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emmaodet:
To me, i think the general rule of thumb is to always live atleast 50% your annual income since ost men won't be billionaires anyway.
You earn 12m per year? then all your expenses for the year shouldn't be more than 6m max.

This way, you will always have a disposable income to invest and grow slowl year-on-year which allows you to increase your standard of living

Thank you sir
It's just getting that capital and making prudent choice with it,it's easier said than done because in the moment some men feel invincible, some are moved by konji thinking with their penis and being controlled by their girlfriends or wives which makes their spending chaotic to meet up with their libido demands, some which is the worst hold unto delusional religious beliefs that they are serving a divine being who would protect them from any uncertain danger Into the future

Love these your advice
It's you and your money
Be rational have disposable capital for investments and plan for the worst

emmaodet:
I attended a wedding febraury this year.
What saddens me is that a man processed UK visa for this lady in late 2023 and spent 15m to get it for her.
He is a UK based man trying to bring a good lady from home (Nigeria) abroad to make his wife.
I don't know how they met - maybe online or connection by friends.
15m in 2023 is roughly 25 to 30m in todays naira value. SO we can have an idea of what that man spent all in the name of Love and relationship.
Guess what?
Immediately the lady got the visa, she broke up with him Right here in Nigeria before even touching London.
This is not a nollywood script rather what happened within my circle.
And as if that is not bad enough, she got engaged and did introduction to a new man she met at the train station in UK just 6 months arriving there.
Can you imagine that?
Just 6 months of breaking up with someone who has spent 15m on you to come into that country and you are already dating and engaged.
People were dancing in the wedding hall because it was a virtual wedding. The couples only joined us online watching through projector while both families were in the hall with their guest, musician, foods and drinks etc
I only pity the new man. Only if he knows what the lady did to the last man before he came in. I am sorry but he better watch his back.

See it's painful, but the other alternative which is very risky is locking up your heart and paying cheap prostitutes for sex which is expensive and cause diseases if you are not careful not saying your girlfriend can't give you disease but how can you win as a man, please let's ponder on these and ask ourselves what do we stand to gain from women, remember it's sex that driving us consciously and subconsciously, how can we win these gender war, what I know is that love and romance is a facade these age as women have abundance and harem of men so they can't fall in love deeply like us, how can we play these games with the least emotional and financial investment, women would always be costly if not in monetary terms but in valuable time, emmaodet how can we win

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

Most men get to the top are obsessed with sex(women), clubbing, status signalling, show off, bragging, but it's stupid, the main thing is that you should have insurance, anything can happen, capital and liquidity is flowing, accumulate more and more, instead of buying luxury properties and cars for women and families which you can do, rather acquire assets, build cash flow, leverage Network and expand into social circles to expand your wealth, as a man in these lonely world your wealth expansion which serves as your ambition is your only solace and comfort, you and your money, your wealth would never abandon you for anything, and I'm talking from the position if luck favoured you to be at the top 20%, multimillionaire and billionaire

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

Going from riches to rag is more painful than going from rag to riches, I understand that luck has a significant role to play to attain such as most men are going to die average or below average, as a man when you get to the top always have insurance, back up, hedges especially if the resources are plenty for you at that time to do that

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

I love these quote plan for the best and prepare for the worst, a wise man see all possibilities in his calculation and is not deluded to relaxing because he has abundance, even the Bible says the rich man cannot sleep

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

A man have things in his favour should always seek to accumulate more so that he can have infinite supply of resources or relative fall back safe landing cushion in case life happens which it can, don't just live in the moment be dominated by pleasure or success, let it get into your head thinking you are invincible

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

As a man your number one priority should be accumulation of resources by whatsoever means possible preferably legal mean so that at least you can hedge yourself in the uncertainty of life, in case on mental illness, incurable disease, terminal disease, expensive treatable disease, valuable property burning, loss of loved ones, business misfortune, policy and regulatory misfortune in business, heartbreak from wive or girlfriends, ungrateful children or family members, spoilt children indulging in drugs and possibly homosexuality, unexpected civil war or violence, you must understand that if calamity or unexpected sorrow befalls you as a man society even family doesn't care about you

emmaodet:
In whatever we do, always cover your side because when shit hits the fan - Love will go, women will go, friends will go and family will disrespect and mock you.

Romance is a facade
Loyalty is extremely rare
A man is always alone( rich or poor), wealth just buys fake love
Men should learn to ruthlessly put themselves first and seek out their own interests because if whatsoever reason they seize to be useful or provide value even if it's conditions outside their control like sickness they would be left to die

Men don't NEED sex. A man won't die if he doesn't have sex. In accordance with tenets of self-improvement, a man must reach a level where his sexual desires, which will always be there, cannot influence him against his will and always dictate for him. Such a level is possible as every man is ultimately responsible for his actions even when Hot. Can a man stay for many decades without having sex with a woman? Yes. If I can do it, what's anyone's excuse?

