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ReacherSaidNoth:
So many Horsebands here proudly carrying all the weight. Both funny and sad.

Share bills with your wife and see as she disrespects you

Banhammy717:
As a responsible husband, who's in his right sesnse, don't even think of it, or mention it that your wife should pay part of bill with you.
It's a foolish idea, it's total nonsense, even disgusting.
It's a responsibility of a man to cater for the entire family 100%, even if your wife earns higher than you.
It's only left to her, if she wills, to support you.
On your question that if the wife contributes financially how does it affect the decision making in the family? You definitely loose your respect and you becomes her subject.

God bless you sir

Hismajesty44:
I share bill with my wife and she isn't complaining, even the house we live in here in lag she bought the land in my name and our relationship is blessed with four children. Remember, just because of sharing that's why's called marriage!

Such women rarely submit and give the authority to their husbands

Hismajesty44:
I share bill with my wife and she isn't complaining, even the house we live in here in lag she bought the land in my name and our relationship is blessed with four children. Remember, just because of sharing that's why's called marriage!

Sir you are one in a million, most women would disrespect their husbands if they share the bills

pocohantas:
He is not yet ready.
He is looking for the good wife that will do chores and childminding alone while sharing bills with him. Married single mother.

She must do all the chore even if she's sharing the bills, am I not her husband, did I not marry her and bring her under my roof, does she not bear my surname ,let her misbehave she would be sent packing to her father's house bringing shame and reproach unto her family

What nonsense
Rubbish

Adesina18111:
Been married for over 4 years now with a child... My wife and I have never sat down for once to share how we pay bills but to be honest, she is so supportive even right from boyfriend and girlfriend days... I wouldn't have gone ahead to marry her if she is the type of ladies that only bring sex to the table...we don't share bills but we both pay bills...the scope is, we both have a joint account apart from our individual acct (business and savings)... And that's for running our home... What we do is we both transfer money to the joint account from the profit we make every month.. we only spend based on the profit made and not to satisfy our needs... Our child comes first, then foodstuffs, house maintenance bills (electricity, Dstv payment and other miscellaneous), car maintenance and fuel, followed by individual REASONABLE needs...we hardly send money to extended family members except it is MOST IMPORTANT... even if my mother in law ask money from my wife, she would tell her to wait until month end and see what she can do... She will discuss it with me and we both make decisions...it's been God anyways

You are lucky

ogbe88:
Oga submission comes naturally, whether u have money or u don't have enough,

It's this mindset that put a lot of men in pressure.

She would never submit to your authority if she's sharing bills with you and you stomach the insult and shame

Cocolatti:
It's not as easy as you are saying it. Whether we like it or not, there will always be couples where the wife earns more than the husband, and in such situations the wife will have to cover more of the expenses, otherwise some problems would be left unsolved.

Such marriages are miserable and usually end up in divorce

ednut1:
shame dey catch me for my gender sometimes. In the abroad this is what many Nigerian couples are going through. As there is no house maid like they had in Nigeria. Many of the men are not doing house chores and taking care of the kids. Meanwhile the wife is contributing 30-50% of the bills. Resentment builds up then boom divorce

Stop lying, resentment build in because they are exposed to a new feminist culture that believes woman deserves better than settling down in marriage even if the man is doing the chores, the same divorce happens, western men that have been sharing the bills and doing chores with their wives are experiencing 50% divorce rate, women are emboldened in such culture to shun family values and go after individual inclination, coupled with the biased family court laws, divorce laws

pansophist:
………….

One of the advantages of getting married is that If you intend to raise Godly children, then marriage is the best system to achieve that.

I’ll give you more advantages.

Another one is companionship. The older you become, the more you realise that this life is truly a lonely place. Hedonism and money will not fill that void.

If you marry a good person, then that automatically makes life enjoyable.

If you intend to be wealthy, then being married helps you achieve that. With a partner holding it down for you in different areas while you pursue something else.

Please don’t underscore marriage, it’s bad.

Underscoring the importance of marriage only means one thing, and it’s that the underscorer didn’t come from a healthy home:


Where the work is, is to marry a genuinely good person. This is where most people make mistake hence they hate marriage.

With the global agenda of global elites to masculinize women and feminized men via ideological social reengineering through the media and academia, hijacking religion as we now have post modernist gay clerics, with women becoming the most hyper sexualized generation in world history, social media play a role to these, men and women no longer understand traditional gender roles, masculinity is demonized and unrewarded especially in the global north, alimony, child support, gynocentic laws, feministic women and culture

Is marriage still worth especially for someone that wants to settle down abroad

emmaodet:
Well, there is no need to rebel.
The system always have a loophole to take advantage of.
While the man who has hustled is left with a semi-damaged woman, he has the option and power to explore as far as his financials can take him aside his wife.
It is not a crime. Don't let anyone gaslight you or demonize you for having a side chick outside marriage.
Don't let them tell you, you have a wife and stick to her. Why did you marry when you know you won't be faithful to one woman blah blah blah.
Bro, enjoy your life. So many pussies to conquer out there if you want and like

