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I am waiting for the revelations for Intercontinrntal Bank. Pastor Akingbola has claimed that he is free from any wrongdoing. We need to be sure that the preachings and culture of the Redeemed Church guided him all along the way!

@bennie1980

Did you pass?

Something is wrong with my yahoo mailbox. Can't seem to open it!!

I've just sat for the test and it was in three parts:

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@shyshina
I applied through the career page on their website.

I have also been contacted to write a test on wednesday for the same MTN Test. The position I applied for is the Business Analyst - Information Systems. Does anyone know the format of these tests? Can someone help us out!!

How many days has he abandoned his duties? 28 days. Good. Now calculate his estacode for 28 days @ N1 billion per day. N28 billion!

We can float a bank with that sum, you know.

Before long, GT Bank will soon have a reputation of the likes of UBA. having a lot of customers bring about so many problems you never planned for e.g. ATM downtimes, longer queue time to deposit/withdraw, slower processes. All this will lead to the sort of service a First Bank and older generation banks offer.

To all you GT Bank lovers: It's only a matter of time. I'm counting down. 364 days left!

@hashimrana

Please go back to your country! The economy is on a downturn and more and more of our skilled force are being laid off work. We need our employers to be patriotic and recruit from within rather than 'outsource'! Besides, there's nothing special you will be bringing to the table. Rather than waste our resources on you (car and housing for your family), we can hire 10 qualified Nigerians for different positions.

Bye Bye!

P.S. Take your family with you!

@ Hafees

I'm sure he is still receiving estacode for this 'hospital trip'!

After sacking 1,500 of their staff and posting those humongous losses?

I'm sure the person that mentioned this to you was kidding!

@olanna08

I suggest you let someone in the family know. It may not be the best advice (some would ask that everyone know about his two babies before roping them all in) but once the news breaks (and it will!), they will be disappointed in you not letting them in on it. Remember that this union is about famlies and not just the two of you. Never mind what the oyinbo people will say.

If you decide to go on with the marriage, here are a few lines from me:

1. Please be patient and supportive of his responsibilities. As you have rightly mentioned, he is a bit confused and needs time to settle down. He needs all the support he can get. From you too!

2. Make a commitment to make the marriage work.

3. Earn your own income and invest wisely. Remember your children have siblings already and they will share part of his belongings. Supplement for your kids so that they will be comfortable after you guys are no longer around.

4. Do you think he could stray again? I'll reiterate that I am not comfortable with this arrangement. But who knows so be watchful of him without making this obvious. Would he cheat on you again?

I hope all turn out well for you.

Regards

@dammiecool

Why do I have a feeling that you have narrowly escaped death at least once in your adult (or not-so-adult! ) life.

@olanna

Can I respond to you tomorrow?

@dammiecool

I just never thought she was that kind of person. I guess i must have got carried away. Now i know say them full everwhere o!

@olanna08

I must admit that it has not been easy. To be honest, there are days I just wanna end it all.

Of course, there comes the frustration of not being able to see my son whenever I want to. I am only allowed once in a week and this isnt guaranteed either. Also, there comes the times of extortion from baby momma.

Then on the other hand, drama from wife over trivial issues. Snide and hurtful remarks. Deliberate or maybe not-so-deliberate techniques to frustrate my duties as a father to my son.

So many set-backs that I just wanna give up sometimes. But I am committed to ensuring I succeed and hopefully I am learning how to deal with my situation on a daily basis.

To your situation: I find it uneasy that your boyfriend has 2 kids before settling with you. I really can't agree which would be considered worse; both kids being from the same woman, or from different women. Either way, I am not comfortable with it. I am in those shoes and would NEVER have another kid on the outside again! For him to do it twice, hmmmm,

If you're convinced that he is changed and would love you whole-heartedly even with his problems, plus you would not form a bad habit into the marriage, that will be enough to make him regret his proposing to you. Then I'd say go for it.

If you have strong doubts, please abort!

I understand the issues women face looking for a suitable partner but one should also thread carefully.

I wish you good luck!

@dammiecool,

She is now my wife!

Hello all,

It's been over 2 years since I started this thread. Amazingly, I am still alive and well!

My son is doing well. Even though I am not married to his mother and it's no where near an ideal situation, we try to be civil and provide for him.

It's a stale thread, I agree. I just had to post something on it!

P.S. I've added another heir to the throne. She looks just like my girlfriend. Oops! Now wife.

Chiks, I intend to write CFA in December but I need some answers: LIFA seems cheaper and with centres in Lagos. Do they provide reading materials after you pay like CFA? How did you pay for your CFA exams? By wire or mastercard? Which is more recognized? LIFA or CFA? LIFA seems to celebrate convenience. Is this a fad?

@ayo jango

Dont feel too bad. Its not the end of things. With her too! Believe me, this kind of thing happens all the time. We all make mistakes. She could have made a mistake but realises that its you she truly loves. Its just my opinion. You're in the centre of things, you'll get to know better.

