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Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Acidosis(m): 11:29am On Jun 11, 2015 |
aameyah:I'll prefer she spent the 7 years building a career, business, or with her family. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by jashar(f): 11:41am On Jun 11, 2015 |
OP, have you left him yet? |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 11:45am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: Don't say you will never find anyone like him. You will find better sef. I remember when my corper boyfriend told me Then he wasn't ready for marriage after 2 years of dating. He was my first boyfriend and I dated him exclusively during service and 1 year after service. If I had left earlier the first time he gave me an inkling he wasn't ready, I'd have at least had a nice time during my service year. Instead I was busy cooking and feeling like a responsible wife. I believed in him so much. Mind you, he didn't act the responsible husband by buying the Food or dropping Food money. I had guys dying for me But I ignored them all. Fast forward to the 2nd year anniversary of that relationship. He told me he didn't want to tie me down and that We transition into an open relationship whereby I'm dating him But if any guy comes to me for marriage, I should marry. We hadn't even seen physically after service, when I'd tearfully bade him bye. No one in my family knew him. And this was 2 years after. For me, that was the last straw. Why didn't you tell me all the time We were at service? Why after 2 years? It wasn't an easy decision to take But for me, it was all or nothing. I Can't be with you and still be available for another man. I don't roll like that. So I broke up with him.... TO BE CONTINUED.... NB - I think that was What he expected shaaa |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by iyobs7(f): 11:49am On Jun 11, 2015 |
Sexxkillz: Highly volatile combustible and valid |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Oluwaplumpie(m): 11:59am On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:what is this thing with ladies and this "I have offers from different guys"? How can u compare them to what u have carefully nurtured over a seven year period? Are ur lives really all about marriage? Why do women see marriage as an achievement? One they cannot do without or one they must do 'on time'? |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by blakky97(m): 12:17pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:Okay persuade ur dad to assist him in his business so he gets rich on time. Do you love him? Then do it for love. 2pac said " what you can doooooooo, do for love, you've tried every thing, but you don't give uppppp" |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by believer01: 12:24pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
aameyah:PLS FINISH YOUR STORY |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by believer01: 12:24pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
blakky97:THANK YOU |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by blakky97(m): 12:25pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01: Okay na you know na. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 12:45pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
believer01:I'm in a moving car Please. Will do that Once I'm home. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 1:19pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
blakky97: @believer01 do not try this. He has not asked for your help. Don't fall into transactional relationship where you expect him to marry you because your father helped him. Unless you are helping him out of the goodness of your heart from one human to another but not because you want him to hurry the hell up and marry you. You are not this desperate the world is full of men this man has a right to choose to marry you or not because you've been together for seven years does not automatically mean he owes you the rest of his life. Happily you are still young, fresh and beautiful. If you like you can inform him of your desire to get married and if he is not ready you start dating other available men just as he does not owe you his life you do not owe him your life. Has it even occurred to you that it could easily have been you who does not want to marry him now or ever would you have felt obligated to marry him? and even if you marry him out of some false sense of obligation would you, could you have been happy? Would you marry a man just because he set up a business for you? If he does not want to marry you now or ever it is not the end of you again you are young, fresh and beautiful you can even do yourself a makeover if you like.You want a man who is happy, eager to marry you not one you had to persuade, manipulate into marriage or someone who is marrying you out of some false sense of obligation. Whatever the result of your talks with him Believer01 believe in yourself and go rock your life. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by tommychow(m): 2:09pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
When she leaves him, the dude will come on NL to make a thread, "my gf of 7 years left me because I couldn't make millions on time". Then, NL guys will be ranting about how she's a gold digger. Trust me, only God can solve your problem. This is coming from someone who isn't even a strong Christian. Everyone is acting all Dr. Phil on you, giving you their predictions. How can you trust them with your life and act on their advices? YOLO! |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by blakky97(m): 2:14pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
