₦airaland Forum

Mariangeles:
If you had dismissed your wife when you were courting her the way op dismissed the lady he's interested in when she needed him the most, you think she would've agreed to marry you?

Please read and read again op’s initial post with open mind for better understanding.

fuke:
The reaction of many Nigerians, especially some young people, never ceases to amaze me.
When I read the responses to Her Excellency, Senator Oluremi Tinubu's suggestion that women could start small businesses with a ₦50,000 grant, I began to wonder whether many people truly understand entrepreneurship. The debate revealed that, for many Nigerians, what they do not know about business is far greater than what they know.

Some argued that ₦50,000 is too little to start any meaningful business. Others claimed that selling akara is demeaning. I disagree.

No honest work that puts food on the table is demeaning. With ₦50,000, there are several businesses one can start. In fact, there are businesses people begin with little or no capital at all.

History has repeatedly shown that many wealthy individuals started from humble beginnings. Success is often determined not by where you start, but by your determination, consistency, and ability to grow.

Coming back to the akara business, I was encouraged to see that some people refused to follow the crowd. Just this morning, I watched interviews with two akara sellers in Lagos. Interestingly, both happened to be from the ethnic group that has been among the loudest critics of the First Lady's comments. That alone suggests that perhaps politics played a bigger role in the outrage than economics.

The first interview featured an Igbo man selling akara at Ladipo Market. He quickly turned the interview into free advertising by mentioning his shop address. He proudly said he had trained his children through school, including graduates, and had built a house in Lagos. Anyone familiar with the cost of owning property in Lagos knows that this is no small achievement.

The second interview was with a woman in another part of Lagos. She explained that she invested about ₦12,000 daily and made at least ₦5,000 profit. That represents an impressive return on investment. Few legitimate businesses in today's Nigeria consistently produce such margins.

Many Nigerians underestimate small businesses simply because they appear ordinary. Yet some of these "ordinary" businesses generate extraordinary income. There is nothing humiliating about earning an honest living. Every legitimate occupation deserves respect.
Not every police officer will become the Inspector General. Not every soldier will become a General. Not everyone working in a hospital will become a doctor. Society functions because different people occupy different positions with dignity and excellence.

In my book, Businesses That Can Never Fail, Even If You Plan To Fail, I discuss several businesses that meet every day human needs. Food is one of them. Regardless of economic conditions, people must eat.

I know a graduate in Iyana Church, Ibadan, who, after years of searching unsuccessfully for employment, started selling rice. Today, he employs other people, drives a good car, and owns a beautiful house not far from where I live. Had he considered the business beneath him, he might still be depending on his parents.

So, what exactly is degrading about selling akara or kulikuli? How is it fundamentally different from selling rice, amala, porridge, or any other prepared food? Instead of appreciating the encouragement to explore viable business opportunities, many people chose to attack the messenger, largely because of political differences.

At Akobo, Ojurin Junction in Ibadan, there were two young Igbo men who sold fried plantain every evening between 6:00 p.m. and 10:00 p.m. Anyone who observed their business could tell they were making good money. Today, there are many similar roadside food businesses across Ibadan that are thriving.

Must we reject a good idea simply because it comes from someone whose politics we oppose? Ironically, many of those criticizing Mrs. Tinubu today were themselves raised by parents whose livelihoods came from similar small businesses.

What is wrong with starting from humble beginnings? Has the dignity of labour become an outdated value? Must everyone aspire only to white-collar jobs while looking down on honest entrepreneurship?

Many successful business empires began with modest ventures.

The Eleganza Group traces its roots to its founder, Chief Razaq Okoya, who started by selling wristwatches and other small items in Lagos before building one of Nigeria's most recognizable manufacturing brands.

In my hometown of Efon-Alaaye, there was a man who began life as a truck pusher. Before he passed away a few years ago, he had expanded into automobile sales, printing, farming, and construction. He became one of the wealthiest men in the town and left behind accomplished children. His story is not unique. Thousands of Nigerians have similar testimonies.

