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steveneche:
Candid opinion please

As a lady, do you think you can marry a guy who is still living with his mother?

What a question.
Different tales fo different folks.
It really depends though.
If marriage is pulling the guy out, it's fine otherwise e no make sense

alwayscool:
I am 32 years old and married and my wife is 27 years old and beautiful..we had been maaried for 5 years from now and have normal sex life..now my father is coming to stay with us for 4-5 months,as my mother has expired 3 years back and my father now stays in village with other family memebers,now he has come to us to stay for 4-5 months...i stay here with my wife,2 yrs old daughter,,my father is 56 years old and heatlier than me,my father is alone now,but in my childhood he has done a lot for me,educated me,made me a succesfful man,now i want to take care of him for next 4-5 months..can it be ok,if i convince my wife to have sex with my father,while i m outside?can it be ethical ?i want my beautiful wife to sex with my father,alhough she talks very normally with my father,how can i convince her for sex ?i know its bad,but i want this to happen just for 4-5 months.please advice me how to convince her..is my wife seductive?pic of my wife attached..

It isn't diffiicullt to convince her. Just tell her u're reasoning very poorly and that u want ur father to ...... with her during his stay.
I wonder y u brought it up here when it as easy to tell her just the way you told us.

horpe25:
Hello nairalanders,
This is a true story i met this amazing lady last month we exchanged numbers and we started talking and later find out she is married but with that we started dating along the line we fix an appointment to yesterday and she agreed to pay for the hotel and it went smooth but what really shock me is that she told me my stuff is too small i still havent overcome the shock i am since yesterday what should i do should i let her be or we should continue

Best advice I can give you is to let her be. And never ply the route of getting in between the laps of a married woman.
It's not only ur stuff that is small but u're consciously playing with ur life and people connected to u.
Many things happen these days such as sudden untimely deaths of young men and I can authoritatively tell you that some of these deaths are a result of what you did.

Leave married women alone as they are time bombs waiting to blow up fools.

A word is enough for the wise.

Iyaebe:
Leave story, my leaving does not have anything to do with all you typed.I don't have access to the email I used so I don't know how else to delete. How do I go about it?The focus now is Maduka Okoye and my new business that my dad set up for me(pharmaceuticals) after telling him I want to start making my own money,so I don't want to fail or be distracted, Shebi you all use to remind me that I should go and make my own money and not wait or depend on a rich man,so I intend to do that.

Good u're going to be busier and will not like to be distracted.
As the case maybe, u don't need to deactivate ur account.
U can drop gems here once in a while so that u can be an inspiration to somebody.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Then that shows you ain't sensible tho..
Grow up married man and stop coming here to show the world how half witted you are..

No vex grownup unmarried woman with plenty sense.
A man cannot be separated from his words.
Ur senseless posts tells me how Immature and senseless u are.

Work on urself to add value and stop trolling people on this forum with ur senseless posts.

And as an advice, don't post on threads that have got to do with real relationship or marriage issues as u are not knowledgeable in these areas.
U will only sound stupid if u do

FERNANDEZISBACK:
And what makes you think you know about my life huh..most of una dey suprise me with your inability to reason..

From concluding in that lady's post to judging my life really show the kinda person you are..

I don't need to know ur about ur life because it will add no value to mine.

Ur words tells me and everyone exactly who u are. Period!

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Does that give you any right to conclude when you literally understand nothing baby boy..?
Married for 10 years but acting like a little boy..

The little boy made a relationship work and making his marriage better.
Which one big girl u don make work?

Iknow very well that all the trash u spill here has not helped u to get a steady relationship.

Work on a relationship, get married then possibly ur sense will make sense but until then keep gallivanting here and talking like a kid that can't reason.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
I don't have no problem with the point you was trying to make in the first place..
Where you spoke wrongly was telling her she ain't sensible at 30 and she is obviously responsible for her sister's marriage failure..
Is that the right thing to say? :-

Someone came here for an advice but you boys will insult and conclude directly..what happened to acting like a man huh?

Let me give u little girl an insight.
The elder sister is separated from a 5yr marriage for two months. The families are trying to reconcile and a 30 old younger sister of is confused about accepting the proposal of her elder sister's husband who has been visiting her.

The proposal came because she led him on . I believe if she was sensible she should have been able to use the elder sister's husband visits to reunite them but reverse is the case as she is confused about accepting his proposal.

Anyway, u are and the op are just girls age is just a number.