andromida: I took time to check your profile and saw something that says you're an estate developer. or at least an agent. we could do something that will fetch us money. if you dont mind we chat over bbm. forget about this topic of marrying him or father assistance. lets talk legit money here. im sure you love it right? that means we have something in common. btw; that house in gwarimpa, has it been sold? see what I mean? permit me and I'll send you my pin or an invitation as you deem fit. lastly; im very decent. so dont worry yourself. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 2:45pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Billyonaire:Sir, How did u make ur billions please, can I just PM you, I need to make millions b4 30. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by JLM(f): 10:09pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
aameyah: OMG my dear sis dis is really terrible, hmm am so glad dat i wasnt more than d 2 years 4 u! U see wetin I don de talk since? make this gal no fall my hand o. Menn, to dem love is bedmatics and food shikenan, most times any woman dat can wash cook , has a job will do, dats y ladies should be very carefull n not oo sentimental ,wen it comes to marriage remove sentiment, think clearly n maturedly and ask God for direction. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 11:00pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Acidosis:shit happens |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by senjuma: 12:00am On Jun 12, 2015 |
hmmn..i can only imagine ur dilema..7 or 8 years is not a small journey really and that makes it more tasking for u having gone this far together...relationship evolves overtime but shouldn't take too long period to determine its direction which I think is d mistake here.. both of ur values for d relationship might have changed and defer considerably overtime without u realizing it especially when there are too many assumptions rather than working with some good level of facts and realities..I think at this point uv got to put emotions aside and be more firm and decisive in determining d course of d relationship..be determined to maintain or change ur course as d case may be depending on ur conviction..relationships come to serve different purposes not necessarily to end in marriage..please take Sunny's advice and consider other people's good opinions too..take time to pray about it..wish u all d best! |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by believer01: 8:20am On Jun 12, 2015 |
Thank you all I really appreciate all your contributions and advise. You all gave me courage to face my fear I wasn't wrong when I said I believe I can get a candid advise from the forum. Thanks a million. Going back to my original moniker I may not reply on this again |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 10:55am On Jun 12, 2015 |
aameyah:Amee, come nd finish up ur story na, peeps like me dey wait abi ur car never stop since |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by MRBrownJ: 11:26am On Jun 12, 2015 |
A40: Button did score some points so Alonso MUST score some points this yr....by fire or by force! i am going to seek fo that thread right away! Truthfully I don't respond very well to ultimatums and emotional blackmail which is why if the guy is anything like me the girl might as well do like CeCe and keep on Walking. Women would be women and they all crave marriage at some point. I'm sure if it was a shorter relationship she wouldn't even be here asking this question, she would have since voted with her feet exactly.....and communcication is all what is needed here, in order for all of them to be settled, once and for all. Let's be clear I'm not saying the guy is at blame for anything. Same way the girl has every right to walk out of this relationship if its not going to have a desirable outcome for her. They should be willing to meet each other halfway. i agree...... but sadly, sometimes the misplaced ego of men will get in the way, and thus, they would rather let go of that r/ship than live a life which is below their expectations. as i always say, it has to FEEL RIGHT for you before you do anything in this world, whether 3,7 or 20 yrs dating. @JLM you sound like a woman who is trying to sell a product that is getting closer to its sell by date? i suggest you women focus on being HAPPY first, it will do you a lot of good... because, if desperately seeking for a man to accept you as a bride, is solely what you do during these "prime" years of yours, then i am sorry to say that you are wasting them away. be happy with who you are as a person, be content with what you got and what you have achieved, count your blessings, focus on you etc.... and when you do, find someone who will possibly love you as much as you love yourself.... instead of seeking for someone to make you a "seemingly" valuable being. if you believe that most r/ship must end up in marriage, then you do live in fantasyland. if you believe that most r/ship over a certain period of time must end up in marriage then you are living in desperation land. if you believe that marriage must be rushed because a woman gets older (aka body clock) then i can only weep for the miserable union you will end up into, as soon as you marry the donkey that decided to settle with you. a man is not ready to marry a certain lady, he makes it CLEAR that he needs some foundations before he does (anyone thinking of marrying someone without any is a damn fool)....and therefore, he sticks to his goals/aim in life. how more of a clear picture do you think the OP needs here?! our forefathers had better foundations in their lives, better MINDSET, and they lived in a time where people valued each other for the RIGHT reasons. you cant compare these great people with the miserable ones who live today. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Acidosis(m): 12:23pm On Jun 12, 2015 |
nma24:hmmn |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 2:37pm On Jun 12, 2015 |
