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patrickdarlins:
men are are everywere......good men are scarce now...hope u know...and besides...time is not on her side..

Na by force to marry? Leave time alone joor. So, because of time she should just marry anyhow shey?
I don't believe that. I'd take being single and happy any day any time than being married and made to feel miserable.
It's hard o, but if bro can't deal with issue, she should free him instead of getting married to him and the guy would feel trapped and coerced into the marriage.

it wasn't me.

I can't even come out sef. The key to the door have miss.

patrickdarlins:
and what if the fiancee refused to get along with the marriage rites...what will u do?

Move on with life as hard as it may be.

Is he the only man in the world?

Tell him oooo. It's easier to trust God with a clean conscience. If he chooses to stay, you can trust God together than secretly fighting a battle on your own.
My humble opinion.

Teempakguy:
obviously, I don't have time to yield to sex. I have better things to do,
I also have strong moral values.

Your head is there jare. No mind those ones that lack self control.

[color=#000000][/color] no self control.

Maturity and Self Control. hard to get nowadays. *sighs*

Good start but poor finishing. You should have just encouraged people to be more open to the idea of inter-tribal marriage, citing your marriage as one that works.
People should hear the good stories from marriages not the sob stories that touch.

BTW, based on your analysis, I had better quit my relationship ASAP

here I was thinking it was container that attracts and contents that keeps

Could I have been so wrong all along?

She for no put mouth.

My mum usually tells me not to interfere with husband family issues. Even when asked an opinion or question, diplomatically shift it back to your husband. Not to talk of fight.

ouch...

I'm colour blind.

manee2:
_ now u realize ur not ready for marriage afta banqinq de hell out of ha_ u can pre_marry ha too.

You dey mind am. Mtchewwwww........

Yeye dey smell.

Abeg open ya mouth and let the words flow out jare @ OP.

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]The madness ha started already. . . Soon we'll see batman, spiderman, iron man costumes. And then one genius will dree like a native doctor to propose.

All for show.
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Lmao. Abeg leave me oo. No kill me with laugh. Dressing like native doctor to propose... Epic

Lame ooo.....
Smh.

Awwwwhhhhh................

So touching.................................

Money talks

OP, have you left him yet?

before nko?

I heard it's as a result of contraceptives.

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Na wa ooo...

South Africa na no go area ooo.... cheeiiii

Abomination.
They really have crappy laws in that Country.

Why is Penny the only one who doesn't have a surname?

. Even Stewart has.

The Big Bang Theory forever. I have complete seasons 1- 8 and I can watch it a thousand times over and over and over again.

who's fooling who?
Open marriage is no marriage.

Oyibo can like to deceive ehn... mtchewwwww

Rxpetite:
There used to be a sexkillz on nairaland. Are you him or are using his moniker?

I thought so too. But then the siggy is that of Blackett.

Or has sexkillz been Blackett all along?

Sexxkillz:
[color=#000030]Nigerian girls, we beg you: Pls, do not try this at home. . . Shishi, una no go see. [/color]

Blackett, is this you?

Thank you Jesus. Faithful God. Twale Baba.

Wowww..

DonX001:
Feels good.

When i was still a lil' puppy back in early Uni days, was the one always doing the asking, and wondering if i would ever have the girls be the ones constantly begging to nack akpako.
Now as times have changed, and Baba God has helped the puppy gradually develop into a big lion, i now watch with amusement as the girls try all manner of tricks to get into my bed thinking thats the route to my heart.

Its a nice feeling to have the tables turned, with you on top.
Gives an alpha male feeling, a feeling of control, that feels like a drug.

Feels really good, i tell ya.

Baba God didn't turn you into a big lion so that girls can line up to sleep with you.

dBard:
Obviously, this thread was created in response to some threads that has been making the rounds here concerning guys fidelity in marriage and lowered expectations and family.
First of all, the family is the primary social unit of the society and as such happiness on the home front Shouldn't be compromised.
Happiness in the home IS a consequence of our choices..choices primarily of our marriage/life partners, the choices of the kind of family we're getting into, external influences (friends, counselors etc) and personal choices.
Choices should always be made keeping in mind future outcomes... you meet a guy/girl who's unstable, promiscous, undisciplined and u end up with the person as the choicemof your life partner, wat do u expect in the future
Personal experience, I got a friend who slept with a girl on his marriage eve, overnight. Was I surprised? No..cos he had a long history of such behavior of which his long time, long suffering wife was/ is aware of. Will I take her serious if I see her complaining tomorrow, obviously NOT.
You can't make the wrong choice of a life partner and expect a happy home, same way you can't lay the wrong foundation and try to build a skyscraper #synagoguechurch
You marry for the wrong reason or you make the wrong choices then it becomes Your bed to lie on Not the norm.

Do guys cheat? Yes..
Do Most/All guys cheat??......NO!
I honestly don't know where that assertion came from.
Guys are generally sexual, but they are also reckless, egotistical but also largely responsible.
Do guys fantasize about sex..yes, a lot.... but they do that the same way they fantasize about being able to do Jackie chan stunts or being as agile and dangerous as Jason Statham, But u don't see them facing off armed individuals or leaping off the face of tall buildings do you

Fantasy doesn't necessarily equate to reality (p.s...impure thoughts weaken the resolve and shouldn't be indulged)
A guy that loves his wife will find it Really difficult to cheat on her.
Cheating ain't easy and a lot of people will rather not make the effort except it comes on a platter of gold and even then half the no will still probably reject.
There are a Whole lot of fellows who've been married for a while, faithful to themselves, their spouses amd their God but for some reason, people don't get to hear about these, rather it's the 'tales of woes ' that gets 'glorified'.
Its largely immature guys that gets led by their penis. Most marriageable fellows have already attained that discipline to a large extent and those that haven't can easily be spotted out IF u care to look.

P.s..if ur husband is faithful, step up and celebrate him to counter the negative propaganda.

I also read on a thread where ladies were advised to lower their expectations in order to be happy..
Question is...does the expectation of an event make the pain less bearable
Does it make it easier to deal with
I don't think so...trauma is trauma and no matter how desensitized u try to make yourselves, it WILL still leave a scar.
Also, wat moral right do you actually have to condemn the fellow when by your expectations you've given him the 'right' to misbehave.
Will you as a mother, lower your expectations of your children because of stories that abound of children that are bad?

Your expectations will/should hold ur spouse to task...be a reminder of his/her obligation to you.

Cheating shouldn't be tolerated and this should be made very clear to your spouse and any risky behavior (innocently or not) be nipped in d bud early enough....

Some guys cheat, some don't ...for every story of an unfaithful husband/spouse, there's Always another of a Faithful one.
The good is as plentiful as the bad, but unfortunately people never pay as much significance to light as they do to darkness.





Final note, someone once said..' advice maybe likened to metal, picked from the garbage of the persons experiences, gilded over (painted with gold) and sold for far more than it is worth'
Wise words we should always bear in mind

Peace..

OP. You're blessed. This is a very wonderful write -up.
99 likes for you.
It's refreshing to know that some people still reason like this.

Nice shoes...

Maamin:
what do you see

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I see what you mean.