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Never commit to an alpha widow or single mother

The only privileges you have as an alpha redpiller are the following:
1) she breaks her rules for you, but she makes rules for simps.
2) she will be your sex freak and do stuffs with you in the bedroom that she wouldn't do with a beta simp.
3) she won't mistreat or disrespect you like she does to simps, and she will be the one chasing you around.
4) you make her wet, simps don't.

Outside these, the pùssy is not yours. Other men will have their share. I am saying this not to cause an argument but for your own safety as a fellow "brethren" in the red pill.

Happy new year guys

Growing up, I overheard my mum and other women saying that if a man can be sexually disciplined and master himself in that aspect, majority of his troubles with women have been solved. Thinking about this myself, I can tell you that sexual discipline will help you a lot, especially in your red pill journey and overcoming many female manipulations; it becomes obvious when you realise that the strongest weapon women have in breaking down your defences and controlling you is their sexuality and many men, great and ordinary, have fallen to this.

Forget what anyone might say, mastering yourself sexually is very possible. It doesn't mean you won't feel the urges, but such mastery simply consists in knowing that you are always in full control of your decisions despite the urges you feel.

Bad economy, poverty, rising cost of living and maintaining a family is a major reason in Africa. Another reason (for those who have the money) is the need for freedom. Some guys don't want to be tied down all in the name of marriage. They just want to make money and enjoy thier lives. Some guys that get married did so due to pressure from family and society.

One thing guys should know now is, no lady f..ucks just one guy! Redpilled O, Pink pilled O, it doesn't matter now!

emmaodet:
Don't use the word "Win'' - it shows you are putting yourself under pressure to act rather just be yourself and approach relationship on a relax mode.
If it works, fine.
If not, just fine.
About your question - the answer is personal because as our faces, names, date of birth and death differs, so is our decision making.
For me, i prefer monogamous with prostitute. Different people with different decisions based on their taste, circumstance or situation.
While monogamous with a side chick looks okay, the down side is that your chances of casting is very very high.
She will always call you when you don't want or like - i just call to hear your voice or i missed you.
She may likely send a nude pix and the phone may be with your wife or kid then.
You will likely be passwording your phone or literarily walking with it around the house not wanting to keep your sight away from it.
All these will be causing frictions in the house, occasional quarrels or your wife being unsecured.

Thank you sir

JESHAL007:
Please sir how can we win with regards to women as we pursue our ambition of wealth accumulation, should we be monogamous, monogamous with side chicks, monogamous with prostitutes, patronise only prostitutes, watch porn and masturbate only, be polygamous, cut off totally from women sexually and romantically, everything has its pros and cons, I need matured advice for young ambitious men who don't have enough experience in the game as they are still in their 20's

@CaveAdullam, Martinez39s, Skepticus or ubunja and other knowledgeable redpillers, I want you guys to construct an essay on these because it has life and death implications for young men in their 20's and 30's, it can be a long essay or it can be in parts,please we all are affected by women to certain degree interacting with them or not, please help us dissect the pros and cons of the following above based on you guys understanding, it would contribute immensely to these thread and help we frequent readers,

A man is always truly alone, no one is coming to save or help you, everyone seeks to exploit you because your masculinity is at stake and you don't want to be ostracised in society, society uses you, government uses you, corporations use you, women uses you

As a man ruthlessly guard your heart, in fact tell yourself to your core, I'm worthless without resources accumulation, that should be the centre of your heart, not women, not romance, not sex but money, your dignity Is tied to it, your survival is tied to it, your health in case of emergency is tied to it, that's your only true love asides a believe in God

God and Money that's all a man has, that's his true best friend

emmaodet:
To me, i think the general rule of thumb is to always live atleast 50% your annual income since ost men won't be billionaires anyway.
You earn 12m per year? then all your expenses for the year shouldn't be more than 6m max.

This way, you will always have a disposable income to invest and grow slowl year-on-year which allows you to increase your standard of living

I have been giving optimistic advice for men who are favoured by time and chance to be the lucky 20% what If you end up at best average after all your efforts, how can you find happiness and cope with loneliness, rich or poor we are always alone as men, how can one learn to live with it and accept these painful reality whether we choose to engage with women and possibly start a family but we will always interact with our extended family especially our siblings and parents, what can we do to find joy with ourselves and I'm not talking about getting romance and sex from women, a man living life on his own terms regardless of life outcome, a truly satisfied man regardless of his status, let's have these deep discussion

Wealth accumulation and expansion is the only source of comfort for a man in these uncaring world

emmaodet:
To me, i think the general rule of thumb is to always live atleast 50% your annual income since ost men won't be billionaires anyway.
You earn 12m per year? then all your expenses for the year shouldn't be more than 6m max.

