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appsdope:
OP coming to nairaland was a bad decision. You've simply shown us that you can't put your home in order. Most people here are between 18-24 so what kind of advice do you expect to get here. What you should've done is talk to her after you've seen her post. Every lady wants to get married that's why she is that way. It's the pressure to get married and if you're not ready you move on. If she's domineering you cut her wings. When you both get married and money for soup no dey unable go carry am come nairaland. Nonsense.

Are you 24? the way u ppl talk on this NL, it's as though most of u don't have human sympathy, let me tell you something, there are so many matured people here so pls don't generalize and who are we to judge the lady or the man? Have u never been desperate in your life before? I don't mean relationship, maybe in other facets of life, how did humanity become so cold? The Man is not perfect and the lady isn't either and it's Okay because they are humans. Cut her wings Really? Oga Love is never dominating, so maybe u need to renew your mind about LOVE. Supposing Jesus cut your wings when you sin, I don't think you or I will be here, that's love. Not all this carnal love u ppl exhibit here and there, have a nice day!

Lalas247:
Because if you r getting advice from Random strangers a matter between you and a potential wife .. then you should get your head cheacked and examined .... the people he is asking do not know them on a personal level , actually don’t know what really happened just whatever bs both of them type is what we go by ...


So when ur parents argue or have a disagreement they go on Twitter and disgrace each other
We wonder why relationships don’t last long ........

They are not embarrassing each other and we don't have to do relationship the way our forefathers did them, u didn't hear of such Cs they probably had no social media then to communicate with if not they wld have done worse. I suppose u have never been in love before, because if you have , you'd know that what these two are doing here is normal, haven't u seen people telling their relationship issues to total strangers because they are confused and they need help? If you have not been der, some have and trust me, it never made the relationship worse but stronger. I bet you that after all this drama, this two lovebirds will get to understand themselves better.

goldcrossxx:
Greetings All,

To all that followed and commented on the thread created by “amaraokafor”, i decided to create a new thread for this as per the advice of a Nairalander. The below is the thread link and also my response.

https://www.nairaland.com/4484675/should-continue-wait-date-another#67236204

I have been following this thread on proxy and never wanted to comment because, i don’t believe in seeking emotional advise from a Public forum due to the fact that many advisers may be underage, inexperienced and would advise you based on what they have read from one party.

The young lady in question comes from a family of 2 girls and 4 boys of which she’s the 1st daughter and the 2nd is as well single. The relationship is also not 3 yrs as she indicated but was suppose to be exactly 2 yrs on the 1st of May.

A new relationship is always very sweet but the challenges that will follow is what matters most because relationship itself is filled with uncertainties just the same way as life. The way a relationship is handled is what justifies what the outcome would be.

The lady in question is nice and as humans, we all have our flaws. Yes, i am a very quiet and reserved person that hardly go out so it’s safe to say that i am an introvert while she’s not that type. I won’t completely analyze everything and what caused it but i will try within my capacity to disclose some so that those that gave their one sided advise can rethink again.

I am not a married man, as a matter of principle and respect to whoever i am involved with, i don’t double date. My problem with the lady in question was bourne out of the fact that she was disrespectful to me several times, domineering, unstable in the relationship and sometimes blackmail me to achieve her desires and a lot more. Those were what caused our problems from the first few months of my involvement with her. Several reasons may have prompted her actions but i don’t see it as being enough for someone you genuinely love.

I told her from the 1st 3 months of knowing her that marriage is what i want and she agreed accordingly. She met with my family, i met with the parents and made my intentions known to them in less than a year of relationship commencement. In fact if not for the financial challenge due to wrong projection of business dealings, marriage would have happened 2 or 3 months after.

Before i met with her family, she ended the relationship twice and threatened that she will proceed with the next man available that love is not a criteria for her in marriage. After i met with her parents, she did same to the extent of giving me a deadline that if i don’t fulfill her rites, i should go my way which she executed her threats. I will be begging for her not to leave, the mother will beg, the father will also talk to calm her down, people from my side sef the same thing. I HAVE NEVER ENDED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HER even when i had reasons to have done so but she has done so numerous times.

