₦airaland Forum

ray121:
Hi everyone.

I do really need your advise on what to do before taking action. I'm a young married guy and married to a single mother. Initially I never knew she had a son but when i got to know i accepted my fate and moving on. We now living together and had my own daughter for me.

The step son started school now under my roof cos he's just a year plus now close to 2. I just discovered the surname the mother used to register the boy is her real dad that they never lived nor stay together. What should i do? is this really true love or i'm fooling myself? I've been taking care of this boy for more than a year now and this is happening.

Please, what should i do? Thanks and God bless.

It's not ur son u r jst a care taker

Ppl take other ppl children and train them from one to 30 yrs.

Do what another man's son to bear ur name, I think dt is foolish. That boy shld ve been left with ur wife's mother n nt living in ur house. Then u can help from a distance

Future agbero n future Doctor

C4Ltd:
got 15% 45 days fbn

wow u r the man

na Ipob dude

thegame:
Instead of you to just pick your camry and go. You had to ruin it with your half baked reason. Smh

it is almost a sin to compare toyota to honda and i am very serious here esp when you are on low maintenance budget

Toyota was made with the Nigerian situation in mind bad road n mechanic, parts everywhere n affordable. an average Toyota engine will easily outlast its honda counterpart.

it is a sin to compare fragile honda to rugged toyota, luxury n fancy is nt a consideration but dependability n ability to withstand extreme abuse n still run- toyota wins with landslide margin

if u r a big man dt rarely rides on a car over 3 years old u may disregards this after all money is nt a problem but if u r like op dt wanna ride on 22years old car think toyota

U dnt compare Toyota with Honda esp when it is Camry n corolla.

I got 13% on less than 91 days TB via first bank secondary market, is this acceptable on 500k

cuttestprince:
Hi,am new here.. I got #600000 given to me by my uncle but no idea of any investment DAT can yield #4000 profit daily...help a brother

Keke or taxi or mini bus driver but u must be d driver to make dt amt daily n u won't spend all 600k jst 350k shld get u going n save like 250k

peterciouspet:
Consultant Endocrinologist and Senior Lecturer at the University of Lagos, Dr Ifedayo Odeniyi, has said that less than 200 endocrinologists are currently practising in Nigeria.

Odeniyi, who raised the alarm over the acute shortage of these diabetes care specialists in the country, spoke at a capacity building workshop organised by Sanofi Aventis Nigeria Limited as part of activities to mark the 2017 World Diabetes Day.

The specialist said that a healthy lifestyle with a balanced diet is non– negotiable if Nigerians were to reduce their risk of developing the disease which the World Health organisation has said affects at least 3.9 million Nigerians.

He said, “As at now, we have less than 200 endocrinologists in the country and this shortage of specialists is the reason why Nigerians must live a lifestyle that will reduce their risk of getting diabetes.

“Many are not exercising. In fact, we have househelps who are healthier than us because we keep sending them on errands back and forth instead of us to do these chores ourselves. The top executives have people carrying their briefcase, they sit and eat through many meetings, all these have effects on our body mass index, a factor that predisposes to diabetes when it’s high,” Odeniyi stated.

The expert who said individuals were more likely to develop Type 2 diabetes as they grow older also listed obesity, use of drugs containing steriods, sedentary lifestyle as some of the risk factors for developing the disease.

Odeniyi, who also corrected the notion that Nigerian foods were loaded with calories and thus, not good for persons with high blood sugar, however, noted that portion control was one of the weapons used to prevent, manage and control diabetes.

The physician, however, cautioned diabetics against skipping meals as this could also worsen their condition.

According to him, persons living with diabetes can eat anything in moderation as long as it is in small portions.

“There is nothing to avoid with diabetes. It is not Nigerian food because all races have it and most countries are battling with it. Even scientists have not discovered what causes it genetically.

“What we know is that diabetes is a disease of discipline. You must eat in moderation. Reduce your intake of fried foods and don’t bleach your palm oil. Reduce your consumption of bokoto, abodi, shaki and offals because they are high in fats and being overweight leads to Type 2 diabetes.

