Fiscus105: You said, people around you "think" you have beded her?
That thought alone is not only insults to her husband, but diminishing her as a virtue women.
The narration you gave here now, if those thinking you have romantic relationship want to narrate the same story, it would be devastated, even the person that see her husband won't be able to take cup from her husband to drink, don't forget lies fly and spread farrrrrr and more than truth.
Well, time and events have proven them wrong and left them with their mouths gaping that there are still uncommon relationships between a man and a woman not connected by bloodlines.
The husband knows better now irrespective of what he’s heard before. Funny enough, he’s never confronted me or acted funny whenever we met.
I don’t even care what people think because people will have something to say even if there’s nothing to say. And as such I never live to the validation of men.
If there’s one relationship that has added and it’s adding immense value to my life, it’s this one and I can’t trade it with s3x.
It makes absolutely non sense if I attempt it.
After all, I didn’t come to this world to prove a point on bed. I came to fulfill purpose.
Kobojunkie: Can it? Doesn't look like it, and will explain why he took to destroying it instead. Either that, or he sees he has no way of transporting them to a different place.😒
He could have simply removed them to resell if transporting them was an issue. To me , he simply allowed his emotions do the thinking for him
Yes he can. I have a very close married female friend . We have been close for over 8.yrs now. She’s a very beautiful and a high value lady. I respect her enough and keep our relationship out of emotional situations.
People around her and myself hardly believe we don’t bed because people reason that all close relationships with the opposite gender must include bed activities.
Fortunately, I am not a pervert like many Nigerians that ends every relationship with every female besties on the bed.
We are cool that way and I have never and will never include a scheme to sleep with her as long as we live.
She’s far better off to me off the sheets and I am so proud to keep our relationship that way.
geelite: I need your advice. I'm 34 years old and currently in my 400 level studying Information Technology. I already have a degree in Chemistry, but I decided to return to university to study a more marketable course that would give me better opportunities in the UK, where IT professionals are in high demand. My plan is to relocate to the UK after obtaining my IT degree, pursue a master's degree in Cybersecurity, and eventually secure a job in the cybersecurity field. I've already completed hands-on practical training in cybersecurity, and I'm becoming very proficient in it. My concern is about marriage. I don't currently have a girlfriend, and I've been single for over four years. I intentionally stayed out of relationships because I wanted to focus on my studies without distractions. Now that I'm in my final semester, the ladies I've approached have rejected me. I believe one reason is that they don't want to struggle financially. They are not willing to be with someone who is currently living in a one-room apartment. However, I never told them that I plan to relocate to the UK. I also didn't explain that I'm living modestly because I returned to university and want to reduce my expenses, especially since I hope to relocate in 2027 or 2028. My question is: Would it be better for me to relocate to the UK first and get married there, or should I return to Nigeria in the future to get married? I know that if I relocate to the UK and later return to Nigeria, some of the women who rejected me now may become interested. I've also heard different opinions about dating and relationships among Nigerians living in the UK. I would appreciate your honest advice.
Bro, hail urself first!
Upgrading and providing urself with better opportunities in future isn't a small thing.
Ur vision is great, but it seems to me u're overcomplicating the relationship aspect.
This is d way I see it;
• Stop "testing" women with artificial hardship: U currently live in a one-room apartment because u're cutting costs which to me is wisdom.
But asking a lady to see a 34-year-old student living modestly and expect her to predict ur future without clear communication is not just possible. Of course, u don't have to tell out ur UK plans, but don't present urself like someone without a vision either.
•If u relocate, succeed, and then decide to come back to shop for a wife, I am certain 95% of the ladies frolicking around u will be chasing a "Japa ticket," not u.
So getting genuine love under those conditions is a complete waste of time
• The UK dating scene has its own issues: Dating abroad isn't automatically easier. Bills are high, time is tight, and culture shock is real. But at least u'll meet women who are financially independent and understand the hustle.
My advice Secure ur degree, get to the UK and build ur life first. Build ur career and the right partner whether from home or the UK will come naturally without u having to play mind games.
Mariangeles: If you had dismissed your wife when you were courting her the way op dismissed the lady he's interested in when she needed him the most, you think she would've agreed to marry you?