believer01: First of all if this guy doesn't know how blessed he is to be with someone he loves & who loves him back even when he is not yet where he wants to be its a shame.Well he is lucky.Now to your questions 1.Waiting forever might mean waiting in vain..so sister no try am na O.Y.O be that. 2.Those offers will cease to come at some point cos i blv that what radiates from you gets to others like the scent of fragrance.If you keep turning every down,giving cold shoulders, soon u will become like a guy repellant if u get what i mean..guys would start avoiding u like bad news.My advise for you here is sit ur current boyfriend and agree on an open relationship where u both are free to date other ppl whether u have sex with them or not is nobody's biz. 3.Who says it would be difficult to understand another when u hv never even tried to.? there is a thing called chemistry even when its just the first date u would both feel as if u hv known each other for ages..but u wouldn't know cos u've been flogging that same old dead horse. 4.Man must hold him side one kind at least & everyone of us sane guys wants to be rich and get married to their dream girl,protect and provide for her and the kids,grow in love daily but I swear to God if you have one of these two(either riches or the dream girl)You must make some moves naa to that end..and sorry to say except the guy doesn't have plans for u in his future he go don even do introduction at all at all..if not,God go win. 5.Don't rush him it will make u desperate and wtv...but let him know how u feel about the whole settings and ask him that u need to know where u stand 7 yrs no be joke ooo ahhh Men dey pray the girl come before the major cheese so that e go easy to know how the true love thing them dey talk about dey go him dey there dey slack,except you get comma when u no gree tell us oo ..all the best sha 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by believer01: 3:28pm On Jun 12, 2015 |
runnazz:thank you |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 3:38pm On Jun 12, 2015 |
believer01: U welcome |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 12:00am On Jun 13, 2015 |
Ehennn. I'm back. Sorry for the break in transmission. STORY CONTINUED. Like I said I think he actually expected me to call off the so called relationship at his suggestion of an open relationship. After the break up i was like, Haaa! At that point, I was searching for a job on the internet. Where will I meet somebody else when I'm a recluse that rarely goes out? I had gone to Sec school, uni and finally service. Here i was, I was as single as I'd ever been. My aunty had even started raising my Name in marriage prayer points in her house. Infact, one of the pictures I'd exchanged with her daughter was being used as the point of contact. Take note that this wasn't because there was desperation, But the fact that they had never seen me with a guy called boyfriend. Remember I said my corper never met ANY of my folks. And when it gets to point, where a man you care so much about is so flippant about your emotions, you tend to think of many different things. Choi. Is it that I Can't keep a man? Am i so unlovable? But What was a woman supposed to do that I didn't do? I had cooked, had intelligent convos, looked sexy. I had even knelt to apologize on a certain occasion. Take note I was a very young corper, who looked very young and innocent. Everything I did was out of love., pure love. The way I felt was like attending a wedding. Imagine You get all sorts of dishes offered you. But you decline Because your friend who is sister to the bride promised you a special plate of Food. After everything, she walks up to you that Food is finished. That was How I felt Because of all the toasters I'd turned down for him. Because even before We started the relationship, I told him I wasn't out to play. Yet, here he was telling me stories that touch after 2 years. Nairalanders, If you think two years wasn't a long time, Please dash me 24 hrs that you have created! I dey come. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 12:03am On Jun 13, 2015 |
JLM: My dear, na so i see am o. One needs to be logical in acting with guys ooo |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 12:04am On Jun 13, 2015 |
jimmy4x: I Don kontinu |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by aameyah(f): 12:05am On Jun 13, 2015 |
believer01:Please see above. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by A40(m): 1:13am On Jun 13, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: I might not be married but I've seen my fair share and what I have come to realize is every woman loves 'Security' don't forget this an African society that places heavy emphasis on a woman getting married at a certain age. Its one thing to be the object of scorn and ridicule to strangers and mere acquaintances its another when its coming from your own blood who should know better. There are different rules for guys and girls that is why I can openly tell my folks I'm not ready for marriage and they don't sniff but a girl my age cannot try that (I have numerous gfs who are now married so I can relate better than most) It takes a woman with superhuman emotional and mental fortitude to be able to hold her head high and not bow to these societal cliches For me this is a very simple issue that we are just blowing unnecessary grammar on. Just like you I don't believe any man is compelled to marry a woman regardless of the duration of the relationship but it would be unfair to expect loyalty from such woman when the man in question has not made any commitment formal or informal. Marriages and relationships are a form of contract whether you like it or not and each party has their role to play |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Femistico(m): 1:39pm On Jun 19, 2015 |
ForteNL:ok babe...stay blessed with baba God and help me say hi to him...tell him say life no easy ooo...we still dey street.. |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Cavenchy(m): 3:40pm On Jun 20, 2015 |
Femistico: Haha! Don't let make-up fool ya bro, these girls can look like beyonce if they have the proper skills to handle the brush and pen and liner. Btw, this one looks okay though. Just saying in a more general sense. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Static. Mature Minds Only Please by Nobody: 10:04am On Jun 22, 2015 |
Femistico: Lol |
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