I later spoke with the Dad and told him that immediately finances arrive, i will come in to do the needful. The man told me no problem that he understands the economic situation and once i am ready, i should come in. But my woman was still not stable as it was one issue after another. The same woman that told me when love they sweet that, she would stand by me through thick and thin but when water pass garri, she said NO that it’s only in marriage.

Already people close to me that knew me and her already were concerned about her actions, the way she talks to me, etc and majority told me outrightly to withdraw. I never did but believed she was going to change. As a concerned man, i do sometimes meditate because no responsible man wants to end up with a woman that doesn’t respect her man and can easily be unpredictable in her actions.

I commend her though for her sacrifices. She rejected a guy that had cash, built house and was relatively very comfortable because i knew him. In fact, at a point it was like a competition and my blood pressure was affected when the guy was policing her bumper to bumper since they lived in the same state.

To cut the story short, after several happenings resulting to series of emotional injury, she apologized that she won’t disrespect me again and even knelt down when we finally met to beg and i accepted. Weeks later, she wanted us to meet but i wasn’t chanced to see her and told her i will let her know when i am free. During this time, i was observing her actions but she got upset and told me she doesn’t want the relationship.

I called to resolve the issue but she wasn’t forth coming. Relationship or marriage ooo she said she’s not doing again. I informed the parents and they said it’s not the first time that i should remain calm. I kept calling for resolution in the month of November, December(she only agreed to see me once and her actions weren’t the lady i used to know), January and February but still no show.

Note: Her words to me when she responded was that she can ONLY be my friend that if i don’t want friendship, i should go my way and if i continue to disturb, she will block me. Also note that my finances started picking up late last year and improved early this year to the glory of God.

I continued to beg through the mum till i stopped after realizing that it was stupid of me to have done so. Reason being that i won’t marry the mother and she as a matured lady has the final say to this. I am a principled man and she knows this because Rome wasn’t built in a day. But as a man, i cannot subject myself to all those shenanigans which has always being the problem from the onset. What you beg to enter, you beg to sustain.

So the relationship officially was 1 year and 6 months when she ended it. It was the aspect of reconciliation that kicked off just last month. So my people, even though me i dey sometimes hide inside my shell, i hardly go out at night and i also admit that i can stay for a while without seeing her, but the 4 months is not justified here. Is it not one that you have a relationship with that you can see?

My write up isn’t to castigate her person and it’s also never to praise myself. Seeking emotional advise on Nairaland isn’t my thing but i felt i should throw some light as this will also aid others that wishes to give advise before doing so.

Remain blessed all and excuse my typos.

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Awww... blowing kisses, he quoted me. You sound just like My Man ( I mean u talk like him) but amaraokafor u nor tell us all this part oo, u were acting as if the guy no send u at all but well, I understand that we as ladies sometimes need assurance from our spouse so please don't take it personal, I think u people should spend time to communicate and express your feelings to each other. Let go of the past and start afresh, u guys are meant for each other... aww, love is sweet oo

ritzycul:
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Please Sir is this position still available? I don't mind I'm interested for the experience

Not because I want to form good girl or wife material but if I see dishes like that I'd def wash it except I didn't go to his kitchen, but if I did and then saw it , I won't ignore, I'd just wash it, wats der? Ehen if he wants to gaan marry another girl that will not do the dishes for him tomorrow, who's the joke on? Me? No it's him Cs I played my part and if the nigga doesn't find me worthy enough to be his wife, then someone else will

Talk to him about it peacefully just like the way u explained it here, he is your Man not your enemy, try to do something that will make him happy, then chip it in. That is, don't start the convo like u want to start fighting, be lively and stuff, laugh then after u notice u have gotten his attention, chip it in and discuss extensively about it. If his words doesn't give u assurance break up with him.

