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pozehnani:
Nope? It's you withdrawng your resources out of anger because of her refusal to date you that I' see as wrong and you feeling entitled.

Scratch that?

Go away. Everything is not about gender war. Tell your brother to pick a random girl and start sending her money if you care so much about your gender. Nonsense

Anabosee:
Op so since when you met this girl at 14, you don get other girlfriends during that time till she turned 18?

If no is your answer your a simp. And you say you were willing to change religion for a small girl chai.

No nan. I didn't say I was willing to change religion. I only asked to be sure if her reasons for rejecting me are cogent

Collins4u1:
Save your money for your future girl.

Don't loose guard.

Thanks

pozehnani:
Wow! Who's the entitled one here? Is it I who think you should not take advantage of someone because of the help you rendered or you who feel you have a right to her body just because of a few cedis you spared.

I don't need to mention the number of students I help and even nonstudent but I don't go feeling entitled over them because of that.

Please take a chill pill and chillax.

No where in my write-up I said there was a gun on her head to accept my proposal. It's natural for a man to propose to a woman of his interest. If I wanted her body, perhaps I could've requested for that before I started helping her. Anyway, I'm not trying to explain anything to you,but you picking offense because I want to withdraw my help is where the entitlement mentality comes in

pozehnani:
I'm still trying to see where the dots connect between helping a lady and that help making her an automatic date. Like seriously??.. you helped her a few times with some cedis and she's expected to become yours. Just like that?

Did you ever think of what she wants or respect the fact that she's still a student and doesn't need any form of distractions at this time?

You men will never cease to amaze me.

men will never cease to amaze you yenyenyen. Coming here to type nonsense as if I pick money from the floor. How many male students are you sending money too? I can give you her contact so you take over from where I stopped. If me withdrawing my support for her triggers you so badly,I guess you won't have problem taking over from me. Entitlement mentality

AsaBlackheart:
Clear things up with her. Don't cut her off completely though. That's shitty.

Simply tell her that you may not be able to meet up with her requests instantly again whenever she asks.
We humans gain an entitlement mentality when we get something easily. So when she asked the first few times and noticed that it didn't seem to be a problem or constraint for you, she took full advantage of the situation.
Normal thing.

It's up to you to reduce your generosity... cos that's what people will call it. *Generosity*

Don't fulfill her demands instantly. Sometimes even, you can tell her that no cash dey currently.
But that doesn't mean you should do that every single time though.

I hope you understand my epistle

Thanks. Truth is,I will not be able to keep helping her going forward. I need a woman,and it will be difficult to be supportive to her and my woman. Bro,you have no idea how much I've spent on this girl.

Olayinka8793:
If you send her any money from henceforth even when the majority of sane people here have advised you to stop, na thunder go fire you

Bro,if I send it means I be fool

stanvesco:
I am not advising you to become a bad boy. If you are interested in her, then you should plan out your game to get her and not flirt with every girl in the hood

No, I'm not a bad boy. I won't become one before of her. However,I wasn't giving her friend attention because of her. But now that she's off the table,I think I can give some attention to her friend

okoroemeka:
I have a sinking feeling that you cannot resist sending money to the girl,you are a good man and a gentleman to wait till she is 18yrs to propose and also give her money anytime she asks,you may not believe but your good man behavior maybe the reason she is not interested in a relationship with you,she may even be unhappy that you are forming big boy when she is giving you green light at 15yrs

Thanks,but I have already zero my mind. Never sending her a penny

Bellotelli:
It's only women that can give advise that they can't give to their sons.

Don't mind her

advanceDNA:
I don't know why women don't see anything wrong in begging...Geez!!..its so unattractive...

even woman wey u dey fvck seff..it gets to a point always asking for money becomes irritating
... ..once a man says hello to them.. weda he's romantically interested or not...they just seize opportunity to use him for money...

....u shouldn't have sent money to her the first time....
....there are lots of people who need genuine help...not some girl in school who's not just contended with what her father gives her..

She knows what she's doing...she knows u like her..... she's just exploiting you

Thanks

stanvesco:
What of the one whey she don chop?


Women shaaaaaa oh.


You made a missed-stake with the asking her out. This kind of babe, you go just assume the position of a boyfriend.

I know one of her friend that's very beautiful. I'm even thinking of getting close to that one

tommy589:

Why?

idahme:
It's only dating that made him to send those money and the girl has exploited his interest in her to milk him. She has guardians and she will never call her guardian several times a month for financial help.