There is something we can learn from the entrepreneurial culture of the United States and Europe. Many enduring business empires grew from small family enterprises. Companies such as Starbucks began with a simple idea and expanded over time through consistency, innovation, and good management. Small beginnings should never be despised.

One principle I constantly teach young people is this: Start something. Just start.

You may not be able to build a refinery like Dangote today, but you can begin by selling Kerosene like Obat, the Olugbo of igbo kingdom did. You may not establish a manufacturing empire overnight like Eleganza, but you can start by selling simple products. You may not own a major automobile dealership immediately, but you can begin by helping people buy and sell cars like Elizade, the Toyota Magnate and owner of Elizade University located in Ilara-Mokin, Ondo State, Nigeria did.

Every great business was once a small business.

If your starting point is an akara stand, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. What matters is your vision, your discipline, your willingness to improve, and your consistency.

Never be ashamed of honest work. Today's small enterprise may become tomorrow's business empire.

Otunba Jide Omiyale (Amateur political analyst and SME expert)

Nice one from Otunba!
Another great opportunity to come across ur work.
I will give u a call this evening.

Mariangeles:
Concerning a woman he's interested in?

If he doesn't explain himself to her, who will he explain to? You?
Will he end up with you?

You guys should be mature and stop deceiving others.
Real life is not nairaland.

Oga u no go understand.
Read through his account with understanding and tell me y he needs to explain and apologize to her after he’s already told her y he won’t be attending her father’s burial. He’s even apologized and sent her money

What is the further explanation for?
U don’t need to act needy just because of the affection a woman.
It doesn’t worth it

Simps are the ones that shalaye.


If he marries such a woman, he won’t be able to manage the dramas ahead

Talking about maturity, guy I have been happily married for 15 yrs and my marriage is NOT threatened in any form. So I know exactly what I am talking about .

Women take u more of a fool if u keep explaining urself over and over again.
It’s not manly.

The only one I owe an explanation if need be is my wife not someone I am interested in (because that someone may not even be sincerely interested in me).

Flana:
I met this lady in my estate sometime in 2022. We exchanged numbers, but we never really had the time to hang out back then. Sometime in May this year, I saw her number in one of my old iCloud accounts and decided to give her a call. She picked up, but she didn’t seem to remember me—in her own words, because we used to only see each other on the road before she moved out of the estate.

We chose a date and location to hang out, and it all went well. We had a great conversation, and since then, we have been calling and texting each other. We went on a second outing, and she asked me a question that I actually expected of her: what did I really want from her? I told her that my days of playing games are over, and that I need a friend, a partner, and someone I can build a relationship with. In turn, she told me that she hadn’t given relationships a chance since her last one ended two years ago. She also mentioned that she doesn't want to have too much history with men, which is why she has been trying to protect herself.

Since then, things have been cool. We talked on the phone almost every day, and everything was going well between us. However, I noticed she asked a lot of questions, but whenever I asked her something, she was always reluctant to answer. I told her what I do for a living and where I work, but she would only tell me her job title, never the name or location of her workplace. I didn’t really have a problem with that, though.

A few weeks ago, she called me in the evening, crying on the phone, and told me she had just been informed that her dad passed away. Being the kind of person I am, I have never really had anyone close to me lose a loved one where I had to console them. I just told her, "May his soul rest in peace," promised to call her the next day, and hung up. Due to work stress, I didn't end up calling her until the third day. I noticed she wasn't really responding the way I expected, and after some questioning, she opened up. She said she hadn't expected me to just end the call like that on the night she found out, as she really needed someone to talk to, and then I didn't check back until three days later. I apologized and explained to her that it wasn't intentional—I just didn't know what else to say and wanted to avoid repeating words or rambling, which might not be comforting to someone grieving.

