iLegendd:
Which of These 10 Things Hurt You or Will Hurt You the Most?

6. Being broke-shamed or oppressed by people when you have nothing

This is the one that will hurt me most. Infact it has in the past and never again will i go through
such an experience.

This alone can make one suicidal.

UYEMDO35:
Am in love with the wrong girl and can't help myself out.
My Story goes like dis, I love dis girl so much and can't really do without her, well before I met her I never believed in true love but it hurt me so much to be suffering all in d name of love.
First, I dated her all because of my emotional trauma, I love her so much I can't denied d fact, I did a lot of crazy thing just to prove how much I love her....... Though! I am in my mid-20. And I know what I want in life.
She has done more harm than good in which I have tolerated enough. I think it's time to kiss her good bye.
Like i said before she did a lot of crazy things to me which is unforgivable, but still yet. I can't breakup with her.
She took in and lied to me dat am responsible for it and I was very sure that am not responsible for it, I carried out a research and later discover dat it was a friend of mine who helped me in wooing her dat got her pregnant, I even went to d extent of confronting my friend which he admitted to be true and pleaded that I should forgive him, which I did.. Funniest part, I gave her money to get rid of it becuz my friend couldn't afford it. I also confronted her about the pregnancy of a thing, she never admitted d truth.
I let everything died down and never bothered asking her again.
Thought! She played fast one on me, I still continued loving her..... What trigger me most recently....I saw her with a ring, I was shocked.
I asked her about it and she told me that it's just a promised a ring, dat it was her boyfriend who gave her and not that she love him, he force it on her. (Yes) am aware of the guy. But d girl parent do not approve of their relationship but dey are still in touch.

She promise to stick by me that I should give her sometimes to get rid of d guy first, dat d guy happened to be her first love and is going to take time to get rid of him completely.

I kept moot about it.......

From a close friend of mine, I heard she's still in touch with dat friend of mine who got her pregnant.... Dey are secretly dating.

I have spent a token on her but I regretted ever dating her.


Am thinking of breaking up with her today.{ that's if I had courage to do so}

Guys! How do I go about it? I see myself as a weakly.

That is exactly what u are. A weakling and since u know u are a weakling, u have got to brace up.

Just tell her u don’t deserve her kind of person and u are no longer interested in the relationship so that she can focus on her numerous boyfriends. It’s that easy.

How I wish many of u can love God with half the affections u show these sluts u call girlfriends.

infogenius:
Looking for new information and i saw this thread.
This thread may be a game changer for somebody, sometime, someday.

Kudos to the creator of the thread and everyone that has contributed here

I will contribute my two cents also.

I will kickoff will real estate and trust me u may not need money to start something small in this ever lucrative and promising industry.

Just as u know one of the basic needs of man is shelter and this need is catered for by the real estate industry.
The demand for shelter is very huge and that is y properties are expected to appreciate overtime.

There are different entry point into real estate, u can come in as investor, in this case u have some money to buy property with a view of making a handsome profit from the property over a period of time.

Another way u can come into real estate is as a consultant. In this case, a low entry level but a wealth of experience is an added advantage.
I will talk more on this in this post.

Just like I said earlier, the entry level is low and that is y so many people join this wagon.

The money made here is more of commissions. So the more deals u are part of the more money u make from commissions.
However, it isn’t immediately.

You can Start off in ur immediate environment. It is possible an apartment is vacant and is available for rent, all u need is to market it and when someone interested comes through ur line and pays the rental and other fees u get a commission.
It’s that simple.

There are various ways to market a rental property, u can market online using social media and offline when u tell people that u are a real estate agent.

You don’t need to do this full time but if u can give it what it takes then go full time and make the most of what u can.

But here’s what you must understand.
1. Know the agency fees for the various apartments in ur area. For example for a room self contain, agency fee is 100k in some areas, while the mini flat could go as much as 150k .
Every area has their agency fees for various apartments, it will do u a lot of good to know these fees.

2. In many cases u can’t do it alone, if u have a property to market, it is wise to spread the information to other agents and then split commissions when a deal is completed.

3. Be on the prowl for clean properties as it gets more attention. Also note that mini flats, room self are the market movers. Because the are more in demand, so the more of these apartments that u get to market the quicker the commissions u get.

4. Don’t be greedy. Once a deal is concluded, the caretaker or the principal agent gets 50% of the agency fees and the other 50% is shared by the rest. But there are instances where the principal can make concessions especially if the chain is long.

5. Make sure ur phone is always charged.

Let me stop here now

At times, I find it funny when men talk like this.
If u can't show or let ur lady know ur account balance y marry her?

It now seems to me that guy's marry to fulfill righteousness or just someone to sleep with

Marry a lady u can trust with all or else don't bother getting married.

Me I dey give my wife my ATM and I don't worry or fear anything. And she has never given me any room to doubt her faithfullness

Be wise

Osas187:
Thanks sir Don’t keep us waiting too long sir

Sure i won't

Looking for new information and i saw this thread.
This thread may be a game changer for somebody, sometime, someday.

Kudos to the creator of the thread and everyone that has contributed here

I will contribute my two cents also.

I will kickoff will real estate and trust me u may not need money to start something small in this ever lucrative and promising industry.

This not easy to accept but many guys think they can control and tell women what to do.
Unfortunately the girls are no longer dumb and stupid but far smarter now.

