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We are our own problems in this Nigeria ooo... I saw some ppl saying anybody that has money to buy mb to subscribe is not vulnerable. Do u kno that there are cheap data plans? 500 naira? So everyone on NL is a rich person because they have data? Something is definitely wrong with your mindset if you are among these people with such mindset... self centered ppl everywhere, u will not speak for yourself, you are generalizing... some people have mb but have not eaten for a day
This bundle, people buy it monthly and not daily, so how does that correspond with their financial status? So the 1000 naira is suppose to feed them for the whole month? Some people are just sadists in this life!

Let's be positive that this girl is not dead because when I lost my brother I had the same dream, he hugged me before his demise....
if she is, then it will not be well with her killers and accomplices of this act wether directly or indirectly. The luck that is saving Buhari is that Christians are not violent and that's y they are taking advantage of it. if not by now, they would have released her if violence was involved. Everyday I pray that God should strategically position me in a place where I can negotiate people's freedom, we live in a world where the wicked are taking advantage of the meek but God will deliver Us All

highqueen:
and the deception continues.


what's the need in coming here to talk of what millions of girls do out there,celibating isn't that hard,so I wonder why the noise.


unless you are here to seek for a life partner by painting yourself white.

goodluck though.

Please show me the millions of girls I want to know them... secondly, celibacy is not hard?? It only shows u have zero idea of what u are talking about and just for the record, this group wasn't created for the vain reason u put up der, but I started this thread so that we can encourage ourselves to continue practicing it. Iron they say sharpens iron!

SoapQueen and DrinkLimca, what's up with you two? DrinkLimca u like her? Just tell us, stop using style style to talk

Just kidding tho but whatever it is between you two, you both shld try to sort it out pls

All these ones shld not comman cry "Men are Scum" later ooo... because what u give is what you get. If they call them Slut na, or if they rape them na, they will say sexual assault. Nonsense!!!

Brightgem:
Hiya. I got the DM hard to reply through my phone, so pls send me a number I can watsapp u with through t same means she sent that message. Its a good cause. shey its not only a ladies affair

Ohkay will do that right Away!

The dude speaks intelligently... and u are guessing why they covered his face? This Man don get straight employment, waiting to hear the remaining gist. He might either work for EFCC or CBN. My guess tho!

garryi:
I know that some people will want to nullify what the op is trying to project but it doesn't matter. The most important thing is doing the right thing regardless of whatever the majority is saying. One with God is a majority and surely on the winning side.

Please kindly follow back, just followed you... you are very positive

Brightgem:
Lolz! I don start dey follow since last year na (just today) . The watsapp group may be a good idea or not, sorry I hate groups cuz people mess it up and it gets noisy then u will be afraid of leaving so u not seen as the villain. Maybe a facebook page some sort of movement, whether Christian or Muslim or Hindu or warefa if u believe in Moral uprightness we are one.... we shd talk about this.

Nice point u raised tho but check your DM, just messaged you

Apina:
I'm not searching for one, was just curious. But hope u know self touching, the use of cucumber and its affiliates violates this pledge/vow?

Lmaoo u are just a troublemaker... please don't comman corrupt our thoughts , we know that already

cyndie27:
Hate admitting this because I recognize we are endangered species. I have been waiting all my life and I took that decision as a teenager after observing people who went before. I decided not to date until I am ready. I have tried to work towards relationships sha. It gets pretty scary and lonely sometimes like i'm taking the wrong path and other time I'm brave and encourage myself in the lord. Its almost thirty years of waiting, dont know what the future hold but i'll make the same choice over and over again if given many more lives to live and I am ready for whatever may come my way. Its well. Just to encourage someone out there who is like me that you are not alone and if you once gave it away its never too late to take the right decision.

This is Nice Cyndie, I applaud your courage but don't you ever get lonely? Like someone to talk to? Are you in a relationship? If No, why? Is it dat u haven't gotten offers or you have but you turned it down? Please I'm curious, awaiting your response

Neurotika:
These religious folks sef with their salty philosophies. One even said 'so many destinies have been destroyed on the altar of premarital sex'. lol. What does that even mean?