Secondly, my dear, don't be scared to let a man go Cs if he truly loves you, he ain't going nowhere so put him under hot seat small, that's if plan A does not work out, go out on dates, be happy and watch him come back. If he doesn't, then he wasn't for you in the first place. 3 years is no joke, u ought to know him better than anyone here by now.

CAPTIVATOR:
I commend the few ladies like you that decide to follow God's way, Don't mind that Theupsetgirl1 saying no man will marry a decent girl like you, She roll with men whose desire is lust makes her said so . Am one of those men who believes Gods way is the best . By his Mercy, Am safe!


Once again, Keep it up

Thank you!

MiddleDimension:
you mean Oyakhilome is a pretender? he said he is a man of god, and he goes in the way he is asked to go therefore god told him to marry his wife and today, they are divorced

Only God can judge wat happened btw them... do u also kno dat Benny hin also got divorced at some point? But later he reconciled with his wife. To tell u that the devil is not only after u and I but also after Great Men OF God!

garryi:
It is working for me and i believe it can work for any other person.

This is Nice! Thank u garryi

garryi:
Yes its definitely worth the wait. I believe so many destinies have been slaughtered on the altar of premarital sex. Some have sold their birthright for a 3 minute sexual encounter. One of the ways to escape the trap of premarital sex is to be preoccupied with positive stuffs like hanging out with people of same mind cos iron sharpens iron. Another thing is to get busy. Again one should be careful with the kind of stuff we take in. The 2 most important gates to our mind are the eyes and ears. What we see and hear should be duly scrutinised. Therefore we must be careful with the kind of books we read, the movies we watch etc.

Thank You but I think we need a lot of role models who has stuck to this routine and it worked for them, to come out and testify because I strongly believe why most people run away from it is because of Fear! If I do this, the guy might leave me and i won't see anyone else but little did they know that a man that says he loves you will never leave you even when you tell him to, you will still see him running bak to you! Same case for the Males too with a female partner

TheUpsetGirl1:
lmao..... what's my moniker got to do with me


pray for a man who share those ideas though..

It's just like asking what your name has got to do with you, your name tells a lot about your kind of person wether directly or indirectly. U might have used it for fun but it's not fun, when the first thing people get to see before they see the real you is Negative. It's just like bearing a profile name "Sadist" or "Prostitute" and sayin what has it got to do with you. Anywayz, your choice

Yes I'm praying for him already, if he doesn't then he is not the one, God never Fails! You can never Wait on God and then he will disappoint, it has never been recorded, So I'd rather be on the winning Side!

TheUpsetGirl1:
Sex after marriage doesn't mean the marriage is gonna last..

Freedom of speech doesn't mean you should influence your opinions on others.

Lol... when I saw your name, I cldnt help but not be surprised by the response I got. if social media can influence people negatively through unnecessary post that hits front page up and down, why Am i not allowed to also use the same social media to influence people's lives positively? But well, I don't expect you to relate since u are always upset kudos all the same, Thanks for stopping by!

roarik:
bitter truth.

Thanks dear, u can also feel free to share anything that will be of help to people reading this. Who knows? Your Post Might save someone from a toxic relationship or better still inspire someone as well

babz007:
i am tired of waiting, i am just lost

My dear, don't be tired of waiting.... one of the reasons why u cld be tired is that u are not letting God help you, have faith in God that the right person is just by the corner. I understand it's quite difficult but it is the best. Meanwhile, while u are waiting, don't forget to look for a job, that is if u are done with school, if u have a job already, look for raises or switch to better job opportunities, dress up nicely and take yourself out, hang out with healthy friends who are also practicing waiting, I have a girl friend and we are both practicing the wait, we can create a Watsapp group and give u tips on how to feel good about yourself while waiting. Don't give up, this is the time to discover your self so that when the Lady comes, she will be swept off her feet by the outstanding Man u have become.