Op u need to work on urself b4 having her back in ur house.
My candid advice

Well, its just an opinionated article. 9ja has gone beyond GEJ at the moment.

Congratulations Superstar.Continue to make 9ja proud

Rip Dad
You were a blessing to this generation.
You lived a fulfilled life sir

RIP Sir
May the declarations in the anthem come to fruition one day.

Needadvice200:



Thank you bro. I appreciate and I hope your friend is doing well now

Yes he is doing very very well now but the price he paid was equally as heavy as the
challenges he had.
A story for another day for guys to learn from.

op
This is a very serious issue and it shouldn't be taken lightly.
What you are going through is not new and it's still happening till tomorrow.

I had a friend that was into big time business at the trade fair, this was someone that
spent about N20m for his marriage without batting an eye lid.

By 1st year wedding anniversary he was in big debt.
When things got so rough for him , he waka small and his wife was handpicked
as the source of his business downturn.

To cut the long story short, the woman attested to the fact that she sees herself in
strange places when she's asleep and usually reports her husband to an unknown person in her
dreams.
Well that's them, over to you.

You don't have a good reason to divorce your wife. You and her will need deliverance, prayerfully
ask God to guide you. However, labour in the place of prayers at night, infact you and your wife
can engage in prayers together at midnight without clothes on. Do this for 7 days and within that
time, God will definitely show the way to go.

Spiritual issues are real and we only need God to help us through it all.

Op
Ur happiness is important.
If the relationship is not making u happy, honestly there is no reason to remain in it.
At this stage don't make it look as if u're forcing urself on him. He seems to be uninterested in u.

jaybenugo:


https://www.instagram.com/p/CaNFruLtwA2/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

All i can say is welcome home.
Settle down and start all over again.

Zenith Bank - Abule Ado Branch.
Stopped over one day to complete the opening of an account.
The customer service was very poor. The staff very callous and rude.
Due to that experience, I used the account to serve the purpose it was opened for and dumped it.
I don't even know the account number again and unfortunately I saved in a phone I stopped using late last year. This means I don't have access to the account number anymore. I don't even need it sef
Anything Zenith just pisses me off because of that experience.

Thanks for this vital information.

I will be surprised if this case is done outside the Nigerian way

Bahamas95:
Did you attend KIS?

No I didn't. I attended FGC Maiduguri

Omicron007:
Back in school, teachers displayed varying characters in the discharge of their duties.
Some were very dedicated while others are just there for the renumeration.

Back in Secondary School, we had this stingy Economics Teacher. He was very frugal and he always had a list in his pocket. He was always in one brown trousers always.
We ended up calling him Mr.Brown.

However, we always used the nickname when he was not around in order to escape some punishment.


Let's hear from you.

Panku given to our social studies teacher.

somehow:


Do you understand Yoruba?

The translations done so far on this thread aren't 100% accurate.

1st statement from the wife started the whole mess.

Ọma yaayin ọ means = You came quite early (Negative sarcasm) , welcome, where are you coming from?

Well I feel that the man should expect that kind of reaction which was seen through her question because he came home late and that normally requires an explanation
I feel the man should have improved the atmosphere by simply telling her he's coming from work and he had a very stressful day. Instead of the response he gave.

HarlequinLekex:
Husband or wife

The husband is at fault. He gave a stupid answer.
Can't he just tell his wife exactly where he was coming from and if the place he's coming from can't be told simply tell her he's been in traffic on his way from work.

Thanks op for the information.
It's now risky to render help.
God help us all

steveneche:
Candid opinion please

As a lady, do you think you can marry a guy who is still living with his mother?

What a question.
Different tales fo different folks.
It really depends though.
If marriage is pulling the guy out, it's fine otherwise e no make sense

alwayscool:
I am 32 years old and married and my wife is 27 years old and beautiful..we had been maaried for 5 years from now and have normal sex life..now my father is coming to stay with us for 4-5 months,as my mother has expired 3 years back and my father now stays in village with other family memebers,now he has come to us to stay for 4-5 months...i stay here with my wife,2 yrs old daughter,,my father is 56 years old and heatlier than me,my father is alone now,but in my childhood he has done a lot for me,educated me,made me a succesfful man,now i want to take care of him for next 4-5 months..can it be ok,if i convince my wife to have sex with my father,while i m outside?can it be ethical ?i want my beautiful wife to sex with my father,alhough she talks very normally with my father,how can i convince her for sex ?i know its bad,but i want this to happen just for 4-5 months.please advice me how to convince her..is my wife seductive?pic of my wife attached..

It isn't diffiicullt to convince her. Just tell her u're reasoning very poorly and that u want ur father to ...... with her during his stay.
I wonder y u brought it up here when it as easy to tell her just the way you told us.

horpe25:
Hello nairalanders,
This is a true story i met this amazing lady last month we exchanged numbers and we started talking and later find out she is married but with that we started dating along the line we fix an appointment to yesterday and she agreed to pay for the hotel and it went smooth but what really shock me is that she told me my stuff is too small i still havent overcome the shock i am since yesterday what should i do should i let her be or we should continue

Best advice I can give you is to let her be. And never ply the route of getting in between the laps of a married woman.
It's not only ur stuff that is small but u're consciously playing with ur life and people connected to u.
Many things happen these days such as sudden untimely deaths of young men and I can authoritatively tell you that some of these deaths are a result of what you did.

Leave married women alone as they are time bombs waiting to blow up fools.

A word is enough for the wise.