Please read and read again op’s initial post with open mind for better understanding.
fuke: The reaction of many Nigerians, especially some young people, never ceases to amaze me. When I read the responses to Her Excellency, Senator Oluremi Tinubu's suggestion that women could start small businesses with a ₦50,000 grant, I began to wonder whether many people truly understand entrepreneurship. The debate revealed that, for many Nigerians, what they do not know about business is far greater than what they know.
Some argued that ₦50,000 is too little to start any meaningful business. Others claimed that selling akara is demeaning. I disagree.
No honest work that puts food on the table is demeaning. With ₦50,000, there are several businesses one can start. In fact, there are businesses people begin with little or no capital at all.
History has repeatedly shown that many wealthy individuals started from humble beginnings. Success is often determined not by where you start, but by your determination, consistency, and ability to grow.
Coming back to the akara business, I was encouraged to see that some people refused to follow the crowd. Just this morning, I watched interviews with two akara sellers in Lagos. Interestingly, both happened to be from the ethnic group that has been among the loudest critics of the First Lady's comments. That alone suggests that perhaps politics played a bigger role in the outrage than economics.
The first interview featured an Igbo man selling akara at Ladipo Market. He quickly turned the interview into free advertising by mentioning his shop address. He proudly said he had trained his children through school, including graduates, and had built a house in Lagos. Anyone familiar with the cost of owning property in Lagos knows that this is no small achievement.
The second interview was with a woman in another part of Lagos. She explained that she invested about ₦12,000 daily and made at least ₦5,000 profit. That represents an impressive return on investment. Few legitimate businesses in today's Nigeria consistently produce such margins.
Many Nigerians underestimate small businesses simply because they appear ordinary. Yet some of these "ordinary" businesses generate extraordinary income. There is nothing humiliating about earning an honest living. Every legitimate occupation deserves respect. Not every police officer will become the Inspector General. Not every soldier will become a General. Not everyone working in a hospital will become a doctor. Society functions because different people occupy different positions with dignity and excellence.
In my book, Businesses That Can Never Fail, Even If You Plan To Fail, I discuss several businesses that meet every day human needs. Food is one of them. Regardless of economic conditions, people must eat.
I know a graduate in Iyana Church, Ibadan, who, after years of searching unsuccessfully for employment, started selling rice. Today, he employs other people, drives a good car, and owns a beautiful house not far from where I live. Had he considered the business beneath him, he might still be depending on his parents.
So, what exactly is degrading about selling akara or kulikuli? How is it fundamentally different from selling rice, amala, porridge, or any other prepared food? Instead of appreciating the encouragement to explore viable business opportunities, many people chose to attack the messenger, largely because of political differences.
At Akobo, Ojurin Junction in Ibadan, there were two young Igbo men who sold fried plantain every evening between 6:00 p.m. and 10:00 p.m. Anyone who observed their business could tell they were making good money. Today, there are many similar roadside food businesses across Ibadan that are thriving.
Must we reject a good idea simply because it comes from someone whose politics we oppose? Ironically, many of those criticizing Mrs. Tinubu today were themselves raised by parents whose livelihoods came from similar small businesses.
What is wrong with starting from humble beginnings? Has the dignity of labour become an outdated value? Must everyone aspire only to white-collar jobs while looking down on honest entrepreneurship?
Many successful business empires began with modest ventures.
The Eleganza Group traces its roots to its founder, Chief Razaq Okoya, who started by selling wristwatches and other small items in Lagos before building one of Nigeria's most recognizable manufacturing brands.
In my hometown of Efon-Alaaye, there was a man who began life as a truck pusher. Before he passed away a few years ago, he had expanded into automobile sales, printing, farming, and construction. He became one of the wealthiest men in the town and left behind accomplished children. His story is not unique. Thousands of Nigerians have similar testimonies.
There is something we can learn from the entrepreneurial culture of the United States and Europe. Many enduring business empires grew from small family enterprises. Companies such as Starbucks began with a simple idea and expanded over time through consistency, innovation, and good management. Small beginnings should never be despised.
One principle I constantly teach young people is this: Start something. Just start.