You wanna wait? Fine. Saves the world the potential of you producing some bastards who will overpopulate the planet. But attaching your waiting to some spiritual reward or moral achievement is an enormous load of Bullsshit. Waiting doesn't mean shiit. Best case scenario you end with a dude/lady that is a Virgin like you. So what's the significance of that? Holy kids? Heaven? Mtcheew. Rat race. Seriously grow up.

Sorry dear if we got on your wrong foot but we are not trying to be too holy, Maybe you got it all wrong but we are just trying to encourage one another to continue Waiting. Nobody is also forcing it on anyone, it was a thread created for people who are waiting, so if u are not waiting, you shldnt have clicked on the thread tho.

Trust me, this is not a section for kids . As a matter of fact, If anyone needs to grow up here is you! Yes, You! Celibacy has nothing to do with Age. It's just some set of people tired of doing relationship the world's way because it never works that way. We just want to follow the right way so that we can get the right results, I pray, hopefully, u get my point.

tomdon:
I wish all ladies were like my younger sister and others who kept their pride till marriage.
The moment a girl looses that seal, the task become herculean and I wonder what standard they're even protecting again.
But thankfully we're in a world where not every man wants a virgin as wife, so you can still hold your head up in dignity cos self esteem is more important for a lady

I'm glad u said self esteem is more important for a lady but how do u expect a lady that has slept with 20men to have self esteem? And how do u expect a lady not to sleep with 20men except she remains celibate? I'm thankful u know it's a difficult task for non Virgins to be celibate, and dats why we are not leaning on our power to do it but God's power. It is not easy but it is worth the wait.

So Mr, every day make a decision that your words and comments shld bless and transform lives and not drag people away from the body of Christ? Do not encourage the wrong things indirectly by your speech/comments. Have a nice day

tomdon:
Be careful not to fall into the trance of self-righteousness
Congrats on your achievements tho

This is not a matter of being self righteous... Rather it's you becoming God Conscious, there's a big difference! I'm living my life not to please any Man but to please My Heavenly Father, so if you define that as self righteous, I accept.

Self righteous means trying to work out your salvation by yourself, by your power, by your might. On the other hand, God Conscious means allowing God to help and take you to your desired end ( your dreams and aspirations).
Some of us have lost our visions and purpose for life because of toxic relationships, 5 minutes sex, one night stand. Some of us have no reason to live anymore because of one relationship that went wrong. Some have zero self esteem and you think they decided to live their life that way? No, a toxic relationship caused it.

You are proud that your sister married a virgin, have you ever sat down to ask her how she did it? It was never by her power neither was it by her might. Lastly, Mr when people sin, do u advice them to stay in sin because they have already done it? Or do u tell them to ask for forgiveness and act like it never happened? I am more of the latter while some people are more of the former, take your decision, which are you? Celibacy is not Meant for Virgins Alone Neither is Grace Available for The Righteous Alone, it is for everyone that have taken a decision to partake in it.

This is a Decision like I said earlier, I am not imposing it on anyone.

SoapQueen:
You are kind hearted and empathetic. Thank you.

Just thought about creating a WhatsApp group, what do you think?

Brightgem:
Why should you stop being introverted, embrace ur nature, its the best thing that I was created with, being introverted, but it don't mean u are caved up or naive. I will speak to a group of people clearly about what I want to say, but I am considered a quiet calm person in general, I will rather sit alone at a restaurant than sit with company that's meaningless or have shallow talks... I love being introverted jare, I read and write more, I observe more, discern better. Forget parties and just do you, never attended a party in my life an I am still a happy woman, not all parties but that's how people get drunk or have one night stands and hate themselves afterwards. I guess the idea of celibacy is so ingrained in me because I also believed in it right from when I was a teenager. Not saying its not hard but it can also be easy.

We should create a Watsapp group to inspire/motivate each other. What do u think?? Celibacy is not so easy but with the right crowd and energy, I think it will be easy... let me know what you think
BTW, we have to be friends, by must friendship, i love your mindset

Archangel15:
Chronicles of evening newspapers

Carry your life and go nah leave us alone and let's be celibate in peace, is it your celibate?

Awaitingkopa:
I have decided to go celibate. I know it wunt be easy.. But blessing give it a tryyyyy.. Let's go 3months first.. If we succeed we add another 3month..yayyyyy..
Dosnt look easy though.