We eventually agreed that I could come for her dad’s wake-keep and burial. Initially, she only wanted me to attend the wake-keep because her family's village is far from her hometown and she didn’t want to put me through the stress. But I insisted that the stress would be worth it, especially since I would be experiencing a burial ceremony for the first time in my life. The wake-keep and burial were scheduled for last week Thursday and Friday, respectively.

God bears me witness, I had fully prepared my mind to travel. But on Wednesday evening around 5:00 PM, one of our clients called stating they were in the middle of a time-sensitive project, one of their services was down, and it needed urgent fixing. Normally, I could have resolved this remotely, but traveling from Abuja to an unfamiliar village where I wasn’t sure if there would be a network connection was a risk I wasn't willing to take. So, I picked up my phone, summoned the courage, and told her I wouldn’t be able to come as scheduled. In the middle of my explanation, she cut me off, saying she already knew I wasn’t coming. She said if I had genuinely planned to come, I would have been checking in with her since that morning. Because she hadn't heard from me all day, she had already concluded I decided not to show up. Then she told me, “I don’t think this whole relationship thing will work. You should just forget about everything and have a good life ahead of you.” I asked, "Just like that?" and she said yes. I wished her a good life ahead too, and ended the call.

After 20 minutes, I messaged her asking for her account details. She sent them, and I transferred some cash to her. She messaged me the next morning, thanking me very much. Why I sent the money, I can't really tell, but it genuinely calmed my temper down.

Since then, I have been calling and texting her, but she hasn't responded. However, I noticed she called me twice on Saturday, but I wasn't close to my phone. Since then, I’ve been calling her twice every day and dropping messages, but getting no response. I called her yesterday, and luckily, she picked up. I asked if she was back, but she said she was still in the village. I asked if she could talk, and she said yes. But as I was trying to explain myself and apologize, not even 30 seconds into the call, the line dropped. I called back and it was switched off. I called again later in the evening, but there was no response.

I really like her, and I want her to know it wasn't intentional, but honestly, I am feeling exhausted.

I got pissed when u said u called to apologize and explain urself.
What are u explaining urself about?
U owe no one (especially a woman that is not ur wife) an explanation for whatever decision you make

Please move on and avoid unnecessary drama.

Nice one.
The league will now be more attractive and competitive.

tobore4u:
I heard it can be sold?...how true is this?

Yes, give it some marketing and u would be surprised by the offers you will receive.
Somebody out there needs this stuff badly just like fish needs water.
You will make good money selling it

I initially thought it be could be murder until I learnt he was depressed. It now points toward suicide. An investigation must be carried out.

It important that we protect our mental health irrespective of the circumstances or battles one is facing.

Zebb:
I want to go for affiliate marketing, how do I start, can I start using smart phone?

Of course u can. It cannot be easier than starting with ur phone and using WhatsApp.

Wisdomaffiliate:
But there are more better ones

Sure there are better ones. However, in that list provided in the post by the op, affiliate marketing is far the easiest to get started with

Wisdomaffiliate:
Which of these 5 ways do you think is the easiest for a beginner to start with? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Of course affiliate marketing is the easiest for a beginner to start. Ur job is simply to get leads that pays and u get paid. The product owner does the rest.
Affiliate marketing now is far easier than what it used to be before.

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139435993]“If any man keeps malice with me for just 3 days, I’ll sleep with another man” – Lady declares

A Nigerian lady has sparked reactions online after sharing her controversial opinion on relationships while reacting to the alleged cheating scandal involving singer Chike and the ex-wife of media personality Frank Edoho.

In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), the lady defended women who cheat in relationships, claiming that prolonged silence and unresolved issues between couples often push women into the arms of other men.

According to her, no woman would remain completely loyal for too long if her partner decides to keep malice instead of resolving problems in the relationship.

In her words, she said:

“If any man try to keep malice with me in a relationship because we’re having issues, the highest I can be loyal for you is three days. Me and you are dating and we’re quarrelling. I no talk to you, you no come beg me, the highest I can promise you that I won’t give out my body to another man is three days.