You may not be able to build a refinery like Dangote today, but you can begin by selling Kerosene like Obat, the Olugbo of igbo kingdom did. You may not establish a manufacturing empire overnight like Eleganza, but you can start by selling simple products. You may not own a major automobile dealership immediately, but you can begin by helping people buy and sell cars like Elizade, the Toyota Magnate and owner of Elizade University located in Ilara-Mokin, Ondo State, Nigeria did.
Every great business was once a small business.
If your starting point is an akara stand, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. What matters is your vision, your discipline, your willingness to improve, and your consistency.
Never be ashamed of honest work. Today's small enterprise may become tomorrow's business empire.
Otunba Jide Omiyale (Amateur political analyst and SME expert)
Nice one from Otunba! Another great opportunity to come across ur work. I will give u a call this evening.
Mariangeles: Concerning a woman he's interested in?
If he doesn't explain himself to her, who will he explain to? You? Will he end up with you?
You guys should be mature and stop deceiving others. Real life is not nairaland.
Oga u no go understand. Read through his account with understanding and tell me y he needs to explain and apologize to her after he’s already told her y he won’t be attending her father’s burial. He’s even apologized and sent her money
What is the further explanation for? U don’t need to act needy just because of the affection a woman. It doesn’t worth it
Simps are the ones that shalaye.
If he marries such a woman, he won’t be able to manage the dramas ahead
Talking about maturity, guy I have been happily married for 15 yrs and my marriage is NOT threatened in any form. So I know exactly what I am talking about .
Women take u more of a fool if u keep explaining urself over and over again. It’s not manly.
The only one I owe an explanation if need be is my wife not someone I am interested in (because that someone may not even be sincerely interested in me).
Flana: I met this lady in my estate sometime in 2022. We exchanged numbers, but we never really had the time to hang out back then. Sometime in May this year, I saw her number in one of my old iCloud accounts and decided to give her a call. She picked up, but she didn’t seem to remember me—in her own words, because we used to only see each other on the road before she moved out of the estate.
We chose a date and location to hang out, and it all went well. We had a great conversation, and since then, we have been calling and texting each other. We went on a second outing, and she asked me a question that I actually expected of her: what did I really want from her? I told her that my days of playing games are over, and that I need a friend, a partner, and someone I can build a relationship with. In turn, she told me that she hadn’t given relationships a chance since her last one ended two years ago. She also mentioned that she doesn't want to have too much history with men, which is why she has been trying to protect herself.
Since then, things have been cool. We talked on the phone almost every day, and everything was going well between us. However, I noticed she asked a lot of questions, but whenever I asked her something, she was always reluctant to answer. I told her what I do for a living and where I work, but she would only tell me her job title, never the name or location of her workplace. I didn’t really have a problem with that, though.
A few weeks ago, she called me in the evening, crying on the phone, and told me she had just been informed that her dad passed away. Being the kind of person I am, I have never really had anyone close to me lose a loved one where I had to console them. I just told her, "May his soul rest in peace," promised to call her the next day, and hung up. Due to work stress, I didn't end up calling her until the third day. I noticed she wasn't really responding the way I expected, and after some questioning, she opened up. She said she hadn't expected me to just end the call like that on the night she found out, as she really needed someone to talk to, and then I didn't check back until three days later. I apologized and explained to her that it wasn't intentional—I just didn't know what else to say and wanted to avoid repeating words or rambling, which might not be comforting to someone grieving.
We eventually agreed that I could come for her dad’s wake-keep and burial. Initially, she only wanted me to attend the wake-keep because her family's village is far from her hometown and she didn’t want to put me through the stress. But I insisted that the stress would be worth it, especially since I would be experiencing a burial ceremony for the first time in my life. The wake-keep and burial were scheduled for last week Thursday and Friday, respectively.
God bears me witness, I had fully prepared my mind to travel. But on Wednesday evening around 5:00 PM, one of our clients called stating they were in the middle of a time-sensitive project, one of their services was down, and it needed urgent fixing. Normally, I could have resolved this remotely, but traveling from Abuja to an unfamiliar village where I wasn’t sure if there would be a network connection was a risk I wasn't willing to take. So, I picked up my phone, summoned the courage, and told her I wouldn’t be able to come as scheduled. In the middle of my explanation, she cut me off, saying she already knew I wasn’t coming. She said if I had genuinely planned to come, I would have been checking in with her since that morning. Because she hadn't heard from me all day, she had already concluded I decided not to show up. Then she told me, “I don’t think this whole relationship thing will work. You should just forget about everything and have a good life ahead of you.” I asked, "Just like that?" and she said yes. I wished her a good life ahead too, and ended the call.
