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emmaodet:
A good relationship or marriage brings emotional and psychological balance to a man. I don’t know about women how they feel because am not one but I can talk about a man and at least from my experience.
The most important asset of a poor man is his wife or woman.
Life is not fair to a poor man. He has no properties to his name, he has virtually no enjoyment outside sex that his wife gives him. Most of his life is filled with unending struggling, uncleared and more pilling financial problems, he is hated and not loved by many, disrespected at work by his boss, looked down on by his society and family and the only succor he banks on is his WIFE.
That is his only enjoyment time. That he forgets about all life’s problems.
That is the reason poor people birth more kids because any small opportunity na to fire the woman.
He thinks, dreams, talks virtually about sex all the time.
That is why poor people bangs like mad men and far perform more than a rich man because the only property they have in the name of wife, they will bang her like a mad person. Give her a mind blowing sex that will confuse her brain not to leave even when hardship is killing her but the sex will keep tying her down.
Now we are running a dangerous system.
A system that is trying to cut off the poor man from sex…….. the only thing he has, his only hope, his only happiness.
Has life not taken enough from the poor man?
What else does nature want from him after stripping him off of all good things life can offer?
Now the society shames him, telling him to go and hustle more if he wants pussy, if he wants a woman or gf or wife. It is a winner takes it all while the losers stay at the ring side looking with envy, jealousy and anger.
Rich guys snatching up poor guys women and we all laugh at him and tell him to shut up and go and hustle.
This trend will only lead to one place …….. Chaos - Increase in crime rate just to meet up, suicide, snapping - a man throws in towel, picks up a guy and shoots people mostly women for been invincible in dating market. Just to name a few.
The future is not going to be funny

emmaodet:
Na wa oooooo

With what have seen so far in my life, I don’t have anything else for the average man aside pity.
Bro, the street is messy, I mean REALLY REALLY MESSY.
No matter what we do, the average man out there will have to settle down with a damaged woman unless if most men want to shy away from marriage.
The nature of my work makes we have contacts with prostitutes a lot and from my observation, many many many many women are into prostitution be it direct or indirect one.
Should we also talk about online? Codedruns, instagram messenger etc just name it. Who are these ladies? Who are going to marry these ladies in the nearest future? Who trained these women who don’t have any iota of african culture imbibed in them. Where did we get it wrong? Is it the parents? Or leaders? Or what?
Who are the men going to marry these women? And then why are we surprised that there is increase in the number of married women sleeping around?
A society that is graduating Oloshos, runs girls, hustlers out on monthly/yearly basis shouldn’t be surprise that paternity fraud is on the increase and unfaithful wives are on the increase.
The future is really messy for prospective marriages

emmaodet:
A good, working and long lasting marriage is not a bed of roses.
It involves endurance, perseverance, roughness etc to stand the test of time and that is why a virgin, from a good home, religious is a good sign of a woman who will stay in marriage for a long time.
My mum once told me that they never had anything when they wedded.
It was the little money they got on their wedding day they used in buying the mattress they used in sleeping that night.
I just wonder which lady will do that nowadays. I will say my dad’s set were lucky to have understanding well groomed african women.
Both were graduates who started from scratch. If he is to try that today? He what likely die sexless or masturbating or patronizing asewos bcus no woman will want to marry him, not even the women at the bottom of the social ladder like the local illiterate ladies in the local market would want to start with him from there.
Yet he had a wife who obeyed him, respected him and to the best of my knowledge was faithful to him. Highly industrious just to make sure she supports her husband to make sure food is on the table.
I grew up with this mentality and was always eager for my own time when I will also have my own wife who will support me to build our home/family together but have been hit by the 21st century reality. Slapped by the reality of modern women who don’t care and just sleep around as they like.
It is their body, their life.
Initially, I was always annoyed and angry with them but have made peace with the new reality and the only option is to look out for myself first if I like myself.

Nyascobar1414:
The only time I remember females exist is when better Konji dey do me...

