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urchbarbie:
av been lying low all d while. Nna, pls move on. Stop whining. U would/must find someone better dan dat which u tink u av lost.
The first principle is to move on.
U wont forget her tho, but u av to move on.

thorpido:
iwatch,you need to let go.
If you love a dog,let it go.if it comes back to you it's yours,if it doesn't,it never was yours.
It might take some time but eventually,you'll be free.Get your mind on other things.There's someone better out there.

babyosisi:
Iwatch,there was a boy that wrote me a love letter in secondary school
He pursued me all through secondary school and the university with these romantic poems
I told him when I was getting married and he wrote me his final love letter and also in it wishing me well with my beau,I actually showed it to my husband,then fiancé and he also acknowledged the young man loved me very much and complimented his writing skills
He found me on FB years later and on my birthday which I didn't put on FB,he was the first to send me a birthday wish
After all these many years,this man still knew and remembered my birthday
The poem he wrote on my wall and the words he used to describe me made me uneasy I had to delete it
My friends say he loved me truly but sadly i never felt the same about him,I just liked him.
Very nice guy though

So it's possible to love someone madly and not have the other person return the love
Maybe this is your situation
It will get better as you grow older

dearestsewa:
Hmmn! Very possible. And sometimes, the person is not deliberately trying to spite you. It's not what you have or don't have, she just doesn't see you as a soulmate. Things just happen like that sometimes and you can't explain. Mystery!

babyosisi:
Iwatch,there was a boy that wrote me a love letter in secondary school
He pursued me all through secondary school and the university with these romantic poems
I told him when I was getting married and he wrote me his final love letter and also in it wishing me well with my beau,I actually showed it to my husband,then fiancé and he also acknowledged the young man loved me very much and complimented his writing skills
He found me on FB years later and on my birthday which I didn't put on FB,he was the first to send me a birthday wish
After all these many years,this man still knew and remembered my birthday
The poem he wrote on my wall and the words he used to describe me made me uneasy I had to delete it
My friends say he loved me truly but sadly i never felt the same about him,I just liked him.
Very nice guy though

So it's possible to love someone madly and not have the other person return the love
Maybe this is your situation
It will get better as you grow older

FINgames:
I JUST USED YOUR TIPS TO GET A GALS PHONE NUMBER. SHE I S OLDER THAN ME,SO AV GOT TO ACT MATURED, HOW DO I MAKE DAT FIRST CALL ND WHAT SHUD I SAY, PLS REPLY ASAP I I WAS SUPPOSED TO CALL HER DIS EVENING.

prissyluv:
hahahahaha. Okwu kasiobi!

GoldenDr:
you will see someone better than her. You just have to move on.

jacksparrow1207:
Cheap n***a
Get your a55 of that bed and go get something done
Go work for money instead of waiting for a girl that'll spend on u

Cutehector:
Its a sign of maga garanteed

sinaj:
lol u knw d gurl nd ow ur reltnshp
xo u shud knw bera

xynerise:
I always say thank you to the wait staff before and after a meal. I don't know why and when I say it but I just say it and feel ashamed later

I do this often. Is there anyone here doing or have done this before?

brunnette4real:
Finances,yes.he is a contract staff with an oil servicing firm,so he is looking at getting a permanent job or starting a bizness,he also said he is not convinced I'm his wife yet,that he needs to pray before taking that life decision.But,if he finds his wife this year,even if he doesn't have money for wedding he will pay her brideprice this year.that he really desire me for a wife but God has d final say.
He has good xter and has being there for me always.
I was thinking if I should call him&try to see him ,cos I don't want it to look as if I'm pushing him away or I don't care just to maintain our friendship,or should I leave him the way he is?

Chzaram:
Teddy, with all humility am 30yrs a chartered accountant. there's this final year medical girl 24yrs I have b chasing since last year. we met in a church. we loved up 4 "real". am a bdt guy but she is a good girl...we started having problems because she noticed that bdt guy in me...this girl dey very smart believe me..i have gotten her upset more than 10 times since that last year. I love the girl, so as a bdt guy I wan protect her from guys like me...cut the story short, we dey vex 4 me say I no sabi how 2 treat a woman(me na bad guy)..she has not pick my call in one week...but we exchanged txt last night saying that our discsssions alwys end up making her sad...I no wan lose this girl...I 4 like marry her...Please how can I treat her better? hlp a bdt guy lol

Preternatura1:
Hi, thanks for your input.

It's not just about going to spend some time with her, if you followed my posts, you'd notice, the timing of the visit is part of the problem, she wanted me to spend the easter holiday with her but I already had plans, this I have come to realize upset her and she is pushing that I come this month, which is highly unlikely, added to the fact that she's said not so nice things to me over the issue.

Another thing is, is that, I don't speak much igbo neither does she speak much English, I'm still getting used to the kind of regular food my man eats, I do little chores and even this, I'm really not good at, so I need my man there to help guide me, she may not understand all these at first, especially as she's already thinking me a snob.