Betas give women love to get sex in return. Alphas give sex to get love in return.
As an Alpha always start your relationships from sex. SEX FIRST, LOVE AFTER. You don't love a girl hoping she let's you fucc, you fucc her hoping she falls in love.
This is your method because it puts all the power in your hands by getting a woman more invested than you.

Leave the "love first, sex after" format for the Betas.

Be like the guy below. This is what we mean by "Let the woman do the chasing".

True. The moment you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to get her, you've already started the game at a losing score: You 0, the Girl 1.

Its not that it's a crime to like someone but by liking her you're already more invested than she is because she feels ZERO emotions for you while you're on fire for her. You're already chasing.

sex first everything else after.

Guys kill me by how they make the grandest plans for a woman they don't even want to touch. Like how does that even work? Cause to the woman you're just another guy she knows. Nothing special.

The girl you have the biggest plans for must be that girl you're screwing like a hoe, whose puccy you're plowing and whom you're even impregnating. That's the girl who can be loyal to your vision. That's how you keep her invested. You take so much from her that for her to leave it will seem like a waste of her time, energy and body. #SunkCostFallacy

For all the "cook and bond with your wife" statements by men,, you'll never hear women say "pay rent and bond with your husband" lol. Women will tell you "you have only one job! Do it!!"
Women are cold with the game. Men need to be too.

When Ubunja said an 18 yr old girl knows more about the sexual industry than a 81 yrs old man, he wasn't joking

Every woman whether poor or rich, low or high value always have a plan B. If your busybody is too much they will exit. It is men that always think women will stay no matter what...till death do us part. Modern day women are now bold enough to exit once they sense any discomfort, unlike men that will want to make the relationship work. But is this fair? No! But is it reality? Yes!

Aside reproductive and sexual advantage, polygamy is detrimental to men (because now we're in a modern age, less offsprings can do the job of ancestral survival). As the number of mates increases for a man, his resources reduces. Monogamy which involves one woman is stressful for a man not to even talk of multiple women. What about the resulting offsprings? Controlling children of different women is a tug of war, no peace in that home.

The brutal reality is that there is virtually nothing you can do to make a woman attracted to you. If a woman categorized you as a sexually unattractive man after meeting you, no amount of game, Redpill sense, or masculine frame is going to change it. The best thing to do is to forget about her and keep it moving. Trying to win her over with "dating drills" and Redpill game is a waste of time, or worse, a self-inflicted humiliation

Global elites want to use porn, Netflix, video games, social media to keep young ambitious men sedated so that their testosterones would not be channeled ambitiously for power, status, wealth but rather cheap dopamine hits and waste of valuable time

Loneliness, need for affection/romance/love, need for sex, need for feminine warmth is the reason why men simp and misbehave

Most men are slaves to women because of uncontrolled testosterones

Testosterones the hormone responsible for konji and sexual urges makes you crave pleasure, dopamine hits, sexual novelty and varieties, harem virtual or physical, you need to keep it under control, it's dangerous because that same hormone is responsible for ambition, conquest, competitive instinct, motivation

You can't be a poor average man and find time for harem deluding yourself you will get to the top by halving your attention on both women and mission

Pornography, prostitutes online and offline,sexual explicit content on social media, women advertising themselves online through sexuality in mode of dressing or speech, women dressed provocately offline in the streets are all to weaken you with lust, delude you that you can have an harem as a poor struggling or average man, waste your attention by making you focus on sexual conquest instead of thinking of your long term ambition of wealth and resources acquisition, it's waste of time it's only top 10% of men that can enjoy women unlimitedly without it becoming a burden to their time, energy and resources, the remaining men would suffer with valuable things lost, these just a warning, focus on goals, purpose, ambition, power as a young man

Your son will be able to handle these truths once he's a teenager:

-Men are success objects. If you're unsuccessful, you're dehumanised. Men are treated like shit, thrash and dungs

-Most people don't give a shit about you and will never give a shit about you.

SEX AND MARRIAGE

Men that marry because of sex end up being frustrated. It is evident in threads on FP where men cry how their wives do not give them sex.

Marriage is not a sex guarantee.

Most beta males devoid of sex are of the expectation that in marriage, there is freedom to have sex anytime, anywhere and try on new techniques. Must end up getting frustrated at the end. For the marriage end up not being as rosy as it seems.

A man was complaining that his wife do not want him to do doggy style, she only allows him do missionary and he is bored. Another was complaining his wife doesn't give him sex only to find out she was cheating on him.

The best sex a man can have is beyond the confines of marriage for there is no holds barred.

Take the case of campus marriage. A lady will stay in a room with a guy and bang the dude everyday for a month despite lectures but will complain to her husband that he wants too much sex. She is very tired and can't handle his sexual urge.