This way, you will always have a disposable income to invest and grow slowl year-on-year which allows you to increase your standard of living

Please sir how can we win with regards to women as we pursue our ambition of wealth accumulation, should we be monogamous, monogamous with side chicks, monogamous with prostitutes, patronise only prostitutes, watch porn and masturbate only, be polygamous, cut off totally from women sexually and romantically, everything has its pros and cons, I need matured advice for young ambitious men who don't have enough experience in the game as they are still in their 20's

emmaodet:
To me, i think the general rule of thumb is to always live atleast 50% your annual income since ost men won't be billionaires anyway.
You earn 12m per year? then all your expenses for the year shouldn't be more than 6m max.

This way, you will always have a disposable income to invest and grow slowl year-on-year which allows you to increase your standard of living

Women would always cost us something, side chicks , wives, girlfriends, but we should stop seeing them from an emotional lense, lovey Dovey, we should be very cold in our core and remember that intrinsically no matter the sweetness of the romance, if unexpected misfortune and uncertainty befalls us it would turn sour even if you married a good woman, see job in the Bible, then what do men have for themselves genuinely that can give them ultimate joy, resources accumulation, money, try to maximise it to infinity capacity if you are chanced to be a millionaire or multimillionaire, scale it, money is our only true love in these cold and uncaring world especially as a man, you aren't respected without it and treated like dung, hedge yourself, hedge yourself,hedge yourself, accumulate, accumulate, accumulate

emmaodet:
To me, i think the general rule of thumb is to always live atleast 50% your annual income since ost men won't be billionaires anyway.
You earn 12m per year? then all your expenses for the year shouldn't be more than 6m max.

This way, you will always have a disposable income to invest and grow slowl year-on-year which allows you to increase your standard of living

Thank you sir
It's just getting that capital and making prudent choice with it,it's easier said than done because in the moment some men feel invincible, some are moved by konji thinking with their penis and being controlled by their girlfriends or wives which makes their spending chaotic to meet up with their libido demands, some which is the worst hold unto delusional religious beliefs that they are serving a divine being who would protect them from any uncertain danger Into the future

Love these your advice
It's you and your money
Be rational have disposable capital for investments and plan for the worst

emmaodet:
I attended a wedding febraury this year.
What saddens me is that a man processed UK visa for this lady in late 2023 and spent 15m to get it for her.
He is a UK based man trying to bring a good lady from home (Nigeria) abroad to make his wife.
I don't know how they met - maybe online or connection by friends.
15m in 2023 is roughly 25 to 30m in todays naira value. SO we can have an idea of what that man spent all in the name of Love and relationship.
Guess what?
Immediately the lady got the visa, she broke up with him Right here in Nigeria before even touching London.
This is not a nollywood script rather what happened within my circle.
And as if that is not bad enough, she got engaged and did introduction to a new man she met at the train station in UK just 6 months arriving there.
Can you imagine that?
Just 6 months of breaking up with someone who has spent 15m on you to come into that country and you are already dating and engaged.
People were dancing in the wedding hall because it was a virtual wedding. The couples only joined us online watching through projector while both families were in the hall with their guest, musician, foods and drinks etc
I only pity the new man. Only if he knows what the lady did to the last man before he came in. I am sorry but he better watch his back.

See it's painful, but the other alternative which is very risky is locking up your heart and paying cheap prostitutes for sex which is expensive and cause diseases if you are not careful not saying your girlfriend can't give you disease but how can you win as a man, please let's ponder on these and ask ourselves what do we stand to gain from women, remember it's sex that driving us consciously and subconsciously, how can we win these gender war, what I know is that love and romance is a facade these age as women have abundance and harem of men so they can't fall in love deeply like us, how can we play these games with the least emotional and financial investment, women would always be costly if not in monetary terms but in valuable time, emmaodet how can we win

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

Most men get to the top are obsessed with sex(women), clubbing, status signalling, show off, bragging, but it's stupid, the main thing is that you should have insurance, anything can happen, capital and liquidity is flowing, accumulate more and more, instead of buying luxury properties and cars for women and families which you can do, rather acquire assets, build cash flow, leverage Network and expand into social circles to expand your wealth, as a man in these lonely world your wealth expansion which serves as your ambition is your only solace and comfort, you and your money, your wealth would never abandon you for anything, and I'm talking from the position if luck favoured you to be at the top 20%, multimillionaire and billionaire

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

Going from riches to rag is more painful than going from rag to riches, I understand that luck has a significant role to play to attain such as most men are going to die average or below average, as a man when you get to the top always have insurance, back up, hedges especially if the resources are plenty for you at that time to do that

