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what a rubbish post

Op,from your write up I can deduce that you never liked her as a person. have you ever caught her in bed with another man? I'm sorry to be blunt or sound rude, but I think you are the problem that exist in their marriage.

EfemenaXY:
@op you sound like a confused trouble maker from an interfering family.

What do you mean by ...an argument ensued between me, my elder brother, and our first son’s wife?

You must be an elderly person then with no self respect descending to argue with your daughter-in-law.

You also mention that she has concubines. What does that even mean? Or her hairdressing customers are her concubines?

A lady hustling to keep her family afloat and all you can is sow seeds of discord in the union which incidentally is non of your business. Do you even have a job of your own?

You deserved that slap. And more.

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STOP EDITING YOUR STORY!!!

exactly my thoughts, I just pity the woman. they will expect her to tell them even when she visits the toilet, and what type of husband admonishes his wife in front of his extended family.

yuck!! so unhealthy, to think that it will be used in an open part of the body.

Blonchilli:
ireneblush they want you to go baby sit for the man that nearly raped you? are they offering you to him like burnt offering?

hahaha lol.the one you are talking of isn't due yet.

thanks to you all that took out time to advice Me. I don't know why my sister couldn't call herself, but she's not in support of my mom. she didn't even want to call me as there was no emergency. she also couldn't speak to my mom because she's avoiding her trouble. I can't change my SIM because of the nature of my job. Relocating is not easy and totally not possible for me until at least after two years. And for those advising me to talk to my mom, you can't even have a normal conversation with her without problems arising. I don't even intend to call them anytime soon,because I'm enjoying some sort of peace these past days. Thanks buddies, much love.

Gluhbirne:
For the sake of your health, which they don't seem to care about, desist from picking their calls since they're always stressing you out. Take care of you.

thanks

Pearl05:
Hold on a sec


Is time you need to rebel a little. Change your sim card so they won't call you.

i can't do that because of my job

Nice evening to you all.. ever since my childhood, my parents have been insensitive of one's feelings especially mine. I'm a 25 years old lady with a nice paying job. I recently moved out of my parents house because of the stress and how insensitive they are to me. This is not a normal parents and child fallout, I have had to deal with a lot as child of theirs, they emotionally blackmail me and act like nothing is wrong, especially my mom. The recent incident that happened after I moved out was my mom calling to tell me to go and babysit my elder sister's child on a Monday morning when I'm supposed to be at work ,I knew she wanted to provoke me, so I kept my cool but her insults got my blood pressure high so I cut the call, she called back and I didn't pick, my father had to call back and accused me of all sorts of things my mom said about me. I haven't spoken to them since Monday, and they heard that I am on admission in a hospital close to them, yet no words from them,i had an attack following their provocations,and this is not the first time. if not my resemblance to them, I would have sworn being adopted.they constantly abuse me emotionally.. what can I do or what should I do to be stronger. Sad as it is, since I have not spoken to them, I feel light and at peace. Their attitude is not exclusively done to me alone but also my siblings, but mine is worst because I do everything they say. what should I do?

rumpled gown.

VargasVee:
Is that what you should be asking? She has no right whatsoever to melt out that kind of beating to someone old enough to be her mom. For the fact she didn't even consider her husband before doing such shows the kind of woman she is, how some women trap their husbands to zones. Daughters of Eve everywhere.


Iswear if anyone tries that shiit with me mom. I'd be mad.

but what if her own life was in danger. what if it was self defense?. I can't vouch for no one on earth, not even mom.

na him she snap am. pheew

HomesOfLife:
The last pic tho.. What's the need of an extra denim jacket again??

cold de catch am.

DanXplore:
wow. Going to a therapist was a great step. On the issue of being self concious, i personally have vowed not to live according to people's expectation about me. It has helped me alot. I be my self and do the things that makes me happy. During my late teens, i occassionally forced myself into doing things i dreaded...e.g standing up for my right and public speaking. Thank God i did all those else i dont know how i'd have survived my present job. Parents should know that while it is good for kids to respect their elders, the level of respect should not slip into fear for elders such that they arent able to stand up for themselves when bullied by the so called elders/seniors

thats it, during the first year of my job which involves speaking in public, I was affected so much. I really still fear them not respect and that's bad. All I do now is love me a great deal. I recently moved out and they started their emotional blackmail. I still love them so much, but my serenity matters alot too.

I was and I'm still a victim. I was thought or rather forced not to associate with people, I grew up emotionally wrecked, even when I got to the higher institution as good looking as I was I never had confidence in myself, each time I remember deadly harsh words said to me I feel less of a human.At sixteen I almost took my life, over the years I have being really dealing with depression which led me to take certain drugs to boost my confidence. I Recently saw a therapist, and am coping fine. but even at all I went through and at 25 years of my life and a professional my folks still emotionally abuse me. I can't even keep a relationship because am always conscious of my self and I have had to prove my self since I was a toddler. They wrecked me but I still love them.

wow, a 19 year old live in maid? that's too risky for you and your family right now, considering the fact that the society is risky it self, at 19, she very well knows somethings more than you. Even if you set house rules for her she will still do that which pleases her. To avoid future regret and endangering of your household, I advise you get a Nanny that comes and goes. your toddlers should be in school, or if they are not put them in creche it will help you and help them too.

dingbang:
irene leave me alone...

