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@ Elizabeth

Your boyfriend has every reason to feel the way he does but you have to make him see reasons beyond your not being in the mood, sex is supposed to be done on mutual agreement by both party and not a one-sided thing. Of course it takes two to tangle, but you've got tp make him understand that.

Good luck to you.

@ simeony

Its a good thing you specifically said "i" meaning you, but there's a difference in the statement, we are talking about relationship and not friendship, if am mistaking, there's a difference between them except am wrong. Either way, sex shouldn't be a criteria.

Good Luck


@ chinnys

You do not need sex to spice up a relationship, even if there's mutual agreement between the two parties. I am not trying to be a saint here but i think respect for each other should be a priority, know how your partner feels and try to understand him/her.

If the foundation of your relationship are based on the following, these are likely to be the result.

Based on beauty: What happens when it fades ( you do the maths)
Based on Sex: you go definitely will get sick of it at least wit d fact that its with the same person.
Based on Material things: Na for ever, the guy/gurl eye go open one day.

But when you have a relationship that is based on affection, truth, "love"(sincere and not lust), then you begin to have mutual agrrement with each other, thereby getting to learn new things about yourself and have no cause to be bored seeing/meeting each other everytime.

I hope we all get to learn from this thread. big ups to the poster.

Pardon me if am wrong, but isn't kissing supposed to be done by two who are having something intimate, else we all can just walk the whole street kissing whosoever come our way. aint it.

Lets be frank to ourselves, we all know "kissing" another man, while you have one at home is cheating and there's no other word to describe it, be it for whatever reason the kissing was done.

As for me, that statement is not true, love has got nothing to do with sex,

Kimba has said it all. Hope ur thought as cleared.

Gurl, just like manulove has said, and if am mistaking about what love is, then correct me please.

I think all you are crazy about in the other guy is his physical being or something else but not love, you need to look down on yourself and know what you really want i a guy, cos if physicall attraction is what you want, am sorry but you might end up jumping from one man to another and that is not cool for a lady, a guy can do such and get away with it, but not a lady.

Have a re-think on what is occupying your mind, and be careful not to make it obvious to your boyfriend that  you have someone else you "fancy".

Wish u well.

It is okay to share informations that you consider not vital and that you want to learn something about, but not informations about your relationship that are considered private, at least part of the essence of being in a relationship is to learn from each other, if you have wanted to learn from friends why be in a relationship.??

My point is, it is not okay to tell your friends "EVERYTHING" a little would do but not everything.