what's in my mind right now because somebody might get hurt.

I am sorry about what you are going through.
U need an advice and i will provide one.

The current issue in your home is largely due to your wife taking free rides to and from work with a guy.
While there may be underlying issues, this is the primary concern at the moment.

The Bible says in
Matthew 5:29-30 (NIV):
"If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

And in Mark 9:43-48 (NIV):
"If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out... And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell..."

Please note that these verses are not meant to be taken literally but serve as a metaphor for the seriousness of sin and the need to take drastic measures to avoid it. It is very likely if this is not handled properly it will lead to sin. So you have the responsibility to prevent it/

What I'm saying is that if this issue is not addressed, your marriage may deteriorate further, affecting your child.

What can you do?

1. Stop her from riding with her colleague at work in his car.
2. If she refuses to obey, consider informing her family.
3. Remember that as the head of your family, you have authority conferred upon you by God.
Don't let her undermine it.

Avoid physical confrontations and unnecessary arguments.
Make your stand clear and be decisive. If your stand is not respected,
consider escalating the matter to your pastor or her family for counseling.

my two cents

This is news that gives a creepy and chilling feeling..
Dear God preserve, keep and hand over this daughter of urs alive to her parents IJN

Simply put, it’s in their blood. It takes only God to help them back on clean tracks until then, they are never totally repentant