80% of Men are sexually attracted to women they marry but 80% of women are not sexually attracted to men they marry.

When the desirable is not available the available become desirable.

Many Women marry one who is ready not whom they love. They love the fvck boys, the bad guys, the guy that can bang her well but because her parents as well as society will not like a guy with a mohawk or dreadlocks hairstyle she will go for a guy that dress responsibly and is ready for marriage.

Women date who they love and marry who love them.
The guys they love are who they end up fvcking while the ones they don't love are the one's they end up marrying.

CONCEPT OF LOVE
What is often forgotten is that until quite recently marriage and relationships were a pragmatic decision often made by the families of the couple, not the couple itself.
The concept of love based on emotions is beneficial to women. Man is weak when emotional as such he will be willing to do anything.
Women use sex to get what they want from men… but since sex is often a temporary thing as in a one-on/one-off situation. Women needed a more permanent/ long-term solution.
The reason why women need men to fall in love is because “in the name of love” men will DO THE 3S’ (SHARE, SACRIFICE, SUPPORT).

Men will SHARE their time, wealth, resources and wisdom… voluntarily SACRIFICE their hobbies, friends, opinions and dreams, even their very safety and security and SUPPORT her materialistic lifestyle.

Sure I can list many others but you get the point. When a man falls in love he will beg, borrow, steal and kill for his woman… this is why women push love over sex… because sex is just a physical thing, so after the sex, you’re gone… but love, love is an emotional thing, lasting much, much longer..it’s the thing that makes you stay and pay her way.

At best, women can ONLY love a man conditionally. Unconditional love is only reserved for her child, never the man.

Love is the greatest tool a woman has in her “Trifecta,” to control and manipulate a man (the other two being sex and deception).

As a man ,you are in constant competition with every other male that would procreate with your girlfriend or wife.
Nature is a battle between organism's seeking premium biology to mate with and successfully carry forward their genes.
The illusions of safety and security within your relationship are irrelevant to nature when it comes to it programmed agenda.
Your value is always being monitored by her ,unconsciously,and will become aware if another male enters and demonstrate higher value. At this point,her biology will evaluate and test your desirability against his in order to determine who can supply a greater chance of survival. If the other male wins based on her tests,you are now placed lower on the value scale and her attraction will fade over time.

The best way to eliminate your competition as a man,is to constantly increase your value .

The difference between a prostitute and your regular girlfriend is that you'll know the amount it will cost you from the beginning and you are sure to get what you came for.

Merry Christmas redpillers
I know the thread is not as bubbling and active as before but the immense load of wisdom archived here is for generations to come even if we are all dead, except they delete it or nairaland stops functioning as a company, the information here is timeless for all men regardless of your age or status or background or experience

Thank you all for the discussions, reposts,debates,memes, even trolls for keeping these thread alive, I'm very grateful to be part of these family liberating men from the shackles of bluepilled idealism, one sided romance, societal and religious expectations, uncontrolled sexual lust and so many more

sabbiboi:
REAL LIFE mehn… The redpill has never been a lie.
I am grateful to be part of this movement.
If you don’t understand women you will suffer, lol.😂

Please, let’s keep this page alive for posterity sake. I believe only nairaland has got a long thread of dosage of red pills and real life tales to back up the stories. So don’t mind some douchebag that comes here to spit rubbish and derail the thread with their myopic views.

I check up here sometimes, take the dose and continue to apply them in life endeavors.

Funnily enough, women still win by settling down with a man at the end of their youthful exuberance. It’s just a win-win world for them, maybe, maybe not.

You are very accurate, my female cousin whom I discussed above is a vivid example

@emmaodet, I can never compare myself with a woman, my cousin was jobless for 3 years post NYSC and she met an abroad based Nigerian online, they chatted, next thing I know she married him last year, now they have relocated to America, like Jesus, me that have been hustling since, most women are even trying to see what they can gain for me, my female cousin whose family are average at best now have their daughter in US

Summary
Men are loved under the conditions they provide value or are powerful,women and children are loved unconditionally

Your timeline and women timeline are not the same, never you see them as your equals, they have the opportunity of leveraging men and society in general to advance, most men don't have that advantage

Loneliness can't be cured by marriage or old age. If you are never content with your own presence or love yourself, you'd be a burden to whoever and whatever. No matter how you sugarcoat it, you came alone into this world and you will go out the same. Learn to love yourself and be content with your own presence. As you age, death and illnesses take most of the people you grew up with and could include your wife and even some kids... But a man who isn't sick would always find something to do to keep his mind and body strong. What most people suffer from is not physical loneliness per se....it's the void in their hearts and souls that they can't fill, the emptiness of the spirit. This is why churches and religious houses help out with that.

Monogamy was a concept inbred with love, the fallacy of one man,one woman, forever. It encouraged simping from men because now, they have to try to please just one woman forever while in polygamy, many women compete to please the man.