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women date FOR THINGS THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX: i.e a man's resources, money, time, energy, protection, skills, investments etc. If a woman already has these things by herself she will see no reason to date: "I make my own money I don't need a man"
Women don't see a relationship as a source of sex the way men do. Women ALWAYS get sex offered to them everywhere they go. They don't need a relationship to get it.

Meanwhile men date FOR SEX AND THOSE THINGS THAT HAVE TO DO WITH SEX. And a man who gets plenty of sex from plenty of women will see no reason to date, e.g a Player.

SEXUAL VS NON SEXUAL NEEDS.
Women's needs are divided into two groups: non sexual needs and sexual needs.

Men's needs are also divided into two groups: non sexual needs and sexual needs.

Sexual needs are sex, cuddles, kisses, MouthAction, massages, sex pics, sexting, phone intimacy etc. Anything that is sexual.

Non Sexual needs are food, shelter, money, clothes etc. Anything that has nothing to do with sex.

Women date for non sexual needs.

Men date for sexual needs.

By the way, drop that stupid feminine emotions called love. Men don't need love in relationship with women. RESPECT and LOYALTY is what a man needs that is why our forefathers who understood women never used that silly word, called love. It is an emotion that can fade off and for women. Any decision made on emotion never ends well in the long run.

Women fûck men who they are sexually attracted to, but marry men who can provide - Red Pilled Realists. Women are the "chosers" for a reason.

Men are the opposite. Most of the time, they marry women they are sexually attracted to, over women who chose and "love" them.

what I want you to know is that the coochie you paid 5k - 10 million naira for is (or can be potentially) fûcked for free or almost free. It's happening around you and if you are not "looking" you won't see. I've experienced it a few times.

The girl telling you to part with some money before you see her pants already sense that you are hopelessly thirsty (which is what she sees from the Nigerian men she meets who have their brains move to their dicks when they see a woman), and plays it to her advantage. If you expect the girl to tell you that she has a guy she is gobbling her semen for free while still billing you 300k to gobble yours, then you know nothing about women or how they operate.

Trying to unplug from the blue pill is difficult even for those who claim to be red-pilled, as the dating market is oversaturated with pussay-thirsty, money-paying fools who make it seem like nigerian women are ONLY MONEY-HUNGRY and don't have inner/innate lust for men that tickle their fantasies

And if you are bent on continuing to deal with a lady who is not posing as a hooker, but is giving you stringent conditions (a clear sign of low interest) before hitting the coochie, then you are a thirsty oneitis fool. If you have these types in rotation, then you are SIMPING PLATES - not spinning plates

I hope that a lot of men like you don't understand the deep, dark secrets of female nature because you will never trust them and when you can't trust them, you can't be manipulated easily. Also, you'll make less effort in contributing to the blue pilled system that makes men highly ignorant so that they can slave for the society and women. Anything against this, society will collapse. The illusion of happiness in the typical blue pilled modern monogamous marriages is encouraged for this reason.

Society descended into sexual promiscuity and chaos the moment feminism was born.

Society descended into sexual promiscuity and chaos the moment men were demonized and women made to look like angels.

Men choosing not to get married is due to the fact that modern day marriage is of no benefit,the number of happily married men today is extremely low compared to their counterparts decades ago.

Most men please women because by default they are poor and invincible @emmaodet has touched on these subject sometimes ago, women would always win the dating market game even if they have a terrible past worse than prostitution because redpill awareness is for only a few men like 10% and it varies in understanding, most men would end up with hoes, society is designed for the benefit of women and children at the expense of men

When a woman pleases you, both of you are happy. If you try to please her, you will never win and she will hold you in contempt for being so snivelling.

So if you're trying to please a woman, you're already losing. The whole dynamic is wrong. She should be trying to please you.

Meedon:
All these pains and you still choose to bring another human to come and experience it. Why don't you pass through it alone and just escape the matrix once and for all instead of bringing more humans through your lineage to come and suffer

You are correct, if you have sense and not that ambitious, bringing a child with average means especially a male child is setting him up for failure, 80% of men are failures, they are poor or average at best, life for them is a miserable existence where they serve as cheap labour to the few top 10% men, statistically most men would end up here even if they are ambitious and put effort to escape the matrix, it's life, it's now wise to kill your genes since you won't be able to give them the leverage, capital, connection needed to survive the harsh reality of life, inflation worsen every year, the future generation would meet a worse inflation and economy than you

Women don't have love to give, it is men trying hard to force it out of them.