Hello my sisters in the struggle

Yaayyyyyyy we are in this together boo... let's help each other, we cld start a WhatsApp group for people waiting so that we can motivate ourselves... let me know what u think hun

Apina:
So you are saying in essence that you are a virgin?

Lolzzz... Men and Virgins Anywayz I am not but I have decided to be Celibate, is dat a wrong thing? but well , just incase u are looking for celibate virgins, just stick around U'd find some virgin ladies that are waiting as well, All the Best!

49cents:
Am I waiting? It feels now like being prepared for mission. Mission so that my eventual marraige becomes a witness to the presence of Christ in this world so in need of light and direction.

God seems to use time to equip some of His chosen vessels to accomplish extraordinary things. From Abraham's Isaac to hannah's Samuel to Eilzabeth'sJohn the Baptist.

So rather than looking at the clock I rather look at myself and pay attention to where He would want to perfect in my life for the great work ahead.

Sorry if I couldn't commuinicate clearly in my last post. My point is Chastity is more of saying a Yes to the deepeatu needs of my being than just being ethically consistent.

Thank you for being on this path.
Keep shining

@Bolded got me!! That's exactly my point, that's exactly what I'm yearning for, I know it's not going to be easy but it's worth the try. I'm ready to try. We need to talk more, I'd send you a mail shortly, kudos!

Brightgem:
Very true. I am not a Christian, but yes with faith in God, He will try us through different life events. Some things are not loss, just a redirection for us. Being celibate is actually the best, but I must ask if u are refering to being a virgin completely... Well some of us really hold on strongly to the idea that relationships can work without sex, and u'll meet some who support u on this and others who think its their right to have your body.

The truth is being celibate has nothing to do with wether u are a virgin or not. It's a choice to stay away from sex until after marriage but if u are a virgin it's an added advantage. Secondly any partner that will want you to go against your will/faith to please him does not genuinely love you. Ask most serious minded men around you, they can not leave a lady they love because she said she's not gonna give them sex, instead their love and respect increases for you the more and the more they want to keep you. Most of Us (ladies) tend to think for our men, and then possibly get scared that he won't buy the idea but just pray and give it a try, u will be amazed at the response u will get from them.

SoapQueen:
Awwww! Hugs! Kickass Badass! Thumbs up to the last post.

I have dates this weekend, and it's going to be like that henceforth. My female friends, toasters, business meets and all.

Cheers!

Yw dear, keep us posted

Brightgem:
Because of you I signed back into NL I just had to give this a standing ovation. People like you give us hope that not all in the world have lost their reasoning to be celibate is not anyhow or by mouth...

Aww dear... feel like crying, please dear don't give up, yes we are not so much but it can get better, I think we shld do more of speaking out so that others will be encouraged to follow the same path as well. There are still many of us that are waiting but I guess most of us are too scared to voice it out because of what society might think of us

49cents:
Celibacy can be hard or easy depending on how you approach it. It's similar to diet. Some diet for days and weeks without understanding what they are doing.....they are missing their junk food....so one day they snack a little here and then they go back to their ways....

While others diet with a change of lifestyle mentality.....they enjoy the new life they have embraced. They are creative with how to deal with the cravings....
They engage themselves in denial because they realise the goal and goodness of the new healthy lifestyle


Chastity is a lifestyle, it is the lifestyle of the new man and new woman. It is not about denial of self of pleasure but a saying yes to the true nature of our being.

When I discovered myslef and do not reduce myself to the instinctivel state of existence, I will naturally will not reduce my partner or the other person to n object of sexual gratification.

In essence continuous education is crucial than a stoic attitude to premarital sex

Oga u ended up confusing me, please can you break this down... simple terms pls, no grammar and BTW, are you waiting too?? Or u are just sharing your opinion

SoapQueen:
He is a pretender and a liar. Quite a cruel person too.

It's okay to hang out, right? Like attend some cool parties too? My friends are of the opinion that I stop being introverted.

Aww dear, Sorry about that... if u had had sex with him, u wld have been blinded to his lying and cruel ways but thank God, Waiting helped you to discover his true self.

