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This one really got me...lol

Arthurwinner:
Well I'm not that super rich but I'm buoyant enough as God may have it...
To be very precise ....
I started dating this lady not too far from now and it have been moving nicely buh, lately i noticed some change in her attitude since she became very sure that I really love her...

For the past month we discussed about marriage and I told her that I'm going to marry her and truly I want to cos it feels like I CAN'T stay without her.....

But the problem is that since then whenever she's around I don't feel like coming back to my house after work cos all she does is to collect money for this or for that and when I try to tell ha that I don't have she always threatening to break up with me, every time I give her money to buy something that is when everything in the market becomes costly, sometimes I look at her and inmy mind I be lik'e "shey Dis gal no know say I sabi d price of all d things she dy lie abwt''
but I keep cool for the sake of peace...

Abeg can you imagine that a brown powder (Zara) she told she bought for 9k I checked it out and its sold for 3k... since night I haven't talked to her but as usual she's packing her bag now....I know in her mind she's waiting for me to beg her or she leave ......

What do I do FAM .....I truly love her

Do you want such to continue after marriage? I guess you don't that's why you are bringing it up.
Then, sit her down for a heart to heart talk. Tell her how much you love her. Tell her you don't appreciate that she is not totally sincere to you and that you would appreciate more sincerity financially.
Why stress over this issue when there are many other issues involved in a marriage?
Since you can afford it, set out a particular amount you give her monthly and except there's emergency, don't add to it.
If she threatens to leave instead of changing, please let her go. It will be a lot better for you. Love is not blind.

Though the bank should not be blamed, it is pertinent to note according to the story that the bank manager gave the fraudster a heads up when she called the number. She should have collected the number and handed it to their investigation team. It was clear at that point that the money was withdrawn fraudulently. They may have been able to track him before he absconded.

Bravo OP. I'm impressed. You have a lot of support and live in an environment that is not so expensive though. With God on your side, all things will work together for your good. Thumbs up.

I accommodated a fellow student I met not too long before then for a night. The next morning, I noticed she had used my toothbrush. It was wet. I questioned her about it. See her giving me reasons upon reasons why it is not bad to use someone else's toothbrush & how it portrays being family and all what not. I just weak.

None of the above.
Rather, we have a Landlord who collects a ridiculous rent as opposed to what is attainable in the area and will still say thank you when you pay.
A Landlord who makes sure to buy you and family a big loaf of bread whenever he is visiting.
A Landlord who allows you use his property for business and still ask how it is going without collecting anything extra.
A Landlord who apologises for any inconveniences when they have to prepare for a celebration in the compound.
A kind, considerate and caring Landlord and his wife.
May God continue to bless you Daddy E.

hotwax:
My boss is somehow confusing. He is this churchy guy. Always quoting bible verses when talking. He leads prayers in the morning in our department. We even call him pastor.

He is a very nice man. When you have a problem, just approach him, your problem is half solved. He is the perfect boss any employee can dream of.

But the issue is. He always put on ring with illuminati insignia.
There is the shirt he put on most Fridays with the same symbol.
Is he camouflaging? Or Am I suspecting him wrongly

Whatever your suspicions, watch and pray. Do your work diligently but be watchful & prayerful. Take note of trends. It is well with you.

Please pass this information across to your family members and friends: Find below an email and text message a friend just received from some fraudulent Nigerians/kidnappers at about 5am today. They are claiming to be working for N-Power (The Federal Government of Nigeria Youth Empowerment Program): "Congratulations you have been successful in qualifying for the N-power VAIDS program. Candidates are to meet on Tues, 15 August at Conoil Filling Station, beside Gwagalada Park, Area 1, Abuja. Free transport will be made available from here to the venue at 12pm, 12.30 or 1pm. Further details will be sent via email".

Inform your family members and friends to be very careful. N-Power has disassociated itself from the announcement and people/scammers. The email does not originate from N-Power. You can post this alert message on your Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, WhatsApp and (other social media). You can save lives of many Nigerians that will innocently or ignorantly fall into the trap of these evil scammers who may also double as kidnappers.

Posted as received.
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pcguru1:
Well its not anything new if she doesn't want to be with the guy she can leave, ideally for most women you are only as useful as what you provide for them, once they reach that level of self sufficiency, they wake up and realize you are beneath them. I don't believe in karma the universe is indifferent, its possible this woman will live happily ever after, that's just life. So you see its a strange dilemma such man will later resolve never to help any lady not his wife, then the next babe will categorize him as being stingy or a broke-ass. It also happens in the reverse case too, woman helping a man only to be deceived. The solution is when helping don't expect anything from anyone and always have a low opinion of everyone that way if they disappoint you by being honest its a good disappointment if they don't at least its what you expected.