“You should even eat small portions of food, at least four times a day as a diabetic. This is because the beta cells that produce insulin are only produced when you eat. So, when you skip meals, your body will not secrete the insulin that a diabetic really needs.

“You don’t have to eat only beans and unripe plantain. I have patients who eat yam and egg, just two slices with an egg. We also recommend snacking during meals and their last meal should must be before 7.30pm and a small snack before they sleep,” the endocrinologist explained.

Source:- http://www.exclusivepp.com.ng/nigeria-one-endocrinologist-850000-people/

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Take this crap out of here, we need no endcrino - nonsense here we are here to make money.

op Anybody dt tells u to call, WhatsApp or PM him is a scammer. Anything dt can't be shared freely here is scam.

Op u need safe investment nt biz, I recommend mutual fund or Treasury bill. With 1m u can safely make 120k @ least yearly ie 10k monthly. Ur capital will be 1000% secured too

majekdom2:
Fyi, not everyone wants a child in their marriage. We see and hear about this everyother time. Age remains a number!

If u dnt want a child I agree completely but for ppl like me dt is getting married BC of children age is nt a number. I can't afford a childless marriage. A woman above 28 is too old already for me

Destinydele:
I have account with first bank of Nigeria ....., All i did was to give directive to my account officer and sent him the necessary papers....I did one tb last month and another this month with interest and capital roll-over , Bank always debited my account. First bank una well donnn....Thank God for the Gurus in this trend , i will never leave my money idle in my account again...Tb investment is so interesting and can make you smile if you have good capital it can also catapult you to the next level...

What discount rate are they offering you

majekdom2:
Is it only menopause that can affect child bearing? Are there no couples that have 10 years interval say the husband 33 the wife 23 that are having issues with child bearing? Do you wan to give birth every year of your life? On average what age is menopause -45, the woman here is about 32. Are you saying she can't have all the children she desires within 13 years. You are silly you know!

Menopause is a serious factor worthy of consideration esp for ppl who think age is a number

majekdom2:
stop this menopause crap. So a 32 years old is to old for a 33 years man but not a 43 years man because of menopause? How do you reason?

Dt be silly u have no point jst beating abt d bush, I am talking generally n nt with reference to op

majekdom2:
Crap! Typical African thought. My wife looks older than and SO. Does it affect my happiness? If No, why bother about old or young

U r d super crap here, menopause comes with age n a childless marriage will affect happiness. U may nt understand since u r senseless so dnt bother trying

personal59:
may be u only meet "ein go better family"


when der is money,care, love and peace of mind ladies don't old that way too

Menopause can't be treated by money

IamBornToWin:
Hi Nairalanders, please what should be the ideal age difference between a man and a woman that is about to get married because my brother who was born on 8th Oct 1984 is about to get married to a lady born on 6th June 1985. My parents are not in support of it because they beleive that the lady will age more faster after child birth and may be looking far older than my brother.

He is older than her but ur parents have a point.

A girl ages faster esp after child bearing so a girl of 25 years is like age mates to a Man of 30 year n will need a man of 35 years n above for them to age together @ same rate other things being equal.

In marriage a woman needs a man 5 to 20 yrs older than her n vice versa. Age is nt a number BC menopause is always there to tell you, u r old.

Beyond this other factors such as love, character, job, education etc must be considered

He was humble so u won't detect his fake Gucci

Hushpuppi u r d Gucci master nw so tubaba ve to be humble arnd u

IPOB is history already stop making them relevant already. Jst a few days Python dance killed them

Funnicator:
Osita is very young and promising, and put up a good fight too. I like the dude. God be with him.

Dude is 46, young yes but nt very young

Ifeanyi uba is his age mate n Nigeria has produced many Governors below 40 b4

77FOT:
Less I forget:

Total request for financial assistance as at yesterday Friday 17-11-2017 :

A. via call #80k (he is a former neighbor.....he has issues with local money lender he borrowed money from)

B. via call #150k (met him during my NYSC years ago...helped him through School...he just left Youth Service wants to start a small business)

C. via call/sms #50k (visually challenged friend......we attend the same church.....wants to write Trade Test(NATEB) and Special GCE as a requirement for LASG job program for people living with disabilities)

D. via verbal/call #any amount (he is a junior colleague at work father's burial today)

E. verbal/call #any amount (former class teacher of my daughter....mother's burial on 25th Nov. next Saturday)

The month has not ended Oh!