After 20 minutes, I messaged her asking for her account details. She sent them, and I transferred some cash to her. She messaged me the next morning, thanking me very much. Why I sent the money, I can't really tell, but it genuinely calmed my temper down.
Since then, I have been calling and texting her, but she hasn't responded. However, I noticed she called me twice on Saturday, but I wasn't close to my phone. Since then, I’ve been calling her twice every day and dropping messages, but getting no response. I called her yesterday, and luckily, she picked up. I asked if she was back, but she said she was still in the village. I asked if she could talk, and she said yes. But as I was trying to explain myself and apologize, not even 30 seconds into the call, the line dropped. I called back and it was switched off. I called again later in the evening, but there was no response.
I really like her, and I want her to know it wasn't intentional, but honestly, I am feeling exhausted.
I got pissed when u said u called to apologize and explain urself. What are u explaining urself about? U owe no one (especially a woman that is not ur wife) an explanation for whatever decision you make
tobore4u: I heard it can be sold?...how true is this?
Yes, give it some marketing and u would be surprised by the offers you will receive. Somebody out there needs this stuff badly just like fish needs water. You will make good money selling it
Wisdomaffiliate: Which of these 5 ways do you think is the easiest for a beginner to start with? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Of course affiliate marketing is the easiest for a beginner to start. Ur job is simply to get leads that pays and u get paid. The product owner does the rest. Affiliate marketing now is far easier than what it used to be before.
[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139435993]“If any man keeps malice with me for just 3 days, I’ll sleep with another man” – Lady declares
A Nigerian lady has sparked reactions online after sharing her controversial opinion on relationships while reacting to the alleged cheating scandal involving singer Chike and the ex-wife of media personality Frank Edoho.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), the lady defended women who cheat in relationships, claiming that prolonged silence and unresolved issues between couples often push women into the arms of other men.
According to her, no woman would remain completely loyal for too long if her partner decides to keep malice instead of resolving problems in the relationship.
In her words, she said:
“If any man try to keep malice with me in a relationship because we’re having issues, the highest I can be loyal for you is three days. Me and you are dating and we’re quarrelling. I no talk to you, you no come beg me, the highest I can promise you that I won’t give out my body to another man is three days.
“So Chike we love you, thank you for being a shoulder for her to cry on when she needed you, we love you and we’re proud of you. For once the men should be proud too. So if you keep keeping malice with your woman, another man will take your place.”
Her statement has since generated mixed reactions online, with many social media users criticizing her stance on infidelity, while others argued that communication are important in relationships.
The controversy follows ongoing social media discussions surrounding allegations involving Chike and Frank Edoho’s ex-wife, which have continued to trend online.
"If Any Man Keeps Malice With Me For 3 Days, I Will Sleep With Another Man"
sleep now even with dog sef, it’s her body. Ashawo dey her eye already. What’s she said is a testament to what she’s done, been doing and what she will likely do.
lovediehatelive: Few weeks ago I met a girl and kept contact with her.
Everything was going on smoothly until I asked her to come to my place.
I already prepared my mind for 'NO', and that's what I actually got. I felt it's the usual not wanting to appear cheap so I tried again, she said she was busy.
It was on a Saturday. I lock up and continued with my life. The next day (Sunday) Mancity and Arsenal had match and I wasn't missing it for anything.
If she had accepted to come over, I would have planned my schedules so as to watch the game after that be with her or so.
But since she wasn't positive after second trial I assumed she won't be coming again.
Lo and behold just before the end of 1st half, (after Dounaruma mistake that Harvertz scored) her call came in, and she wanted to come!
Told her I was watching match I'll call her when I'm done.
That was it.
After the game I called but she didn't pick up. Messaged her on WhatsApp but she's not replying.
Since then she's been giving me attitude.
She's supposed to let me know on time, at least a day before, so that I plan my day, not towards evening by 5PM of the same day.
It's not as if I rejected her, I just can't leave my match for her even though I later called.
Has anyone ever experienced such?