You have a point. The story doesn't seem complete to me. Was the agreement to train her on the ground that she would be his wife? If he proposed after she had become a lawyer then she has to make a choice whether she would like to spend the rest of her life with him. I fault her forming levels though. It is about him not 'levels'. It is clear she only read book but didn't develop in other areas if not she would have better understanding. Anyway, it is better to help without expecting anything from the person helped. God will bless him in His own way whether she marries him or not. In fact, with this her forming levels, he would be better off without her. If not, she will always rub his lower status in his face.

vislabraye:
Is she using an unfortunate experience to make money ?

I guess the book is about how she overcame the depression and all negativity that usually accompanies being a victim of rape hence the title 'Rebirth'. Some people do not know how to and cannot seek for help because of the shame and blame they might get. I believe her book will help those in that category and others who would like to help rape victims. So to answer your question, the money will come from bringing solutions not from just sharing the unfortunate experience. #Myopinion

Ishilove:
This has been trending online. https://www.nairaland.com/3915145/brisket-bone-not-biscuit-bone

In the age of the internet, it seems many humans have intellectually regressed instead of the other way around. Someone who knows the value of the internet used it properly and corrected the recent falsehood.

There is actually something like brisket bone which is not really a bone but cartilage that connects the two sides of the chest of an animal. Is that soft white cartilage not what we call 'biscuit bone'? Brisket is the beef gotten from this part of the animal. Pls, when doing a research especially to 'correct' a trending 'error', check multiple sources not just Wikipedia.

Pls I need information. What kind of phone app can I use to create info graphics?

I got this information on my Whatsapp and thought to share for the benefit of those who may need it at any point in time.

Confirmed Autopsy.
Stephen Keshi died of cardiac arrest. Please read this tips from a Cardiologist. It takes you just 2mins.

1. Let’s say it’s 7.25pm and you’re going home (alone of course) after an unusually hard day on the job.

2. You’re really tired, upset and frustrated.

3. Suddenly you start experiencing SEVERE PAIN IN YOUR CHEST that starts to drag out into your arm and up in to your jaw. Yet you are about 3 km from the hospital nearest to your location.

4. Unfortunately you don’t know if you’ll be able to make it that far.

5. You have been trained in CPR, but the guy who taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself.

6 HOW TO SURVIVE A HEART ATTACK WHEN ALONE?
Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only
about 10 seconds left before losing consciousness.

7. However, these victims can help themselves by:
i. coughing repeatedly and very vigorously.
ii. a deep breath should be taken before each cough
iii. the cough must be deep and prolonged (as in when trying to produce sputum from deep inside the chest).
iv. Continue the breathe deep and hard cough repeatedly about every two seconds without letting-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.

POINTS TO NOTE:
Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs, while coughing
movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating.
The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital.

Tell as many other people as possible about this. It could save their lives!! May be a life of a beloved.

The cardiologist says If everyone who gets this mail can kindly sends it to 10 people, or/and circulate it on your social media profiles, you can bet that many lives of our beloved would be saved.

Your wellness increases my happines.

Pls share

It is very important to know the kind of business a guy is involved in before accepting to date him. When on the friendship level, find out as much as you can about him.
It is equally important to know and understand that 'opening your legs' for a guy you are dating or even courting does not guarantee a good relationship. Rather, it diverts the attention of the parties involved from more important discussions & future plans to temporary pleasures. At the long run, females bear more of the brunt. This should be done in marriage.

olasmith10:
Good morning, can someone please give me information abt how I can get the Morning water at TB Joshua's church

Get the living water. Jesus is the living water and you wouldn't have to pay anything. In your room, talk to him. Ask Him to dwell in you and be your Lord and Saviour. He has come to give you life in abundance. Only believe in Him. The living water is available always. It is well with you.

ennyhola:
Awaiting the result since over 5years now....

The case probably been forgotten sef

Hmmm. Your Dad's lawyer should be held accountable for not pursuing the case to a logical conclusion. You could use the power of social media, get in touch with popular blogs or journalists like Sahara Reporters. The more its out there, the quicker the attention of the authorities will be drawn to the issue. I don't think you should let it slide.

Passy089:
Advice a friend


A married friend who got married 4 years ago but his wife who is yet to conceive suddenly brought up this strange idea of committing the act into the hands of God before having sex....
she will ask God to direct them and reveal to them divine methods that will work and also cover the sperms with his blood and direct them safety into her etc.
he usually loses interest at the end of her long and tiresome prayers,he has complained to her but she wouldn't bulge because its her pastors instruction.

Is This normal? and how can he endure this and enjoy sex with his wife once again.