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

I love these quote plan for the best and prepare for the worst, a wise man see all possibilities in his calculation and is not deluded to relaxing because he has abundance, even the Bible says the rich man cannot sleep

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

A man have things in his favour should always seek to accumulate more so that he can have infinite supply of resources or relative fall back safe landing cushion in case life happens which it can, don't just live in the moment be dominated by pleasure or success, let it get into your head thinking you are invincible

emmaodet:
I totally agree with you reason why i do say make people cover their side.
It is a cold world out there

As a man your number one priority should be accumulation of resources by whatsoever means possible preferably legal mean so that at least you can hedge yourself in the uncertainty of life, in case on mental illness, incurable disease, terminal disease, expensive treatable disease, valuable property burning, loss of loved ones, business misfortune, policy and regulatory misfortune in business, heartbreak from wive or girlfriends, ungrateful children or family members, spoilt children indulging in drugs and possibly homosexuality, unexpected civil war or violence, you must understand that if calamity or unexpected sorrow befalls you as a man society even family doesn't care about you

emmaodet:
In whatever we do, always cover your side because when shit hits the fan - Love will go, women will go, friends will go and family will disrespect and mock you.

Romance is a facade
Loyalty is extremely rare
A man is always alone( rich or poor), wealth just buys fake love
Men should learn to ruthlessly put themselves first and seek out their own interests because if whatsoever reason they seize to be useful or provide value even if it's conditions outside their control like sickness they would be left to die

Men don't NEED sex. A man won't die if he doesn't have sex. In accordance with tenets of self-improvement, a man must reach a level where his sexual desires, which will always be there, cannot influence him against his will and always dictate for him. Such a level is possible as every man is ultimately responsible for his actions even when Hot. Can a man stay for many decades without having sex with a woman? Yes. If I can do it, what's anyone's excuse?

Betas give women love to get sex in return. Alphas give sex to get love in return.
As an Alpha always start your relationships from sex. SEX FIRST, LOVE AFTER. You don't love a girl hoping she let's you fucc, you fucc her hoping she falls in love.
This is your method because it puts all the power in your hands by getting a woman more invested than you.

Leave the "love first, sex after" format for the Betas.

Be like the guy below. This is what we mean by "Let the woman do the chasing".

True. The moment you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to get her, you've already started the game at a losing score: You 0, the Girl 1.

Its not that it's a crime to like someone but by liking her you're already more invested than she is because she feels ZERO emotions for you while you're on fire for her. You're already chasing.

sex first everything else after.

Guys kill me by how they make the grandest plans for a woman they don't even want to touch. Like how does that even work? Cause to the woman you're just another guy she knows. Nothing special.

The girl you have the biggest plans for must be that girl you're screwing like a hoe, whose puccy you're plowing and whom you're even impregnating. That's the girl who can be loyal to your vision. That's how you keep her invested. You take so much from her that for her to leave it will seem like a waste of her time, energy and body. #SunkCostFallacy

For all the "cook and bond with your wife" statements by men,, you'll never hear women say "pay rent and bond with your husband" lol. Women will tell you "you have only one job! Do it!!"
Women are cold with the game. Men need to be too.

When Ubunja said an 18 yr old girl knows more about the sexual industry than a 81 yrs old man, he wasn't joking

Every woman whether poor or rich, low or high value always have a plan B. If your busybody is too much they will exit. It is men that always think women will stay no matter what...till death do us part. Modern day women are now bold enough to exit once they sense any discomfort, unlike men that will want to make the relationship work. But is this fair? No! But is it reality? Yes!

Aside reproductive and sexual advantage, polygamy is detrimental to men (because now we're in a modern age, less offsprings can do the job of ancestral survival). As the number of mates increases for a man, his resources reduces. Monogamy which involves one woman is stressful for a man not to even talk of multiple women. What about the resulting offsprings? Controlling children of different women is a tug of war, no peace in that home.

The brutal reality is that there is virtually nothing you can do to make a woman attracted to you. If a woman categorized you as a sexually unattractive man after meeting you, no amount of game, Redpill sense, or masculine frame is going to change it. The best thing to do is to forget about her and keep it moving. Trying to win her over with "dating drills" and Redpill game is a waste of time, or worse, a self-inflicted humiliation

Global elites want to use porn, Netflix, video games, social media to keep young ambitious men sedated so that their testosterones would not be channeled ambitiously for power, status, wealth but rather cheap dopamine hits and waste of valuable time

Loneliness, need for affection/romance/love, need for sex, need for feminine warmth is the reason why men simp and misbehave