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I've got 3 substitutes to come in so I'm definitely winning the head-to-head bro.
Just barely though

If you live in the western world then simply create a gift list with a reputable company and make one of your options monetary gift vouchers.

Thumbs up to the dad

PM sent to seun so please be patient. You got banned cos one of you posts was tagged by the spam-bot and u tried re-posting it again with another ID.
You haven't been signalled out for banning as the spam bot doesn't discriminate

Basildon1:
Clinically obese or not, are you implying that they deserve to be lonely or cheated on?

Nope but most times things usually get like that cos of their insecurities

Basildon1:
Life is tough and the human mind is funny. A guy will think twice before acting up when you know u r very replaceable. It goes both ways

That's the FACT and it doesn't have anything to do with the other person being fat.
Something must have attracted him to her or before he said hello. So him now treating her bad doesn't necessarily have a correlation with her weight.
Like MrBrownjay has clearly highlighted with halle berry and eric bennet. You can also relate that to David beckham and posh etc.
Men will cheat regardless of a woman's weight. The point is it's an easy excuse

Ujujoan:
We all have our opinions JB but you can't have it your way ALL the time . . . especially when it affects your spouse directly! I thought the whole thing was all about compromise and not control

Compromising shouldn't equate to changing someone
You accommodate their shortfalls as they do to yours. That's what relationships should be about.

dayokanu:
If your spouse is close minded, then you have to employ a lot of logical reasoning.

GBAM. Question answered all in one sentence
If he is close minded then deal with him with a lot of patience.

Basildon1:
Bro, u know what I am talking about we are not talking of Body mass index and crap like that. And we definitely not talking of chubby chicks. we talking of fat gals. A 24 yr old gal wearing size 22 expecting toasters to be lined up at her door, c'mon man!

Almost all the girls i know complain about being fat hence me bringing out the clinically obese argument.
Point is most people are fat and that doesn't make them less attractive.
With being clinically obese as highlighted in your post then that's a totally different ball game

Basildon1:
This seems like speaking untruths just to score brownie points with the females. Fat guys,fat chicks have more difficulties in the dating game[b] (FACT). [/b] Inner beauty aside, you are more likely to hold on tighter to a hot looking partner.

It is not a crime to be fat but let's accept the truth,your choices are limited. Nothing good comes easy, we would all love to stuff our faces 24/7 but we dont and if you do there's a price to pay.

Not saying being slim helps but at least you get to pick your poison. U have admit Halle Berry did have an excellent choice in 'poisons'.

Based on your research?
Do you actually know how many peeps are declared fat?
I hope you know we aren't talking about clinically obese peeps here.

I love me some meat on the bone.
Something along the line of lamb shank will do it for me. hehehehehhehehe

Mrs, Eve:
It okay, you don't like me noways,

You sure abt dat?

Mr $ Cork:
Jaybee. hello sir!! We cool!

Yeah we kool so please stay on topic

stranger:
No worries

You could not have done better

Remember. . . comprehension skills? I don't blame you, when you have all sorts of people as mods.

This i don't get but it's all coolio still

I cleaned the thread and i apologise if i mistakenly deleted posts embedded with rich reasoning and counter arguments.

Did you try posting spam like posts?
Obvious reason why the other ID was banned is because you posted the same message using another ID hence the SPAM BOT tagging you as a spammer.

Point me to the post/thread that got you banned and i will PM the admin for you.
Ta

Chei dis was me thinking the OP was talking about one night stand (Mind you nothing wrong with it if that's what rocks your boat).
With regards to your question, you guys have been e-dating for 3 years so ain't nothing wrong if the royal rumble happens the first night. It's not going to be termed as one night stand and if the dude has waited that long then logic tells me he won't bail after shagging u on the first night.
Frankly, people don't e-date for that long these days

BTW: Wats with your username? Cos going by your username u surely don't have anything to worry about. Kini big deal?
hmmmmmmmm

Ujujoan:


I'm not just talking about being controlling (that I can handle), I'm talking about being close-minded . . . . When you are not even ready to hear people out but are bent on your own ideas! I've been in relationships before and I've never had to argue with a man about what kind of car I should drive! This is not about being ready to get married, this is about not losing yourself in the name of marriage!

Some people are strong opinionated and no matter what you do it will be a monumental task to shift them from there comfort zone. Like I've said being close minded is not necessarily a bad thing you just have to accept the other person's flaws for what they are.

Ujujoan:
Do you automatically decide EVERYTHING in your relationship? Just because you are a man?

No i don't, but i do have things that I've strong opinions on and wouldn't shift my position all because i want to make her happy and i expect her to do the same.
Once u realise that you guys are always going to be two different individuals with two different background/understanding coming together to make things work then the better it will be to accepting someone for who they her.
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Ujujoan:
I can handle the ego of an ordinary man, but this is waaaay beyond it! A man shouldnt feel the need to control a woman just because he's the man!

Then I'm afraid you are not yet ready to get married. Most men have ego problem (Me Included) and reason for this can be explained by our cultural beliefs and whatnot.
You are also talking about 2 different things entirely. Being close minded doesn't necessarily equate to being controlling.
I could be close minded but still allow you freedom to choose whatever rocks your boat as long as it doesn't affect me.

You have to tenses along the line of:
I see your point but what if we do it this way.
I accept your opinion but don't you think doing it this way might work
I know you have made up you mind on this but i was just wondering if it might work if you try this
Let's try my way first and i will apologise if it doesn't work then we can do it your own way.

The point is you have to allow him feel he is the man as you don't want to crush his ego but still get your point across at the same time.

y me:
actually you were the one who went AWOL on me

U sure about that? left offline messages u know. anyhoo sent u a PM so have a look

Mrs, Eve:
Whatever Jaybee! That why your knees hurting! Hmmph!

hmmm interesting. I'm not getting younger u know. lol

y me:
i don't know if this is meant posting on NL but yeah some girls who happen to be on the big side have this certain degenerated mind set
i have come across some naturally endowed big girls whose BF treat them like sexy trash
and guess what they can't venture to leave them cause they feel there is no man out there who wants them
[b]just to clear you on this if a guy wants to take advantage of a girl it doesnt matter if she is big or sexyly lepa[/b]

That's the point. Nothing to do with being big or what not.
BTW: Been looking for you

Mrs, Eve:
Awww Jaybee, (i will leave the hubby behind )

hmmmmm i see you are in a flirty mood today. hmmm okies

You've got a free pass hun

mamaken:
is this meant as a joke?

Probably belongs under the Jokes section.
We seriously need mental screening before allowing peeps onto these boards

Mrs, Eve:
I see you woke up! Heeey!

Yeah. . , Been looking for moi

how dumb

All Nlers

Big up to the fat girls/boys
everyone needs some love

where else but home