I created a thread for this today, if only we knew the dangers of premarital sex, it causes so much harm than good and dats the reason y d divorce rate is high and then most married couples are not happy in their homes simply because they pursued sex first before marriage... in The OP's case, u sed it yourself, u didn't ask for God's guidance, u were led by your fleshly desires that's y u got the result u got. You don't rush into marriage, u take time to know your partner and ask yourself if this is what God wants for you, not many people practice this and dats why we get heartbreaking results... Show me a man that Genuinely waited on God for his partner and crashed and I will show u a liar and a pretender!

I have been through some toxic relationships and it has been terrible I'd say, I can't even start to tell it all here, but it got too tiring that I decided to let Jesus Take the Wheel, I am tired of Trying to work it out by Myself so I decided to do it God's Way this time.

For the Meantime, I'm working on myself while waiting for HIM... Focusing on My career, Spiritual life and Physical life for the main time and it has been nothing but Joy! Being A Good Person is not enough, sometimes we wish for that Godfearing person when we ourselves have not been Godfearing with our decisions. No Godfearing Person will ask for Sex before Marriage except her/his faith is shaking and dats not the person God wants to link us with.

God won't leave you guessing. He will send you signs that it's time to slow down, quiet your mind, and work on yourself while he labors on your behalf but the choice is up to you.

Below are some of the Signs God wants You to WAIT!
1) A breakup
2) Physical or mental or emotional exhaustion
3) Negative or hurtful people leaving your life
4) The feeling of being lost or purposeless
5) An opportunity to go on a long trip or retreat
6) The awareness that you have been repeating the same relationship mistakes for years
7) Persistent frustration and lack of peace

Not All God Signs are enjoyable,some of them are unpleasant and painful but it's definitely worth it.

This was created for people who have decided to take the bold step in life to be celibate and decide to wait for their God-ordained Partner. This is simply to encourage ourselves and discuss challenges if possible, who knows you can meet your Prince Charming here who is also waiting BUT first, let us have a heart-to-heart talk about your waiting experience... Married People who waited, you are also free to advise us as well, and how "waiting" has helped you and is still helping you in your marriage life.

This is for single People that have Decided to WAIT, to be CELIBATE, To delay Sex till after Marriage. It is Not Easy but it's definitely worth it, Happy Workers Day!

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codemaniacs:
stop saying rubbish, they see Africans as poor because that's the image of Africans their media shows them...

so no matter how "developed" Africa bcoms, as long as their media keeps showing them images of "poor" Africans that's what they'll believe....

people like you don't believe there's poverty in the U.S

Stop supporting rubbish.... u are the one with backward mentality, y are u thinking low of yourself, only some1 with complex issues will think d way u are thinking now. There's poverty everywhere and don't quote me with ur lame assumptions... y don't u let Nigeria be developed first before drawing conclusions, Accept it, Nigeria is bleeped, Stop bringing Africa into it!

U see our problem, instead of us to focus on the message we are focusing on the messenger... Nigerians are very hypocritical honestly, from the way it is outside, to them we are suffering Cs we get to say there is no money, no money but we dey host shows that will not benefit us, no money but we dey drive expensive cars instead of us to collectively think of how to develop our nation, we think of selfish gains and temporary pleasures, and u expect them to award us? You have to think twice, Nigeria is so messed up that we don't even know who our next president is, Nigeria is messed up! They lend to Nigeria, so y won't they see us as poor!

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Hello NLanders, please I'm in search of a shared apartment in lekki and its environs, I work on the island as well and I'd love to save my self the stress of having to go through Ajah traffic Daily, I can't comman kill myself and be waking up 4pm daily, I have paid my doos (dues ) so I don't need that stress in life. I need a place with Good Water, light and Security please. A serene environment! Before I forget, I'm a female searching for female flat mates as well, hardworking neat and understanding flat mates, please I don't need any "karashika" to pair with

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Cjrane2:
10 reasons why Buhari will lose 2019 elections


I will take time to write brief summaries on these issues which will weigh heavily on the chances of Buhari continuing as Nigeria's President after May 2019. For a variety of Nigerians, the decision to vote for Buhari can be summarized into one of the bullet point below. The question is whether our hopes in Buhari has been met or dashed. Do we feel fulfilled or disappointed with the President's activities and methods?