Handle them according to their nature and you'll find peace.

it's true, men achieve through conflict. Conflict with self and conflict with the world. Nothing is given on a silver platter. This conflict is what builds character. Usually for most men that conflict is during their 20s while they discover themselves, finish their education and try to carve out a career. It's also a man's loneliest and most bitter time filled with frustrations of all kinds from sexual to financial. But a man is to persevere. Cause it's his rite of passage. The essential lessons of patience, persistence and relentlessness gained during this period are what will make him the Rock that his women and children will depend on. The ability to not be overwhelmed by the odds, the ability to persist under utter discouragement and the ability to retain hope while nothing is going his way is what will make a man the Head that people in his life can follow with confidence and trust. It's called The School of Life. Circumstances are the teachers.

Being a man is never going to be easy. It would be nice to inherit a softer existence. But that's not what destiny has planned for us. Ours is a bloodstained path sprinkled with sweat and tears. No easy mode. No cruise. No dodging consequences. No hiding behind excuses. No nothing. You stand up straight and you take it. And survive it.

Traditional Conservatism (Trad-Cons) is an attempt to maximize the male protective instinct through indoctrination and social learning for the benefit of women.

Feminism is an attempt to minimize the female submissive instinct, also through social indoctrination, to enable women to more ruthlessly exploit the male protective instinct for the benefit of women.

The Red Pill is an attempt to teach men to selectively suppress the male protective instinct to avoid its exploitation by women who are conditioned not to be submissive for the benefit of men

Gerrard59:
Honestly, the life of a man, regardless of where he lives, is very hard and full of responsibilities. It is much better in richer countries (which have their own issues), but the life of a man is just full of work, work and work. I thank God for the comfort he has provided my family, but when I think of the scenario where I am a husband and father, it gives me issues. It is now that I further appreciate the sacrifices my dad went through. So far, I don analyse am tire - the best solution is to have a few children. When I see men with three, four or five children, I raise cap for them.

The life of a man economically in western gynocentic societies is far better than patriarchal Africa with better opportunities, organized system but culturally and societally western men have been emasculated and castrated with woke culture, feminism, liberalism, transgenderism etc. masculinity is dead, men are not respected or valued by their society even if they are billionaires, gynocentrism system and laws would humble you regardless of your status, for men to become gay openly and marry each other in the presence of women, it shows how bad they have been feminized, it's crazy, one can't even dream of marriage there without considering the fact that divorce is an option hence family and marriage institutions the core foundation of stable societies have been destroyed, degeneracy and single motherhood is now the norm due to fatherlessness and hyperpromiscuity, it's sad, yes economically they are better but asides that men are treated worse than gutter

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

Men settle down for who don't love and respect them when they economically improve and slave miserably for their wives because they are lonely and scared of dying or living life without a partner to bond with, even if the affection has to be bought with money, it's sad

luminouz:
Yes I agree with the mental stress on men. That is why I usually tell young dudes that being born a man in this world is basically 2-goals down. We develop the strength and mental toughness that ultimately makes you a man. The road is usually hard, rough and tough. If you are lucky to meet people who care about you as a man, then you are lucky indeed because men are not loved because they are men but for the value they can provide. I knew this ages ago. Everyone wants you to be a provider, protector, sacrifice for everyone but you rarely see anyone giving a hoot about your pain, fear and wants. That is why being a man is literally the toughest job out there because most times you are alone and expected to figure it out alone.

I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead.

All in all, this community is one of the saving graces to help men grow and see their own value.

Golden
Well said

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emmaodet:
Well, using your statement - if women are using marriage to escape poverty, why are struggling men trying to force themselves into marriage rather than avoiding it to escape poverty also? since they will get poorer adding a woman to their already critical situation

If Nigeria women had the government welfare, good economy, favourable government policies like the west, I can bet marriage and child birth would drop below replacement level but because of poverty they have to adapt to the societal and religious constraints against their inmate nature of unfettered hypergamy where they only select the best of the best , the top 20% of wealth and status for marriage and top 20% of physical attractiveness, since they make their own money, but in Africa it's either hookup or marriage to alleviate from poverty

emmaodet:
Well, using your statement - if women are using marriage to escape poverty, why are struggling men trying to force themselves into marriage rather than avoiding it to escape poverty also? since they will get poorer adding a woman to their already critical situation

Lol
It's because of need for steady and uninterrupted sex, need for romance( oxytocin induced love), loneliness creating a need for companionship and societal with religious pressures make men act emotionally against their interest, logically and pragmatically asides raising kids in a functioning home there is no tangible benefit for marriage

Marriage isn’t old-fashioned, the system that supported it is gone, love now meets harsh reality; bills are louder than romance, roles are unclear, pressure is high, and going in unprepared breaks people; marriage still works, but only with readiness and wisdom, anything else is gambling.