OP jettison that girl, she is of no good to him apart from fantasizing about the girl

Thanks. I'm done with her. No more sending money

Sonnobax15:

Please be man enough to speak your mind and that's by telling the 19years old werey to stop calling you when she gets to her school

WTF man!!! She can't date a non Christian but can be collecting free money from the same non-christain? Who does that?

Don't be surprised to later find out say na one alhaji wey dey only use small kettle of water dey wash him legs and hands dey settle down dey lash the mumu banny .

Las las,op,you suppose lash that banny self . Cuz na big loose guarding say after spending so much money,you no fit see common pant let alone shift am by the end of the day

Thanks

Jman06:
As father Christmas wey he be

Op, stop sending her money. Since she didn't consider you good enough for marriage, it means she won't consider you good enough for any other thing. She sees you as a cashcow, a mugu. So, move on and stop sending her money. Delete her number and tell her not to call you again.

Thanks

F22RAPTOR:
For being a father Christmas to a small girl who is using your head, does she not have a father?
She knows you want her, but she won't give in to you. She will continue to milk you as long as she can. Forget about the Muslim BS she is telling you, it's a lost cause. You should have locked up on her long ago.

lesson learnt

crisubanijunior:
…so is he supposed to be the one training another person’s future wife with urgent 5k? Atleast if they were dating, he might incidentally forge ahead with marriage plans since he had known her for a while. With that, spending anything on her is justified because he knows its a wise investment. No be to dey throway money for something that has gone south already.

Thank you

MrBrownJay1:
- then why were you sending her all this money for (if not to buy her affection)? Ow
- then why did you automatically expect her to say yes to your proposal (if your money had nothing to do with it)?
- if the money had nothing to do with your proposal then why dont you continue sending her money?



women that respected you in the past, would lose respect for you if you try to get between their legs (and they rejected you)....YES!

Yes I was sending the money because she asked. Yes I expected a positive response from her because I wrongly assumed that her request from me was her way of giving me greenlight. I know better now

EreluRoz:
We all have that person that gives us money without demanding anything in return

I don't have the one person o. Maybe you need to hear my story

F22RAPTOR:
You are a big foooool.

lol. Why you vex like this? What makes me a fool? That I want to stop supporting her or for supporting her in the first place?

Sonnobax15:
. . But if she had agreed to your terms, you'd have willingly added her to your budget abi? . Senator wey dey pad budget indeed

Yes. But now that she has rejected me,I need to replace her with someone else. Don't you have a girlfriend? I don't have, and I want one. So I can't add her and my new girlfriend to my responsibilities

EreluRoz:
Learn to give without expecting anything in return

You clearly don't know me bro. I give a lot. But I don't have the financial muscle to add her to my responsibilities at the moment.

MrBrownJay1:
you wrongly assumed that your money would buy her affection but sadly, this woman has NO CARE for you (apart from the money she can get from you). she has been playing you all along, because she knew you were lusting for her.
abeg free yourself from this babe.

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Thanks. But I was not looking at buying her affection though.

MrBrownJay1:
BTW a man who wants to get down with a babe yet want that person to keep respecting him, is what is known as "wanting your cake and eat it too"

Lol. Wives don't respect their husbands?

EreluRoz:
You never had good intentions for her else this isn't enough to stop sending money to her.

God will send her another helper.

Learn to help people without expecting anything in return.

Haa. So,i should just keep sending 15k and above monthly to someone I have nothing with when I'm also having other responsibilities at home? What if she's sending my money to her boyfriend? I should keep sending? Nawa o

Good evening people. Please be the judge and let me know if I'm being wicked

In the compound where I live in Ghana, there's this 19 old girl. Infact,I got to know her when she was 14,she was respectful so I kept her as my friend. When she turned 18,I had interest in her but I was afraid of her rejecting my proposal and I didn't want to lose the respect she has for me. Fast forward to January 2023,I bought a new car. And then she repeatedly begged that I start teaching her how to drive.

I was afraid of what the father would say if he finds out that I'm taking her out for driving lessons,but reluctantly I took her out for learning like twice. So around March she went to school in another region. They don't allow them to go to school with phones,so when in school she becomes unreachable, except she calls.