1. The Jonathan mismanagement that contributed to 2015 victory
Under President Goodluck Jonathan, cabinet Ministers went wild with looting of government resources. The frustration was largely the seeming inability of GEJ to remove or punish the erring Ministers. The Petroleum Minister, Diezani Madueke easily comes to mind. A lot of sordid acts happened in NNPC that the former CBN Governor, HRH Emir of Kano Alhaji Sanusi Lamido Sanusi had publicly announced that about $20 billion dollars were unaccounted for at the NNPC. The regime of Jonathan practically swept the issue under the carpet and inadvertently allowed such percieved corruption to go unpunished. This weighed much in the determination of some Nigerians to show Jonathan the "red card" at the pools

2. The broken promise by Buhari to belong to all
One of the most laudable things President Buhari did during his inauguration was to declare that he belong to all Nigerians. This statement rekindled some hope of national unity after the bitter but peaceful change of power from a Niger Deltan to a far northerner. Buhari's proclamation as many others he did turned out to be mere empty words of propaganda. From his appointment of cabinet Ministers, Service Chief and finally his speech at the United States Institute for Peace in July 2015 where he revealed his deep grudges against Nigerians he described as 5% who did not vote for him. Therefore, should not expect much from his regime. This statement drew a lot of reaction from the regions he made reference to as the 5% (Southeast and Southsouth). The low tempo agitation for independence of Biafra took off and gained mainstream relevance led by charismatic Nnamdi Kanu and the there was an explosion of sabotage activities in the Niger Delta by the Avengers. All of these actions impacted negatively on the economy and helped tilt the balance into an economic recession for the country. Things could have got worse and escalated, but it appeared seasoned former Heads of State had advised Buhari on the futility and risk of all out military action and the need to use the civil society in the regions to douse tensions. This was also tempered by the behind the scenes work of notable Nigerians to reverse the "Quit Notice" on the Igbos and we dodged the bullet as a country. Again, the immaturity of Buhari as a leader had pulled us into a recession and almost into a civil war in a short span of 2 years.

3. The mismanagement of the the anti-corruption crusade
The war on corruption started on a great promise. Buhari had declared that all looters would be made to give up their loot, and the government would transparently publish the recovered loot and the names of the looters. The novel idea of whistle blowing was launched and indeed many people started giving up their loot rather than go to jail.
Then it became clear that those pursued for looting were simply members of the opposition PDP and if a corrupt politician crossed over from PDP to APC, they would be "forgiven" and allowed to keep their loot. Many corrupt politicians immediately left PDP and registered as APC members and so the anti corruption war no longer had anyone to arrest or force their forfeiture of ill gotten wealth. That became the end of the hitherto promising "war on corruption" under Buhari. The worst part was that Buhari's personal friends such as the former Secretary to Government and others were furiously looting the national treasury through ridiculous contracts to import grass etc. The deputy Minister for Petroleum Ibe Kachikwu out of frustration listed that NNPC had not remitted a whopping $25 billion dollars fraud! The NNPC Group Managing Director Maikanti Baru and Kachikwu were invited into the Presidential villa villa and ordered to "hush" the issue. As we saw under Jonathan, the issue was swept under the rug and no respectable independent panel of external auditors were invited to investigate the issue. Till date, nobody has heard anything about the missing $25 billion dollars.