The husband is the head of his family and not the pastor. He has a higher authority than the pastor as it concerns his home. If he is not in agreement with her, she should stop because it will be a wasted effort. They could pray any other time not necessarily before sex. This lack of agreement could put a clog in her wheel of conception. If the pastor gives a suggestion, they should both agree. The wife should give her husband his due respect and only yield to the pastor's suggestion if her husband agrees. This is biblical order.

ennyhola:
They are still awaiting the panel.result since!!!


I'm just fed up...but we're now used to it.. everybody naturally a hustler

Since the matter is still in court though delayed, anything done outside the court will be termed subjudice I.e preempting the judgement of the court. However, what your lawyer doing about it.

Smellyfingers:
I've a close female friend, we're very close that I know almost everything about her relationship.

There's this guy she is dating in Ibadan before she moved down to IIorin here. This guy do call her and he his trying immensely in this girl's life. He paid half of her School fees, buys her foodstuffs and so much more.

Fastforward, this same gal accepted the proposal of a yahoo guy (this same guy is my friend too), but we aint that close.. Whenever the other dude sent this girls money, she gives it to the other guy (yahoo guy). Though i don't know much about the other guy she's dating at Ib, but i do pity the guy because I feel he's being cheated on badly. The guy calls every secs, sent the girl his 'own' phone because he feels he's not getting in touch with her so much. The most annoying thing is that the guy is a barber that earns little. This same gal told me she has Never given this guy sex before but gives it to the other dude 'daily'. I couldn't take it.

So, Nairalanders. Should i call this guy at Ibadan and explain everything in details to him, or i should let it slide?

I think you should concentrate your effort on talking sense into your female. Advice her on the effect her actions will bring to her. Tell her to choose one of them rather than double date.
Do not be the one to tell the IB guy since you don't know him. Pls be careful around the girl. You shouldn't continue in friendship with such a person. Gradually disengage. If you are a guy, you are not safe around her with the yahoo guy. You may be seen as a rival and that will spell danger for you.

I have liked and shared this post but still looking for what to do because it is so true. OP, it is clear you thought deeply about this. Thumbs up.
Pls, let's get this clear, it is imperative that you forgive for your own good. Holding unto a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the one you hold a grudge against to die. However, you should think carefully whether or not to continue in that relationship.
In marriage, it is more difficult to move on but it would really depend on whether the cheating partner is sincere about desisting from such actions thereafter. The couple should speak to an elderly couple who they respect or counsellors so that the cheating partner would have someone else he/she is accountable to and also help him/her to be content with their spouse.
Cheating is a thing of the mind. The mind needs to be renewed often so it doesn't derail.
@importexport, well done.

uboma:
Unfortunately this is the way some men view women.
Too bad.....

Indeed. I applaud your honourable view of women. Thumbs up.

uboma:
So the reason he needs a woman is to have someone cook for him....

You can imagine? If at all he needs a cook which could be either male or female. As it is now, he is doesn't seem to know the relevance of a woman other than cooking for him. It's a pity.

ennyhola:
Court case...with the GOVERNMENT and all that...I was kinda young then"jss2"

Was judgement given? Or it still in court?

bottlewater1:
i no c d pix na

I'm sorry. It's up now.

I really wonder what the A/C is cooling here o. It must be very valuable. Whistleblowers, over to you.

ennyhola:
He spent almost everything chasing the case for 4years

Hmm. I can imagine how sad this situation makes you but pls be strong and encourage your parents by being the best you can be. What exactly was done within those four years?

ennyhola:
I hope Ogun state water corporation will recall my Daddy...it's been 10years since dad was wrongfully dismissed from Work with 20others...
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I was affected so much...and I hated the government so much
And the GM then so much...Mrs Olaide of water corporation.
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My Daddy was dismissed harshly..
Unexpectedly... without warning
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Strange to us when we met the hardworking man home when we got back from school ten years
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So hardworking
Worked tirelessly for the government from 7-6pm (go for supervision again)
Transfered from one LG to another almost yearly and he will go diligently just from the government


But the maN GOT TO THE OFFICE one Morning AND MET A WHITE ENVELOPE! (that was the End)
Senior technical Officer OGSW

he was dismissed at a moment' he couldn't be looking for job again
He was dismissed at the very top with little entitlement and little savings (Family man & Relative man)





It's been God and my Mum
But till now DAD still interprets any little mistake my mum do as an act of her disrespecting him because he is jobless!

I'm always pained
And I hated GBENGA DANIEL the then GOVERNOR and MRS OLAJIDE the then GM for repaying my Father diligence with Dismissal


(first time of Sharing this to the world ... because I look perfect..but NAY ...thanks Nairaland..we all can share what we're facing without anybody looking down on us)

I think he should table the matter through your constituency rep in the House of Reps of Ogun State. It is well.