You have to be firm and assertive, always remember that you are not the only one who can help them so do not feel pressured to help esp when ur hands are tied.

For the sake of being human u can map out hw much maximum u can help ppl with say 10k n never go above.

Learn to remind them dt it's not easy for u or anyone n my favorite give them ideas of where to go n borrow banks, CO operative society, pastors dt collect their tittes etc Learn to politely say no it's a great life skill. Dnt compromise ur future n dt of ur children secure them nw by saving n investing in assets.

U dnt owe anybody anything even d Bible says love ur neighbor as ur self which means u must love n prioritize u n ur family in d scheme of things.

Scale of preference
God
You and ur family
Ur father n mother (both couples)
Ur siblings (both couples)
Relations cousin, aunt, uncle etc
Close friends
Others

Finally whenever u wanna give money to anyone create the impression it's so difficult for u by telling them all ur money is tied to investment n they can come by month end or after two or three months jst to discourage them. Not SB asking for money n u give them within few days notice. I ask for a minimum of one month notice when I wanna help to add dt to my budget

Quite massive

FP

Factfinder1:
This is soo wrong...their children are gonna be obesed and worst than seyi laws daughter

They are both selfish, they shld ve both gone for a slim partner

Factfinder1:
I'm just wondering how this 2 giants are going to fork knowing full well that fat mens preeq are very small and as a man you need a very long preeq to penetrate a fat woman like this.. Hope he wont be forking laps sha cos the matter tire me



Their baby will be bigger than an elephant

Their best bet is a doggy, for d poor dude to stand any chance of getting in

Gini there is a special place in hell for ppl who commit suicide. RIP

d33types:
You guys will soon be hit with the scourge. Then will you understand the magnitude of the problem

Go and sit down Biko people are dying more of hunger than illnesses abi can a doctor treat hunger?

All professionals are paid to save lives in one way or the other, doctors shld quit using dt stale line already

Danladi7:
Open a new thread and talk about how your own profession is underpaid.

But jumping on doctors thread wailing shows you are suffering from hate,envy,jealousy and inferiority complex!

Shut up already if u r this senseless

Let them go they won't be missed it's an opportunity for the jobless ones. Doctors are greedy bastards are they the only professionals underpaid what of the lecturers dt taught them n still receiving peanuts

whiteandblack:
Hi everyone. I'm currently leaving with my 2 younger blood brothers now. I invited them few months back becos I wanted them to come to town so they can be useful to themselves. I have enrolled one to continue his schooling here while another one is learning some skills.

But my issue now is that they are occupying my apartment [mini flat] and this is really affecting my private life. I'm someone who really loves privacy and freedom but I can't really help this with these boys. Inviting a female friend and telling them to excuse me always looks somehow.

Another one is that... I'm in my early 30s and needed to settle down soon but these blood brothers presences have not really been easy inviting my girlfriend over and spending much time with her at home as usual. I'm not too happy with this decision of inviting them to come leave with me.

This is affecting my personal life and my relationship with my girl is the type that loves spending time with me in privacy. I cant afford to be hanking out always with my woman while I have a home. and It wouldn't really make sense asking them to leave now..as it wouldn't make sense to the hearer.

The older one is in his early 20s and just came and doesn't know about the city. I invited them to monitor and help build their lives.

It's not that my girlfriend is complaining but I know I can feel the comfortability in her and it is affecting my private life too.

I'm not confused and needs a matured advise from matured minds here.

Thank you

Have u ever heard the word sacrifice, I dnt kw what u r blabbing abt at least ur brothers never forced themselves on you. Be mature n finish what u started or go rent an apartment for them if u can afford it.

This is terrible, if Kaduna the best northern state after kano, is this poor what happens to states like Jigawa etc