4. The mismanagement of the economy
When President Buhari took over, there was a lot of hope that the economy would soon blossom. Indeed, the price of oil dropped due to circumstances beyond the control of President Buhari. However, we know regimes of President Obasanjo, Babangida and others had seen oil prices less than $40 dollars per barrel. Yet, Obasanjo was able to pay off Nigeria's foreign debt and embarked on a lot of laudable projects to boost the economy including completion of NLNG project amongst many others. President Buhari's immediate reaction to the lower oil price was to artificially restrict the flow of dollars and peg the Naira exchange rate at N200 to $1. This created a worse economic nightmare for CBN that had to sell dollars at below market rate to banks, who in turn gave the dollars to "selected" customers who had clearly bribed the bank managers. These customers went ahead to sell these cheap dollars at the true market rate in the black market and made huge profits while the CBN was depleting our foreign reserve to defend Naira at N200 to $1. When it became obvious that we would soon deplete our foreign reserves and there would be nothing left to defend the artificial exchange rate, Buhari reluctantly agreed to allow the naira depreciate and stop the practice of giving dollars to banks at ridiculously lower exchange rates. Unfortunately at that point, serious damage had already been done to the national economy which is still felt by every Nigerian till date.
Again Buhari borrowed massively during this period which blew up the eternal debt from about $6 billion to more than $15 billion today.


5. The silence on creating jobs for the youths
The youths were exhilarated that Buhari would bring back jobs and therefore voted massively for him in 2015. This was not the case as Buhari soon abandoned his promises to drive industrialization, develop the petro-chemical industries, stabilize power to improve ease of doing business and generally improve national infrastructure. The result of lack of any of Buhari's electoral promises was the rising incidence of armed robbery and banditry in the country. Nigerian youths traveled in droves through the desert in a futile attempt to reach Europe. Many of these youths were sold as slaves and horribly abused in Libya and other places for many years. It took the intervention of CNN to exposing these atrocities and shaming the Nigerian government to send planes to rescue her trapped youths in Libya.
In the face of failure of the promises of new industries, foreign investors and new businesses to employ youths, Nigerian youths are taking to crime, drug abuse and prostitution to simply survive.

6. Impact of Buhari health issues
One of the controversies of Buhari's candidature was his true age and when he actually finished secondary school. Buhari's official age was said to have been much younger than Buhari's younger sibling's age and the age of his peers in the army. This led to speculation that Buhari could have been much older than he told Nigerians. In a few months into his presidency, the effect of old age on governance was obvious. Buhari first complained about partial hearing loss and then he had to embark on two long periods of absence. In his long absence, governance feel apart and he was even rumored to have been in coma or died. Since Buhari hid his medical condition from Nigerians, he didn't want to give proper executive hand over to his Vice President. Therefore people like Maikanti Baru and other corrupt government officials simply flew to London and came back with purported signed contracts from the President from which billions of dollars were stolen from Nigeria. Under these circumstances, it was unclear who ran the country and massive corrupt practices happened in this period. It is noteworthy that nobody has been held to account for anything out of the fear of giving the impression that the president's long absence negatively impacted the country.



7. The failed promise to stop Boko Haram insurgency

In his iaugural speech, Buhari put Boko Haram on warning declaring the defence headquarters would temporarily be deployed to the northeast to neutralize the bombing of Boko HAram. These all happened to be mere words as the invasion of Sambisa forest was postponed again and again to allow Boko haram time to escape. When the invasion finally came and the President declare Boko Haram had been technically defeated, the insurgents replied him two days later with massive bombing on several locations simultaneously in the northeast. Since that day, like everything else, the fight against insurgency has been shrouded in secrecy. Nobody knows for sure what progress if any had been made. But the recent request for about $1 billion dollars and nearly constant bombings by the insurgents clearly tell Nigerians that Boko Haram is till alive and kicking despite the lies that we have been told.

8. Corruption and looting has continued in Nigeria
Sadly, corruption had continued unabated under Buhari. Nigeria had indeed become one of the reference countries for corruption in the world under transparency international. This issue and it's impact on the economy had already been discussed above.


