OLUENTA1:
Hello Nairalanders I need to hear from different people what to do and maybe if there is any advise at all or guidance to the issue/incidence that occured between me and my fiancee

Let me go straight to the story and I will try to make it short and explanatory.

My fiancee happened to have this ex that obviously they had a good time together and infact she left the guy for me and during one of our conversation I got to know that finances during her time with him was a big issue and at one time or twice she cheated on him to sleep with men that could take care of the finances

We started our relationship and I quickly noticed the challenges with this with her but on my own part I can take care of her finances. Anyway, We have been together for more than 2 years and also we are planning to get engaged traditional soon.

The unthinkable happened during one of my inquisitive quest of checking her WhatsApp messages when I saw her telling her closest buddy that she was chatting with her ex the other time and that they were talking about how many times they had sex and also if she ever meet the guy again she will sleep with him.

Well, as it is I am feeling been cheated on and secondly, i can't imagine that she will still have this feeling for the ex so much that she could say that she can still sleep with the ex again.

The question now is, do I still need to continue the relationship with her? and also call off the engagement? Because it seemed she can't be loyal or maybe the she loves the guy more than me and any given opportunity she will always go back to the ex

Martinez39s:
I could have released more memes but the guys who mistakenly gave them attention helped them derail the thread and I called it a day. I guess men are learning but they still have a lot to learn.

freethinker01:

You got it all wrong, the only way to deal with lil bitvt like her is to starve her of attention. The mentions and the likes she's getting on nairaland is what's making her feel like she's the next best thing after oxygen. From what I could observe from her, she a dumb kid with an absentee father figure venting her frustration and rejection on guys on nairaland.
It will end in tears

CAPSLOCKED:


SO YOU CONCEDE THAT ONLY SEX AND "PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIP" CAN BE OBTAINABLE FROM A WOMAN?

majamajic:


It's on xvideos

czarina:
You actually sound bitter yourself, I don't know the details but you can heal.



Yeah true, we've all been programmed to look forward to marriage but I wouldn't call it a "deception".

Everyone who's not deluded knows a partnership whether professional or romantic/marital is a lot of work, we only chose to focus on "the happily ever after".


The result when reality hits? Disappointments.

I don't know what happened in your case but feel better.

franchasng:
Not really. Igbo peoples' anger against Yorubas didn't start today, it started between 1966 - 1969 when Ojukwu and Awolowo had an unofficial agreement that as Ojukwu declares Biafra freedom, Awolowo will declare Odudua freedom so that there won't be any need for north to drag or fight so that Nigeria will peacefully divide in 1966/67.

Ojukwu and other Eastern officers believed and trusted Awolowo because Awolowo always stood for Yoruba interest and always against Nnamdi Azikiwe and Akintola and co who preferred Nigeria remaining one, so they believed Awolowo will declare Odudua republic and make the division of Nigeria easy and peaceful without war.

This was the reason Ojukwu facilitated the release of Awolowo from jail at Enugu where Tafawa Belewa/Azikiwe jailed Awolowo for treason, and Ojukwu gave him special escort back to Western region.

But Awolowo got to Lagos and Gowon offered him mouth watering political appointment as Finance Minister, Awolowo reneged on the unofficial agreement he had with Ojukwu.

So when Ojukwu declared Biafra as an independent state amidst a widespread pogrom against Igbos living in Northern Nigeria, Gowon first didn't want to go after Biafra until British government told Gowon not to accept it, so Gowon declared Police action to return Biafra back to Nigeria and that was how he mobilized Nigeria military to invade Biafra and return them back to Nigeria and the war broke out after several negotiations at Aburi Ghana failed.

And when the war started, Biafra was gaining ground, almost winning the war before British government and Egypt stept in with massive military support for Nigeria, and Nigeria also sold Bakasi oil rich land to acquire military weapons to defeat young Biafra which was proving difficult for Nigerian army, until Awolowo again suggested a harsh hunger policy to Gowon, which involved changing Nigeria's currency so it will be difficult for Biafra government to import food and drugs for her citizens as the war intensified and this led to mass hunger and malnutrition in Biafra land, causing Biafra soldiers to start turning to saboteurs leaking secrets to Nigerian soldiers just to get food to eat.

This torn Biafra apart and Biafra government officials and commanders started persuading Ojukwu to surrender to avoid further hunger and deaths of Biafrans, at the end, Ojukwu was forced to board a flight to go on exile in Ivory Coast while his vice from today Akwa-Ibom, Philip Effiong surrendered Biafra to Nigeria, and the war ended.

So Igbos saw Awolowo as a great betrayal that betrayed Biafra and Ndigbo, that was the beginning of the distrust

OkaNaUbe:
I never did. "Off Campus" was better.


"Back of Chem" and "ALASKA" boys say "hi".

Took me time to realise what you meant was Alakahia

Kai man don dey old o

DavidEsq:
Pls OP, while I sympathise with u and hope with u, pls remove the "pretty". She is too worwrish. U have misdescribed her and that would make it difficult to locate or recognise her, as I wld be looking for a "pretty", rather than worwrish face

Nairaland is the Wild Wild West

wetdick:


hahaha, so a man choose himself over women because he doesn't have game, the only men that choose themselves over women and society are called MONKS

In some of your forums, you guys call MGTOW "alpha", bunch of confused people. alpha.beta, Charlie, Delta, Echo, Foxtrot, Golf, Hotel ...... LOL

eaglejay13:
Something still doesn't add up.

Why did she react the way she did?

amaniro:



I slam sluts because they have many many many many productive things to do but no they fuk around. It's sad because the moral decadence in the society is alarming.

noble71:
Cryptocurrency started my journey with #200k made about 8.5 Million but unfortunately lost about 6 Million to the same crypto.

This 2019 started with dropshipping, mini importation and real estate marketing let see how it goes by year end.