These slutz were disvirgined very early and by by natural default abundance were more likely to have fuckedd like mad from the period they lost their virginity even till their post decline years, and they have the nerve to lecture about morality and spirituality about Chasity and purity, non virgins for that matter

It's well

emmaodet:
Well, there is no need to rebel.
The system always have a loophole to take advantage of.
While the man who has hustled is left with a semi-damaged woman, he has the option and power to explore as far as his financials can take him aside his wife.
It is not a crime. Don't let anyone gaslight you or demonize you for having a side chick outside marriage.
Don't let them tell you, you have a wife and stick to her. Why did you marry when you know you won't be faithful to one woman blah blah blah.
Bro, enjoy your life. So many pussies to conquer out there if you want and like

I swear you are correct some would say as a man in a relationship you have no business pursuing women for sexual purpose aren't you a Christian aren't you moral aren't you bound by masculine honor code of loyalty and fidelity, why can't you control your libido, why do you lack self discipline as a man, why aren't you behaving like a virtuous Christian and many other religious shaming like you are not depicting righteous living and godliness, some would shame you that you would get STD like HIV as if we are stupid enough not to use contraceptives, what annoys me is that the women telling you all these nonsense were fucking like mad having unlimited raw sex, fornicating heavily in their prime years as if there was no tomorrow, but to guilt trip and shame you not to pursue pleasure at all and rather manage the boredom of one single pussy

Western men are fûcked deeply.

Africa, certain parts of Asia and the Middle east are the last bastions of decent masculinity and patriarchy.

Sadly, the simping culture is creeping up on our young men. I've seen university boys sacrifice their tuition fees for birthdays of women, do other stupid things as vagina worshippers etc.

One of the reasons why it hasn't gain much strong footing here is that men, on a general aren't earning much (weak economy), so women on average (who earn much lower than their men who also earn poorly) have to show traits of submission.

In the first world economies, high earning for men also improved the status for women and the men goofed by failing the biggest shit test, Feminism

MGTOW is the shît.

The modernism of marriage these days and its accompanying elements is what has made men to start going their own way. Fûck dating and marriage!

The church, which is part of society also tows the the society's aim of making men simp and blue-pilled.

To be fair, society will collapse when all men get red-pilled because all men would be alpha and selfish to watch out for only themselves. With a lot of blue-pilled SIMPs, there are a lot of fools to be exploited, carrying everyone else

Baronthecelebri:
Bros you lie, they're responsible for their failure, I have a single mother of 4 girls in my church, she's beautiful but have bad character and I'm planning to Bleep her.
Women love bad guys because I've walked up to many girls in my age bracket they insulted because I don't have a car,dress like yahoo boy.

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Lolz

chariisGRACE:
While it is true that some '30+' ladies are single because of their promiscuity, we should look at a reason that is not much talked about.

The truth is, some of these women are victims of the 'wickedness' of a man whom they invested all their love and affection into.

What do I mean?

A man would approach a lady in her mid 20s, ignite a relationship. Not only igniting a relationship but, giving the said lady an "I will marry you" vibe, and because women are very emotional, they'll stick with this said man and before you know it... Boom!! 💥 The lady has clocked 30+.

Oga no like her again. There is this fresh 20+ lady that oga is laying ambush for. The 20+ lady has a firmer skin, perky breasts, outward innocence etc but to get this new girl, oga has to get rid of the already 30+ lady.

Once the now 30+ lady has been evicted from oga's heart, with her hope of oga marrying her smashed to the ground. Already devastated and sad, not knowing that , there is more devastation and sadness lurking around the corner.

Time passes, oga is now with a 20+ lady, and 30+ is now on her own.

She grabs her phone and opens an Internet app only to see that, she and her ilks are now labelled as Evening Newspaper (ENP), wh*re, h0e, etc by men. That is a severe case of devastation.

She was only a victim of a man's bosheit. A victim of hit and run by a man's vehicle.

You all need to stop generalizing. Not every 30+ was promiscuous.

Chairman those ladies during that time period had plenty of options even when they were still in committed relationship, there is no excuse except she's dumb and didn't want to notice the signs and leave, women by default always have an abundance of options

basically being a "Nice Guy" is using kindness to "buy" sex. Like "I'm sweet and caring so I deserve your puccy". It's lame and it won't work.

A nice guy wants to be agreeable, sweet and kind in hopes of being rewarded with sex for said qualities. They are the biggest manipulators. And rarely get the puccy. Cause women see through that bull.

If you like a girl be upfront with her. Dont do good and pleasant things for her to win her friendship while quietly waiting for her weakest point to "attack" and try to fucc her. Cause you're only wasting your time, energy and resources and you'll be angry when the woman calls you out for it.

when you're strong, women WANT and are WILLING to hand over control and rest in their femininity with the full confidence that they're safe with you, that you know what you're doing and you're able to lead, protect etc (women break rules for alphas).