Marriage is just too expensive and psychologically draining for many, especially men

Unfortunately marriage is now underrated because...

1. Sex is cheap to get outside wedlock.

2. Economy isn't smiling or friendly.

3. More women see themselves financially superior to men.

Marriage now is not for the weak because the harsh economy, poverty rate, unemployment and underemployment rate have ruined everything, especially in Nigeria. It's very difficult to find true love. Most people especially ladies now get married to escape poverty and hardship. grin

If you're 28 and she's 25:

She's older than you.

Few will understand this

Most men would loose in the sexual market place and settle down with hoes

Remember, majority of men are still at a disadvantage economically, in fact, powerful and rich men will sample different women and choose the most fertile among them e.g Ned Nwoko, Oba of Benin etc. H0es and damaged women will become leftovers for the majority of men at the bottom and they will be happy about it thinking that at last they've won the hearts of their best friends. How many h0es these days even settle down for broke men?
When it comes to the sexual game women have the upperhand because both rich simps, poor simps, rich alphas, broke alphas, the law and society are at their disposal.

The truth of the matter is that romance is for men, specifically lower status men who historically have found it difficult to compete with higher status men for the most desirable women.

If women are given men bodies today and men are given female bodies today, men will see serious red pill, brutal game and selfishness in action. Gynocentrism, romantic love and equal right nonsense will crumble because women know it's all bullcrap even if they champion it. If such exchange can happen, many men will sit up. Good night.

That girl you think is your friend is most likely your worst enemy. Why? She is only there for you because of what she can get Same old Nigerian guy Nagging
Yes we Guys keep complaining about this day in day out but we never seem to learn. When the money comes, we share the money. We spend on people who won't add any value to our lives and impress people who are just there to ruin us.

MY EXPERIENCE
There is the girl I was dating when I was I secondary school some 10years ago. I really loved this girl with all my heart (she is a nairalander and I know she would know herself once she reads this story, I don't mind). After leaving school and gaining admission into the university, we lost the vibe and only stayed casual friends. I got admission 2 years before she got admission into her own university (lautech).
Fast forward to her year of service and coincidentally she was posted to the state where I worked. Coincidentally, I got a multi-million naira contract. Life was good!
We started our relationship over again. I made sure she enjoyed my little money. We were even talking about marriage and life after her service. Then disaster struck. I entered a business agreement with a collegue and contributed all my savings into the deal. The new contract we were pursuing never come through. This girl's warm reduced immediately. Within a month she came up with the excuse of having a boy friend she was engaged to. Later learnt the guy had just gotten a good job.
Interestingly, I had a Neighbour, also a single lady who sold shoes and stuff. She was all nice to me when the money was flowing. All of a sudden she stopped asking after me.

Now I got my juice back and she is all nice again.

It is a FACT, women are calculating, they look for the greenest pasture. You got money? You got their heart.

Spend your money on your family and close guy friends, they will be there for you in your down time.

To the women, you may think you are smart, but you lose in the end. I have at least 4 ladies who think they are my girlfriends. They all abandoned their poor boyfriends to be in relationship with me. Guess what. I only use them. Can't count how many I have had in the last one year. You won't command any respect from a rich guy once he knows why you are in relationship with him. It's amazing how easily ladies with boyfriends abandon their guys for richer ones.

To my guys, you don't even have to spend. Just show you got money. They will do anything and cry at the end that you are stingy. Laugh and move on to the next gold digger

They keep seeing topics like this and forming voltron, all na wash, they will never change. Forget all the feminist comments you see here, in real life they cry and beg rich dudes to keep their relationship, all because of money

When it comes to committed relationships, particularly courtship and marriage, a woman will choose the best financial option available to her. It doesn't matter if he is a beta, alpha, redpillers or simp. All that matters is financial stability, her comfort and survival, which all boils down to your resources. You ability to satisfy her lust doesn't count as it cannot buy bread. If you are a redpiller with a great sexual appeal and a masculine frame made of adamatium or vibranium, the woman you are discussing marriage with will overlook you and pick the man that has more resources than you even if he the most pathetic simp and he is so unattractive and disgusting. She will pick him even if she has to share him with other women.

When it comes to lust, a female will choose the guy that turns her on and gets her in the mood regardless of his social class. That's why a rich woman will fùck a hot gym rat that turns her on even though he is barely struggling to pay his rent and isn't fit to tie the shoe lace of her beta husband financially. Lust is a short term thing and what matters at that moment is the satisfaction of that lust, not your ability to pay the bills and give her expensive gifts. Such a guy can be above or below her in social status, rich or poor.