“So Chike we love you, thank you for being a shoulder for her to cry on when she needed you, we love you and we’re proud of you. For once the men should be proud too. So if you keep keeping malice with your woman, another man will take your place.”

Her statement has since generated mixed reactions online, with many social media users criticizing her stance on infidelity, while others argued that communication are important in relationships.

The controversy follows ongoing social media discussions surrounding allegations involving Chike and Frank Edoho’s ex-wife, which have continued to trend online.

"If Any Man Keeps Malice With Me For 3 Days, I Will Sleep With Another Man"

— Lady reveals.. pic.twitter.com/T0iOd5Siv5

— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) May 16, 2026

sleep now even with dog sef, it’s her body.
Ashawo dey her eye already.
What’s she said is a testament to what she’s done, been doing and what she will likely do.

lovediehatelive:
Few weeks ago I met a girl and kept contact with her.

Everything was going on smoothly until I asked her to come to my place.


I already prepared my mind for 'NO', and that's what I actually got. I felt it's the usual not wanting to appear cheap so I tried again, she said she was busy.

It was on a Saturday. I lock up and continued with my life. The next day (Sunday) Mancity and Arsenal had match and I wasn't missing it for anything.

If she had accepted to come over, I would have planned my schedules so as to watch the game after that be with her or so.

But since she wasn't positive after second trial I assumed she won't be coming again.

Lo and behold just before the end of 1st half, (after Dounaruma mistake that Harvertz scored) her call came in, and she wanted to come!


Told her I was watching match I'll call her when I'm done.

That was it.

After the game I called but she didn't pick up. Messaged her on WhatsApp but she's not replying.


Since then she's been giving me attitude.

She's supposed to let me know on time, at least a day before, so that I plan my day, not towards evening by 5PM of the same day.



It's not as if I rejected her, I just can't leave my match for her even though I later called.

Has anyone ever experienced such?

Wisdom demands u stop calling her if she continues to ignore ur calls.

Who she think she be sef?
Probably another arrogant and prideful person.

This is a red flag please kindly move on.
Na this kain person go ask u to drop ur mama if u want her.

Python25to30:
With this few point of yours i would run from chupex. But ive used one b4 i swr %5 go cgarge my phone full i swr

Same here my phone gets full with about 7% unfortunately I can only use 50% instead of 100% of its battery charge to charge my devices

Healguy:
I want to buy Chupex 60,000mah powerbank. Please if you are using their powerbanks give me review. I don't want to buy powerbank that will not last.

I will not advise u do. I bought the 40000mah last October
It started by shutting off at 10% same week I bought it and then 20% and as we speak, it shuts down at 50%.Meaning I start the long charge from 0% once it shuts down.

The person that recommended it to me is also experiencing similar issues as hers shuts down now at 70%

Over to you. The Choice is urs.

Axis313:
Will you pack it or leave it?

Leave it.
There’s really no point packing it. Person fit pack sand and stone join.

NationalNewsNG:
National News – Former Super Eagles striker Michael Eneramo has died at age 40 after collapsing during a football match in Kaduna State on April 24, 2026.

He reportedly came on as a second-half substitute at the Angwan Yelwa pitch in the Television area when he suddenly slumped without any contact with other players.

Despite immediate on-field efforts and attempts to revive him, he was rushed to hospital where he was confirmed dead.

The news has triggered widespread shock across Nigeria’s football community, with fans, former teammates and local clubs expressing grief over the sudden loss.

https://nationalnews.ng/michael-eneramo-dies-during-kaduna-match/

As in na 2day this one happen.

It is well
Rest in peace Bro

I don’t know where we copied this trash of kneeling to propose marriage to a woman from.

This honestly is not part of our culture and it’s now becoming more of a disgrace than honor proposing through this route.

I can only feel for that guy copying scrap and publicly getting disgraced.

