tommy589:

Why?

jasent:
Good evening people. Please be the judge and let me know if I'm being wicked

In the compound where I live in Ghana, there's this 19 old girl. Infact,I got to know her when she was 14,she was respectful so I kept her as my friend. When she turned 18,I had interest in her but I was afraid of her rejecting my proposal and I didn't want to lose the respect she has for me. Fast forward to January 2023,I bought a new car. And then she repeatedly begged that I start teaching her how to drive.

I was afraid of what the father would say if he finds out that I'm taking her out for driving lessons,but reluctantly I took her out for learning like twice. So around March she went to school in another region. They don't allow them to go to school with phones,so when in school she becomes unreachable, except she calls.

So one day,I was just somewhere when a call from from a number not on my contact came. The call went like this:

Me:Hello

Her: Good morning, it's me Amina

Me:oh Good morning,how are you?

Her: I'm fine,you?

Me: I'm fine too

Her: Thank God. Please I need some money,like 50cedis(5000naira)

Me: ok. Where should I send it to?

Her: this number. The name is ****


After the call I sent the money straight away. After that day,it became regular. She would call severally in a month to request for money,and I sent every time she requested.

Because of her frequent demand from me,I felt I should propose, Thursday she came back for Easter holiday.

Today I spoke with her about the possibility of dating her,and she rejected my proposal straight away. When I asked why she said I'm not a Muslim,that she needs a serious Muslim,not even a part time Muslim.

Then I asked if she will accept if I become a Muslim. She said no,she needs someone that will even teach her more about Islam.

I said ok, that's fine. I'll move on.

I wanted to tell her straight up to stop calling me when she get back to school,for some reasons I didn't,but within me I know I can never send her money.


PLEASE AM I BEING HARSH ON HER?

What of the one whey she don chop?


Women shaaaaaa oh.


You made a missed-stake with the asking her out. This kind of babe, you go just assume the position of a boyfriend.

jasent:
Good evening people. Please be the judge and let me know if I'm being wicked

In the compound where I live in Ghana, there's this 19 old girl. Infact,I got to know her when she was 14,she was respectful so I kept her as my friend. When she turned 18,I had interest in her but I was afraid of her rejecting my proposal and I didn't want to lose the respect she has for me. Fast forward to January 2023,I bought a new car. And then she repeatedly begged that I start teaching her how to drive.

I was afraid of what the father would say if he finds out that I'm taking her out for driving lessons,but reluctantly I took her out for learning like twice. So around March she went to school in another region. They don't allow them to go to school with phones,so when in school she becomes unreachable, except she calls.

So one day,I was just somewhere when a call from from a number not on my contact came. The call went like this:

Me:Hello

Her: Good morning, it's me Amina

Me:oh Good morning,how are you?

Her: I'm fine,you?

Me: I'm fine too

Her: Thank God. Please I need some money,like 50cedis(5000naira)

Me: ok. Where should I send it to?

Her: this number. The name is ****


After the call I sent the money straight away. After that day,it became regular. She would call severally in a month to request for money,and I sent every time she requested.

Because of her frequent demand from me,I felt I should propose, Thursday she came back for Easter holiday.

Today I spoke with her about the possibility of dating her,and she rejected my proposal straight away. When I asked why she said I'm not a Muslim,that she needs a serious Muslim,not even a part time Muslim.

Then I asked if she will accept if I become a Muslim. She said no,she needs someone that will even teach her more about Islam.

I said ok, that's fine. I'll move on.

I wanted to tell her straight up to stop calling me when she get back to school,for some reasons I didn't,but within me I know I can never send her money.


PLEASE AM I BEING HARSH ON HER?

What of the one whey she don chop?


Women shaaaaaa oh.


You made a missed-stake with the asking her out. This kind of babe, you go just assume the position of a boyfriend.


Just arrange go and see her in school. Feign interest in her bestie

stanvesco:



What of the one whey she don chop?


Women shaaaaaa oh.


You made a missed-stake with the asking her out. This kind of babe, you go just assume the position of a boyfriend.

I know one of her friend that's very beautiful. I'm even thinking of getting close to that one

jasent:

Thanks. But I was not looking at buying her affection though.

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EreluRoz:
Learn to give without expecting anything in return

When OP want to Japata!?

How old are you and why have you had her as your friend since she was 14?

jasent:
lol. Why you vex like this? What makes me a fool? That I want to stop supporting her or for supporting her in the first place?

I don't know why women don't see anything wrong in begging...Geez!!..its so unattractive...

even woman wey u dey fvck seff..it gets to a point always asking for money becomes irritating
... ..once a man says hello to them.. weda he's romantically interested or not...they just seize opportunity to use him for money...