What I'd advise is this - Thank God you guys are not married yet! If you intend to do, and soon too, push it further to make up your mind her. Watch her, study her. Be very patient. Human behaviour (especially for women!) is very hard to hide. Sooner or later, things about her (her true feelings for you) will unfold. Just remain calm. Sure you're hurt, but if you truly love her, amidst all flaws, you'll be able to forgive her. If not, calmly let her go!

Good luck.

@aadun

No I didn't! Why would I deliberately do that. Its been hell these past few months and I wouldn't want to relive this experience for whatever reason.

@Esss
Thanks for standing up for me. Will think about my next steps deeply. Thanks.

@wifeypenth
What are you crying for? I can understand if you're crying but i just wanna know what position do you see yourself that makes you hurt more? everyone is crying her too sha. Still or once did.

@ThiefOfHearts
I will account.

@uyai
you can't understand what i'm going through. Dont expect u to. Try living with understanding that you have a child somewhere and u are not part of it. And account for that on Judgement Day!

@ralphorb
Thanks for your advice. I'll be careful about the charm thingy! Dont know how since I'm supposed to remain in close proximity to my child and its mother!


@mait
I've never really defined life like the way you have. Lessons to be learned! Have always had things come the way I've planned it without any major surprises! This, has got me flabbergasted! I don't know how you did it but you have laid out all of the concerns bothering all parties. Apart from the fact that I dont have the heart to abandon any of the parties involved, our parents being involved makes me act much more responsibly.

Regards

Thank you for all your replies. Appreciate it.

@Phizzy
You asked if I had what it takes to marry this girl(anyone) at this moment. Yes I do. I can afford it and pregnant one knows.

@Finemocha
Your attitude is tougher than your name! Dont think I can go your way. Tried it (can't match yours!) in the early stages but it didnt work. Especially if you all of a sudden assume the paradigm that children are gifts from God. I reiterate that I will be the best father I can be under the circumstances.

Considerations to keep the hurt persons minimal i.e. dump my girlfriend and marry the pregnant one, will not be accepted. I dont think I'll be able to live with the torture.

@Esss
I'm surprised you're done laughing! I'm very appreciative of the amount of brain power that you put into coming up with that piece. It is worthy to note that you're most useful when you're not laughing sha!!!

For those that got me wrong. I never said that I slept with her once. I said this is the first time I cheated on my girlfriend!

Now I understand uyai's hostility.

@Rikkyjen

No I'm not shagging anymore! My intention is to be the best father I can be without creating animosity in the process. Or can anyone proffer how i would be allowed to act out my responsibilty without her brandishing weapons? BusyGirl seems to understand what the right thing would be under the circumstances.

@uyai

Do not misunderstand me. I know she is hurting and I hurt too. I have had to look at this from various angles thus my comments.

[tr]The pregnant one is a good person too. Can't take that away. If I were to be disloyal to my girlfriend to the end, I would stay with her.[/tr]


Just saying that if I were to go by earlier replies to my post that would 'objectively' say i should marry the pregnant one, and throw away any remaining loyalty and trust my girlfriend has, it could be justified because the pregnant one is a good person too!

I'll need to be careful with declarations like who I love more or not, If I intend to raise the child with love. From both women. Especially when both ladies are Nairalanders!

Nothing like terminating mother and child (anymore)

Thank you Busy Girl. You practically hit the nail in the centre! I have decided to do just that! But I'm asking myself this question now - If i knew what I wanted to do, why am I posting on Nairaland? Honestly because I feel guilty about thinking that I ruined someone else's life. Forget how I've been able to allow myself carry unnecessary burden. I deserve the punishment!

My girlfriend has forgiven me. Hopefully! We have a history and big plans for the future. Its totally laid out! Half of her is probably angry that someone else wants to eat out of what she suffered for and wouldnt let that happen. Apart from that, she is truly a wonderful person with a kind heart!

The pregnant one is a good person too. Can't take that away. If I were to be disloyal to my girlfriend to the end, I would stay with her.

Believe me in the most recent times, I've been hit with more artillery than this. And I take all blame. Ask for forgiveness from God for considering an abortion.

As to the question whether my girlfriend knows - Yes she does. Its all blown up now and everyone knows about it. Even her parents.

If it was about looks, both women are beautiful. But its not.

Love grows and hate grows too!

One way or the other, your replies seem funny. And somehow I am laughing! But it ain't really funny!!!!

i'm in a 5year+ relationship with my girlfriend. And I would die for her. I mean it. But I cheated on her. (First time I cheated too). With a friend of mine. Wish I didn't. My friend's pregnant now and I have tried all in the books to make her abort it (feel ashamed mentioning this), knowing fully well the chaos it would cause. I wasn't going to marry her either. But she wouldn't hear of it. Maybe she was silently hoping that my girlfriend would call it quits with me. I dont know but something just doesn't smell right. My parents have met with hers and now they are saying that I should marry her. I mean, they've been going behind my back and are nmaking arrangements. Had to call this off and this is causing a rift between them and me.

She is 4 months pregnant now and its hurting to see her this way. Made a promise to be the best father I can be and a very good friend that she can rely on. Nothing more! Because I wouldnt ask my girlfriend to leave. Never considered it!

What do I do? I'm going out of my mind wondering how I'm going to cope with this.