Infact I will start looking for her immediately I am born before another man discover her.

Keziehenry:
Quadratic equation curve

Yes I have, teaching my kids when they brought it home for homework.
It’s always fun solving quadratic equations using graphs

Lovelink1991:
Watch the moment a lady cries out that their landlord is diabolical and that the landlord warned her husband that nobody will buy car in this compound. Those who came with car and selling their car


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UyqaSYhw2oA?si=qcQg_3OVeeWFqwe4

No matter how diabolical it may be, u still have ur power of choice instead of the rants.

U can choose to remain and continue to experience negativity so that u rant incessantly or choose to move out.

It’s still within ur power to exercise the power of choice at ur disposal.

Rest in perfect peace Sir!.

What a way to end his life.
More worrisome is that he took his life for a sin he willingly committed.
It is well

Just wondering how helpful this post can be.
Possibly it’s good enough to stir up something different in the mind of a reader.

All we do in this country is to complain. If e no dey, we go complain, e dey we go complain say e too much.
We can only get better in this Nation if we are grateful for the ones available.

Ibtxxo:
How can 45 years jobless man marry, rent house and start a business with 2m

With ₦2 million in Nigeria today (December 2025), a 45-year-old jobless man can still marry, rent a house, and start a small business, but it must be done very carefully and modestly.

The money is not plenty, so priorities matter.

Here’s a realistic plan:
1 Marriage (₦500k–₦700k max)
Go for a simple court/registry wedding + small reception for 50–70 people.
◦ Registry fees + certificate: ₦50k–₦100k
◦ Simple traditional rites (introduction + few items): ₦200k–₦300k
◦ Small reception (canopy, food, drinks in compound or hall): ₦250k–₦300k
.
Find a woman who understands the situation and is ready for low-key wedding. No big aso-oke or 500 guests.

2 Renting a house (₦500k–₦700k for first year)
Look for a decent 1- or 2-bedroom flat in a suburb or semi-urban area (e.g., outskirts of Lagos, Ibadan, Port Harcourt, Abuja suburbs, or medium cities like Ilorin, Akure, Benin).
◦ Annual rent: ₦300k–₦500k
◦ Agency + agreement: ₦50k–₦100k
◦ Caution + light furnishing: ₦100k–₦200k
Avoid highbrow areas like Lekki, VI, Maitama—those rents alone will swallow the whole ₦2m.

3 Start a small business (₦600k–₦1m)

Choose something with low startup cost, quick returns, and daily cash flow:
◦ POS agency + small provision shop: ₦500k–₦800k (machine ₦100k–₦200k, float ₦200k, rent small shop/container ₦100k/year, stock ₦200k–₦400k).
◦ Phone repair/accessories + charging hub: ₦600k–₦800k.
◦ Pure water/bottled water distribution (buy sachet machine or partner with factory): ₦800k–₦1m.
◦ Poultry (200–300 layers or broilers): ₦700k–₦1m for pen, birds, feed.
Avoid anything that needs big shop or heavy machines.

Sample budget breakdown (₦2m total):
• Wedding: ₦600k
• Rent + basic setup: ₦600k
• Business capital: ₦700k
• Emergency/buffer: ₦100k
Extra tips:
• Marry a woman who can support or has small income (hairdressing, tailoring, teaching). Teamwork is key.
• Live in the same area as the business to save transport.
• Cut every unnecessary expense—no big TV, no new phone, no owambe every weekend.
• Hustle hard from day 1. The business must start bringing money in 1–3 months.

It’s tight, but many men have started with less and succeeded through discipline and prayer.


₦2m is seed money, not luxury money. Plant it wisely, water it with hard work, and it can grow into something solid.

U can do it, bros.
Start small, stay focused, God dey ur back. 💪🙏

Ekeletu:
Let me make it brief.
There's this lady I met 4yrs ago through hookup.
I used to love-vendor her to guys and she featured in one of my adult contents.