Postnut clarity told me bro,this shii is overated...

Pukkalolo:
Let me start with the obvious truth.

If your goal is pure sex with minimal emotional investment, you only have two realistic options:

1. Raise your Sexual Market Value.
Fix your body. Sharpen your style. Clean up your grooming.

Or

2. Pay for sex cleanly and directly.
There’s nothing wrong with paying for sex if you’re honest about it. You look her in the eye and say:


“I’m going to give you this amount. Let’s have quick fun. What do you think?”

Clear. Transactional. No fake romance. Many men do this quietly and protect their peace.

What I am completely against is the soft, cowardly version most guys run:

Spending money on her. Buying gifts. Paying bills. Doing “nice guy” shit… hoping she’ll eventually reward your kindness with sex.

That is pure simping. That’s how men get used, drained, and discarded.
You’re not buying sex. You’re buying hope. And hope is expensive.


Now to the deeper part of your question…

You said you’re not getting green lights. You’re not seeing genuine desire. So you feel forced to use money as bait.

Here’s the truth:

Most men don’t even know what a real green light looks like.

We’ve been poisoned by Nollywood, Hollywood, and Instagram. You’ve been trained to expect women to throw themselves at you with obvious, dramatic, movie-style signals. When that doesn’t happen, you conclude you’re not getting greenlights. Then you reach for you wallet to try to bait women with money.

I am not particularly handsome. Yet I still get sexual opportunities.

Why?

Because I stopped looking for green lights.

That's because I understand that genuine desire is not something you wait for. It is something you provoke.

The best seducers don’t look for green light signs from a woman. Instead, they provoke women emotion.


Think about it this way:

If you walk up to Aliko Dangote and hand him 50k naira, he’ll probably look at you with mild disappointment and disgust and ignore you.

Why?

Because you’re offering him something (money) he already has in abundance.

It’s the same with beautiful women.

When you approach her for sexual relationship, she act like doesn't really fancy the offer and even ignore you.

That's because you’re offering her something she already has in excess: sexual attention and sexual opportunities.

What most women are starving for is not more dick. It’s emotion.

As a Man, when you learn how to provoke those emotions: the sex often follows as a natural side effect.

As a Man, you don’t look for green lights or chosen signals. You create the conditions where green lights appear. That's through her emotions…


I’ll break this down properly another day.

Philosopher1979:
YOU ARE TOO EXPERIENCED WITH WOMEN. WHERE DID YOU GET ALL THIS EXPERIENCE FROM.
SEE ABOUT THIS
2. Pay for sex cleanly and directly.
There’s nothing wrong with paying for sex if you’re honest about it. You look her in the eye and say:


“I’m going to give you this amount. Let’s have quick fun. What do you think?”

Clear. Transactional. No fake romance. Many men do this quietly and protect their peace.

What I am completely against is the soft, cowardly version most guys run:

Spending money on her. Buying gifts. Paying bills. Doing “nice guy” shit… hoping she’ll eventually reward your kindness with sex.

That is pure simping. That’s how men get used, drained, and discarded.
You’re not buying sex. You’re buying hope. And hope is expensive.

MOST SIMPS ARE TOO SCARED TO DO THAT TO A WOMAN.
TO EVEN DO THAT ONE NEEDS RELATIONAL SKILLS.
YOU HAVE TO GET HER NUMBER. AT LEAST GET HER ATTENTION
AND AT LEAST GET HER TO RELATE WITH YOU BEFORE TRYING THAT DIRECT STYLE.
SOME GUYS CANT EVEN GET A LADYS NUMBER. AND THEN...TO SOME GUYS IT
SOUNDS WICKED BUT ITS NOT IN THE LONG RUN.
THEN....
WHERE DID YOU GET ALL THIS EXPERIENCE FROM.