Nice meeting you though

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Keep the story to yourself..next time learn to address an issue maturely not spewing nonsense..or did you not read what you said..

Why say she's responsible for her sister's marriage failure?you spoke in a very immature way and you are here talking about me being immature..
Pls she needs mature advice not your kind who are too quick to conclude negatively..

My dear it's depth that I have that u don't have and u have to learn.

If she's not interested in him y is she asking for opinion on accepting his proposal?
This tells me that she had always been interested in the man even b4 the fallout.

I am so sure u can snatch ur sister's husband and tell the world u have a mature mind.

Biko go and sit down somewhere miss mature mind my foot

FERNANDEZISBACK:
If I humiliate your head now you will start crying on the mods..did you not read where she said matured minds..?

Looks like you ain't ok huh? respect yourself and stop concluding in a brainless manner..

U're not ok at all very immaturely brainless.
There are some things that should not be considered at all. His sister got separated from her husband two months ago and she is asking if she can accept his proposal two months after. Is this right?

I notice u just barge in and post in threads that's ok but post or respond when u really have something sensible to say.
I am also very sure u not even close to getting married which makes it so unwise for u to even comment on the thread.

FYI, I am over 10yrs in marriage and I can tell u it is getting better. I don't need to tell you that my mind is very mature.

Try and make a relationship work instead of badging and commenting on threads that have to do with people that want to settle down or in marriage.

Person wey no know anything wey dey do I too know. Rubbish

NovesaTillie:
Please I need only matured minds on this.
It's a serious matter.

My elder sister and her husband were married for 5 years and separated November last year but not divorced yet, though the families have been trying to reconcile them to come back together but my sister's husband has been adamant about it.

I noticed that ever since his separation from my sister he started visiting my place and now it has become frequent. I allowed it because I see him as a brother but now I am starting to really enjoy his company. He has been helping me out with stuffs and still maintains his kindness towards my parents.

He proposed marriage to me yesterday and I have been confused. I will be 30 by February 2nd.
Should I accept his proposal?

U're 30 and surprisingly with lack of sense. Accept his proposal at ur own risk. It's obvious u're the most likely reason y his marriage to ur sister failed.
Better look for ur own husband and leave ur sister's husband alone.

Dumk:
A man and a lady on a motorcycle in Lagos Nigeria (1969)

How Time flies!

See More pictures in the link below
https://www.metaform.com.ng/2022/01/a-man-and-lady-on-motorcycle-in-lagos.html

This picture is beautiful and priceless. It's so good to have it for the records

That bomb scare was a bloody farce.
Pmb was in acting mode then.

Op,
Don't take it as idle talk. Because if u don't take care, she will break ur home.
So brother take care (Spiritually and physically) not to fall for the pit she's digging for u

Congratulations Bro.
Hoping to celebrate more endorsements dis year.

Winters23:
I have seen alot of family drama here on nairaland and i use to think they're all made up until it happened to me yesterday.

It have been my personal tradition to give family & friends cash gift during yuletide depending on what i can afford to give out, this season turns out to be the time i gave out the most because of the successes i recorded in business during 2021 and so i decided to share two million naira each to all immidiate family members.

It was heavy on my pocket as i was sending it out but i believe it will solve one or two problems for them.

But unfortunately one of them sent me a text message shortly after receiving the alert of N2m.

I was enraged and almost lost my cool, but as God will have it i manage to regain my sanity within a few hours.

see attached the thank you message

Cool. Bettet sister.
She wished you well and prayed for you.
I believe you will one day not too long from now gift her #50m + dat Hilux IJN.

Don't take it the other way but let it motivate u that u can do more.

Iamdbull:
No slowing down this year, yesterday being the first business day of the year, had to step in to the studio and work on what I term "the first big hit of 2022"

Like my mentor dey always say "it's too late to fail" no going back, we keep pushing it, thanks for the support guys love you

No one. No dulling at all. Good u have started the year on a bright note.
I am sure this year will end with u hitting the celebrity status.

All the best

Lalami3232:
Make I rephrase the caption so that most people no go dey deceived!!!
The art of attracting overused, wornout, tired, wide, canal, tired but not retired, tokunbo, third/second hand, outstretched, and damaged pussy!!!

U try.
Now face the mirror and re read ur post aloud.

Conrad looks like a prominent character in some James Hardly Chase novels.

I will like to read a detailed book on this guy, how he planned and executed the robbery,spent the loot and how he lived over 5 decades without being caught

Justleaveme:
Please i have a little challenge.