Every human being has his or her own frame. Men and women have their own frame. And generally 80% of the Male population (the Beta majority) by default break frame when they deal with women,, as in they leave their own frame and enter a woman's frame, as in they abandon their own dominance of their reality and break their own rules to satisfy/align with/live by, the woman's rules - which is her frame

100% of Women want to flex their peak SMV to the core, they always want to settle down when they hit the wall and their SMV starts declining.
Sadly, 80% of men want to marry immediately they are about to peak on the SMV, That's why married men tend to cheat a lot... Because they just entered their season of abundance but they've already tied themselves down.

it should be noted that when women complain of a shortage of men , in any country on any continent, they're only complaining of the Beta Bucks shortage. cause women will never run out of men who wanna smash. it's the shortage of men willing to commit which troubles women cause it means many things: eg it means there's no one women can use to correct their mistakes (no step fathers for those alpha's kids), and it means women may have to work till they die since there's no "retirement package" men that will wife them up and support them later on in life.

women always have options. no matter how horrible they are. that's something no one can take away from them,since they are the most desired sex

this is one of the core truths that turned many men red pill,, while a man hustles in his early years to put his life together, women are having their fun. And when these women are tired they then decide to settle, just in time as hustling guys are getting successful. So now women are ready to settle and men are ready to commit, which is not bad in itself but for the fact that women are serving men secondhand left over coochie but want men's freshly minted coins. That's what men are rebelling against. Its robbery.

What men must do is we must double our efforts to make sure none of our gender is exploited. This is the very meaning of the gender war.

Dealing with hoes is not wrong but committing to hoes is wrong. You can't be paying top dollar for something trashy jerks have been getting for free for a decade.If only the average man can see the shenanigans the average girl gets up to between the ages of 17 and 27ish, guys wouldn't be too quick to dismiss our message of being selective.
Anyone who has gone to college or university knows what girls get up to while their male coursemates are struggling to get even a proper GF.

gender and masculinity are the two most hated things at the moment together with heterosexual marriages and being pro-life (as opposed to being pro-abortion). If you're an enemy of gender, men,marriage and babies, the mainstream world will love you.

A woman can't say "Moses loves me cause he had sex with me". Not really, cause sex is not something men control. Just as a man can't say,"Dorothy loves me cause she bought me this and that". Cause a womans commitment is worthless. As long as he hasn't smashed Dorothy, his friends can't really be convinced Dorothy loves him. Cause the only thing of value Dorothy has is the pucc. Until she puts that on the table, she's holding back.

All this is to illustrate both men and women understand the "moment of Truth" concerning each gender. A woman can't use commitment to show a guy she loves him, just as much as a man can't use sex to show a woman he loves her. Women express love by sex, men express love by commitment. Hence that woman who's hard to fucc is the woman everyone fights for cause she has value.Just like that man who's hard to commit is the man everyone fights for cause he has value.
Which brings us full circle back to the virgin and the Bad boy as the most valuable in the dating field.

What is a Beta?
A Beta is a man who is failing with women whom women deal with only as a second option and use him for his resources.

If a your wife or girl friend is acting holy and prude, telling you "I can't suck d!ck, that's disgusting", "I don't do doggy, that's for hòes", "I can't do this, it is too degrading" etc, just have itbe at the back of your mind that you are being shortchanged and you are not among the guys who get her sexual best; if you insist on getting it you will meet resistance because she will want to defend her image (women do this a lot). Besides, what a woman isn't getting from you sexually, she will seek it elsewhere from the right guy if the opportunity presents itself. If she can have the best of both worlds without any consequences, she will. All women are sexual freaks to the right guy in the right situation. Don't bother with those that are not sex freaks to you.

The genie is out of the bottle. Female sexuality, long kept in check by the Patriarchy, has finally broken free. There is no going back. The Age of The Slut is upon us. It's either you run and hide under a rock and wait for Society to collapse, or you ride the wave of female lust like a pro surfer.

With Feminism cheering them on; with dating apps Tinder, Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, 2go etc delivering an endless stream of men direct to their phones; with multiple contraception methods on hand and with the best medications for various STIs, women are overdosing themselves on sex and accumulating pussy-numbing Dick counts.

Marriage, with its 1 Dick, is increasingly becoming a prison no woman wants to enter and every woman is eager to exit (as shown by the sky-high divorce rate and the fact that 80% of all divorces are initiated by women)

pansophist:
This question will make some people cry, because the percentage of folks that have no one to run to when they need help is way higher.

Just reading the question alone makes me heart bleed. This life is very lonely and painful for lots of folks, especially men.

Another subset of folks are those who are the de facto breadwinner. The only crime they committed was to be successful and to have a good heart, which has attracted all the leeches (aka family members) to feast.

They are between the redline of cutting everyone off and just live solo, or to keep giving to sustain the colonial relationship.

Giving is not even the issue, but such giving has created a permanent dependence, that breaking it will ensue conflict, guaranteed.

Guy you're a philosophizing from a position of privilege, you don't understand what majority of people are going through, everyone needs an helping hand, even so called relatives were helped, I'm not saying you be parasitic and not make effort but at least if you can leverage the help of a well to do family member to go far then do so, some too helped the so-called relative to attain his position, human beings are interdependent