Kipaji:
Most patrons of onlyfans and codedruns are married men.

emmaodet:
The truth is even wives are very risky.
I know a handful of men who sponsored their wives' higher education and after graduating and getting good jobs, they give more headaches to the men at home.
Some started reducing and rationing the sex while there are rumours of infidelity outside.
Some become less appreciative of the gifts and efforts of the men because their tastes has gone up.
They become more stubborn, hardly take to corrections and hardly say am sorry even when they are at fault.
So many things my brother.
But these things have consequences.
It is not a coincidence that we are experiencing a very very large group of women doing hook-up and prostitutions today compared to our parent's time.
It is because many men are not interested in sponsoring women again because it is a very very risking investment.
People hardly invest anything tangible where their interest is not SECURED

ubunja:
Alpha Beta
Alpha Fuccs, Beta Bucks

As we have explained before and will continue to do so, The Alpha of the redpill has nothing to do with leadership, being an outstanding member of the community or being a pillar of society - that's not the redpill Alpha.

The original meaning of Alpha in the Greek alphabet is "first", or "primary", or "principal" (most significant) occurrence or status of a thing. see the 1st picture below.

In relationships and male/female dynamics, "alphas" then are those men that women choose FIRST, the guys that ladies go to FIRST, the males that females deal with FIRST before everyone else have their turn.

Now who are these men that women deal with first, who women give first preference?
Easy!
Look at the 2nd picture below and read the words "the more you delay to marry us the more they eat us"
Who are THEY who get to eat before women get married?
Well it's the same ones the woman in the 3rd picture is talking about: "I fucced everybody I wanted to fucc. Time to get married now".
Who is EVERYBODY that this woman WANTED TO FUCC? And who are THEY who eat women the longer men delay to marry women?

It's the alphas. The men who get to fucc the puccy first before the others are given a chance to put a ring on it.

Now which class of men in society do we all know of that is always fuccing women but never marries them? Well strictly speaking there are TWO CLASSES who get that privilege: (1) the Bad Boys, Thugs, Players & their ilk, and (2) the rich men.

(with the rich men a lot has to be clarified but I'll do so another time)

The rich men are not especially good at sex but get puccy thrown at them because they've money, while the bad boys, Thugs etc, don't have money but get puccy thrown at them because they can lay the pipe. So a woman looking for fun, especially in her younger years who doesn't want anything serious deals either with rich men or with players and Thugs. Hence the rich man in his mansion and the thug on the street FUCC THE SAME WOMEN. Difference being that women deal with the rich man publicly but deal with the thug player usually secretly.
Now this 20% of men that women fornicate with goes by different names. It used to be called the Ćöćk Ćäröuśėl. Nowadays it's called the Hoe Phase or more commonly "The Streets". Hence we say of a hoe "she belongs to the streets". The streets ARE the alpha Fuccs. That's where women have the most fun. It's every guy's worst nightmare. Because not every guy is invited. Which is why men shame women for it, cause it's to discourage the Alpha Fuccs of women's lives.

Now the rich man and the thug player are the top 20% of men (collectively called The Streets) who are the cream of society (as far as sex is concerned) who all women give unlimited sex to, while the rest of the Male population, the other 80%, aka the Betas, will get their chance of (almost) unlimited sex inside marriage.

By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

A woman who doesn't wish to marry renders Betas powerless. They have zero chances with her. Because what they hope to give her in exchange for sex (lifelong commitment, lifelong financial support) the woman doesn't want. So the Beta, in his infinite wisdom, wants women's opportunities, such as education and employment, to be severely limited so women are kept at a disadvantage which then gives the Betas a chance to get the women. It's why Betas populate religions and other moral movements which promotes monogamy and marriage. Now this is not me taking a swipe at religion.
Anywho If there's one thing to realize, it's this:
The Streets = the Alpha Fuccs. Because that's where women go to first, or where they end up again after failed relationships and marriages.

emmaodet:
EXACTLY...Exactly bro.
I don't know why many Nigerians always equate financial stability to Richness.
Financial stability is just the basic financial level expected of a human/man. It is a minimum requirement.
A decent life.
I don't think this is a crime to expect or require for God sake. It is the basic