....u shouldn't have sent money to her the first time....
....there are lots of people who need genuine help...not some girl in school who's not just contended with what her father gives her..

She knows what she's doing...she knows u like her..... she's just exploiting you

advanceDNA:


I don't know why women don't see anything wrong in begging...Geez!!..its so unattractive...

even woman wey u dey fvck seff..it gets to a point always asking for money becomes irritating
... ..once a man says hello to them.. weda he's romantically interested or not...they just seize opportunity to use him for money...

....u shouldn't have sent money to her the first time....
....there are lots of people who need genuine help...not some girl in school who's not just contended with what her father gives her..

She knows what she's doing...she knows u like her..... she's just exploiting you

Thanks

EreluRoz:
You never had good intentions for her else this isn't enough to stop sending money to her.

God will send her another helper.

Learn to help people without expecting anything in return.

It's only women that can give advise that they can't give to their sons.

jasent:
Good evening people. Please be the judge and let me know if I'm being wicked

In the compound where I live in Ghana, there's this 19 old girl. Infact,I got to know her when she was 14,she was respectful so I kept her as my friend. When she turned 18,I had interest in her but I was afraid of her rejecting my proposal and I didn't want to lose the respect she has for me. Fast forward to January 2023,I bought a new car. And then she repeatedly begged that I start teaching her how to drive.

I was afraid of what the father would say if he finds out that I'm taking her out for driving lessons,but reluctantly I took her out for learning like twice. So around March she went to school in another region. They don't allow them to go to school with phones,so when in school she becomes unreachable, except she calls.

So one day,I was just somewhere when a call from from a number not on my contact came. The call went like this:

Me:Hello

Her: Good morning, it's me Amina

Me:oh Good morning,how are you?

Her: I'm fine,you?

Me: I'm fine too

Her: Thank God. Please I need some money,like 50cedis(5000naira)

Me: ok. Where should I send it to?

Her: this number. The name is ****


After the call I sent the money straight away. After that day,it became regular. She would call severally in a month to request for money,and I sent every time she requested.

Because of her frequent demand from me,I felt I should propose, Thursday she came back for Easter holiday.

Today I spoke with her about the possibility of dating her,and she rejected my proposal straight away. When I asked why she said I'm not a Muslim,that she needs a serious Muslim,not even a part time Muslim.

Then I asked if she will accept if I become a Muslim. She said no,she needs someone that will even teach her more about Islam.

I said ok, that's fine. I'll move on.

I wanted to tell her straight up to stop calling me when she get back to school,for some reasons I didn't,but within me I know I can never send her money.


PLEASE AM I BEING HARSH ON HER?

I have a sinking feeling that you cannot resist sending money to the girl,you are a good man and a gentleman to wait till she is 18yrs to propose and also give her money anytime she asks,you may not believe but your good man behavior maybe the reason she is not interested in a relationship with you,she may even be unhappy that you are forming big boy when she is giving you green light at 15yrs

jasent:
Good evening people. Please be the judge and let me know if I'm being wicked

In the compound where I live in Ghana, there's this 19 old girl. Infact,I got to know her when she was 14,she was respectful so I kept her as my friend. When she turned 18,I had interest in her but I was afraid of her rejecting my proposal and I didn't want to lose the respect she has for me. Fast forward to January 2023,I bought a new car. And then she repeatedly begged that I start teaching her how to drive.

I was afraid of what the father would say if he finds out that I'm taking her out for driving lessons,but reluctantly

Op what you did here is known as simping. So she can't date you but can collect money she's taking advantage of you. You need to wash your hands and stop sending her money i'm sure there are other aspects of your life the funds can go to. You need to start visiting the redpill thread. Next time she calls don't pick it or do and tell her no.

EreluRoz:
Learn to give without expecting anything in return

Your head no correct.

Another Nigerian man who wants to buy genuine desire.

So, if she had agreed to your conversion attempt, you would have converted to Islam because of woman wey still dey school? Looking at the history between you and her, it is obvious you are older than she is by at least seven years. With that, she is better off marrying a practicing Muslim, even if he is way older than you. Nice calculation from her.

She is a smart girl.

Bellotelli:

It's only women that can give advise that they can't give to their sons.