Wisdom demands u stop calling her if she continues to ignore ur calls.
Who she think she be sef? Probably another arrogant and prideful person.
This is a red flag please kindly move on. Na this kain person go ask u to drop ur mama if u want her.
Healguy: I want to buy Chupex 60,000mah powerbank. Please if you are using their powerbanks give me review. I don't want to buy powerbank that will not last.
I will not advise u do. I bought the 40000mah last October It started by shutting off at 10% same week I bought it and then 20% and as we speak, it shuts down at 50%.Meaning I start the long charge from 0% once it shuts down.
The person that recommended it to me is also experiencing similar issues as hers shuts down now at 70%
NationalNewsNG: National News – Former Super Eagles striker Michael Eneramo has died at age 40 after collapsing during a football match in Kaduna State on April 24, 2026.
He reportedly came on as a second-half substitute at the Angwan Yelwa pitch in the Television area when he suddenly slumped without any contact with other players.
Despite immediate on-field efforts and attempts to revive him, he was rushed to hospital where he was confirmed dead.
The news has triggered widespread shock across Nigeria’s football community, with fans, former teammates and local clubs expressing grief over the sudden loss.
Lovelink1991: Watch the moment a lady cries out that their landlord is diabolical and that the landlord warned her husband that nobody will buy car in this compound. Those who came with car and selling their car
All we do in this country is to complain. If e no dey, we go complain, e dey we go complain say e too much. We can only get better in this Nation if we are grateful for the ones available.
Ibtxxo: How can 45 years jobless man marry, rent house and start a business with 2m
With ₦2 million in Nigeria today (December 2025), a 45-year-old jobless man can still marry, rent a house, and start a small business, but it must be done very carefully and modestly.
The money is not plenty, so priorities matter.
Here’s a realistic plan: 1 Marriage (₦500k–₦700k max) Go for a simple court/registry wedding + small reception for 50–70 people. ◦ Registry fees + certificate: ₦50k–₦100k ◦ Simple traditional rites (introduction + few items): ₦200k–₦300k ◦ Small reception (canopy, food, drinks in compound or hall): ₦250k–₦300k . Find a woman who understands the situation and is ready for low-key wedding. No big aso-oke or 500 guests.
2 Renting a house (₦500k–₦700k for first year) Look for a decent 1- or 2-bedroom flat in a suburb or semi-urban area (e.g., outskirts of Lagos, Ibadan, Port Harcourt, Abuja suburbs, or medium cities like Ilorin, Akure, Benin). ◦ Annual rent: ₦300k–₦500k ◦ Agency + agreement: ₦50k–₦100k ◦ Caution + light furnishing: ₦100k–₦200k Avoid highbrow areas like Lekki, VI, Maitama—those rents alone will swallow the whole ₦2m.
3 Start a small business (₦600k–₦1m) Choose something with low startup cost, quick returns, and daily cash flow: ◦ POS agency + small provision shop: ₦500k–₦800k (machine ₦100k–₦200k, float ₦200k, rent small shop/container ₦100k/year, stock ₦200k–₦400k). ◦ Phone repair/accessories + charging hub: ₦600k–₦800k. ◦ Pure water/bottled water distribution (buy sachet machine or partner with factory): ₦800k–₦1m. ◦ Poultry (200–300 layers or broilers): ₦700k–₦1m for pen, birds, feed. Avoid anything that needs big shop or heavy machines.
Sample budget breakdown (₦2m total): • Wedding: ₦600k • Rent + basic setup: ₦600k • Business capital: ₦700k • Emergency/buffer: ₦100k Extra tips: • Marry a woman who can support or has small income (hairdressing, tailoring, teaching). Teamwork is key. • Live in the same area as the business to save transport. • Cut every unnecessary expense—no big TV, no new phone, no owambe every weekend. • Hustle hard from day 1. The business must start bringing money in 1–3 months.
It’s tight, but many men have started with less and succeeded through discipline and prayer.
₦2m is seed money, not luxury money. Plant it wisely, water it with hard work, and it can grow into something solid.
U can do it, bros. Start small, stay focused, God dey ur back. 💪🙏
Crime › Re: Man Caught Using Fake Opay App Reveals How Fake Alerts Work by infogenius(m): 2:06pm On Sep 24