Ik am not holding you o,

dingbang:
Someone who doesn't like stress, can she make a good wife?

this small boy with plenty account, what are you talking about, ain't you also cutehector? and should I begin to mention?

see meat

blackie01:
Dear Diary, a lot has been on my mind lately . Too many things to talk about. I should discuss with my wife you advice. But she can't handle the truth.
So I can't tell here my fears and worries . She is got hers too. Lemme not border her.

Yesterday, after I had gone to smoke my usual herbs, we had a chat. It kinda occurred to me that we ain't happy like we use to do. I am worried cos I think it's because I no longer bring in more money like i use to.

My mother has been on her case lately. She believes she is the reason there is this distance between us and I nor longer spoil her with gifts like i use to. She allowed the devil use her during my wedding. I took it personal with her, after a while I realised it ain't worth it and just decided to let it slide.

She does not even border to ask how I am getting acquinted with marriage life, provide and take care of my family. We don't feed her news on what's been happening since we got married. What happens between us stays with us. Strictly a no 3rd party affair. That's one of the reasons I am here. To learn , if I am making mistakes , from the experience of others.


She feels we have it all and my wife has blindfolded me from taking care of her. I was so mad when I heard she was going about telling who cared to listen that my wife has turned her son against her. I am not calling her to discuss any thing with her. Neither will I take her calls. As far as I am concerned , the mother son relationship closeness is gone. I am not her husband , she has a husband . I 've got a wife now and my family comes first. Will I bamboozle her with gifts?.yes I intend to. Just she will get everything through my wife and equally use that very mouth she used to spoil her to those who cared to listen , to also sing her praises.

She is always in my heart cos I love her like mad. I wear her like a sleeve . But I also treat her Bleep up too. I come hard on her with my favourite suspension whenver she offends me. She won't be able to reach me. We might not communicate and or chat in a year . If she has a message and it's important, she should drop a message and I will get it.

I have always been a listening ear but I can't be her husband . She should go make peace with her husband and reunite us into one happy family rather than trying to play the victim and making us believe our father is the devil.

I have had enough of it. Put your family together or let him marry another wife and leave his life. She should also understand that I am trying to live right. I got responsibilities now. I nor longer earn street cash. I now try my best to earn legit cash.I was actually good at helping people clean their dirty cash and invest same. Close ally of Tony Montana. A devils advocate. I still wonder why my head is always filled with a million ways to commit crime and get away free as long as it does not involve taking a life.

I have learnt this in life, rather than always complain, show love, get to know what's happening in other people's live. Don't set a precedent of always calling to make demands. They will soon get to know your antics and stop taking you serious.

Tomorrow is my birthday, May day. . I have never celebrated a birthday at least not any that I can remember. It will be nice to take my wife out and have some nice meal and enjoy the moment later today.

But I am still thinking of how to carve a budget for it. Again , a part of my wanna stick to my original plan of smoking my brain out and having devil on ice. ( raw vodka soaked with sk on ice till I pass out).

I have never really liked birthdays, too many stupid memories I wanna forget , plus it reminds me of what I am yet to achieve in life.

The last 365 days of my life has been a miracle. Too many blessings ( blessings too numerous to mention) , stupid decisions, uncalculated risk,etc. I came close to death on few occasions. But here I am , still breathing.

Kinda reminds me of a line from tupac's hell razor, " ...I got shut five times but I am still breathing , that is to show there is a God , if you need a reason".

Till my last birthday,I have always been unhappy on important days i should be celebrating. Too many sad memories at Xmas, Easter, birthdays and even on my marriage day.

Why is my case always different. My parents didn't give us gift during our wedding , not even prayers as parents jointly on that day. Who does that? That's my life I didn't create my self, my Creator knows why. I just scared if I fall back to my past life, I will go to the extreme, that I might not get a second chance at making peace with God.

I have never had a birthday gift . And I believe the two most important dates in a man's life should be his birthday and his wedding day.

Well, I wear it as a sleeve. I have never been loved and that won't start now.

Well it's another day to smile and make whoopie. ( at least fake it) Well, we all have certain areas of our life we cry about just that we don t cry in public.
If I can't celebrate my birthday like others, I should at least be reminded once more that I am a year closer to my grave.

Nice dairy. happy birthday.

ikechemez:
I have 3million naira to trade with.

Any good business idea. Or any company that needs a distributor in the east should contact me Please

You could have just opened your own thread.

Recently my love for the 100 naira gala is too much, I can eat 6 in a day and still crave more. Am currently not pregnant neither am I ovulating. how can I stop this craving as it makes my daily calorie intake to be on the high side. This has been going on for 2weeks now.

which kind news be this? because nail chok person? me sef yesterday when I was cutting onions for Sunday stew, I cut my self.

hahaha @tramadol

omonighoblessing:
with delight my dear. ....Am glad to tell you it has just been confirmed. .....thanks for the prayer dear

awww.so very sweet. congratulations darling. May joy never depart from your home, I wish you safe delivery, mother and child strong and healthy,daddy smiling in joy.

God please may we never be victims to bad omen. And may the roads never see our blood. when the time comes for us to transit to the other side,may it be as peaceful as possible. rip to the dead. so sad.

Her A** be popping so good. she is beautiful.

vicardino:
MsNas
Ireneblush
Happy Easter

Happy Easter to you too dear.

Kobicove:
Enjoy your 15 minutes of fame while it lasts...

The only ones who will ride this thing out and eventually become celebrities are Tokunboh and Bisola!

Efe just doesn't cut it cos he lacks the finesse and poise required

how do you know? are you God?

Marvis is a beautiful girl.

Katier00:
will ke? you are funny.

am dying here