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gleatz:
True or false?

Sex.
Children.
Money.
Companionship.
Reasons why people get married.
In that list, the most important for me is companionship.
Someone I can really talk to.
Someone who gets me. Someone who I can journey with into old age.
It's not about crazy sex.
Sex doesn't guarantee anything
It's not about children and definitely NOT money.
That is for lazy women who are leeches.
Children, any sperm donor can give me that or I can just easily adopt.
My most important craving in a relationship is companionship.
Remove that from the mix and I'll get frustrated.

GoldenDr:
Please always educate them at the slightest opportunity you have. It is very crazy out there. The rate of desperation is my gosh!!!as a result of pressure from family, society, workplace and even church... Yes, church(yourl read that right. Let me drop this.

I have a friend although am older than him and he asked me about him going into marriage. And I ask him a few questions. Do you have a house? Can you feed yourself comfortable to surplus? Do you have a steady source of income? He only answered in the affirmative to the first one but was quick to tell me he would not marry in a one room accommodation because he needs privacy.

Fast forward to today... He got his girlfriend pregnant(maybe because his friends were getting married- through baby mama or pressure from the girl) she delivered through cs which cost 180k and as we speak no steady source of income, his rent is due and likely to be ejected.
My point, nobody, I repeat nobody should pressure you into getting married either out of frustration, pity or otherwise. I know God will attend to his situation.... Amen.
Marriage is not courtship or dating.. It is a serious institution and MUST be prepared emotionally, financially and psychologically before getting married and please ensure the man do the necessary thing, paying your dowry or bride price.

Shiningmama:
Thanks dear, God bless you.
I didn't inform anyone I want to leave, it was when the mum noticed we weren't doing as we used to that she asked him what happened. And he said I can't stop him from chatting with his female friends, though he had affairs with them one time or the other but he can't say because of me he will stop chatting with them.
I expained to the mum thaat all what I need is for him to just respect me once he is at home. He should postpone the chat till next dayy at his office when I won't be there. Atimes, these women will send messages, maybe if he didn't reply on time, they will call to tell him to come online, I will see the name of the caller. From there I was able to get their names and no. I saved it on my phone. Whenever he is online on whatsapp, they will be online too.
He got upset when I told him in the presence of his mum to respect me when he is at home by not chhatting with them. He said and I quote“ in that case, then you have to leave my house becos can't becos of you stop chatting with them. What do u have to offer me, they have lots of things to offer” end of quote
I then asked if leave what of my children, that was when the mother replied that I didn't bring children here bla. Bla bla

gleatz:
@Iwatch;
Shebi you no wan leave this babe alon no allow her guy corner you ooooo.

You don't need all these u wanna embark on. It would seem as if you re trying to buy her over. The best gift I feel you can gift her is to set her loose, let her concentrate on her new rship while you invest your energy into sometin else. If she then return back to you without the influence of your gifts and attentions, then you re good to go and if not, guy chillax and move on.

My 2cents!

Neroski:
you need to be sure if she is a teddybear person o.its not every lady that likes it.

Neroski:
you need to be sure if she is a teddybear person o.its not every lady that likes it.

cococandy:
absolutely.

That and flowers and perfume/body sprays have always been ideal gifts for me.
I can't have too many perfumes at once.


Just telling you now so you will know what to give me in case you're thinking of giving me a gift.
This one you're asking.

Tradesrunner:
Used Dhl Recently And Was Charged 11k. Seems Like A Promo Though

babygirlfl:
Awww so sweet. You are sure a hot stepper. iwatch come and see. There are good women. You just have to look for them and treat them right.

madridguy:
Such a bad news..... Enough of killing our brothers in Asia........I think it is time our politician will call themselves in order and use our stolen wealth to develop our country so that our brothers will stop all these illicit business.

God will rescue you all.

kodded:
he cannot aFford a proper table with that money ?

rheether:
2moro, one yoruba tout go dey bash me for been an igbo girl. #SayNoToYorubaBoiFrnd.

Evina:
LOL @ a lie.