She has done orgy, 3some and even do girls too. She smokes.

Last this year we started a relationship and last month she stopped hookup.

We are planning on getting married next year but I am having a double mind.

She's very good and my spec. She said she will stop smoking.

Any advice?

Bros, I’ll keep it real and straight with u.

U met her through hookup, u pimped her to other men, she featured in ur adult content, did orgy, threesomes, girl-on-girl, smokes… and now u want to turn her into wife next year because she says she’ll stop everything?

Here’s the hard truth:
1 She fits ur “spec” sexually because u’ve seen (and sold) the extreme version. That excitement is not the same as wife material. Wife material brings peace, respect, and stability, not a past that will haunt both of u.

2 People can change, yes. But real change takes time, not “last month I stopped.” Marriage is not the magic that fixes deep habits.
If smoking and hookup were her lifestyle for years, the test is not one month—it’s years of consistency.

3 Imagine ur family finds out (and they will—one day, one video or one ex go leak am). Imagine ur kids grow up and someone shows them mummy’s past. Imagine u wake up one day and the old memories start to eat u.

4 U’re having double mind for a reason. Listen to that voice. It’s not weakness; it’s wisdom speaking.

My advice:
 Don’t marry her out of pity, guilt, or “she’s my spec.”
If u truly love her, give it 1–2 more years.

Let her prove the change outside marriage. Build something clean. If she stays consistent, then consider it.

But rushing into marriage now? That one na recipe for regret.
 U deserve peace, not constant doubt.


Choose wisely, king.

Ur future self go thank u. 🙏

cutecommend:
None of the Exes of several single ladies may ever or has ever reconnected again with intention to marry these ladies. Even if these ladies desperately need husbands or joking bring up the idea of marriage to their Exes, such may idea may be diverted. Another thing is that some of these exes may not even be willing to reconnect for sex with these ladies while they have no suitor or fiance.

The issue here is that, when some of these ladies get fiance to marry & have a wedding date set, they may demand for good-bye sex from the Exes that never wanted to marry them. These Exes may sleep with them when they go to share wedding cards. These Exes may even bring up the idea of goodbye sex.

When a husband has side chics in marriage, it may be a consequence of the good bye sex the wife had before the wedding. Husbands have no excuse for cheating.

This post is painting with a very broad brush, and it’s not fair or accurate for most situations.

Not every ex refuses to marry his former girlfriend forever. Plenty of couples break up young, grow up, fix what went wrong, reconnect, and end up happily married with kids. It happens more often than people admit.

But yes, in many cases, when a man leaves a relationship, he has already decided (consciously or not) that he doesn’t see her as wife material. Reconnecting later is often for convenience, loneliness, or sex—not marriage.

That’s why “goodbye sex” or “one last time” happens when the woman is finally moving on. The ex suddenly wants what he thinks he’s losing.

And the claim that a wife’s pre-wedding “goodbye sex” causes her husband to cheat later? That’s just shifting blame.

Cheating is a choice the cheater makes, full stop. No past action from the wife justifies it.

Real talk to ladies reading this:
1 If he left once and only comes back when you’re happy or engaged, he’s not serious about marriage—he’s just scared of losing access.

2 Protect ur dignity. No “goodbye sex,” no “let’s see how it goes.” If he wants u, let him commit properly.

3 Focus on the man who chooses u first, not the one who chooses u last.

To the men: If u know she’s not the one, leave cleanly and stay gone. Don’t come back for ego boost or bedroom benefits when she’s finally healing.

Breakups hurt, but playing games hurts more.


Let people move on in peace. That’s true maturity. 🙏🏾

GravityDefier:
I saw the opposite of this topic on F.P today.

According to the drop, this your one cent here as well.

Here’s my own advice to every 20-year-old woman reading this:

1 Your body and time are ur biggest assets right now. Protect them jealously. Say no to anything and anyone that wastes them. The energy u have at 20 will not be the same at 35, so use it to build, not to scatter.