9. Fostering deep national divisions and disunity (The Fulani Herdsmen agenda)
Through his actions and inactions, the avoidable clash between farmers (Mainly southerners and Fulani herdsmen- mainly northern fulanis) had led to several deaths. The seeming inability of Buhari to use the Nigerian armed forces against armed herdsmen who were killing villagers enmass and destroying their farms had led to deep national divisions and again threatening our unity. Highly respected Nigerians including President Olusegun Obasanjo and Gen Theophilus Danjuma has at various times openly urged the President Buhari to protect Nigerians living in their villages from the invading herdsmen. In frustration General Danjuma openly called on the villagers to defend themselves rather than fold their arms and be slaughtered. The fact that the invaders are Fulani who belong to the President Buhari's tribe and the victims are not the President's tribesmen has been used as explanation why the President would not act to punish tha invaders and save the victims. Instead, the President has called on the victims to cede their land as "Grazing zones" for the invaders.

10: Lack of responsibility for anything. (The blame game: Blame Jonathan: Blame PDP: Blame Nigerian youths: Blame Nigerians in diaspora etc)

The most outstanding attribute of President Buhari's regime is "Blaming game" If the blame isn't on Jonathan, it is PDP or oil price. More recently, the blame has shifted to "Nigerian youths" who have been declared as lazy and unable to engage in any economic venture. While some of these can be true, the overwhelming majority of Nigerian youths are extremely hardworking and innovative. In fact, Nigerian youths perform at par or beyond their counterparts when they go abroad. Nigerian youths created a music industry that still dominates Africa, a movie industry that is 3rd largest in the world and have excelled in numerous endeavors too numerous to count here. If the government of Nigeria especially under Buhari can be compared to Ghana or other African countries in terms of innovation and good governance, Nigeria would definitely have taken off as a great nation by now.


Finally, Nigerians must get their personal voters card (PVC) and make sure nothing stops you from participating and voting in the next round of elections. Stay in your polling station until results are announces, then use your phone to take pictures of the pasted result sheet and post here on NL and facebook. This is the only way we can collectively help to make Nigeria a better place and give red card to any bad government that had caused so much pain and suffering to Nigerians and their families.

If you do not vote and defend your vote by posting results, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN LATER.

Yes we have heard but who are we voting for?

CSTR1003:
We need to wait and see all the candidates first.

PDP and many other parties have not produced their various consensus yet.

Right now, I know I certainly won't vote for buhari. Who I will vote for will be revealed as time goes on..

This makes Sense!!! My prayer is that Buhari shld be kicked out 2019, I pray we will be united enough with our votes to kick him out. This one that kids are already having PVC in the north

buhariguy:
Buhari till 2023,
I still imagery how any hungry lazy man will come to replace buhari
Except God sent an Angel from above to replace buhari, because not even Obama can defeat buhari.

Buhari is like Putin, who can not be defeated

Later Buhari will say we are lazy, see his fellow northerner cannot spell " imagine "

buhariguy:
Buhari till 2023

They are coming for you

rainylad:
Perhaps..I am not a huge fan of him per say,but i have the hunch he is better than buhari,apart from the fact that he stands a better chance of un-seating buhari(whom i am desperate to see leave Aso-rock) than anyone else.

Lmaoo, I know right, I just want to see him leavee, I mean Buhari.

justtoodark:
uhhh...babe...why na...?

Sorry luv, just kidding buh y are u dark tho? This is what I picture u as...

rainylad:
I will vote for whoever PDP fields.

Atiku I guess, not so sure but I heard that he's the one they are pushing

ilevic:
I think it's too early to give PMB a straight win... I feel there is a silent but silent plot that will thwart all existing force... Let's just keep our fingers crossed and get our PVC ready.

Dat sounds hopeful! I will think on it.

ilevic:
Did u read what I wrote at all?

No he didn't, the dude is justtoodark to read

Pls help us push this to fp so that we can get more opinions and views,Thank You! mynd44