So there is this girl I love, but I know we can't end up together as I have no plans of marrying her.

Somehow we've kissed and saw each other unclothedness twice. And this is what made it worsee

Now My distant cousin wants to marry her,
I really want the best for her, because this girl is the best! A virgin and a lover of God. She just have it all

I really do not know what to do especially now we are aware of each other's private life.

Please help, what do I do? Can we stay forever with the memories especially when she is married?
How will it be talking with my cousin wife and remembering the Hot scenes.

Please helpppp, I really do not know what next? Should I discourage him? Just help

Nb; every contribution means a lot to me

Please grow up.
She's not urs but someone else's.

Forget about her, wish her well in her relationship and move on.

queenjoseph:
Please everyone, I was added to a Telegraph group by a female which I don't know.

It is a Bitcoin crypto currency trade where you pay let's say N20,000 to get N40,000 within an hour.


I beg everyone who knows something about this to say something about this.

From the testimony I saw on the platform, it looks real because people showed alerts of N300,000 for paying N150,000, etc.

I need some advice before I can think of joining the trade.

Modified: I attach the screenshot of one person thanking the woman for crediting his account with N400,000. There are many such testimonies there. So many testimonies similar to this one.

Until u learn how it works, i will advice u leave the group to avoid temptation.

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment he tries as much as possible to pay his bills while i support him too with paying the bills. Since we married anytime i talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days i will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to be have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.
Am so pissed off am 32 now his 35 and he earns 100k while i earn 70k is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him his mind is made up already. The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till his ready. His busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professiknal exam that will last another 2 years. His family cant even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

What can i say? u will need to keep talking to him while u wait for him.
However, kindly reach out to ur pst or imam for proper counselling

Op.
You have not wronged her but only helped her achieve her aim.
This experience was similar to mine in which the lady eventually
married the guy.

Biko move on, there are better ladies out there waiting for u.

yuyaasales:
Hi guys, I want to make a post about an ex who went fetish on me ,and send evidences of all the threats he made,I'm doing this now because I have gotten to the peak of my anger... what do you think?
Should I expose his phone number?

Please expose all we need to know.

Op
I am sorry u have to continue to support and tolerate her until she fully recovers from delivery.
Then u can begin to make her responsible for the proper managing of the home .

Emmynator:
So if the guy disappoints her, her heart will be broken and she will still pay you 1m

Lol! I won't even talk about it or ask her.

Lol! Guys no go dey prophesy again.

@op
I am sure ur relationship with the guy is over 4yrs.
How well do u know his friends and family?
If at dis time u are not close to a member of his family, biko kiss the relationship goodbye.

This relationship is so insecure and i have seen through that the no1 thing besides mouth love
which is security is not really evident in this relationship.

To be frank with u, ur guy has not given u the kind of security a lady requires from her man.

I will advice u prayerfully handle this as the red flags are just too much and the relationship may
be heading for the rocks.

I had a lady friend from Kaduna dating an Ibo guy while they were in school in 2008/2009.
The lady is about 35 yrs still waiting for this guy to have money b4 they marry.

It's well over 11yrs of dating.

I have a bet with her for 1m bucks if the guy eventually marries her.

The dude is in the east at the moment while the lady is at Kaduna growing older and relishing
the day she marries this guy. As far as i am concerned road no dey dere.

Op, please give room for a more serious man if one comes along.

Enjoy and all the best.

Iyaebe:
I wish to go into marriage counseling business, please I need to know how lucrative it is and will also be helping couples to settle their issues without taken the divorce route.It's also my passion as I love listening to marital issues right from childhood. Please I need people in the business to comment and help with some guidelines. Thanks.

I will like to tell you that it is a lucrative business. U can only go as far as u see.
The internet has made it very easy to pass ur message to millions of people at a go.

The easiest way to start and make people get to Know you and the services u are offering is to
1. List out common marriage issues and proffer quick fix solutions to the issues you highlighted.

2.Put the information in an ebook,audio or video depending on the one u comfortable with.

3. At the end of the presentation include a call to action requesting those in need of further counsel to reach you on WhatsApp,call or email. The choice is yours.

4. People will contact you and then you can now offer ur service for a fee.

It's important u have a social media presence so that people can drop testimonies and also follow you.

Since u're already mulling over the idea get started immediately or else someone may just pounce on ur idea.

U can find me helpful if u need my assistance.

All the best

Reminds me of my good Mum. God bless Her.