So one day,I was just somewhere when a call from from a number not on my contact came. The call went like this:

Me:Hello

Her: Good morning, it's me Amina

Me:oh Good morning,how are you?

Her: I'm fine,you?

Me: I'm fine too

Her: Thank God. Please I need some money,like 50cedis(5000naira)

Me: ok. Where should I send it to?

Her: this number. The name is ****


After the call I sent the money straight away. After that day,it became regular. She would call severally in a month to request for money,and I sent every time she requested.

Because of her frequent demand from me,I felt I should propose, Thursday she came back for Easter holiday.

Today I spoke with her about the possibility of dating her,and she rejected my proposal straight away. When I asked why she said I'm not a Muslim,that she needs a serious Muslim,not even a part time Muslim.

Then I asked if she will accept if I become a Muslim. She said no,she needs someone that will even teach her more about Islam.

I said ok, that's fine. I'll move on.

I wanted to tell her straight up to stop calling me when she get back to school,for some reasons I didn't,but within me I know I can never send her money.


PLEASE AM I BEING HARSH ON HER?

Truths9ja:
Wow Jaruma really show love here. Meanwhile, Kelly Hassino Gives Fresh Update On VeryDarkMan’s Arrest

Media personality, Kelly Hassino has given a fresh update on the arrest of the Nigerian social media activist, Verydarkman as he revealed why fans and followers should not expect his release anytime soon.

It would be recalled that the social media critic was arrested a few days back and despite being reportedly granted bail conditions, he remained behind bars.

Speaking on his continued detention, Hassino said the political forces behind the case of the critic are stronger beyond expectations.


He further disclosed via his Facebook account that all efforts to secure his release by other celebrities, regardless of their influence will amount to nothing because of those on the critic’s case.


“There’s rumors of a very dark man being released but I can tell you authoritatively that he hasn’t been released. I’m privy to some information about the details of his case and I can tell you that he may not be released anytime soon due to the powers against him.


“Despite meeting his bail conditions and top celebrities trying to wade into his matter to influence his release, in government, power passes power and some of the most powerful people with raw and powers are people you haven’t even heard their names before or seen on television.

“Verydarkblackman doesn’t live far from where I live. I got to know his “one-room” house where he makes all the content and I was surprised it’s close to mine. About 10 minutes drive.


“No amount of protest or calls for his release can save him seeing the nature or mentality of the people against him.

“They would rather the country burns down than not satisfy their desires but we’ll keep trying hopefully they hear. I do this because I understand I could be arrested too someday and Verydarkman is the kind of guy to stand up for one.”



https://newtelegraphng.com/kelly-hassino-gives-fresh-update-on-verydarkmans-arrest/#google_vignette

So, powerful people are keeping him in jail. What happened to our law? People are now bigger than court? Danm,we are finished

ifytrik:
what did I just read, did you just say this buses are better than most the vehicles used for transportation in ibadan? And people still enter them? The government really needs to do something about this death traps plying Nigeria roads, no Nigeria state deserve this type of bus except if they will used solely for transporting animals or farm product

Oh,you never go ibadan? Go and see for yourself

Islie:
DHQ: Troops Make Gains, Recover Weapons of Slain Soldiers in Delta, Says No Hiding Place for Killers of 18 Military Personnel

*Organs of slain soldiers traced, recovered Declares viral video of suspect narrows investigation to persons of interest

*Declares Delta govt, host communities must provide assistance*Troops will continue to take the risk to defend nation



https://www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2024/03/23/dhq-troops-make-gains-recover-weapons-of-slain-soldiers-in-delta-says-no-hiding-place-for-killers-of-18-military-personnel ‌

They've got reason to declare war in Delta state. Keep killing innocent people nan,e go over you. Non be delta state when I know? Militants will show you shege

Richtaiwo:
What happened to, "it will get to 3000/$ before the end of March"? Even if the rate gets to half Naira to one Dollar, you enemies of Nigeria will still find reasons to continue screaming. By that time, it will cease to be Tinubu's doing but the effort of pitobi. Please find a way of getting the hell out of Nigeria. Gerrout.

How you lot think supporting a drug lord means you're patriotic is what I don't understand

lailo:
Obidient movement doesn't belong to LP, everyone knows that. Obidient movement is Igbo movement to ascend Nigeria presidency. Only mumu no go know that

I'm from Edo,and I'm obidient. IGBO AND TRIBALISM WILL KILL YOU One day.Ozuor