Don't mind her

okoroemeka:
I have a sinking feeling that you cannot resist sending money to the girl,you are a good man and a gentleman to wait till she is 18yrs to propose and also give her money anytime she asks,you may not believe but your good man behavior maybe the reason she is not interested in a relationship with you,she may even be unhappy that you are forming big boy when she is giving you green light at 15yrs

Thanks,but I have already zero my mind. Never sending her a penny

Help your same sex; help your fellow man, na brotherhood menz dey

jasent:

I know one of her friend that's very beautiful. I'm even thinking of getting close to that one

I am not advising you to become a bad boy. If you are interested in her, then you should plan out your game to get her and not flirt with every girl in the hood

EreluRoz:
Learn to give without expecting anything in return

Is this applicable to men only or girls should also give their totos without expecting anything in return

stanvesco:


I am not advising you to become a bad boy. If you are interested in her, then you should plan out your game to get her and not flirt with every girl in the hood

No, I'm not a bad boy. I won't become one before of her. However,I wasn't giving her friend attention because of her. But now that she's off the table,I think I can give some attention to her friend

If you send her any money from henceforth even when the majority of sane people here have advised you to stop, na thunder go fire you

EreluRoz:
You never had good intentions for her else this isn't enough to stop sending money to her.

God will send her another helper.

Learn to help people without expecting anything in return.

This is not help. The lady is taking advantage of his generosity and exploiting him. Let's be truthful please

EreluRoz:
Learn to give without expecting anything in return

Take over and start sending from where he stopped pls

Olayinka8793:
If you send her any money from henceforth even when the majority of sane people here have advised you to stop, na thunder go fire you

Bro,if I send it means I be fool

jasent:

Haa. So,i should just keep sending 15k and above monthly to someone I have nothing with when I'm also having other responsibilities at home? What if she's sending my money to her boyfriend? I should keep sending? Nawa o

Clear things up with her. Don't cut her off completely though. That's shitty.

Simply tell her that you may not be able to meet up with her requests instantly again whenever she asks.
We humans gain an entitlement mentality when we get something easily. So when she asked the first few times and noticed that it didn't seem to be a problem or constraint for you, she took full advantage of the situation.
Normal thing.

It's up to you to reduce your generosity... cos that's what people will call it. *Generosity*

Don't fulfill her demands instantly. Sometimes even, you can tell her that no cash dey currently.
But that doesn't mean you should do that every single time though.

I hope you understand my epistle

Innobee99:
This is not help. The lady is taking advantage of his generosity and exploiting him. Let's be truthful please

Exactly. Same thing we all do though.
You see an opportunity, you take full advantage

AsaBlackheart:


Clear things up with her. Don't cut her off completely though. That's shitty.

Simply tell her that you may not be able to meet up with her requests instantly again whenever she asks.
We humans gain an entitlement mentality when we get something easily. So when she asked the first few times and noticed that it didn't seem to be a problem or constraint for you, she took full advantage of the situation.
Normal thing.

It's up to you to reduce your generosity... cos that's what people will call it. *Generosity*

Don't fulfill her demands instantly. Sometimes even, you can tell her that no cash dey currently.
But that doesn't mean you should do that every single time though.

I hope you understand my epistle

Thanks. Truth is,I will not be able to keep helping her going forward. I need a woman,and it will be difficult to be supportive to her and my woman. Bro,you have no idea how much I've spent on this girl.

I'm still trying to see where the dots connect between helping a lady and that help making her an automatic date. Like seriously??.. you helped her a few times with some cedis and she's expected to become yours. Just like that?

Did you ever think of what she wants or respect the fact that she's still a student and doesn't need any form of distractions at this time?

You men will never cease to amaze me.

pozehnani:
I'm still trying to see where the dots connect between helping a lady and that help making her an automatic date. Like seriously??.. you helped her a few times with some cedis and she's expected to become yours. Just like that?

Did you ever think of what she wants or respect the fact that she's still a student and doesn't need any form of distractions at this time?

You men will never cease to amaze me.

men will never cease to amaze you yenyenyen. Coming here to type nonsense as if I pick money from the floor. How many male students are you sending money too? I can give you her contact so you take over from where I stopped. If me withdrawing my support for her triggers you so badly,I guess you won't have problem taking over from me. Entitlement mentality

jasent:
men will never cease to amaze you yenyenyen. Coming here to type nonsense as if I pick money from the floor. How many male students are you sending money too? I can give you her contact so you take over from where I stopped. If me withdrawing my support for her triggers you so badly,I guess you won't have problem taking over from me. Entitlement mentality

Wow! Who's the entitled one here? Is it I who think you should not take advantage of someone because of the help you rendered or you who feel you have a right to her body just because of a few cedis you spared.

I don't need to mention the number of students I help and even nonstudent but I don't go feeling entitled over them because of that.

Please take a chill pill and chillax.

jasent:

Thanks. Truth is,I will not be able to keep helping her going forward. I need a woman,and it will be difficult to be supportive to her and my woman. Bro,you have no idea how much I've spent on this girl.

I have no doubts you have spent a lot on her really.
But then again it was your fault for assuming that she would agree to date you. Women are very complicated creatures 😕