2 Invest in urself early. Learn a skill that pays well, save money no matter how small, read books, travel if u can, build ur mind. The compound effect is real. What u do (or don’t do) between 20 and 30 will shape the rest of ur life.

3 Don’t tie ur worth to any man or relationship. Love is sweet, but a man should add to ur life, not become ur life. If he leaves, u should still be standing strong, not broken.

4 Choose ur friends carefully. The people u roll with in ur 20s will influence ur decisions heavily. Keep friends who push u up, not the ones who drag u into drama or competition.

5 Your beauty will change, but ur character and peace of mind will carry u far. Work on being kind, confident, and wise more than being “hot.” Hot fades, class doesn’t.

6 Don’t rush marriage or children because of pressure. Have them when u’re ready—financially, emotionally, mentally. A good man will wait for the right time, not force u into it early.

7 Learn to say NO without explanation. Protect ur peace like it’s gold.

8 Enjoy ur 20s, but don’t waste them. Party, date, have fun, but always have a plan. The freedom u have now is precious—use it wisely.

To the 20-year-old reading this: U have time on ur side. Don’t let society, family, or social media rush u.

Build quietly, love wisely, and become the woman ur future self will thank. ❤️

Odebayo4010:
When a woman does not have her way she gets angry, she wants to destroy and burn everything down. As long as she's in charge she's happy but if she's not, she's sad. You see, for many women it was never about love. It was about control. They want to find a senseless donkey who will do as they please. Don't be that donkey.

Bros, this ur take too extreme o.

Not every woman wakes up plotting “control” or ready to burn house if she nor get her way.

Plenty women just want respect, peace, and partnership—same thing most men want.

Yes, some women (and plenty men too) love control pass anything. When things nor go their way, dem turn beast: anger, manipulation,
revenge. That one na human being problem, not “woman nature.”

I’ve seen wives wey submit, support, build with their husbands through hell, no complaint.


I’ve also seen husbands wey turn dictator the moment money enter hand.

The real truth:

Power and control tempt everybody.
Some women abuse it.
 Some men abuse it worse (with fist, cheating, or silent treatment).

Don’t paint all women as “beasts in nature” because of the bad ones u don meet.


That same brush fit paint all men as dogs because of the players and abusers wey full street.

Look for a woman wey get sense, respect, and fear of God.
 She go add to ur life, not turn u to donkey.

And if u find her, treat her right so she nor turn to the “beast” u dey fear.


Relationship na two people wey choose peace over power.


That’s the winning formula. 💯

Chidolalar:
A recorded match where man UTD won 3-0 has already been played and everyone knowing the outcome

So if u re watch it uncountable times, u will still get d same outcome of that 3-0

U just contradicted yourself about God giving humans Free Will when he already knows d outcome right from d beginning he created humans

No, I didn’t contradict myself. Let me explain it even simpler.
The key difference is when the knowledge happens.

In the football example:
The match was played first (players made real, free choices on the field).
Only after it finished did I record it and know the 3-0 result.

Watching the recording many times doesn’t change what the players freely chose during the live game.

With God and free will:

God exists outside time. For Him, past, present, and future are all “now.”
He sees the entire “match” of ur life from beginning to end at once.
But u are living it moment by moment, making real choices as u go.

God knowing the final score doesn’t mean He forced the players (u) to kick the ball a certain way.
 U still choose freely in every moment.
His knowledge is like watching the full recording—He sees what u freely decided, not what He made u decide.

Example:
 A parent can sometimes predict exactly what their child will choose (“He’ll pick the chocolate over the apple”).

The parent knows the child so well that the prediction is accurate.
 But the child still chose freely - no force.

God knows u perfectly, so He knows ur choices before u make them.
 But the choice is still 100% urs.

Free will and God’s perfect knowledge can both be true at the same time.