I just don't want any unnecessary drama.

thorpido:
This guy may want to settle but feels he may not be at the level he wants financially.You work and he works so i don't know why he may still feel limited financially.I think you should discuss with him to know what his financial goals are.
Are you satisfied with his character and other things?
He is trying to disconnect from you so you should expect him to be cold.You took the right decision since you want out too.It's good to move on if you don't see it working out.

brunnette4real:
I have been a silent observer on this thread and learnt a lot.
Although,I have issueS bothering me.I was in a relatinship with a guy (40yrs)for 6 months with marital plans involved,he introduced me to his family and also went with me to my church for marriage counselling,but I left him in dec.cos he had xter problems,he nags a lot,very suspicious always checking my phones,and talks anyhow like( me forcing him to marry him ,he is not convinced about marriage,and other things I can't mention here),I didn't see myself enjoying marriage with him so I left.
Also,there is this guy that has been a friend to me infact like a brother,even when I was courting my ex,and he knows alll about my relationship,recently we started dating ,so I asked him who am I to him and where the relationship is leading to ,he Said I'm an intimate friend,he is not yet convinced I'm his wife,he is serious about me but I shouldn't take him serious and he wants to get married but need to sort out finances first before marriage and he prays for me to be his wife cos he loves me and see qualities in me,but if God says I'm not his so be it,and if someone that is ready to marry me comes along I should pray and make my choice.
So I told him I want to stop dating him since he said I Shouldn't take him serious, so we decided to be friends like we were before ,but with reduced communication and closeness.On sunday he gave me a phone as my birthday gift and I told him I don't want it,the reason I gave him was dat I don't want to use a big phone again since my samsung galaxy just got stolen in my office and If I will use a big phone it will always be in my bag.From his facial expression I could see that he was not happy.But my real reason was that I am trying to cut off from him emotionally cos I really love him and he knows it and I don't want anything around me that will be a reminder of him.cos I decided to be single physically and @ mind,I don't want a man as an Idol in my heart which may prevent me from meeting the right man for me,but I didn't tell him all these.
But,why I'm bothered is that I saw him yesterday and he acted cold towards me,avoids me and when he called yesterday to wish me happy birthday it was cold and he doesn't call me like before,I'm nt feeling bad or emotional,but I just wondered If I did the right thing,I am 29 and he is 32

veave:
I want to confess and shame the devil...

veave:
Leme jooor
I wee not tell you

babyosisi:
Iwatch,such is life
You live,you learn.
Let it go

veave:
Iwatch. I really do not understand your post and couldn't make head or tail from the story. Maybe i cant read well.... maybe...

babyosisi:
Stop doing too much
Yes you are doing too much
How can a man be 38 and unmarried sef
Are you sure his sumtin works ?

Floodgater:
@ iwatch, You said because of your past experience, you formed this mentality that girls have nothing to offer you, that was the warped mentality i was referring to or you still think i was assuming? Believe me, she would have displayed more "yanga" at the initial stage even after accepting you (its a girl's thing) and you wouldnt have handled it well not knowing what you know now. You know, its funny what you guys discuss amongst yourself and conclude is a wife material like if she spends on you. It could be your love language though, but i know it has not cross your mind that she could have done it not to appear cheap or not to be after your money or to prove a point. Again, you cant see the possibility of the other guy giving her the financial muscle to do the gesture she or some other girl though capability but wouldnt not have been able to do without the financial capability to wow you like this (and yes, it could be her money) but one thing is sure sha, she is the giver you cherish else she could have opt declining any offer instead. From what you said about her today, it seems you and the other guy are good offers, who knows she might reconsider but hope on this at your own risk. If you can cope, communicate with her once in a while and when you meet online but desist if you cant cope for your heart and life sakes. My advice is that you take time to get over her before going into another relationship so that a new girl will not pay for the crime committed by your ex the second time (before you go defensive, but for your past experience, you would have condoned her yanga). In this time, not at all hoping, if she comes, fine and if she does not, move on.

Floodgater:
@ iwatch, You said because of your past experience, you formed this mentality that girls have nothing to offer you, that was the warped mentality i was referring to or you still think i was assuming? Believe me, she would have displayed more "yanga" at the initial stage even after accepting you (its a girl's thing) and you wouldnt have handled it well not knowing what you know now. You know, its funny what you guys discuss amongst yourself and conclude is a wife material like if she spends on you. It could be your love language though, but i know it has not cross your mind that she could have done it not to appear cheap or not to be after your money or to prove a point. Again, you cant see the possibility of the other guy giving her the financial muscle to do the gesture she or some other girl though capability but wouldnt not have been able to do without the financial capability to wow you like this (and yes, it could be her money) but one thing is sure sha, she is the giver you cherish else she could have opt declining any offer instead. From what you said about her today, it seems you and the other guy are good offers, who knows she might reconsider but hope on this at your own risk. If you can cope, communicate with her once in a while and when you meet online but desist if you cant cope for your heart and life sakes. My advice is that you take time to get over her before going into another relationship so that a new girl will not pay for the crime committed by your ex the second time (before you go defensive, but for your past experience, you would have condoned her yanga). In this time, not at all hoping, if she comes, fine and if she does not, move on.

OnyeEgo1:
y regrets wen dia are better options out dia??

Av u ascertain d fact dat she has gotten anoda guy?

Don't get more hurt by hanging on 2 a red iron, just let go...

How do u go about it?? Give her distance not even a call