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goran3310:
I can’t imagine myself — not even in the worst nightmare — being married or in any kind of relationship with a woman who has a child.
She can’t possibly look that good, be that good of a person, be that smart, be that young — nothing. There’s no such woman in the world who could make me agree to let another man’s child into my home.

That would be deeply, deeply humiliating in every possible sense. Me, raising someone else’s child? I’d rather die than agree to that. Never. Not even then. There’s no scenario in which that would ever happen.

Even the thought of having a casual relationship with such a woman disgusts me — simply because that kind of relationship is far below and far more hypocritical than being with a prostitute. I can’t picture myself in that situation. And many men who actually have value think exactly the same way.

I do understand those women. They’ve ended up in that situation for all sorts of reasons — but that’s not my problem, just like it wouldn’t be theirs if the situation were reversed. They desperately try to find a new life, a new partner, without realizing that, in the eyes of men who actually have worth and could give them what they want, they are worth nothing.

That’s why they end up with low‑quality, weak‑character men who can’t get real women, so they settle for divorced ones — promising them everything, only to run away later because they have no real potential for anything. And that, in turn, frustrates those divorced women even more, making them increasingly toxic over time.


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Psychological Profile of a Man Who Stays with Divorced Women with a Child

1. Low Self-Esteem and Confidence

He does not believe in his own value or that he can get a better option.

He depends on the woman’s attention and is willing to tolerate compromises he would never accept if his partner had no children.



2. Emotional Insecurity

He constantly seeks validation from his partner.

Fear of rejection or loneliness keeps him in a burdensome relationship.



3. Inadequate Strategy and Resources

He cannot “target” free, quality women because he lacks social, financial, or status capital to be competitive.

Often weaker, more passive, and less ambitious.



4. Compensation Through Control or Promises

If he is seen as a “good guy” by the woman, he often promises everything to maintain the relationship.

If he lacks real potential, he runs away when things get serious or when investment is required.



5. Limited or Illusory Emotional Intelligence

He does not recognize that a relationship with a divorced woman with a child comes with a complex emotional package and responsibilities.

He believes he can “fix” the situation or be a heroic partner.



6. Passive Comfort and Compliance

He settles for a situation below his real potential because “something is better than nothing.”

He tolerates manipulation, drama, and complex dynamics that a quality man would avoid.





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Essence:
These men are not “bad” in themselves, but they are not a challenge for a woman seeking real value. They are the backup choice in the relationship market — men who do not have enough to choose from, so they settle for what is offered, regardless of additional complications.

In short: divorced women with a child do not get a man “who truly has value,” but a man who is not valuable enough to choose a free woman without baggage.

emmaodet:
The earlier we start getting used to debt/loans use, the better for the continent.
I understand people fear what they don't know or have skills about.
I will suggest they take a course or watch a lot of YouTube videos on how to use a debt to their advantage.
2/3 years ago, I would have called trading stocks a gamble but after enrolling in stock analyzing and valuation course running to 2m, my confidence has increased and I now trade far better and have made a good profit trading it.
People fear what they don't know.
With my little experience on stock trading, I will never call trading crypto or forex a gamble because what you don't know, you tend to dear it and rubbish it as gamble.

emmaodet:

You can't really go that far without using other people's money.
How much do you have enough to expand? When you are neither a sport man earning a lot of major drug pusher

KennethIbe59:
@JESHAL007 WHAT'S YOUR ADVICE ON This sir

NaijaNaWaa:
There’s a level of debt that’s manageable. Most of your so called “African billionaires” are wallowing in unsustainable debt. If Otedola didn’t tell you guys that he went bankrupt in 2008, none of you would ever believe.