No contradiction. 🙏🏾

seunmsg:
And hell has to be the only option for people who freely choose not to follow God’s rules? Did I at any point consent to follow the rules? Why should there be consequences for not following a set of rules I never consented to?

Again, you talked about free will. Is it not quiet contradictory that an omniscient God created a human being who will willingly not obey his rules? Didn’t God know right from day one that this one that I just created will not obey my rules and hence will end up in hellfire?

So, ain’t we all some sort of entertainment to God? Being omniscient already shows he knows the decision each and every one of us will make. He knows those that will go to hell and those that will make heaven. So, where is the freewill? Where is the justice?

Let me answer ur questions one by one
1 Did I consent to the rules?
Why punishment if I never agreed?
 When u were born, u didn’t sign a paper, true. But think of it like this: u were born into a world that already has gravity. U didn’t agree to gravity, but if u jump off a tall building, u fall and get hurt. The consequence isn’t because u “broke a contract”; it’s the natural result of how the world works.
God says He is the source of life, love, goodness, and joy. To reject Him completely is to choose life without those things. Hell isn’t God saying “I’m angry, burn!” It’s the natural state of being cut off from the source of everything good. God simply respects ur choice.

2 If God knows everything, where is free will? Didn’t He already know I’d reject Him?
Knowing something will happen is not the same as forcing it to happen.
 Example: I can watch a recorded football match and know Manchester United will lose 3-0. But the players still chose every move freely when the game was played. My knowing the result didn’t force them to miss shots.
 God knowing ur final choice from the beginning doesn’t remove ur freedom to make that choice. U still decide every day - step by step - whether u want Him or not.

3 So are we just entertainment to God?
 No. If God wanted entertainment, He could create robots that always obey and praise Him 24/7. But He chose to create beings with real freedom, because real love can only come from free choice. Forced love isn’t love.
 God doesn’t enjoy anyone going to hell. The Bible says He wants everyone to turn to Him and be saved (2 Peter 3:9). Hell is not God laughing at suffering; it’s God sadly saying, “OK, thy will be done” to someone who kept saying “I don’t want You.”

4 Is hell the only option?

Yes, because there are only two real choices:
◦ With God → life, love, joy forever (heaven).
◦ Without God → the opposite forever (hell).
God doesn’t want the second option for anyone, but He won’t force the first.

At the end of the day, God gave u the freedom to choose because He wants real relationship, not puppets.


The door to choose Him is open till ur last breath.


That’s love, not entertainment. 🙏🏾

seunmsg:
I saw this very interesting question on Twitter.

“ So after burning us in hell what will God actually gain?”

What do you think?

Here’s what I think
The question “After burning us in hell, what will God gain?” assumes that hell exists mainly to satisfy some need or benefit for God—like revenge, ego boost, or entertainment.

But that’s not how most serious Christian theology (or even Islamic/Jewish views on judgment) describes it.

God gains nothing from anyone’s suffering in hell.
 Hell is not a torture chamber God runs for His pleasure.


It’s the natural consequence of rejecting the source of all goodness, love, and life which is God Himself.

Think of it like this:
• God is life, light, love, joy—everything good.
• To freely choose to reject God forever is to choose the absence of all those things: darkness, isolation, regret, pain.
• Hell is simply God respecting that final choice. He doesn’t “send” people there to “gain” something; people walk there themselves by saying “I don’t want You” repeatedly, even to the end.

C.S. Lewis put it perfectly:
“ There are only two kinds of people in the end: those who say to God, ‘Thy will be done,’ and those to whom God says, in the end, ‘Thy will be done.’”

God doesn’t gain sadistic pleasure.
 He grieves.

The Bible says He takes “no pleasure in the death of the wicked” (Ezekiel 33:11) and desires that everyone turns to Him (2 Peter 3:9).

So what does God “gain” from hell?

Nothing.

It’s a tragedy, not a victory.

He gains everything when even one person chooses love and comes home.

That’s the heart of the matter. 🙏🏾