I am an introvert as well but I can be an extrovert when I want to but I am more of the former (Introvert)... being an introvert has its ups and downs, people will call u boring sometimes but u shld know that for everything u do, there is a reason why u do what u do. It's either you are avoiding parties in order not to be too carried away or maybe u just need space to focus on more important things.
Going to cool parties doesn't hurt! You can hang out with friends and have some fun but never forget to raise the bar (set limits and standards) for yourself. I am a badass but I know when to put limits to my naughtiness, so I think that's basically it. Be You, Have Fun, Dress Good U'd find som1 that will eventually fall madly in love with you and will be willing to wait

Since I came across this quote, my life has never remained the same. I'm now even more confident waiting

"Never be too Afraid to lose A Man, because A Man that truly Loves you will not go anywhere" - Steve Harvey

Archangel15:
There are 7 billion people in this world, why wait?

Except u don't want to sleep with the 7billion people, I think it's worth the wait. Waiting enables you to understand/know your partner even more.

Waiting builds trust and confidence in your spouse

Waiting gives you the best of all potential partners

Waiting gives you enough space to focus on your personal life and be productive and not be a liability

Waiting boosts your self esteem

Waiting grows your relationship with God... the greatest reason why most of our young ones don't serve God fully is because of Sex and Sex hinders relationship with God since it's A Sin and then you don't get all of God's best

In summary, Waiting gives you an Advantage!

SoapQueen:
Yeah. Sometimes you might get really lonely but it is very worth it. I have been off intimacy for months, prior to the last time, it was years ago. I actually wanted to commit to someone I met recently, thankfully, it didn't work out.

I am happy I keep a clean system. No alcohol, no cigarettes, no drugs, no intercourse.

I am so very grateful.

Oh really dear? That's wonderful but I'm interested in this gist... y didn't it work out? Was it because u were not ready to put sex on the menu or he didn't really love you in the first place ... I am waiting as well, it has been tough but so far it's worth it

ThanosEronz:
Just shut up for christ sake
All this long epistle just to diss someone
Are u okay ?

For God's sake, can't u pass a message without being insultive? I'm sorry but I wasn't dissing her, it shows that u didn't even read properly or maybe u read it but did not understand it. Pls for the sake of next time, try to understand a message before you attack blindly.

Ramos16:
I got bored halfway reading this, what is your point exactly?

Aww sorry sir but My Post is not for everyone Only Peeps with Deep Minds can Relate

Smartjob1:
Too much sense no go kee you.

Dat word makes me laff sense wee not kill me indeed

U turned 36 and finally u noticed celibacy wasnt going to make you a mum and wife We have had ladies practice it in their 40s and still got married and even got pregnant afterwards. In other words, na u know wetin u practice (maybe u fasted from sex) because from your results, it is definitely not the product of celibacy. After preaching it to young girls, u finally ended up not finishing it? So how do u expect them to finish it? U shldnt have talked about it at all. It's very hypocritical.

You got me der with the "every lady shld practice celibacy till they find someone who wants to be in a committed relationship with you" speech... Oh come on, almost every guy comes with that BS of being a committed partner, so are you saying that the girls should continue sleeping with every "potential committed partner"? Then when he is no longer interested in the relationship, what happens? The cycle continues ryt? Until she sleeps with 20 "committed partners". Well done Ma!

Celibacy means complete abstinence from sex in a relationship (committed or non-committed) until after MARRIAGE! I'm not trying to judge but don't try to mislead people either. If you couldn't do it, go and ask for forgiveness and move on but don't try to glorify your mistake. They indeed said, When You have Money All Your Sins Are Covered/Justified (in the eyes of men)

P.S: Celibacy is not for the Weak, it goes beyond declaring it, it is a spiritual sacrifice and if you ever try to do it by your power, you will flop big time bcs Konji is a Bastard but when u acknowledge your weakness before God and ask him to help you, then the job becomes easier! Kudos to all the Celibates in the house, More strength and Grace to finish what you started!

ModelX:
No one's about to get married to your fake dependent asș anyway. Not anytime soon.
Working class indeed. Pretentious lot.

I don't need a dependent man like you Anywayz to come and frustrate me with your life... wats der to pretend about? Am I you? Na u dey feed me? See me oo ... if u are the only man in this world I'd probably not get married,I'd be a nun and the only person pretending here is you not me. The joke is on you Mr! Hehe
But wait oo, y are we having this conversation? The last time I checked I didn't mention you in my quote so y are u pained? Anywayz I see u have zero respect for ladies from the dirty comments u post here and at such, I won't even mince words with you anymore, Goodbye!