So what happened to your girl?

Evina:
Wow iwatch
Thank you so much. I really appreciate your prayers and receive your declarations for me.

I should print this out.
Thanks a lot and may you experience the same measure of goodness, you have dispensed.
Cheers.

babygirlfl:
Please you have to forgive yourself and move on. Don't get too angry at yourself. We all make mistakes and learn from them.I understand your fear but they are many good women too. First be a good partner and look for a woman to compliment you. I am sure you will get one soon.

babygirlfl:
@ iwatch,

Most of what you have said is true but I will complement your truth with some more truth(hope I am allowed?). Evina is a lovely girl who put a lot of into her man but her man equally deserve a lot of praise. He is a good man that deserved everything Evina put in. Do you think she would do the same if she had seen him with two other women? or if he beats her up or if he treats her shabbily?Do you think she would have succeded if he did not want to change. They both complemented each other. When you are looking for the right partner, make yourself the right partner also. There are as many horrible women as there are many horrible men. When a reasonable woman knows that she is the only one the man loves and wants she will do her best for the man. Treat a reasonable girl like a queen and you will see that she will treat you like a king.

PearlO:
Goodevening everyone...........I once posted and wished I could share my problems, the ones I ve not been able to handle yet from d various solutions discussed here......One of them jst happened recently...

First, am engaged to this very strict person. Therez no harm in being strict but not when itz extreme.....Tho I was raised by a very strict mum (single parent) it never got to dz extreme....I was allowed to air my views

I jst graduated waiting for service....I decided to do smfing in the interim sinz d usual allowance isnt forthcoming anymore

Nw this happen to be my crime......He wants me to stay home all day...or work where he wants me to

I applied smwhere and I was lucky enough to be taken...D pay aint rily d issue but atleast I have where to out to evryday and b useful to myself and d society bt dat is a big issue to my darling fiance coz I jst became a disrespectful wife-to-be

Meanwhile I have on countless times called or threatened to call off d whole engagement drama because of his attitude towards things bt evrybody is always blaming me coz d all feel am too impatient....They all say I shldnt try to measure up with him bt I am nt. am just trying to have a voice....I want to b heard to bcoz I feel I have dat right......

Now he is threatening to call it off jst because I refused to heed to his instructions and went ahead to take up d job..
As for me I dnt care if he does dat or not bt I will really love to knw if I did the right thing or am jst being disrespectful as he claims

if he is right I would go ahead and apologize to him and drop evrything that has to do with the job


I would really love to hear from d men's point of view as well as evrybodyz opinion as well


please forgive my typing
Anything you dnt understand ask questions I will answer
Am not in a very kul mood but I bliv in all ve typed, ve been able to make sense....
Thank you so much and am very sorry for the long epistle

veave:
Chinum & iwatch. I'm seeing both of you in 3D...

Codedrunscom:
Are you yoruba ?

Dominiquez:
I pity anyone that supports this ban, cos Buhari is now fighting FOI law that allowed APC to excel . Banning of APC will be the beginning of the dark days for the media under Buhari's govt.


TVC and Sahara reporters were never banned even when they were broadcasting lies against Jonathan govt.

Chinum:
Hia! Whts holding U?


Oya e don do. Bye bye.

Chinum:

Chinum:
Migbo

Chinum:
Whts mbok n wetin make I add or subtract for the post.

babygirlfl:
@ iwatch,

Most of what you have said is true but I will complement your truth with some more truth(hope I am allowed?). Evina is a lovely girl who put a lot of into her man but her man equally deserve a lot of praise. He is a good man that deserved everything Evina put in. Do you think she would do the same if she had seen him with two other women? or if he beats her up or if he treats her shabbily?Do you think she would have succeded if he did not want to change. They both complemented each other. When you are looking for the right partner, make yourself the right partner also. There are as many horrible women as there are many horrible men. When a reasonable woman knows that she is the only one the man loves and wants she will do her best for the man. Treat a reasonable girl like a queen and you will see that she will treat you like a king.